UO 11/1

meggyme · November 2018

What do you think that is unpopular?

meggyme · November 2018

Maybe this is only unpopular in my area, but I don't get the hub bub about older kids trick or treating or people getting bent out of shape about kids not wearing costumes saying trick or treat. You literally bought this candy with the purpose of giving it away. If you can't do that in the spirit of the holiday without strings or judgement attached, then turn off your porchlight and keep your candy to yourself.

Some background that might be needed. Our area has laws that state it's a misdemeanor to trick or treating is from 6-8 for individuals under the age of 13 and an 8pm curfew. There is literally (although not generally enforced) a punishment of fine or 60 DAYS in jail for offenders.

lelkcot · November 2018

@meggyme that’s nuts! I have no issues with it so long as the older kids are polite and not messing with the little kids!

HoneyBear40 · November 2018

@meggyme I'm of the opinion kids already are growing up faster than they need to be, let them hold on to some of the fun of their childhood!

AFM - I don't like pictures of naked pregnant bellies...I just get creeped out.

mayoduck · November 2018

@meggyme I have no problem with older kids trick-or-treating. There are far worse things they could be out and about doing and we ask kids to grow up way too fast in my opinion. However, I did pass judgment on all the older kids who came to the door only wearing a mask. I still allowed them to take candy without complaining to them, but come on, kids, that's lame!

meggyme · November 2018

@lelkcot I agree, and as I said it's generally not enforced but the fact that a 13 year old could spend as much time in jail for trick or treating as some violent sex offenders to is absolutely disgusting to me. Also, I'd rather older kids be coming around getting candy than getting into trouble elsewhere.

novelblessings · November 2018

@meggyme Agree. I went trick-or-treating when I was still in college and that was over a decade ago! Give the kids a break and let them be kids!

I'd say my current UO is that I am totally ok with it being Christmas now. Bring on everything Christmas!! I think I'm more motivated for 2019 this year though

meggyme · November 2018

@novelblessings I feel like the rest of this year is going to fly by. I can't believe it's November already!

lelkcot · November 2018

@meggyme Exactly! I read an article about a similar law and was just saddened by it. As others have said, let kids hang on to their childhood a bit! No kid should be subject to jail time for trick-or-treating!

AFM my (probably not actually unpopular) option is I despise political attack ads. They just sour me on politics and I’m super ready for them to be gone!

meggyme · November 2018

@lelkcot I've been getting political attack TEXT MESSAGES! I guess when you register to vote in FL your personal contact info is no longer private and anyone can look it up and opt you in to political messages. I've been getting phone calls, emails, mail, and text messages, including some gross ones about what this gov candidate said or that gov candidate did.

lelkcot · November 2018

@meggyme that’s nuts and beyond obnoxious and invasive! Those things are bad enough when they’re on tv/radio and you can turn them off. I’d be ticked if they were showing up on my phone!

novelblessings · November 2018

@meggyme @lelkcot This time on the way in it was never ending ads, I was yelling at the radio! I have also been getting text messages but just text back and ask to be taken off their list. I'm also done with the crazy!

meggyme · November 2018

@novelblessings I have been opting out. The worst part is I already voted! I wish they would notify them when someone submits an absentee ballot.

mayoduck · November 2018

Ugh. I hate politics. My UO: I hate *both* major political parties (in the US). I look at them and see more similarities than I do differences. They try really hard to promote their differences but I just see slime on both sides. (note: this is more general about politicians and party leaders and less to do with individual voters)

mamakate1616 · November 2018

I hate the texts too and also respond with a take me off your list. It’s outrageous. On the bright side, one day in between all the campaign ads on the radio, there was a discussion about potential legislation limiting political texts in the not too distant future.

meggyme · November 2018

@mamakate1616 I hope that happens. Seriously, do these ads ever really change someone's mind? All they do is feed the things people that agree with them are already thinking and usually giving false information to further the divide.

mamakate1616 · November 2018

I used to LOVE politics. I would follow both sides so closely and really research the issues I cared about and which candidates would best represent what I believed in. I guess now I’m just jaded because I vote based on who I perceive as “less bad”.
I am a firm believer that at the end of the day, we all want the same things and the parties just have slightly different ways of getting there. I wish people would look past all the made up crap politicians & media put out there to keep us divided to find the common ground.

lelkcot · November 2018

@mamakate1616 YES!!!! All of this, I really believe most people want similar things and would actually prefer our politicians work together for reasonable compromises and bi-partisan solutions. It feels like the minority of extremists on both sides drown out the more central majority.

mayoduck · November 2018

@mamakate1616 with you 100% on all of what you just said!

I try to do my best to research candidates but all 'debates' seem to have devolved into "You're wrong!" and "I don't know where you get your facts" and candidates are so focused on taking down their opponents that they hardly ever talk about their own ideologies and plans. It makes me so frustrated.

mamakate1616 · November 2018

@lelkcot & @mayoduck yes! I literally strained my eyeball rolling it so hard during one of the last presidential debates.

HoneyBear40 · November 2018

I got texts, too! One said "Hi Melissa" and I was particularly crabby at that moment so I sent a nasty-gram back saying my name wasn't Melissa, not sure how they got my number but they could feel free to lose it immediately.

novelblessings · November 2018

@HoneyBear40 I got one of those too but it was to "Matthew". DH used to hold my plan under his name but no longer does. I texted back telling them it was not Matthew. They texted back saying "Oh sorry! We will remove your number!" Better be sorry....LOL

meggyme · November 2018

@HoneyBear40 before I realized registering to vote meant my contact info was public I got into an email fight with someone about spamming people.

govanalyst86 · November 2018

My UO- cosleeping is a bad idea. I've had several moms tell me they cosleep and that I'll "get it" when I'm a parent. Idk how to respond because what I'm thinking is I'm glad nothing bad happened. 🤷‍♀️

novelblessings · November 2018

@govanalyst86 Not that I want you to change your opinion but we were anti-cosleeping. If we didn’t co-sleep with DD though we would have lost our freakin minds! DH is still anti-cosleeping. At this point she is 4.5 and I just want to sleep! LoL.

mayoduck · November 2018

I have not gotten any political texts thankfully, I would definitely lose it. One of our local candidates has flooded our mailbox and included my full legal name (both middle names and all) as the addressee, which I do not at all appreciate.

meggyme · November 2018

@govanalyst86 @novelblessings I think that cosleeping moms sometimes gloss over the risks and what is required to do it safely, like limiting loose blankets and pillows, having a firm mattress, not smoking or drinking or being on certain heavier medications. It's certainly not a one size fits all answer. I, for one, have to sleep with earplugs if I'm in the same room as DD, much less the same bed. I think it probably can be done safely, but that's not what most people are advertising. And as with anything, it comes with its own problems. Like eventually you might want your bed back.

valentynsi · November 2018

I also am anti cosleeping. I'm so scared of crushing my baby in my sleep! I toss and turn too much and I need lots of blankets and pillows. I'll have him in the room with me in a bassinet but I absolutely do not want him my bed with me.

My OU.... I never really know if it's unpopular or not. It seems to change from year to year. I would love to be a stay at home mom. I don't like going to a job every day. I don't think it's worth it for more than half of my paycheck to go to someone else raising my kid.

Sadly, I know I don't have that option. So I'll just silently stew. Haha

Lbloom · November 2018

My UO: We are a pro Cosleeping family. It works for us and obviously safety is our top priority.

Kenneylynn3 · November 2018

@valentynsi I too would love to be a sahm. I have always wanted to do this, so we are currently trying to figure out a way for this to work.

lelkcot · November 2018

And... just got my first political text... ugh

gowenc · November 2018

I never thought I'd co-sleep. I judged my friends who did HARD. Then I didn't sleep for five days straight between my 42 hour labor and no sleep the first three nights after DS was born. So I did my research, made sure we were as safe as possible, and we co-slept. I would have lost my mind if we hadn't, and I will absolutely do it again if this baby has similar issues sleeping in a bassinet.

ETA: I know of MANY new moms who, in their efforts to avoid co-sleeping, end up developing much more dangerous habits, like sleeping with their babies in a recliner, rocking chair, or couch, where it's much more likely that baby can fall or get trapped in cushions.

swanbrooner · November 2018

PSLs are overrated.

@meggyme nosy question. Where in Florida are you? Pm if you don't want it out there.

meggyme · November 2018

@swanbrooner it's complicated. We don't currently live in FL, but are residents of FL. DH is military and there's an act/clause of some kind that states we can maintain a state of residency even after we move. It basically keeps us from having to re-register cars, to vote, learn new state tax laws, etc every time we move, ie about every 3 years. But we were in Pensacola.

swanbrooner · November 2018

@meggyme Gotcha. My mom lives in the Tampa area, and I'm down there quite a bit.

lovesclimbing · November 2018

I never get text messages, thankfully. In our state election primary, H and I had to vote absentee. We chose e-delivery of the ballots, so they got or emails. Immediately, we were deluged with candidate emails. I report them all as spam (including the ones from the candidates/issues I'm voting for!) because I never signed up to get emails from them.

litzi-2 · November 2018

@gowenc same here. we did for the first 6 months. i would have gotten no sleep, i was already running on empty. and my colicky lo didn't STTN until 11 months, despite "sleep training" at 6 months. (sleep training, another thing i feel ??? about).

sejica · November 2018

@gowenc yes to the dangers of sleeping in recliners / on couches.

@meggyme it was due to my desire to keep our adult bed to just DH and I that we put a real bed in dds room from the beginning, which since it was bigger than a crib accommodated her bassinet and me, so I wouldn't accidentally roll onto her. So, yes we coslept some, but on her super-firm, one pillow for me, only a fitted sheet, full sized mattress. And when she got too squirmy for my comfort we moved it to the floor, and then added toddler rails, and will eventually get it back up to normal height, as she continues to grow up. Our co-sleeping has been a little bit more limited this way, but has also meant fewer transitions for dd, and all of them have been about the height, rather than a change in sleeping surface. Plus, I could do night feedings and just leave her in place, but slide in and out of her bed, which worked great. We will probably do a similar set up when this little guy gets here.

chocolatelemons · November 2018

@gowenc same here except we coslept until 10 monthish. I would 100% do it again.

govanalyst86 · November 2018

@novelblessings @Lbloom @gowenc @litzi-2 @sejica thanks for sharing your perspectives on cosleeping especially the things you did to make sleep safe. Since sharing the news that I'm pregnant I've had women at church, work, and other places tell me about how they coslept in the first months - but no mention of how they did it safely. I think now with what you ladies have shared I won't be so surprised hearing this but understand it's not just putting the baby in bed with you.

I'm a FTM and will probably try to keep baby in a bassinet or crib just because that's what my mom did with us. Knowing there are safe cosleeping methods is helpful though.

Lbloom · November 2018

@govanalyst86 You just find out what works for you as you go. I didn't plan on cosleeping either but as it turns out DD1 was super clingy and would only sleep a couple hours without me. And we nursed at night, so out of desperation I just brought her over to lay next to me. I'm a super light sleeper so no worries about hurting her. She slept between me and the edge, because DH is a hard sleeper. When she started rolling, we actually took a side off her crib and lashed it to the edge of our bed, turning it into a side-car sleeper so she had her own space and we had ours. It worked out because she was a roller. Still is. She got moved to her own bed/room at 18 months with toddler rails and she has a big double bed so I could crawl in with her if she needed me. Sometimes she crawled in with us but always started in her own bed. She outgrew the need to do that, too.

DD2 was not a roller. We also got a new, taller, king size bed. DH welded ports straight onto the metal bed frame that would fit a toddler rail. So we were able to attach a rail to my side and remove it when she moved to her own bed, about the same age as sis. She still would crawl in with us for awhile but that is also outgrown. (Catch 22, she likes to be next to a warm body at night, so she and sis often share either one or the other's double beds. Keeps them out of ours!)

Point is, the best way for me to get sleep was to not be getting up constantly to nurse throughout the night. This way, they get their night nursings and I don't have to get out of bed, completely waking up in the process. I also think a sidecar or arms reach cosleeper is a great way to accomplish this.

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