Trying to Get Pregnant
TFAS w/o 9/24
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What number are you trying for?
Month/Cycle?
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag:
GTKY: What is something cute/sweet/funny your kiddos have done lately?
Re: TFAS w/o 9/24
@mamanbebe Yes, religion/spiritualism has played a role for me. Both times, it has tested my faith. I am a planner and nothing about TTC has gone according to my ideal plan, so it is hard to give up control like that for me. I've gone through months of praying every day, but then hit times like now where I don't even feel like I have the words to say anymore. Our service yesterday focused on the emotional status of your heart, and I cried no less than five times during it. They talked about certain feelings making you become someone you don't recognize, and man oh man is that true for me during TTC. I have said and thought some very ugly things. They talked about jealousy and how the spiritual way to combat those feelings is to celebrate the success of others. Ouch. That is hard for me to hear b/c I have done quite the opposite (at least internally) when finding out about others getting pregnant so easily. So for me, this journey has and continues to force me to evaluate my own heart and soul... and it isn't pretty or easy.
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 11/12 (I initially typed this above and lol'd at the thought of trying for #11 of 12)
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 21 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Feels like a failure already based on the follie sizes so just waiting for a fresh start.
Any questions? Nope.
Rant/Rave/Brag: It is all kinds of fall here and I've got my fall nail polish on, I've been sporting my boots and fall coats and I ordered 3 more pairs of boots this weekend!
GTKY: What is something cute/sweet/funny your kiddos have done lately? He was playing with his little golf club set and every time he missed the hole he started saying "miss!" - I definitely don't remember us teaching him that but it's adorable.
Month/Cycle? 5/5
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 16mo
Any thoughts about this cycle? Odds are against us - DH is traveling during the end of FW this cycle.
Any questions? What are your kiddos going to be dressed up as? When did you start trick or treating? I thought this year DS could go to our close neighbors’ houses. Not 100% sure what we’re going to dress up as - last year he was a tiger and I was “on safari”, lol.
Rant/Rave/Brag: He’s starting to talk a little more and also wanting his paci more. I think he’s got even more teeth coming in so he’s uncomfortable. I am excited for when he’s more vocal because (not gonna lie) it is getting a little annoying to have to ask him 193738 times if he wants his water because he is pointing at it and yelling.
GTKY: What is something cute/sweet/funny your kiddos have done lately? Two nights ago he was saying goodnight to DH and he kept giving DH kisses. He gave like 5 kisses!! I tried to get one, but I straight up got rejected!
@mamanbebe I definitely prayed about it, then and now. I know it sounds cliche to say, but I know it will happen when it’s meant to be. I think it’s just hard to not know when. I’m not overtly religious and we don’t go to church every week, but I know he is there for us if we need to talk ever.
@marebear15 The TLDR version of our birth story is this: 25hrs of labor. Stalled @ 8cm for 8hrs, waited for said 8 hrs for Dr. to come and break water, baby born, Mom (me) cried ugly tears, passed out 2x when trying to pee after, ate some excellent hospital food (which was only excellent because I hadn’t eaten for 30hrs), went home @ 24hr “birthday”. Please share yours! And, happy birthday to your LO!!
@Sparty18 I love your little story. Your LO sounds so adorable!! I am sorry you are feeling like this cycle is not working out. Hugs!!
@marebear15 that's super cute! If it makes you feel better, I didn't have too hard of a time weaning. Every kid is different so you never know!
@Sparty18 I can definitely relate to some of the ways you're feeling, especially when it has to do with jealousy. We're only human.
@lillywonderland and @Sparty18 @marebear15 Thank you as well! I was not brought up in a particularly religious home, so it's really enlightening to learn more about how others use prayer, service, etc, to help open their mind about their experience in times that are quite challenging.
I appreciate you all opening up and sharing more about your journeys. I really want to let something else into this process to help me find peace in what is and hope for what can be, it helps to hear more about the depths of what you all are going through too xo
I edited my original post because I didn't want to seem like I didn't like the GTKY question. So I'll just post here. I love hearing birth stories and with my DD birthday tomorrow, it's gotten me thinking about her birth a lot. So if you'd like to share your story, I'd love to hear it! I'm working on typing mine out.
@lillywonderland we started trick or treating right away! We all dress up together. So far this year DD wants to be a princess but that is always open to change!
I got checked in, rated my pain at about a 5-6, and the nurse was surprised when I checked in at 6 cm. I wanted to see how long I could go without pain medication, so I got the whirlpool room in the hospital (they only had one, score!), and DH blew up my birthing ball. Two hours later I was a 7, and I got an IV of pain meds, that wore off in an hour and I got another one which also lasted about an hour. It took the edge off enough for me to focus through every contraction. But then I stalled at 8 cm and they couldn't give me any more, so I went into the tub for about 20 minutes before the nurses got worried that they couldn't monitor me. After stalling for about 3 hours, I got my water broken, but nothing came out. DD's head was right there.
That's when I hit transition. DD had been transverse this whole time and I was feeling every contraction in my back. An older nurse barged in through the door and demanded we turn this baby! They put me on oxygen because DD's heartrate had started to decline and forced me in unnatural positions. Each contraction was horrid because I couldn't do my breathing exercises with the oxygen on, and DH wasn't there to put counter pressure on.
They then decided I should push and hopefully DD would come out sunny side up. My OB arrived just as I started the first push. Her heartrate dropped significantly each time, and with my first push, my water came out brown. They prepped the NICU team and the OR, and my OB said if I could get DD out before the OR was ready, we could try. He used the vacuum 3 times but DD had too much hair. So off to the OR I went!
It was a good call because DD came out with a body cord so tight it bruised her chest. When they tried to turn her, she flipped against her cord and that's why her heartrate was dropping. She failed her APGAR badly (just a 1), and was rushed to the NICU for meconium aspiration.
Even though I didn't get to hold her until 12 hours after birth, and didn't get to start nursing until about 18 hours, she was an amazing breastfeeder! And we were both able to leave the hospital 3 days after birth.
@lillywonderland: DD went at 15 months last fall, in her wagon, to just a few nearby houses. We'll probably do very similar this year, too! (She was Minnie last year, and this year is going to be Vampirina)
@mamanbebe: I'm fairly spiritual (and became even more so after DD arrived), but haven't necessarily haven't incorporated anything specific into my TTC journey. I do ask for another child in prayer, I guess.
What number are you trying for? #2
Any questions? None.
Also @marebear15 your birth story is amazing, thank you for sharing. I need to share my LO's story; its too long and I could write it into a short story book.
the next day, DH and I picked up a bed full of mulch from a friend. I did so laps around the block since there was only one shovel. I was having super light contractions every 15-20 minutes so I didn’t really think much of it. That night, my neighbors threw me a surprised baby shower. So I ate a bunch and timed my contractions since they were now at 10 minutes apart... but still nothing serious.
We went home after, had sex, and went to bed. I woke up at 2:45am when I rolled over and my water broke. We left the house about 3am and in the car ride over, my contractions were about 3 minutes apart and definitely more painful. We arrived at the hospital and went to the wrong door so we had to walk around looking for an unlocked entrance. As we were about to get in the car to drive to the other side, we saw some nurses leaving their shift. They kindly let us in when they noticed me contracting haha.
I got into triage about 4am and I was 6 cm. I got admitted and requested an epidural. Shortly after she took my blood, I felt the need to push. At 4:45 am I was 10 cm. They yelled down the hall to get a doctor so I could push. At 5:06 am, DD was born. They didn’t even have the results back to know if I could get an epidural haha.
With my son 20 months later I got the epidural and when it came time to push I realized very quickly that with my daughter I didn't have enough time for the epi to work or it was a failed epidural because let me tell you there was a BIG difference and a working epidural is wonderful LOL
My older sister had her first the weekend that I conceived my first. Now she’s due with her second at the end of October so I have this imaginary time frame in my mind to be knocked up then and I just know it won’t happen and it bothers me that it bothers me!
@mrsjqg1024 I feel you on being so torn. I also think it’s just nice to be seen by the RE and then you’re already in the position to decide to do treatment or not. You don’t have that in between waiting period then. So you might as well get that waiting period over now before the trying gets more frustrating!