I love that it's starting to get chilly and darker earlier. Bring on fall and winter. Bring on hot, hearty meals for dinner. Bring on being crazy bundled up in bed all because you have to have your window open to let the cold air in. I LOVE IT.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
I'm going to start (ETA just kidding). This appears to be unpopular because so many people do it.
Anytime one parent says to another "just you wait", I want to punch them in the face. I think it's so discouraging and rude, and seems like you're wishing ill on the other parent. Also, the way it worked out for you may not be how it works out for them! My friend with a baby about 6 months younger than mine was telling me her plans for when her baby started eating solids. I had the same plans, they didn't pan out due to necessity/pediatrician advice. You know what I did? KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT. She didn't ask for my opinion on her parenting so I didn't give it to her! I didn't say "just you wait, that won't work out the way you want". I hate the "just you wait til he starts doing xyz". I've loved all the stages so far and I'm sure I'll love the ones to come, though they'll be challenging in their own ways.
I don't mind snaps on pajamas! Everyone told me they were the devil but I really didn't mind them. The ones that zip from bottom to top are definitely my favorite but snaps are whatever! DS is too old now for snap pajamas, they came in such cute prints
I don't mind snaps on pajamas! Everyone told me they were the devil but I really didn't mind them. The ones that zip from bottom to top are definitely my favorite but snaps are whatever! DS is too old now for snap pajamas, they came in such cute prints
Awwww, this just got me so excited to bundle a little kiddo into pj's again! Mine now just sleeps in boxer briefs, which is also adorable in it's way.
Y'all, I totally just imagined how T I N Y a lil' baby is compared to my giant kiddo and now I'm like ugly crying at work like imagining holding a lil teeny bebe again I can't
I'm going to start (ETA just kidding). This appears to be unpopular because so many people do it.
Anytime one parent says to another "just you wait", I want to punch them in the face. I think it's so discouraging and rude, and seems like you're wishing ill on the other parent. Also, the way it worked out for you may not be how it works out for them! My friend with a baby about 6 months younger than mine was telling me her plans for when her baby started eating solids. I had the same plans, they didn't pan out due to necessity/pediatrician advice. You know what I did? KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT. She didn't ask for my opinion on her parenting so I didn't give it to her! I didn't say "just you wait, that won't work out the way you want". I hate the "just you wait til he starts doing xyz". I've loved all the stages so far and I'm sure I'll love the ones to come, though they'll be challenging in their own ways.
I 100% agree with you. I love all the stages! SOOO many people were like "just you wait!" each time DD is in some kind of significant milestone. It's all exciting and I even though I don't want to wish away time, I'm always looking forward to the next stage. It's so fun to watch them grow and we as parents just go along with it when the time comes. Everything happens so gradually that it's not really like it's an earth-shattering change when your baby starts eating finger foods or crawling or whatever. I just don't get why people say this.
What I also hate is that when people see that DD is a very good baby, they almost always have to say that baby #2 will be a terror. Why does this have to be a thing people say? Can we maybe pretend like my second baby isn't the devil before he/she is born?
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
Y'all, I totally just imagined how T I N Y a lil' baby is compared to my giant kiddo and now I'm like ugly crying at work like imagining holding a lil teeny bebe again I can't
There are always teeny tiny 7-8 week olds at my workout class and I just fawn over them. From a distance, so as to not be creepy. I can't believe DS was ever that little
Y'all, I totally just imagined how T I N Y a lil' baby is compared to my giant kiddo and now I'm like ugly crying at work like imagining holding a lil teeny bebe again I can't
There are always teeny tiny 7-8 week olds at my workout class and I just fawn over them. From a distance, so as to not be creepy. I can't believe DS was ever that little
JUST YOU WAIT until DS is 5 and giant and riding water slides by himself LOL JUST KIDDING BC OF YOUR EARLIER UO I SWEAR
@nopegoat I agree. All the crappiness I was feeling last week is gone and my drive is back. We’ve been using the natural family planning method, quite successfully, for years, but totally thoughtless sex (without caring about cycles etc)is way more fun.
@DuchessOfCambridge Those comments are the worst!! Especially while pregnant. It's like future parents try to scare you or project their unhappiness onto you. So many people used to say "Just wait until you don't sleep for a year". Well, DD started sleeping through the night at 4 months so SUCK IT. I try so hard not to make comments like that to friends or other parents. I usually am saying "just wait until they start doing X - it's so exciting!". Not bringing the voice of doom.
@nopegoat Less stress and your stomach is SUPPOSED to hang out. Plus, huge boobs. Win win!
Going off of @DuchessOfCambridge's UO of "just you wait", mine is I feel the same way when a FTM says, "I'll never" or "my kid will never". It's the same condensending, know it all tone. I've learned the hard way to never say never when it comes to parenting. So many words eaten.
I also hate the just you wait comments.
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@DuchessOfCambridge Those comments are the worst!! Especially while pregnant. It's like future parents try to scare you or project their unhappiness onto you. So many people used to say "Just wait until you don't sleep for a year". Well, DD started sleeping through the night at 4 months so SUCK IT. I try so hard not to make comments like that to friends or other parents. I usually am saying "just wait until they start doing X - it's so exciting!". Not bringing the voice of doom.
@nopegoat Less stress and your stomach is SUPPOSED to hang out. Plus, huge boobs. Win win!
I'll be back with an UO of my own....
Omg This. I had insanely horrible insomnia all throughout my pregnancy without DD. If I got 4 hours, it was a good night. So when she was born DH and I split the nights in half and I would ALWAYS get at least 7 hours (5 straight through and 2 dozing while lying on the couch next to her bassinet$.
@chloe97 Omg I can't imagine 4 hours being a good night. DH and I did the split nights too - I would head up to bed around 8 and then he'd watch the baby until 2 am, then I'd take over. It was a lifesaver!
@secicc12@chloe97 I wish someone had told me how horrible you sleep WHILE pregnant! DD started STTN at 3 weeks We were hit hard with every regression and while traveling but it was really amazing. Every baby is different.
@peachy13 I probably perpetuate your UO. I don't say it to others about THEM, but I say this about us since DD was/is so easy. I don't want people to think I'm taking all the credit. I know some babies are just easier so I joke she was lulling us into a false sense of confidence so we'd have another. That's usually the context people say it to me in, too, although they do usually add that that one won't be as easy. My mom had it the reverse. My brother was a hellion who didn't STTN until 10 or 13 months or something ridiculous and they still decided to have me 2 1/2 years apart and I was a super easy baby.
Going off of @DuchessOfCambridge's UO of "just you wait", mine is I feel the same way when a FTM says, "I'll never" or "my kid will never". It's the same condensending, know it all tone. I've learned the hard way to never say never when it comes to parenting. So many words eaten.
I also hate the just you wait comments.
So much this! And while I also hate the “you just wait” comments, these types of FTMs are the ones I want to “you just wait” at.
Which leads me to my UO. I’m not going to breastfeed again with DD and I think too much emphasis is put on breastfeeding comes from OTHER moms not the actual Drs.
Long story short, I had always planned to breastfeed, got horrible pregnancy insomnia that spun into Severe Pregnancy Depression. DH, all my Drs (including my pediatrician), and my in-laws and parents were adamant that I not breastfeed and instead focus on my own health and sleep. Long story short, a month after DD was born I was sleeping normally without drugs, had the veil of depression lifted, and both DD and I were thriving.
Too many women breastfeed to the point of not taking care of themselves. If they had honest conversations with drs about their sleepless nights leading to depression, Drs would encourage them to supplement or even stop, but so many want to be perfect Moms and that means hurting yourself to get there.
Dont get me wrong, there are many women who can breastfeed and figure out how to get enough sleep and remain depression-free. But many cannot. The research is soooo clear that the most important thing for a developing healthy baby is a baby who is fed with a Mom who is thriving and well-supported.
@chloe97 Completely agree with you. I put so much pressure on myself with my son to breastfeed that I feel like I made myself crazy over it not working out, and I didn’t get to fully enjoy my maternity leave with him. He was in NICU for about 5 days and was initially given sugar water, and it just never really worked out for us. My supply sucked even though I was pumping, and he never would latch, but I was determined I was going to breastfeed bc it was “the best thing to do”. I will try again this time around, but I will not for a second feel bad about going to formula if it doesn’t work out. Maybe this is my UO also.
@chloe97 fed is best and having a happy, healthy mom is much more important than any of the breast milk benefits (which studies show do NOT actually carry on past age 5, contrary to what breastfeeding groups will tell you). I hope that my desire to BF through this pregnancy doesn't rub anyone who decides not to or can't the wrong way. DD and I both took to it really well but I know that's not everyone's experience.
I have BF all 4 boys and plan to with this one again and I couldn't agree with you more. BFing isn't for everyone and that's OK! Fed baby and healthy momma is best! Do whatever it takes to achieve that!
My BFF wanted to BF so bad. She stuck with it for two months and both her and her baby were suffering because of it. She had so much guilt for stopping even though it was completely the right thing to do. I hate how parenting has become this crazy competition. Nope. This ish doesn't come with a one size fits all manual. Every parent struggles with different things. You do whatever it takes to survive and thrive.
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@kvh22 Homegirl was sleeping 11-12 hours at 8 weeks?! Damn! That's amazing. So funny how babies are completely different. You can use the same exact techniques/tricks with one and it will totally not work on another.
@peachy13 My first baby was a "good baby", but the idea still rubbed me the wrong way. Any time someone would tell me that, or ask if she was, I would reply, "Every baby is a good baby." They are new to the world, for chrissakes! Everyone is doing the best they can.
@secicc12 10p-6a at 3 weeks. it was INSANE! She went 6 hours the night before our 2 week appointment and I freaked out thinking I was depriving her of calories by not waking her but she was gaining weight so well the ped said to let her sleep. I know she was a unicorn (I've been using that a lot today) and it had nothing to do with us. I was probably not sharing too much in our BMB FB group about it since I felt kind of guilty getting so much sleep so early.
Agree with all the "just you wait" stuff. It's so frustrating, especially when it's randos at the store or something. "It's a WHOLE DIFFERENT BALL GAME WHEN THEY START WALKING" .....................
My UO is a totally LOVE my body when I'm pregnant (minus my ankles). I love how clothes look with a bump, and I can't wait to start showing.
A note to first time moms: YOU WILL SLEEP AGAIN. Don't listen to what anyone else tells you.
I also hate the "good baby" terminology and people have been alluding that since my first pregnancy/baby were so easy the next one is going to be terrible because I have morning sickness already. They can suck it. My mom said my brothers and I were all good sleepers and content babies so that pattern isn't necessarily true.
And I'm with y'all on the breastfeeding. I literally couldn't because my son had a tongue tie. I spent the first month of his life fretting over it and eventually just pumped and gave him what I produced for 6 months. I would love to BF the second one if I can but if not, yes, fed is best.
My UO (probably PO though): Mommy Guilt needs to die. If your kids are fed, sheltered, and know they are loved, you are a good mom. End of story.
I can’t remember who had this UO, but, second babies are not always devil children and whoever is telling you they will be is WRONG. DD2 sleeps like crap and always has, but other than that, she is the sweetest kid - quick to be happy, super content, plays more independently than my four year old. Some days, I wish she would have been my first. Life would have been so much easier. (But then she wouldn’t really have been the same kid, so...)
My UO... and I hesitate to share this, because it doesn’t really matter that I feel this way... I think trigger warnings have gotten out of hand. I get that some women have very strong anxiety related to (tw?) miscarriage and complications but I feel like they go so hand-in-hand with pregnancy that TB as a whole should come with a giant trigger warning. It shouldn’t be the responsibility of women who are going through these stressful events to protect the rest of us from them. Am I off base on this? I just don’t remember trigger warnings being such a big thing last time around.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@k2k2tog trigger warnings where just as big before on tb. Back when i was first on you'd even be asked to tw your signatures.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@SpaceBurger I love being pregnant. Of course the baby at the end is great but I know a lot of women who just deal with the bump to get to baby, think it's amazing we can do this as women, it's amazing to feel so connected to the baby, etc (which is all true) but just don't love the way they feel about how they look pregnant. First tri sucks and is NOT cute but once I start showing, I love it. I'm actually excited that as a STM I will show earlier this time and fully embrace the maternity pants as early as possible. I'd said to a couple of people that I really loved being pregnant and then paused and checked with DH to make sure I wasn't misremembering.
@psychobutthead I did notice that everyone’s signatures are hidden under spoilers. I thought it was because they take up so much space in the posts. It was definitely not like that in 2014.
But. I am fine to say I am off base and will honour the way of the board.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
Which leads me to my UO. I’m not going to breastfeed again with DD and I think too much emphasis is put on breastfeeding comes from OTHER moms not the actual Drs.
Long story short, I had always planned to breastfeed, got horrible pregnancy insomnia that spun into Severe Pregnancy Depression. DH, all my Drs (including my pediatrician), and my in-laws and parents were adamant that I not breastfeed and instead focus on my own health and sleep. Long story short, a month after DD was born I was sleeping normally without drugs, had the veil of depression lifted, and both DD and I were thriving.
Too many women breastfeed to the point of not taking care of themselves. If they had honest conversations with drs about their sleepless nights leading to depression, Drs would encourage them to supplement or even stop, but so many want to be perfect Moms and that means hurting yourself to get there.
Dont get me wrong, there are many women who can breastfeed and figure out how to get enough sleep and remain depression-free. But many cannot. The research is soooo clear that the most important thing for a developing healthy baby is a baby who is fed with a Mom who is thriving and well-supported.
SITB @chloe97 THANK YOU. Thank you for saying this. I feel exactly the same. I struggled so badly the first time and went into such a dark place. I felt SO guilty and I loathed the newborn phase because of it. I want to enjoy every moment of my child's life! I still wrestle with the decision of at least trying to BF, but I just don't know if I can. I guess my UO is that the main reason I am struggling to figure out if I want to attempt BF'ing again or not is because I lost almost all my weight in 3 weeks last time and now I am nervous if I don't try, I won't lose the weight. It's so selfish, I know.
*TW*
Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Re: UO Thursday 9/27
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
I just love seasons. I could never live somewhere without them.
Anytime one parent says to another "just you wait", I want to punch them in the face. I think it's so discouraging and rude, and seems like you're wishing ill on the other parent. Also, the way it worked out for you may not be how it works out for them! My friend with a baby about 6 months younger than mine was telling me her plans for when her baby started eating solids. I had the same plans, they didn't pan out due to necessity/pediatrician advice. You know what I did? KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT. She didn't ask for my opinion on her parenting so I didn't give it to her! I didn't say "just you wait, that won't work out the way you want". I hate the "just you wait til he starts doing xyz". I've loved all the stages so far and I'm sure I'll love the ones to come, though they'll be challenging in their own ways.
I don't mind snaps on pajamas! Everyone told me they were the devil but I really didn't mind them. The ones that zip from bottom to top are definitely my favorite but snaps are whatever! DS is too old now for snap pajamas, they came in such cute prints
What I also hate is that when people see that DD is a very good baby, they almost always have to say that baby #2 will be a terror. Why does this have to be a thing people say? Can we maybe pretend like my second baby isn't the devil before he/she is born?
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
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@nopegoat Less stress and your stomach is SUPPOSED to hang out. Plus, huge boobs. Win win!
I'll be back with an UO of my own....
I also hate the just you wait comments.
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@peachy13 I probably perpetuate your UO. I don't say it to others about THEM, but I say this about us since DD was/is so easy. I don't want people to think I'm taking all the credit. I know some babies are just easier so I joke she was lulling us into a false sense of confidence so we'd have another. That's usually the context people say it to me in, too, although they do usually add that that one won't be as easy. My mom had it the reverse. My brother was a hellion who didn't STTN until 10 or 13 months or something ridiculous and they still decided to have me 2 1/2 years apart and I was a super easy baby.
Long story short, I had always planned to breastfeed, got horrible pregnancy insomnia that spun into Severe Pregnancy Depression. DH, all my Drs (including my pediatrician), and my in-laws and parents were adamant that I not breastfeed and instead focus on my own health and sleep. Long story short, a month after DD was born I was sleeping normally without drugs, had the veil of depression lifted, and both DD and I were thriving.
Too many women breastfeed to the point of not taking care of themselves. If they had honest conversations with drs about their sleepless nights leading to depression, Drs would encourage them to supplement or even stop, but so many want to be perfect Moms and that means hurting yourself to get there.
Dont get me wrong, there are many women who can breastfeed and figure out how to get enough sleep and remain depression-free. But many cannot. The research is soooo clear that the most important thing for a developing healthy baby is a baby who is fed with a Mom who is thriving and well-supported.
I just smile and nod.
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My BFF wanted to BF so bad. She stuck with it for two months and both her and her baby were suffering because of it. She had so much guilt for stopping even though it was completely the right thing to do. I hate how parenting has become this crazy competition. Nope. This ish doesn't come with a one size fits all manual. Every parent struggles with different things. You do whatever it takes to survive and thrive.
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My UO is a totally LOVE my body when I'm pregnant (minus my ankles). I love how clothes look with a bump, and I can't wait to start showing.
My UO... and I hesitate to share this, because it doesn’t really matter that I feel this way... I think trigger warnings have gotten out of hand. I get that some women have very strong anxiety related to (tw?) miscarriage and complications but I feel like they go so hand-in-hand with pregnancy that TB as a whole should come with a giant trigger warning. It shouldn’t be the responsibility of women who are going through these stressful events to protect the rest of us from them. Am I off base on this? I just don’t remember trigger warnings being such a big thing last time around.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
But. I am fine to say I am off base and will honour the way of the board.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
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Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle