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ashleykilmer6 · October 2018

hi everyone! I wanted to get on here & say hi, feel like I’ve been dumping everything on my best friend and husband and want to talk to some people who can relate a little more 💔 I had an MC in December 2014, a couple of failed IUIs, two epic failure IVF rounds in 2015, a laparoscopy (finally) to diagnose my stage 1 endometriosis in September 2015 and conceived my DD the following month via IUI. Fast forward a couple years later, TTC baby #2, had MC in February 2018 and another MC in May 2018. I just came off of three back to back to back IUIs and I’m feeling really down - they were all negative. I think my RE is going to push me to do IVF next but I am terrified because of our horrible experience last time. Also, my insurance is only going to cover partially one round of IVF, so I kind of feel like I have one shot. Do any of u ever get second opinions from REs? I also wonder if my endometriosis is back and preventing me from getting pregnant, but RE says it takes years and years for the scar tissue to build up. I’m just feeling confused and feel like I’m a guinea pig sometimes.

NicWalker10 · October 2018

hi @ashleykilmer6 welcome! i'm so sorry to hear about your multiple losses---I know it's crushing and back to back is just so rough. I understand where you are and how you are feeling. We did IVF in 2015, abysmal failure, a second round in 2016 which resulted in my amazing son. We started trying for number 2 last year...3 failed IVF transfers and I felt completely helpless. After third failure, with my RE having no recommendation as to what to do differently or any ideas as to what could be going on, I did get a second opinion from another RE in the group (the practice is pretty big) and I switch REs. I don't know if it will yield a change, but at least I feel like there are some new ideas and thoughts about what's going on.

My only through is that maybe you could benefit from and endo biopsy at this point? Maybe the pregnancies that resultled in MC left behind some tissue (i'm sorry:() and peraphs that is now affecting what's going on? Or maybe polyps developed over time even tho the endo may not be back yet? although since you have a hx of endo I would think it would be a good idea to get a second opinion, idk how quickly it comes back but I sort of fele like between 2015 and now it is something that could develop within that period of time. I definitely think it's worth a second opinion.

You may want to post a question with the issue of Endo recurrence in the subject -I bet you would get a lot of feedback on that-I often seen the subject mentioned here.

I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time. I wish you all the best.

purposelife · November 2018

Sorry for your losses and all you have been through. It can be an emotional roller coaster. Prayers that God comfort and strengthen you. Take care

ashleykilmer6 · November 2018

@NicWalker10 thank you for so much insight! I have (unfortunately) been seeing only an Np this year for IUIs and she does not have that much insight on all of this... no one has even mentioned an Endo biopsy to me before. My doctor is going to be thrilled, I have so many questions prepared when I get to meet with him 😂😂 they kind of save him for IVF only. Do you have plenty of embryos left over? Best of luck to you with your new RE, my husband seemed really against the idea of a second opinion I think because it’s a further drive. We are just both drained. What is your infertility diagnosis?

@purposelife thank you so much. I have tried so hard to keep the faith but sometimes feel like god has forgotten about me. But then I need to remember I have an amazing two year old and that this is all in God’s plan somehow, someway

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