touching breasts?

renee143 · January 2009

for the last 4 months or so (since we cut back BFing) marlee likes to put her hand in my shirt and feel the top part of my breasts, especially if she is sleepy. it's definitely a comfort mechanism. i mostly don't mind, but it sometimes gets funny looks if we're in public. i feel like it's her compromise...i'm not nursing, but i can snuggle my momma and make sure the boobs are still there! i figured it wouldn't last long, but it's still going on. obviously, as she gets older, this will become inappropriate. would you wait it out, or start trying to tell her no? btw- i've tried taking her hand out and telling her no, and she cried like i was rejecting her love. it was awful. anyhoo, just wondering if anyone else has experienced this/ or what would you do in my shoes?

hollybabe · January 2009

My son used to do that when he was a baby, and I was only able to BF him for a month. I think you're right about the comfort thing. Nolan grew out of it. It was funny, though, like he was feeling me up. And he would do it to other women, too. Maybe he's just a player?

I used to tell him to enjoy it while he could.

brianna611 · January 2009

I haven't experienced this, but I feel if I were in your shoes, I would let her. I'm not sure how old your DD is (over a year?) but it's not like she's in preschool. She's still a baby in many ways and she obviously needs this in an emotional/nurturing/comforting way. I wouldn't want to take that from my baby. I can imagine you don't like getting looks in public, but screw those people. GL with it and just trust your instinct.

the_jackpot · January 2009

Maybe it's a Marley thing, my bff's daughter Marley did this same thing. She is two and sometimes her hand will still end up on her Mommy's breast. My bff let her touch for a while and then she transitioned her to them being Mommy's and pulling her hand away- not really making it a grand gesture but taking her hand and kissing it and saying soothing words.

MeantToBeWed · January 2009

when i nannied years ago, the little boy did this to me and his mom - and he was never bf'd (kids were adopted at around 6mths).

papagena · January 2009

Ditto pp - I'd let her for awhile, but when/if it is getting to that inappropriate stage, I'd try to transition her to something else. I wouldn't say 'no' per-se, but perhaps 'these are mommie's' and either give her her own comfort item or a big hug or kiss or something else she can go for instead that is appropriate.

renee143 · January 2009

thanks ladies. it's good to know you wouldn't give me funny looks!

Lotte134 · January 2009

Ditto everyone else. I think it's sweet and you'll know when it crosses the line and work with her then.

AmandaHearn · January 2009

DD likes to lay her hand on mine and sometimes she feels my bra straps and stuff. I think it's sweet

If it got weird, I'd just move her hand.

Dobie_Mama · January 2009

I would just let her do it for now. DD "pats" my breasts occasionally if we're out in public and she's tired, anxious, etc. I'm not at the point where I would consider it to be a "weird" thing so we're just going with it for now!