I am really struggling with my lack of energy. My house is disgusting and my husband is not helping to pick up the slack. A messy house is really triggering for me and I have been trying to let it go but I can't seem to get out ahead of it and since this has been going on for months now it is really starting to wear on me. I managed to put away some laundry this morning before work but there is still so much to do.
@lappymom2019 I seriously could've written that. I'm struggling a lot with low energy, too. And we haven't gotten the keys to the new house yet so we have boxes cluttering our house right now and there's nothing I can do to clear it out right now so it just keeps getting worse and worse. 😩
@lappymom2019 we close on Wednesday (supposed to) and then once we get the keys I'll start bringing over boxes. Full move will likely be Saturday for big stuff, but I'm hoping to get all (or most of) the boxes over there before H has to do the big stuff. He has finals next week so he's super stressed about moving this weekend because he needs to study, but I mean... It has to get done. So I'm going to do as much as I possibly can to take the load off him so Saturday goes quick and he can study. The semester is almost done. It's almost done. We're so freaking close and then I'll have a husband again 😭
@eatinwatermelonseeds that sounds very stressful. I know I wouldn't be able to handle all of that without having some meltdowns! Good luck girl!
I am super super anxious. I haven't told my boss yet and wanted to do so tomorrow when I turn 15 weeks. This past Friday they let 3 people go, when they called me back to the conference room-my heart was pounding so fast. I thought I was getting chopped too. I started my job at the end of August, and got pregnancy in September. Which adds to my anxiety, I don't know how to say the words to this guy.
@eatinwatermelonseeds You have a lot going on all at once! I understand that you want to get into your new place and get everything put together but don't over do it. You don't want to hurt you or your baby.
@missy052819 Good luck telling your boss. That is incredibly stressful! I hope it all goes well and your boss is supportive.
@eatinwatermelonseeds hang in there-there is a light at the end of the tunnel! You'll be in your new house and have a husband back! I can only imagine how exhausting and stressful a move while pregnant must be.
@missy052819 you can do this! By law they can't discriminate because you're pregnant, but we all know how it still happens. Just hold on to the fact that you weren't let go, so it seems like they think you're a good match! Good luck!
I moved last time from Colorado to Washington, so down the street shouldn't be so bad. But the military moved us last time so it's not like I really had to do anything 😂 I have actually been looking up moving companies but the expense is just too much. Literally the only time I EVER miss the military. 😂😂
Well, I was doing great until this incident at work (see Monday Bitchfest) and now my anxiety and depression are through the roof. I’m literally in tears, shaking because I’m so anxious. I hate how much this bothers me. I can’t take my emergency anxiety meds because they aren’t safe. I’m really struggling.
@missy052819 I'd be anxious too, but like knarlytaurus said, they can't discriminate against you for pregnancy and you would honestly likely win in a lawsuit if you told them you were pregnant and then they fired you. Might be a different story when you got back to work but for right now I hope it doesn't stress you too much.
@mrskoz428 all the hugs. Is there anything besides your medicine that sometimes helps in these situations? Forgive me if this sounds stupid and ignorant, but anything like exercise or cleaning or buying some baby clothes or tea and a bath? I'm sorry you're so anxious 😔 I hope your conversation tomorrow is no big deal and I'd try to remember what kvh22 said - it's likely about her and not you, though that can still sting
@DuchessOfCambridge not stupid or ignorant. My natural calm drink usually helps but I think I’m beyond that point right now. I forgot to take my med this morning so I took it at dinner, stupid me. I may get up and do some yoga if I’m up too late. Right now, crying feels good. I’ve been in bed since 6:30. Damn depression.
@eatinwatermelonseeds thank you. ❤️ I did sleep fantastic but I was emotionally exhausted so that really helped me get some sleep. At this point, all I can do is kill her with kindness and be the adult in the situation.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Moving is SO freaking stressful. I don't know if it's helpful, but when we were in times like that I would keep telling myself "this isn't for forever." Just knowing it would end eventually was helpful for me, you'll be there soon!
@lappymom2019 Ooof, cleaning can be so tough, especially when it feels never-ending. I wish I had better advice on the low energy, I am in the same place on that. Maybe just choosing small projects to get done would help feel like you're getting somewhere?
I finally contacted my psychiatrist that was treating my PPD/PPA before I got pregnant. I was crying daily worrying, to the point where I was getting sick, so she started me back on Zoloft the other day. I'm not sure if it was relief in getting it treated, or if it's starting to help, but I really do already feel a little better. May be all in my head, though. I should be getting a call from a therapist that specializes in pregnancy also one of these days, my OB referred me to one.
DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW, because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@missy052819 I didn't tell everyone at work. I just kind of let them figure it out...and it was really nice not having that stress this time around. If you're worried, you don't HAVE to tell your boss. The word will get out somehow.
@mrskoz428 Crying helps me the most. It's almost like a release. I hope you start feeling better. It sounds no fun at all.
Does anyone find that they have more trouble in December? I LOVE the holidays and I generally get the stressful stuff (shopping) out of the way early, so I can enjoy the holidays. However, I still feel very busy and like I am TRYING to make the most of the season. With each passing week, I get more and more sad that it's almost over...and I feel like I should do even more to soak it up...but I'm already busy
@mariposa_767s I can see that happening. I am the other way. As soon as the holidays are over it just feels cold, dark, and lonely and feeds my depression.
@lappymom2019 That definitely happens to me too. I think December is so tough these days because I know the "it's over" depression is on the horizon. It's like if I soak up enough of the season, I won't get that lull...but I also know that's not realistic
I feel the same after the holidays @lappymom2019. And I think this year will be worse because I haven't even gotten to decorate yet due to the move, so I'll get less time. I don't know. It's probably silly, this is just my favorite time of year.
Re: Mental Health December
I am super super anxious. I haven't told my boss yet and wanted to do so tomorrow when I turn 15 weeks. This past Friday they let 3 people go, when they called me back to the conference room-my heart was pounding so fast. I thought I was getting chopped too. I started my job at the end of August, and got pregnancy in September. Which adds to my anxiety, I don't know how to say the words to this guy.
@missy052819 Good luck telling your boss. That is incredibly stressful! I hope it all goes well and your boss is supportive.
@missy052819 you can do this! By law they can't discriminate because you're pregnant, but we all know how it still happens. Just hold on to the fact that you weren't let go, so it seems like they think you're a good match! Good luck!
@missy052819 think positive and best of luck in your conversation
@mrskoz428 all the hugs. Is there anything besides your medicine that sometimes helps in these situations? Forgive me if this sounds stupid and ignorant, but anything like exercise or cleaning or buying some baby clothes or tea and a bath? I'm sorry you're so anxious 😔 I hope your conversation tomorrow is no big deal and I'd try to remember what kvh22 said - it's likely about her and not you, though that can still sting
@lappymom2019 Ooof, cleaning can be so tough, especially when it feels never-ending. I wish I had better advice on the low energy, I am in the same place on that. Maybe just choosing small projects to get done would help feel like you're getting somewhere?
@mrskoz428 ((hugs)) I hope you feel better soon.
I finally contacted my psychiatrist that was treating my PPD/PPA before I got pregnant. I was crying daily worrying, to the point where I was getting sick, so she started me back on Zoloft the other day. I'm not sure if it was relief in getting it treated, or if it's starting to help, but I really do already feel a little better. May be all in my head, though. I should be getting a call from a therapist that specializes in pregnancy also one of these days, my OB referred me to one.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@mrskoz428 Crying helps me the most. It's almost like a release. I hope you start feeling better. It sounds no fun at all.
Does anyone find that they have more trouble in December? I LOVE the holidays and I generally get the stressful stuff (shopping) out of the way early, so I can enjoy the holidays. However, I still feel very busy and like I am TRYING to make the most of the season. With each passing week, I get more and more sad that it's almost over...and I feel like I should do even more to soak it up...but I'm already busy
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.