(Knock on wood) feeling relatively good this week. I had to instigate a tough conversation with my boss yesterday (essentially asking to shift my career path entirely - I was SO anxious she'd shut me down) and she was totally supportive and helped me come up with a game plan! It was amazing. So I feel like I have some direction to feel more fulfilled at work.
I'm bouncing between doing great and being on the verge of going insane - which is better than usual where I spend time in the depressed/anxious in between the two.
@episcowitch I'm like that too. Sometimes I'm just so tired after work and all I want to do is go home and veg on my couch but I'm usually happy I decided not to skip my therapy appts when I make myself go haha.
My therapist is away for two weeks so I'm getting a bit of a hiatus anyway.
Having wild dreams now, but not as bad as they were before on the higher doses of effexor. But I'm extra tired now, so it could still be affecting my sleep. Or it could all just be pregnancy related. At least my irritability is gone. Debating giving Zoloft a second try. I'm annoyed with all the guessing games and trying things, but thankful things are bearable.
*tw* Found out my SIL had to have an emergency surgery due to an ectopic pregnancy yesterday. They had been TTC for over a year, and got thier first positive test result last week. I’m feeling pretty depressed about it, and went into pgal mode thinking anything can go wrong at any moment. I never know what to say when these things happen, and know nothing I do or say will make things better, so I’m feeling helpless.
@conchispita- So sorry to read that for your SIL. There's nothing to do or say except be there for her. I hear you about it triggering paranoia, although obvi we are all long past the ectopic potential stage!
@conchispita - that’s really rough. I actually have a hard time around 20-21 weeks because *TW* on my first BMB, two women lost babies at 20 and 21 weeks. They had bleeding and other issues, so I try to remind myself that everything is ok right now, but it honestly doesn’t really help. Once I hit V-Day (viability day) in a few weeks, I will start obsessively watching survival statistics because that’s what my OCD makes me do.
@conchispita I totally understand that triggering anxiety and I’m so sorry your SIL has to go through that.
I posted on the symptoms thread that my ulstrasound tech this morning checked my cervix and mentioned cervical funneling which is basically an incompetent cervix and I may need medication etc so I’ve been googling and stressing and the anxiety levels are high.
I see my doctor next Tuesday but I may call her tomorrow when she gets the report because I’m nervous and if I need a cerclage I’m like at the very end of when I could do it. Can’t wait for viability day.
@kayjay44@danixbanani24 V-day is definitely a milestone, *TW* but I was talking to a coworker last week that experienced a loss at 36 wks, so my anxiety started amping up since then. Just hoping to make it to February without becoming a basket case, and hopefully with a healthy baby.
@sjnsjnsjn glad we are out of the danger zone for ectopic, but it’s seems like every phase is different circle of psychological hell. Sorry being totally pessimistic today
@conchispita- Oh I am with you and relate. I'll just say what my therapist says every other week to me about all my fears of loss. They're just thoughts and we can visualize and watch them go by, like they are on a stream of air. Sometimes it works. Sometimes not so much...
Re: Mental Health Check-In 10.8-10.14
@BourbonBiscuits that is so good to hear!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
My therapist is away for two weeks so I'm getting a bit of a hiatus anyway.
Found out my SIL had to have an emergency surgery due to an ectopic pregnancy yesterday. They had been TTC for over a year, and got thier first positive test result last week. I’m feeling pretty depressed about it, and went into pgal mode thinking anything can go wrong at any moment. I never know what to say when these things happen, and know nothing I do or say will make things better, so I’m feeling helpless.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I posted on the symptoms thread that my ulstrasound tech this morning checked my cervix and mentioned cervical funneling which is basically an incompetent cervix and I may need medication etc so I’ve been googling and stressing and the anxiety levels are high.
I see my doctor next Tuesday but I may call her tomorrow when she gets the report because I’m nervous and if I need a cerclage I’m like at the very end of when I could do it. Can’t wait for viability day.