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January 2019 Moms
leighbrek
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MBF - Oct 22nd
leighbrek
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I'm getting an early start today. 
Re: MBF - Oct 22nd
I'm trying really hard to not be an ungrateful cow, but... C'mon!
Like you just talked about this with her. I would be annoyed too.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Fast forward to last week. Husband is out of town on work, temperatures plummet, and surprise surprise our heat isn't working again! There is no way I'm spending any additional money on fixing it since the plan was to get a whole new setup anyways. Called my husband and complained, he set up an appointment to get the new boiler today (but never even sent in the loan paperwork so he's just going to have to pay the 10k in cash and then get reimbursed), and I just bundled up with lots of blankets for the week.
Husband gets home on Friday. Last night, at 10pm, as I'm getting ready to go to bed, he's like "oh by the way can you work from home tomorrow to let the plumber in?" I'm pretty sure smoke was coming out of my ears because he took it back pretty quickly. But c'mon, you couldn't give me any more notice than that?
First off, I asked my mom if she wanted to come over tomorrow and see ds and I could maybe run out to the store while she watches him. She kind of hemmed and hawed because she has to take my dad for an appt that is literally right down the street from my house at 4 in the afternoon. I asked her to come over after ds wakes from his nap at 2. She always complains and makes passive aggressive comments about how she never gets to see him and my ils spend more time watching him. This is why I don't ask her to watch him!!!!!! It always becomes a problem for her and she doesn't seem genuinely interested. It's all for show.
Also, a friend of mine and I have wanted to take our kiddos to this storytime next month. They have 2 sessions, one interferes with ds' naps and one interferes with her daughters naps. I feel like I'm always jeopardizing ds naps to hang out with her but she never does the same for me. So I told her that were doing the later session and she sends me this bullshit text about her daughters nap schedule and too bad we can't work it out.
All of this is probably magnified by the fact that dh's bff died last night and were dealing with some real life stuff and why can't everyone just cut me some slack and be compassionate!!!! I could totally use a good cry and a glass of wine right now but I'm going to just have to settle on the good cry.
Maybe you can make new friends with better nap schedules at storytime!
My mom and dad do the same crap; I try to just "love them where they are" -- ie just accept that's the reality of it, offer opportunities to see us but set low expectations. It's hard. I'm almost 40 and still wish for a "regular" mom and dad relationship. Hang in there!
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
SECOND. I don’t know how many of you remember my early rants about my MIL, but long story short- I have identical twin nephews who are about to be 11 months old. MIL plays a huge roll in helping SIL raise them. She watches them at her house every Saturday - and so she’ll buy things she needs for them to have at her house. She’ll claim the stuff she buys is for all of her grandkids, but typically she’ll buy things developmentally appropriate for the twins, and not DD who is 6 months older (for example she only bought bowls and bibs when the boys started eating solids - DD was a year old at the time and already eating table food).
Well this weekend we went to the in laws and had a family day since we hadn’t all been together in a while. MIL had actually bought some wooden puzzles with large pieces for DD to play with. It was a really nice thing that MIL had finally bought something specifically age appropriate for DD to use at their house.
EXCEPT 5 minutes after MIL brought it out she took it away because the boys were mouthing the pieces and it wasn’t ‘safe’. Uhm first of all yes it is. Second of all HOW ARE YOU TAKING AWAY THE ONLY TOY YOU BOUGHT FOR MY KID. Of course DD had a melt down because #toddler and she didn’t want her toy taken away. I’m still so pissed. At this point I hold so much animosity toward her it’s hard to get over things.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
My MBF is that I recommended a former classmate for a position with a former colleague, and apparently she has done absolutely terribly and was asked last week to search for a new job. It's totally my fault for recommending someone before I had personally worked with them (she worked for two other colleagues who were in my department that I know well, and did a good job with them). I feel absolutely awful for my colleague, who was very patient and dealt with so much sloppiness and mistakes from the classmate. I reached out today to try to do damage control, and I hope she forgives me. The classmate is going through a very tough personal situation though, which probably affected her concentration and work.
I guess my MBF is just bitching to myself about not being cautious enough with the recommendation. I am also annoyed with my old classmate though, who reached out today to ask if I knew anyone else hiring and for help formatting her CV after all of this. I don't know what else she should have done, but I would appreciate if she would apologize or just acknowledge how bad this made me look- that I stuck out my neck for her already and now my colleague (and probably her whole group) has lost trust in me.
***Edited for typos!
I think that if you apologized, though, it really puts you in good faith; you weren't trying to cause problems and you legitimately thought the person would be okay.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019