I selfishly started this to bitch about my niece and SIL. So this one niece is annoying to me in general because she is an only child and they baby her so much. Granted she is only 2, but they do whatever she wants. She trips and catches herself, she cries. She wants to go outside, she cries. She wants a toy, she cries. Her mother and my MIL (grandma) give in to her constantly. It is a constant reminder of what NOT to do with my daughter. Well, now she's being aggressive. And I am struggling with how to deal with it, because again, she's 2, and it is not like she is being aggressive towards my kid or her other cousins because she's mean or because she wants to hurt them, but still. Friday night, DD and she were standing next to one another and she randomly open hand smacks her in the face. I immediately redirected her and told her no hitting, and told my daughter she was ok. But the look on her face like wtf just happened made me so sad. Then last night, she shoved my daughter and my SIL LAUGHED! I was about to say something but thankfully her husband was right there and said no don't do that to my niece. But WTF. And then later I find out she had grabbed her cousin (also 2) by the neck of her shirt and pulled her down. I don't want to be rude when were all together, but I am going to lose my shit one day.
My MIL (who is normally a lot to deal with at times) went the extra mile this weekend. My friends and family gave me a surprise shower. Everyone who knows me knows that I am not a pink person, i'm not a glitter person and i'm not a cutesy person. Those clothes are fine, just not my style. Knowing this my mother first announces that she know's I hate pink but "just wait until you get to my bag". Her bag was full of tiaras (yes, multiple) and lots, and lots of pink. There were other things too but mostly very girly pink things. Totally fine, I appreciate any gift and the thought behind them so I am fine dressing DD in clothes I wouldn't normally pick out myself. My aunt bought a bunch of beautiful, traditional (much more my style) clothes that were all vintage inspired and beautiful, even DH loved them. He told his mom how much he liked them in passing and she said they were ugly and looked old and used and that little girls should be dressed in things like she bought. He said he disagreed. Insulting the clothes would have been rude enough but last night she felt the need to go to facebook and throw shade like a teenage girl posting one sentence, "Apparently I should have shopped on ebay for used clothes". Who does that?
@Jens_Hoes I’m sorry you’re dealing with a niece who is hitting and doesn’t have appropriate parenting responses to that. I’d say you are completely justified in speaking up and helping set boundaries in this case (and it’s good parenting to do so).
Imo, lots of other people’s parenting choices require zipping the lips and letting them deal with the consequences, especially within the family. But I draw a hard line when someone else’s kid is hitting or even verbally bullying my kid. The way I see it, I have a responsibility to my kid to protect her and to model how to handle inappropriate behavior. And I also think there’s a responsibility as a family member to help set healthy boundaries for the other kid. My niece (same age as DD) has had a hitting problem off and on the past year. Usually it happens when she’s disappointed or mad about something. I understand kids don’t have lots of self-regulatory skills, so they need grown up help to make better choices to cope with their emotions. <gets off soapbox>
@Jens_Hoes thanks for distracting me from my own misery! Completely forgot to post my own BF.
I’ve come down with the full version of fever/sore throat/cough/feel miserable that has been making the rounds. Last night I made the call to stay home from work today. I thought I was just being kind to myself and trying to nip it in the bud. Wrong!! It fully bloomed overnight and I am straightup in bed feeling miserable. Thinking about staying home again tomorrow but that is more logistically challenging.
@Jens_Hoes I would definitely say something if it happens again, or have your H say something, since it is his family. Sure, toddlers tend to get physical, at times, but it is the parents’ responsibility to step in so no one gets hurt and so their child learns to not be a punk! @rcultrona I’m glad your H said something to her, but that’s a really crappy thing for her to do. Why would you gift someone clothes that you know they won’t like?
@Jens_Hoes I would have your H step up and say something since it's his family. Kids and toddlers do things that they don't realize hurt others, but when it becomes habit and your SIL actually laughs about it? No, no, no!
@rcultrona I'm sorry that you are dealing with that! The surprise shower is a nice thought if they just wanted to give you things, but because it was surprise there should always be gift receipts, lol. Also, if your mom knows you hate pink, she should have mixed up her gift a little. Maybe include some pink since she likes it, but include things that will actually be used more!
@Katzalia I hope you feel better soon! Definitely take tomorrow off if you still aren't feeling good - even if it's more complicated for logistics. You need to take care of yourself!
@Jens_Hoes that must be so frustrating. I definitely wouldn't find it funny if my little guy shoved another kid down. He's 23 months now and often shows frustration physically, but he as a result is also an expert at time outs and saying sorry! That's so unfortunate there's no consequences for your niece. Her mom is really missing out on the chance to give her consequences when it's relative easy. Having an out of control teenager is not going to be so funny I bet!
@rcultrona sorry your MIL is being so petty. I don't get why women do that to each other. As someone who is likely to be a mother in law for at least 3 boys, if my DIL didn't like to dress my grandkid in a certain style I wouldn't buy it! It seems so simple:). And then to complain about it on FB. Isn't she supposed to me the mature one? Anyway, good notes to take for MILing in the future:).
@Jens_Hoes Ugh...I'm sorry. I'd definitely have to redirect the toddler if they were hurting mine and the parents didn't step in or have your husband talk to the parents since it is his family. My DS1 and niece are about 6 months apart and when they were 1.5-2 she was quite fierce little thing - hitting, biting, etc. My sister most definitely stepped in and told her it was wrong. Toddlers are going to be toddlers, it's the only way they know how to behave, but as parents it is our job to teach them what is right and wrong. @rcultrona I never understand the point in buying someone something they wouldn't like. At a maximum throw in an outfit our two, but to go out of your way to find an entire gift of things the parents do not like makes no sense. I'm glad your H said something. I'm with @ScootsMcG I will be a MIL x4 to DILs and just take notes on things not to do. @Katzilla420 I hope you feel better soon!
My day is most perfectly described as a Monday that needs a do over. I had one of my 6 year olds throwing a fit about an apple that DS1 took from him (that was actually DS1's apple). That caused us to be late to the bus stop and the kids had to run to make it onto the bus. I finally make it to work and my computer won't turn on, when I get that working I discover the printer won't connect anymore. I'm just ready to call it a day.
@Jens_Hoes I don’t know how you held it in. I don’t think I could have been as gracious. Toddlers are their own natural disasters at times, but the parent behavior is unacceptable. @rcultrona I can see buying something different than the mom’s style - that could be fun. But then add in the mom’s style too. Or just don’t be a jerk about it. Geez. @Katzalia I hope you feel better soon! Reading this reminded me of a time this weekend when I almost overreacted (maybe I did overreact- but I am okay with that). We were at a festival. Ds1 was in a bouncy house and ds2 was being .. a 2 year old. He wouldn’t go in but he wanted to climb the entrance. I get it I should have been fighting him more (but truly I was exhausted from fighting him) but instead chose to just hold onto him so he wouldn’t hurt himself. Then the festival ticket taker said “Seriously Mom” (in a real jerk-ish way). I apologized then got angry. I went up to him and said- “And what did you mean when you told me ‘Seriously Mom.” That stopped him and he was way more appropriate in his tone with me. He said “I’ve just seen kids get hurt.” That comment I could appreciate, but giving a mom crap who is clearly pregnant and wrestling a toddler - I had no patience.
@Activebaby Good for you for saying something. He could have offered to help or walked up to you and just said kids get hurt that way and maybe it’s not a great idea. I hate when people think they know better than everyone else. Try being helpful!
@Jens_Hoes Oh man! Shame on her for not setting boundaries for her little one! Smdh i hate it when people let there kids do whatever with 0 consequences! But it will definitely come back to bite her in the ass!!
@rcultrona Petty baby shower gifts followed by social media bitching is just down right ridiculous!
@Katzalia Being super sick while pregnant is terrible! I hope you feel better soon!
As for me my bitch is a couple weeks ago i got into a car accident... im fine baby is fine and my 5 yr old son is fine too! But because im short my bump slammed into the steering wheel and landed me in the hospital for 24 hour fetal monitoring... all is well.. i drive a large truck, which is a tank but does not stop on a dime unlike the minivan ahead of me that decided they needed to stop and turn suddenly... unfortunately i totaled their van... my truck just a dent in the hood and my bumper was pushed back... figured it would be fine! Nope insurance company totalled my truck too.... the shitty thing? I still owe money on it, so i officially have 2k left over from it to find a reliable car with (haha) before baby comes and before winter hits here in Alaska... im stoked!!
@winterplumeria that sounds awful! Glad you are okay but so frustrating about your truck.
@Activebaby probably good you said something to him. Maybe next time he’ll think about his tone & word choice before going judgy mcjudgypants on some other mom doing the best she can to wrangle a toddler.
It took almost 2 hrs sorting logistics, but I have coverage for the trainees I supervise for tomorrow, and my patients are being rescheduled. Lucky me, I have another day to be home & miserable.
My 24th birthday is coming up on October 5th. I'm not huge on birthdays but I told my husband that I wanted to go out to dinner at my favorite restaurant that night. It's on a Friday. That means we have to find someone to watch the kids.
I asked my mom what she was doing that weekend and she told me that her and my stepdad and little brother were going to their river house. She said sorry because she forgot it was my birthday. I asked my sister but she works every other weekend and it landed on her working weekend. Then my dad comes over last night to fix some electrical in my house and before I could ask him if he could watch our boys, he starts telling my husband and I about how he is planning a surprise birthday party for my step mom on that Friday night. Her birthday is Christmas Day and he said the only was to throw her a surprise birthday party is to do it before the holidays. He said we could come if we wanted. I told him that it's alright, I'd rather just relax that night because it's my birthday. Well, he didn't realize it was my birthday that day. I'm totally not annoyed that everyone has plans on my birthday. I'm just annoyed that we have no way of having a nice dinner for my birthday. Seriously considering asking my husband to just stay home with the kids and me go to dinner by myself. (Something that is not unheard of since I like to go to lunch and the movies by myself) Haha Alright, rant over. Haha
Bobby Llewellyn born September 29, 2012 Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015 MC in February 2017 MC in November 2017 Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
@Jens_Hoes Oh! Supervised feral children super piss me off. When you do lose your shit just know that I am supporting your rage. @rcultrona Ugggghhhhhhhh. @Katzalia I like your soapbox, but don’t like that you’re feeling like le poop. Get better ! @winterplumeria Sucks that you get the short end of the stick - all because someone couldn’t signal and slow down like a normal person. Happy that you, DS, and baby are all fine. @asun123 That’s no bueno.
I only have a mini-bitch today about my nearest grocery store. I like it enough and go there because it's nearest my house, and on days like today (raining - so everyone forgot how to drive apparently) I really value the short distance. However the cashiers are just so very lazy, it's making me lose my calm. Quick sale items have store coupons added to the packaging...but they're rarely used because the cashiers are too busy talking to each other to do their jobs. I take my own shopping bags and that confuses them. Last week I needed to inform a young man that the item he couldn't figure out were green beans, and that no, I did not know the produce code. Next nearest grocery store is Wal-Mart. I super don't like supporting the Waltons, but the evil geniuses DO have self checkout lanes so I can at least get out of there faster despite having to drive farther from mi casa. Ugh. #FWP
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
One of our smoke detectors has a low battery and is beeping. It's at the top of the stairs on the ceiling. No nonsense, eff pregnancy, let's get stuff done me wants to change it, but practical, 7-months pregnant me knows I shouldn't be on a ladder changing batteries so close to the stairs. So, I am waiting until my husband returns from his work trip tomorrow evening.
@Jens_Hoes oh my gosh, that's so frustrating! I would definitely say something when you're all together again because violence is definitely unacceptable, especially if she doesn't do anything to discipline! I've got a similar situation, sort of, with one of my neighbor's and her 3 psycho kids she doesn't watch or discipline and I've given my kids full permission to completely ignore them and pretend they don't exist. I'm just waiting for her to call me and tell me my kids made her girls fake cry because they're being ignored so I can unleash my pregnant fury on her.
@rcultrona WTF? What a peach. Ugh. I can't believe she said that on facebook! Such a bratty thing to do. @Katzalia Oh no! Fingers crossed you feel better soon.. it's definitely getting to be that time of year.. DS2 has a cough and I can tell he's fighting through not feeling well. Time to break out the lysol. @snugglyduckling25 What a rough start to the day! I hope it got better! @winterplumeria I'm so glad everyone is ok! Hopefully you can find something.. is the 2k after you payoff your loan? Can you pull off getting a new lone once it's paid off? Hopefully so! @binxybaby I hope your sanity lasts that long! A neighbor can't come do it for you?! I'd totally be playing the preggo card and getting a neighbor to come do it for me... chirping smoke detectors are a form of torture for me. @asun123 wait..your dad forgot it was your birthday? And your mom's birthday isn't until Christmas but THAT is getting celebrated?! Something seems fishy here. Maybe they're secretly trying to plot something for you and he came up with a crappy excuse? I'm gonna hope that's the case, otherwise they all deserve a good guilt trip! @echo-charlietango I totally feel your pain about not wanting to support Walmart. I've hated them for so many years, but man, their online grocery pickup is what mom dreams are made of and has saved my life so many times... I've had to learn to look the other way as I shamelessly let them shop for me and load everything into my car.
As for me... I don't have a ton to bitch about this week. DS3 is in speech therapy because he's too busy chasing his older brothers around to talk and they suggested we try to get him into a free preschool program through the public schools here! I was super excited about it because... free. I had no idea the process would be such a nightmare and it's been such a waste of my time these last two weeks and the "pre evaluation" that we did today was the icing on the cake. They expected my shy 2 year old to fully open up to some stranger within 10 minutes and tell her every word he knew. Uh, no. So they said he's "extremely" delayed and needs a full comprehensive evaluation. By the time they finished the paperwork, he was talking their ears off and I think they felt stupid, but now I have to go back THE WEEK OF MY DUE DATE and basically do the same thing again with him. grumble. Not sure if it's worth it at this point!
@asun123 I’m sorry no one is able to babysit. Can you send your kiddos to the surprise party, while you and your h go to dinner? @echo-charlietango He didn’t know they were green beans?!?! @binxybaby That sounds super annoying, but better safe than sorry!
@orangecrush29 (I keep trying to tag the wrong numbered orangecrush, haha) 100% with you on the Walmart pickup thing. I totally feel like I'm supporting Big Evil every time I put my order in, but holy cow it's SO convenient. The only other grocery option in my town is Publix, which is gorgeous, full of awesome stuff, and twice the price. I could also drive to the commissary on post, but that's a half hour away and really not worth it unless I have a specific reason to be there. (I do take my son into the CDC every week, but that's my one dedicated time to write, not waste on grocery shopping!)
I also feel you on the kid clamming up during evaluations thing. My son has had many, many evaluations in his short life, and I always have to reassure the evaluators that he does interact a bit more at home! But I think they know that. It's frustrating that they labeled your son as "extremely delayed". My son didn't even warm up to his speech therapist until the 4th session or so.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@orangecrush29@PensiveCrayon@echo-charlietango I am also thinking about a grocery pickup/delivery situation when the baby is born. We have the walmart option, and we also have wegman's but it costs extra for pickup. They'll also deliver but that costs extra extra. I have yet to determine what the price of convenience will be.
ETA because i forgot to add my own bitch: I'm trying to apply for this new job, but I can't access the HR portal. UGHHHHH i've been trying to get in for 3 days now and it keeps telling me I have an account, but they can't verify my information, and then I get locked out. I just directly emailed the recruiter with my documents because I don't know how long the job will be posted and I don't want to miss out. But lord, is this 2018 or what people?
Give me all the grocery delivery! I buy my weekly groceries at Price Chopper, and have them delivered to my mother's as she watches my daughter. Then I get toiletries and bigger stuff from walmart pick up. Going into the store? No thanks!
I’m so sorry everyone is having a crappy week so far! I hope it gets better soon. Full moon tonight, so maybe things will start to calm down after tomorrow
@orangecrush29 Obviously everyplace is different, but if it helps in your decision, speech therapy has done nada for me and my family. I was suggested to be in it in elementary because my teeth came in jank and I couldn’t talk “normal”. My mom pulled me out because they were trying to get me to talk with an accent because it’d be “easier to learn that way”. It wasn’t, and soon as my teeth came in I was fine. And my brothers kid had a stutter he had to go in for, and he ended up being taken out because the teachers kept saying how “disabled” he was , to his face, and he started to actually believe them. He wasn’t disabled-he stuttered because he literally was trying to say too much at a time and he was 5! A year later he just learned to calm down what he wanted to say and the stutter was gone. I hope it all thrns out for you, but I think you will probably have enough going on that week without having to keep speech therapy appointments that alreadg sound like bs :P good luck
ok so update on my bitch. about 3 minutes after i posted, the recruiter emailed me back and told me it was because i was trying to login to the external portal and not the internal candidate portal. So really i was bitching because I'm dumb.
@orangecrush29 Are they trying to put him on an IEP? @morgantu Good luck! Fx you get it! Re: Grocery pick up I would like to try it after this LO is born because dragging a newborn and a toddler to the store in the snow sound awful. How much roughly does it cost?
@echo-charlietango I’m laughing at the cashier asking if you know the produce code. That’s so something I probably asked at some point as a dumb teenage cashier. No kid, I don’t know your store’s internal code for green beans!
@katy0990 eh I feel like it is hit or miss. But I get grocery delivery from Price Chopper and even that is hit or miss. Sometimes I feel like that gets moldy quicker.
@orangecrush29 & @katy0990 It's a surprise party for my STEP mom who's birthday is on Christmas. No kids at the party since it's just a bunch of bikers. My dad is surprising her with a new motorcycle. And yes, my dad forgot my birthday. But it's not the first time.
Bobby Llewellyn born September 29, 2012 Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015 MC in February 2017 MC in November 2017 Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
Yes on all of the grocery pickup/deliveries! I wish Aldi would start that because that's where we do our shopping, but when I've done a Wal-Mart order before it's amazing and would totally use it all of the time if that's where we liked to shop. @asun123 that is such a bummer that they forgot your birthday! Hopefully you can get that dinner in soon! @orangecrush29 so sorry on your appointment for your son. You would think that someone who is evaluating a kid would know that not many kids are going to just sit there and talk to a new person in the first few minutes. My most outgoing kid would probably not even do that.
@orangecrush29 Sorry that you have to go back again the week of your due date! That sounds awful. Re: speech therapy... not helpful to you and not related, but hilarious. I was in speech therapy when I was like 3-4 because I made up my own speech impediment. I told the speech therapist "I'll talk normal when I'm a big girl." The day I turned five, my speech was normal. I was such a weird kid.
The tiniest of bitches this morning. I opened up a grapefruit that I was super excited about. I figured out the inside was kind of hard after the first few bites. Very dissatisfying. But I squeezed all the juice and had a tinyyyy cup of grapefruit juice instead.
My bitch for today is selfish because I do feel bad for my dog but he's now totally fine and I'm miserably tired. He sometimes has seizure-like tremors in his back legs (this is the paralyzed dog) and I woke up at 4am to our bed shaking because of them. They are harmless and are just reflexes or random misfirings of nerves but they scare him if they last too long. Of course, H slept right through them, so I got up with the dog and took him to the couch to give him an anti-anxiety pill and comfort him. I couldn't fall back asleep before I had to get ready for work and now I'm struggling not to fall asleep at my desk. Plus it's downpouring outside so it really would've just been nice to stay home all day and cuddle with the dog now that he was calm!
@orangecrush29 yes thats whats left over for me and that was my thought "hello down payment" but the hubby is freaking out about it! He "refuses to go into debt and have a car loan!!!" Um.... we havent been without one... imo whats the difference if were paying $300 a month on my Denali, or something else?? And its not like im looking to get a brand new car, just a reliable used car would be perfect! Although i do agree it would be wonderful to have that extra money in our pocket monthly...Problem is up here everything is over priced... we travelled to a used car lot to check out a few options and were mortified! We were looking at a truck similar to mine only not the supreme package... it seemed ok.. it had 120k miles on it... then the guy informs us oh... i changed the odometer.. it really has 250k... um what? Then hes like yeah were firm on the price its a solid truck! They wanted 7 thousand dollars! We looked at a little dodge they had they wanted 5k for... upon driving it we realised huh the door locks/windows dont work... also 200k miles... smdh ridiculous! So were looking at potentially flying into Anchorage to go car shopping but i dont know when hell get home from fishing, and i want to do it before snow hits, and im not sure when the airline here will no longer allow my pregnant ass to fly! @katy0990 that is totally an option! The salvage company doesnt want to send someone 4.5 hours to pick it up... My hubby offered them $700 for it and they accepted... my problem is about a month ago it had an electrical fire in the dash thst makes me a but leery of it... im still driving it for now but ultimately husband is going to replace his death trap work truck with it that barely runs.. Potentially whatever was going to burn up did (something in the power locking system) and hopefully wont cause further issue... but neither of us want to chance me driving it with hubby gone, my 5 yr old and new baby if it lights on fire again..
@lippy625 sounds like your b**** Fest is more about having to go to work than waking up early with the dog So sorry your puppy is going through that. You're so sweet to comfort him and wake up with him. Stinks you have to suffer through work now though.
@asun123 sorry your birthday was overlooked! So unfair
@omnommer I'd be disappointed too. At least you made lemonade, or in this case grapefruit juice, out of the situation!
Re: Bitch week 9/24
Well, now she's being aggressive. And I am struggling with how to deal with it, because again, she's 2, and it is not like she is being aggressive towards my kid or her other cousins because she's mean or because she wants to hurt them, but still.
Friday night, DD and she were standing next to one another and she randomly open hand smacks her in the face. I immediately redirected her and told her no hitting, and told my daughter she was ok. But the look on her face like wtf just happened made me so sad. Then last night, she shoved my daughter and my SIL LAUGHED! I was about to say something but thankfully her husband was right there and said no don't do that to my niece. But WTF. And then later I find out she had grabbed her cousin (also 2) by the neck of her shirt and pulled her down. I don't want to be rude when were all together, but I am going to lose my shit one day.
Imo, lots of other people’s parenting choices require zipping the lips and letting them deal with the consequences, especially within the family. But I draw a hard line when someone else’s kid is hitting or even verbally bullying my kid. The way I see it, I have a responsibility to my kid to protect her and to model how to handle inappropriate behavior. And I also think there’s a responsibility as a family member to help set healthy boundaries for the other kid. My niece (same age as DD) has had a hitting problem off and on the past year. Usually it happens when she’s disappointed or mad about something. I understand kids don’t have lots of self-regulatory skills, so they need grown up help to make better choices to cope with their emotions. <gets off soapbox>
I’ve come down with the full version of fever/sore throat/cough/feel miserable that has been making the rounds. Last night I made the call to stay home from work today. I thought I was just being kind to myself and trying to nip it in the bud. Wrong!! It fully bloomed overnight and I am straightup in bed feeling miserable. Thinking about staying home again tomorrow but that is more logistically challenging.
@rcultrona I’m glad your H said something to her, but that’s a really crappy thing for her to do. Why would you gift someone clothes that you know they won’t like?
@rcultrona I'm sorry that you are dealing with that! The surprise shower is a nice thought if they just wanted to give you things, but because it was surprise there should always be gift receipts, lol. Also, if your mom knows you hate pink, she should have mixed up her gift a little. Maybe include some pink since she likes it, but include things that will actually be used more!
@Katzalia I hope you feel better soon! Definitely take tomorrow off if you still aren't feeling good - even if it's more complicated for logistics. You need to take care of yourself!
@rcultrona I never understand the point in buying someone something they wouldn't like. At a maximum throw in an outfit our two, but to go out of your way to find an entire gift of things the parents do not like makes no sense. I'm glad your H said something. I'm with @ScootsMcG I will be a MIL x4 to DILs and just take notes on things not to do.
@Katzilla420 I hope you feel better soon!
My day is most perfectly described as a Monday that needs a do over. I had one of my 6 year olds throwing a fit about an apple that DS1 took from him (that was actually DS1's apple). That caused us to be late to the bus stop and the kids had to run to make it onto the bus. I finally make it to work and my computer won't turn on, when I get that working I discover the printer won't connect anymore. I'm just ready to call it a day.
@rcultrona I can see buying something different than the mom’s style - that could be fun. But then add in the mom’s style too. Or just don’t be a jerk about it. Geez.
@Katzalia I hope you feel better soon!
Reading this reminded me of a time this weekend when I almost overreacted (maybe I did overreact- but I am okay with that). We were at a festival. Ds1 was in a bouncy house and ds2 was being .. a 2 year old. He wouldn’t go in but he wanted to climb the entrance. I get it I should have been fighting him more (but truly I was exhausted from fighting him) but instead chose to just hold onto him so he wouldn’t hurt himself. Then the festival ticket taker said “Seriously Mom” (in a real jerk-ish way). I apologized then got angry. I went up to him and said- “And what did you mean when you told me ‘Seriously Mom.” That stopped him and he was way more appropriate in his tone with me. He said “I’ve just seen kids get hurt.” That comment I could appreciate, but giving a mom crap who is clearly pregnant and wrestling a toddler - I had no patience.
@rcultrona Petty baby shower gifts followed by social media bitching is just down right ridiculous!
@Katzalia Being super sick while pregnant is terrible! I hope you feel better soon!
@snugglyduckling25 And as for terrible mondays just boo!!
As for me my bitch is a couple weeks ago i got into a car accident... im fine baby is fine and my 5 yr old son is fine too! But because im short my bump slammed into the steering wheel and landed me in the hospital for 24 hour fetal monitoring... all is well.. i drive a large truck, which is a tank but does not stop on a dime unlike the minivan ahead of me that decided they needed to stop and turn suddenly... unfortunately i totaled their van... my truck just a dent in the hood and my bumper was pushed back... figured it would be fine! Nope insurance company totalled my truck too.... the shitty thing? I still owe money on it, so i officially have 2k left over from it to find a reliable car with (haha) before baby comes and before winter hits here in Alaska... im stoked!!
@Activebaby probably good you said something to him. Maybe next time he’ll think about his tone & word choice before going judgy mcjudgypants on some other mom doing the best she can to wrangle a toddler.
It took almost 2 hrs sorting logistics, but I have coverage for the trainees I supervise for tomorrow, and my patients are being rescheduled. Lucky me, I have another day to be home & miserable.
I asked my mom what she was doing that weekend and she told me that her and my stepdad and little brother were going to their river house. She said sorry because she forgot it was my birthday. I asked my sister but she works every other weekend and it landed on her working weekend.
Then my dad comes over last night to fix some electrical in my house and before I could ask him if he could watch our boys, he starts telling my husband and I about how he is planning a surprise birthday party for my step mom on that Friday night. Her birthday is Christmas Day and he said the only was to throw her a surprise birthday party is to do it before the holidays. He said we could come if we wanted. I told him that it's alright, I'd rather just relax that night because it's my birthday. Well, he didn't realize it was my birthday that day. I'm totally not annoyed that everyone has plans on my birthday. I'm just annoyed that we have no way of having a nice dinner for my birthday.
Seriously considering asking my husband to just stay home with the kids and me go to dinner by myself. (Something that is not unheard of since I like to go to lunch and the movies by myself) Haha
Alright, rant over. Haha
Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015
MC in February 2017
MC in November 2017
Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
@rcultrona Ugggghhhhhhhh.
@Katzalia I like your soapbox, but don’t like that you’re feeling like le poop. Get better !
@winterplumeria Sucks that you get the short end of the stick - all because someone couldn’t signal and slow down like a normal person. Happy that you, DS, and baby are all fine.
@asun123 That’s no bueno.
I only have a mini-bitch today about my nearest grocery store. I like it enough and go there because it's nearest my house, and on days like today (raining - so everyone forgot how to drive apparently) I really value the short distance. However the cashiers are just so very lazy, it's making me lose my calm. Quick sale items have store coupons added to the packaging...but they're rarely used because the cashiers are too busy talking to each other to do their jobs. I take my own shopping bags and that confuses them. Last week I needed to inform a young man that the item he couldn't figure out were green beans, and that no, I did not know the produce code. Next nearest grocery store is Wal-Mart. I super don't like supporting the Waltons, but the evil geniuses DO have self checkout lanes so I can at least get out of there faster despite having to drive farther from mi casa. Ugh. #FWP
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@Katzalia Oh no! Fingers crossed you feel better soon.. it's definitely getting to be that time of year.. DS2 has a cough and I can tell he's fighting through not feeling well. Time to break out the lysol.
@snugglyduckling25 What a rough start to the day! I hope it got better!
@winterplumeria I'm so glad everyone is ok! Hopefully you can find something.. is the 2k after you payoff your loan? Can you pull off getting a new lone once it's paid off? Hopefully so!
@binxybaby I hope your sanity lasts that long! A neighbor can't come do it for you?! I'd totally be playing the preggo card and getting a neighbor to come do it for me... chirping smoke detectors are a form of torture for me.
@asun123 wait..your dad forgot it was your birthday? And your mom's birthday isn't until Christmas but THAT is getting celebrated?! Something seems fishy here. Maybe they're secretly trying to plot something for you and he came up with a crappy excuse? I'm gonna hope that's the case, otherwise they all deserve a good guilt trip!
@echo-charlietango I totally feel your pain about not wanting to support Walmart. I've hated them for so many years, but man, their online grocery pickup is what mom dreams are made of and has saved my life so many times... I've had to learn to look the other way as I shamelessly let them shop for me and load everything into my car.
As for me... I don't have a ton to bitch about this week. DS3 is in speech therapy because he's too busy chasing his older brothers around to talk and they suggested we try to get him into a free preschool program through the public schools here! I was super excited about it because... free. I had no idea the process would be such a nightmare and it's been such a waste of my time these last two weeks and the "pre evaluation" that we did today was the icing on the cake. They expected my shy 2 year old to fully open up to some stranger within 10 minutes and tell her every word he knew. Uh, no. So they said he's "extremely" delayed and needs a full comprehensive evaluation. By the time they finished the paperwork, he was talking their ears off and I think they felt stupid, but now I have to go back THE WEEK OF MY DUE DATE and basically do the same thing again with him. grumble. Not sure if it's worth it at this point!
@echo-charlietango He didn’t know they were green beans?!?!
@binxybaby That sounds super annoying, but better safe than sorry!
I also feel you on the kid clamming up during evaluations thing. My son has had many, many evaluations in his short life, and I always have to reassure the evaluators that he does interact a bit more at home! But I think they know that. It's frustrating that they labeled your son as "extremely delayed". My son didn't even warm up to his speech therapist until the 4th session or so.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
ETA because i forgot to add my own bitch: I'm trying to apply for this new job, but I can't access the HR portal. UGHHHHH i've been trying to get in for 3 days now and it keeps telling me I have an account, but they can't verify my information, and then I get locked out. I just directly emailed the recruiter with my documents because I don't know how long the job will be posted and I don't want to miss out. But lord, is this 2018 or what people?
I buy my weekly groceries at Price Chopper, and have them delivered to my mother's as she watches my daughter. Then I get toiletries and bigger stuff from walmart pick up. Going into the store? No thanks!
@orangecrush29 Obviously everyplace is different, but if it helps in your decision, speech therapy has done nada for me and my family. I was suggested to be in it in elementary because my teeth came in jank and I couldn’t talk “normal”. My mom pulled me out because they were trying to get me to talk with an accent because it’d be “easier to learn that way”. It wasn’t, and soon as my teeth came in I was fine. And my brothers kid had a stutter he had to go in for, and he ended up being taken out because the teachers kept saying how “disabled” he was , to his face, and he started to actually believe them. He wasn’t disabled-he stuttered because he literally was trying to say too much at a time and he was 5! A year later he just learned to calm down what he wanted to say and the stutter was gone. I hope it all thrns out for you, but I think you will probably have enough going on that week without having to keep speech therapy appointments that alreadg sound like bs :P good luck
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@morgantu Good luck! Fx you get it!
Re: Grocery pick up I would like to try it after this LO is born because dragging a newborn and a toddler to the store in the snow sound awful. How much roughly does it cost?
walmart is FREEEEEEEEEEEEE
I currently go to 3 grocery stores each week because I’m cheap, but we like good produce.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
It's a surprise party for my STEP mom who's birthday is on Christmas. No kids at the party since it's just a bunch of bikers. My dad is surprising her with a new motorcycle.
And yes, my dad forgot my birthday. But it's not the first time.
Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015
MC in February 2017
MC in November 2017
Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
@asun123 that is such a bummer that they forgot your birthday! Hopefully you can get that dinner in soon!
@orangecrush29 so sorry on your appointment for your son. You would think that someone who is evaluating a kid would know that not many kids are going to just sit there and talk to a new person in the first few minutes. My most outgoing kid would probably not even do that.
The tiniest of bitches this morning. I opened up a grapefruit that I was super excited about. I figured out the inside was kind of hard after the first few bites. Very dissatisfying. But I squeezed all the juice and had a tinyyyy cup of grapefruit juice instead.
@katy0990 that is totally an option! The salvage company doesnt want to send someone 4.5 hours to pick it up... My hubby offered them $700 for it and they accepted... my problem is about a month ago it had an electrical fire in the dash thst makes me a but leery of it... im still driving it for now but ultimately husband is going to replace his death trap work truck with it that barely runs.. Potentially whatever was going to burn up did (something in the power locking system) and hopefully wont cause further issue... but neither of us want to chance me driving it with hubby gone, my 5 yr old and new baby if it lights on fire again..
So sorry your puppy is going through that. You're so sweet to comfort him and wake up with him. Stinks you have to suffer through work now though.
@asun123 sorry your birthday was overlooked! So unfair
@omnommer I'd be disappointed too. At least you made lemonade, or in this case grapefruit juice, out of the situation!