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May 2019 Moms
kvh22
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STM+ Check In Week of 10/17
kvh22
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Well apparently I'm just going to accidentally post this on Wednesdays instead of Tuesdays now 
Yesterday was a bit crazy but I'll try to do better. Also, I will not be upset if anyone sees that this hasn't been posted and does so before me. I'm on the west coast and Tuesdays can be a busy day with morning meetings.
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
How are your other kids doing this week?
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately?
Yesterday was a bit crazy but I'll try to do better. Also, I will not be upset if anyone sees that this hasn't been posted and does so before me. I'm on the west coast and Tuesdays can be a busy day with morning meetings.How many kids do you already have? Ages?
How are your other kids doing this week?
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately?
Re: STM+ Check In Week of 10/17
How are your other kids doing this week? Pretty whiny since we got back from vacation but a little better today. A little.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm just really excited he will have a sibling soon to occupy him. I know they won't be able to play together for a while but one day they will. I love that he loves me but I need him to stop being all over me allllll the time.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? DS whined less today than yesterday and I am considering that a win. I'm working on setting him up with some toys and then slowly backing away to try to get him to play independently. We spend plenty of time playing together and cuddling but he needs to play alone once in a while. He was great about this before we went away, pretty sure he got used to the constant attention from family.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? DD is 1.
How are your other kids doing this week? So, so whiny. At our 12-month appointment the pediatrician mentioned she had several teeth starting to come in, including a molar - I feel like they're all coming in right now. Poor kid. She's been waking up all through the night when she normally sleeps just fine, and she's been so cranky when she wakes up.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? We are still working on the switch to solid food entirely, but it seems like she actually swallows so little that I worry about her intake. She's had normal messy diapers, but it just seems like she only has a 25% accuracy rate with getting food in her mouth. Then, if she sees more food she spits out the food currently in her mouth. I'm sure it's just a practice thing, but it's just hard to judge after feeding with breastmilk/formula. I just don't know how to know she's getting enough.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? I'm wearing stretchy pants that look like real work pants today. That's my win.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
How are your other kids doing this week? She's on cloud 9 this week because we told her on Monday that she's getting a baby brother of sister
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Kindergarten has proven to be a bit more challenging than I'd expected for her. She seems to be doing the work and all, but she gets very frustrated very easily if she doesn't get it right away, and she immediately loses interest. The new structure couple with it being more demanding, has discouraged her from learning a bit. I'm looking for all kinds of ways to keep her encouraged and helping her understand that it's ok if she doesn't get it right away, she will, she just has to stick with it and try.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? I think I pretty much became her hero when I told her I'm carrying her new little brother or sister, so win for me! LOL
@GeorgiaGirl1230 DD is barely 1 so take this with a grain of salt, but I listened to a lot of early childhood development books while taking DD for walks on maternity leave. One thing that really stuck with me is to praise their effort, not their intelligence. DH and I have already been making that a habit. Apparently if you only praise intelligence, when things get hard and they fail, they don't want to try things for risk of failing. It was something I never would have thought of. *goes back into her young toddler corner*
Kinder is a big adjustment. DD2 just started kinder this fall as well and I see the frustration with her too. Both my girls get easily frustrated and sometimes when new concepts get introduced there have been tears and some bumps along the way but the they figure it out. I feel like we get the hang of things and then it changes again! Like @kvh22 said keep praising effort and tell her it’s okay to mess up and get it wrong.
How are your other kids doing this week? They are doing well. They have settled into school and new routines and it’s great but they still bicker and fight like cats and dogs that it drives crazy. I miss them so much while at school but then I pick them up from school and half an hour later I’m wishing they were back at school.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? I had a feeling I was getting sick, sore throat for two days so I made a big pot of chicken noodle soup last night. Woke up this morning feeling yucky. So glad I made it last night and I just have to reheat some for lunch.
How are your other kids doing this week?
I think he's getting burnt out and I'm but sure what to do about it. I'm considering reeling back on therapy but I feel like it's a really hard decision trying to figure out what to reel back on.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm starting to worry he's going to regress when baby gets here. I'm worried about how to manage it all.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately?
I don't feel like I'm winning at all. But his behavior in public is incredible. He has improved so much. We've gone from frequent meltdowns where I'm dragging him out in tears as he hits me to no behaviors at all and listening SO well. But that's ABA therapy's and his win, not mine.
How are your other kids doing this week?
It has been a rough start to the week. Ds2 decided to try and balance on a soda bottle (yes you read that right) Monday night and fell back and hit his head. I didn’t think anything of the fall (kid is an accident magnet and falls a million times a day) but then at dinner he started complaining of headache and belly ache so we spent the evening in the ER for observation. He threw up all over the waiting room so at least they got him in right away, and he has not had any concussion symptoms since thankfully! Then ds1 came home from school today with a temp of 102 (low for him thank goodness) but no other symptoms. So now i May have to take the day off tomorrow. On a bright note ds1 was beyond thrilled to find out he would be a super big brother and has been talking about the new baby constantly. So sweet.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
my mom is on a cruise and I haven’t been able to tell her about the baby. I can’t wait for her to get home! She won’t be back to Canada until Saturday.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? Honestly I am pretty proud of surviving life right now. Dh works 7 days 16 hours in the fall, The boys have a million activities and I spend the day chasing 1 st graders around (I mean teaching...lol). Add to that constant exhaustion and nausea and I’m just satisfied that everyone has been fed and gotten to where they need to be, when they need to be there.
@GeorgiaGirl1230 I highly recommend doing some internet research on growth mindset. There are tons of videos and activities to present it in a kid friendly way. Basically teaching kids your brain is a muscle and you have to work it by trying hard things to get smarter and learn more. I work with students with disabilities and frustration is always something we have to overcome. We do lessons for growth mindset I always remind my students that if it is easy then they aren’t learning. “It’s supposed to be hard when we are learning” comes out of my mouth a 100 times a day. Praising effort is definitely a good start, but also praising risk taking when trying new things (or attempting something that is hard).
How are your other kids doing this week? Great! Finally! He came down with a fever over the weekend and was sleeping horribly. I only slept about 4 hours in 48...worse than infant days. I was a walking zombie on Monday at school. All my students were super concerned. But he’s now had 2 full night’s sleeps and he’s working on a solid 3 (knock on wood) right now with zero sign of fever.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I’m tired of being a part-time single parent at the moment. DH is hunting (again...like 8th trip this season) and I’m doing it all. He called today and said he might extend his trip through the next week too and I’m about to throw all his belongings on the front lawn.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? I started taking vitamin D3 supplement as per midwife’s suggestions and I’ve never felt so good! Even in the midst of sleeplessness this past week, I was at least semi-dealwithable. Prior to taking the D3 I was seriously scary moody, even on my best days. This change in positivity is ah-mazing!
@eatinwatermelonseeds I’d say that’s a mom win too. It takes a village, girl. Way to support DS in being the best version of himself he can be. Fantastic outcomes come from continued growth, support, and practice and without you, none of those things could happen. Congrats on the behavior breakthrough! Could you talk to his therapists and determine the best course of action on his therapies? Perhaps they feel the same and would have a good sense as to how to reduce his minutes with them and increase his time practicing his new-found skills in the real world.
and @Stormiewinter when it rains it pours! I hope the medical hecticness subsides soon! Oofda, that’s a lot for anyone to handle. Sending you positive vibes!
How are your other kids doing this week? She's great. Back to daycare after having more than a week off (for provider's vacation). She loved spending the entire week with Gaga and Gaga (my parents who live on the opposite coast). And I loved having them here because they are beyond helpful.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? TMI. I think I have a yeast infection. yay. So I'll be calling the OB to make sure I can treat it. Yay pregnancy. Also, I told my coworkers yesterday and they were all so excited for me, so that was nice. And I don't have to hide my belly anymore.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? oh geez. I don't even know. I was able to extricate my keys from her this morning without her having a complete meltdown. does that count? Maybe hosting her birthday party with almost 40 adults and 10 kids in our house this past weekend without going insane. She had a blast, and I think our guests enjoyed the food and chatting.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
We always go through this conversation/thought process with DD.
"You're so cute." (Shoot, not supposed to focus on looks, although she is so gosh darn cute).
"You're so smart." (Shoot, don't want her to have a fixed mindset).
"You try/work so hard. We're so proud of you." (Ok, I think we've just about got it).
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
As for growth mindset...I have some audible credits to use
How many kids do you already have? Ages? DD is 14 months
How are your other kids doing this week? We are in leap 9 (wonder weeks) so sleep has been rough. I'm always so torn during the leaps that disrupt their sleep b/c they usually are the ones where you also see the biggest change. It's been so fun to see her interacting with us and daycare people, our neighbor who helped me out on Tuesday night, etc. in a different way.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm not supposed to lift DD b/c of this SCH. Like...wtf?? It's a good thing DH is home now but this is still hard. I can't wait for our next appointment to check it out (which is with my OB, not some random doc) on Monday. I can't find any actual stats on the risks but maybe that's a good thing. I had to cancel my work trip next week and tell 4 coworkers I had a "medical issue" when I started bleeding and had to miss meetings to go to the doctor so I bet everyone knows I'm pregnant now (but having complications so hopefully they won't say anything).
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? Surviving the 7 days DH was traveling while feeling like crap in the first trimester and dealing with DD's poor sleep.
Ugh. That sounds terrible. Thanks for the tip!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
How are your other kids doing this week? Ok. We are still working on their whole no nap thing.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm really excited that we are having another little girl! We found out yesterday.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? her empathy never ceases to amaze me
How are your other kids doing this week? Pretty good! He is giving me a hard time with naps and wants to be rocked to sleep (which has been kind of sweet). I‘m hoping it’s just a lot phase since he has been a good napper thus far.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? All I want to do is nap. DH’s work is hosting a movie night so he is taking DS. I am excited to have a night tonight myself.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately?
We met my dad for lunch and DS made it the whole time without losing it and even ate some of the food I got him.
How are your other kids doing this week? He's doing really well. Three teeth are finally making their way in which had been rough, but it seems the worst is behind us. He's also being so adorable and saying the cutest things. Also asking "what's that" like 583040538 times which is grating on my nerves, but I find his curiosity pretty dang cute.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Nothing that I can think of. I feel like my brain is fried lately.
GTKY: What is one "mom win" you've had lately? DH was at work late last night and I successfully handled daycare pick up, dinner and bed time with no tears or issues all while feeling sick. Win!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle