How-To Guides: -How to quote: Hit the "quote" at the bottom of the post you want to quote. You will be taken to the reply box with the quote set up already. -How to tag: Add an "@" in front of the username of the person you are talking to. -How to change your username: log in to TheKnot, hover over My Knot, and click Account Settings. Be sure to log out and log back in after changing your username. If you are having issues doing it that way, you can email community@thebump.com and ask them to change your username. Give them a few suggestions just in case your top choice is taken. It may take up to 24 hours for the name to update. -How to insert a spoiler box: click the drop down list arrow next to the paragraph symbol (sixth from the left, next to the emoji button) and choose spoiler. It will insert a grey box, and everything that you type in there will go into the spoiler.
For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads: DO: -Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread -Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet -Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic -Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: what to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc) -Comment, share advice and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T: -Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against TOU -Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this) -Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC -Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas! Per this BMB's decision, anyone can start any thread on the day.
** MONDAY Weekly Randoms Meal Plan Monday
**TUESDAY Ten Things Tuesday TW Tuesday Plus Size Mom Check-In
**OTHER THREADS High Risk Check-In GTKY Threads Product Spotlights
*We can also look into getting a spreadsheet going down the road when everyone gets more comfortable.
Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements. I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Nov.). If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
I think we can totally vote on daily/weekly/monthly threads that we either don't want or that aren't included above but we want to add. This board is OURS to make however WE want!!
Does anyone mind if I start a Calm Mama Checkin thread? I posted this in the waiting room, but it would focus on how you're feeling with stress/anxiety, what you're doing this week to help (meditations, yoga, exercise, etc) and what you plan for next week, questions to the group, ideas, etc.
Can I make a suggestion? If you need to add a TW to your post, make it obvious so people can read around the text they don't want to see. Here's an example of what I've frequently seen on other BMBs:
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy TW and this is where I say something bad that happened to me but I'm very grateful to be here and so excited to meet you all!
Personally, the above example does not seem helpful because the TW sneaks up on the reader and it's hard to tell where the traumatic statement ends. I think it would be a lot more helpful and respectful to those who rely on TWs for a healthy mental state to format a TW like this:
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy. ***TW*** And this is where I say something bad that happened to me. ***End TW*** But I'm very grateful to be here and excited to meet you all!
Or even better, in a spoiler like this:
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy. TW in spoiler:
And this is where I say something bad that happened to me.
But I'm very grateful to be here and excited to meet you all!
(You can add a spoiler by clicking on the paragraph icon and selecting "spoiler," then entering your text into the gray box.)
I'm not trying to be the TW police, but it's a few extra keystrokes and clicks that I feel will be greatly appreciated over casually weaving a TW into a block of text.
@mamanbebe Should we wait until most of us have had our first OB appt to confirm due dates?
General question: if we end up going with due date groups, should I join the one that lines up with my full-term EDD or the date of my c-section that will probably be a couple weeks earlier?
For now I like the semi casual groups. I feel like specific due date groups would add an unnecessary check in and sort of keep many of us from keeping up with the group as a whole.
@hestia14 I'm ok with waiting, I only recall that June started right away so I wanted to bring it up. Also, I think going with your full-term date probably makes most sense since it's unlikely that most people with deliver on their EDD And you would probably be more lined up with your group on appointments and pregnancy changes too.
@indulgentgypsy I've been thinking that too -- it seems like a relatively new way of doing things and in the past people seem to have kept up with the board just fine with regular threads.
Maybe we can start the weekly due date check ins once we hit the second trimester? I feel like right now we’re all fairly similar in what’s going on in the pregnancies, but as we get further along, different things will come up for different groups. Ex: anatomy scans, glucose tests, NT scan at 12 weeks, etc
I think at some point, probably second tri, I'll be interested in checking in with mamas to be due around the same time as me but I also don't want that to replace any of our bigger group threads.
Sounds good to me @nolemomma14 and @literatureandink -- it's even possible that by that point we won't even want to do due date checkins. I'm definitely on-board of keeping things easy going for now.
@mamanbebe sounds good! We can start the ultrasound thread now, I think a few mamas have already had ultrasounds! We can start the appt thread on Sundays? That way if people have appts on Monday, it gives them time to ask any questions.
Any advice on changing username when the above things don’t work? It says it changed on my “The Knot” and “The Bump” account, but every time I post it is my old username. I also tried emailing that address and it was returned back to me.
Re: ****read this first**** board organization
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Boden Gray 8-13-16
BB Girl Expected 7-10-19
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy TW and this is where I say something bad that happened to me but I'm very grateful to be here and so excited to meet you all!
Personally, the above example does not seem helpful because the TW sneaks up on the reader and it's hard to tell where the traumatic statement ends. I think it would be a lot more helpful and respectful to those who rely on TWs for a healthy mental state to format a TW like this:
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy.
***TW***
And this is where I say something bad that happened to me.
***End TW***
But I'm very grateful to be here and excited to meet you all!
Or even better, in a spoiler like this:
Hi I'm so-n-so and this is my first pregnancy. TW in spoiler:
(You can add a spoiler by clicking on the paragraph icon and selecting "spoiler," then entering your text into the gray box.)
I'm not trying to be the TW police, but it's a few extra keystrokes and clicks that I feel will be greatly appreciated over casually weaving a TW into a block of text.
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Boden Gray 8-13-16
BB Girl Expected 7-10-19
I would be interested. I will be 41 in ten days so...
General question: if we end up going with due date groups, should I join the one that lines up with my full-term EDD or the date of my c-section that will probably be a couple weeks earlier?
I think at some point, probably second tri, I'll be interested in checking in with mamas to be due around the same time as me but I also don't want that to replace any of our bigger group threads.
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