@hkom dangit! I'm so so sorry for the bad news today . How many weeks are you now? If it makes you feel any better, with DS1, I was 3cm dilated at 26 weeks and kept him in until he decided it was time at 31 weeks 5 days, so it's totally possible!! Hang in there... modern medicine is amazing and you'll be amazed at how much he'll thrive. Big hugs, momma.
@hkom I’m so sorry for the bad news yesterday, but keeping my fingers crossed you’re able to make it to 32 weeks, if not longer. It’s sucks that you can’t go home, but I’m so glad they’re taking good care of you and your LO and watching you both closely
@hkom So sorry to hear that you won't get to go home right now. Glad LO is doing well in there though and hoping along with the rest of the group that he stays put for as long as possible and that you stay comfortable!
Sorry to hear things aren't going the way you'd hoped. As much as it stinks to still be in the hospital, it's good you're in a place where you and baby can get the care you need. I hope that little cutie stays in there as long as possible! What a stinker trying to make his arrival so early!
Not sure if this helps or not, but a friend of mine started having contractions at 24 weeks and that baby stayed in there until 34 weeks. Baby is now a healthy, extremely adorable 9 month old.
@hkom, I'm so sorry you didn't get the news you were hoping for, but at least baby is looking good in there still. Every day he stays in is a little victory. Stay snug in there, little one!!
@hkom I'm so very sorry this is happening to you. I echo what everyone has said about being in the right place, having great care, and hanging in there as long as you can but I also acknowledge that THIS SUCKS for you. I wish there was something someone could do for you to make this easier. I'm glad DH was able to come spend time with you. You're allowed to wallow and be upset; this is not how you imagined your pregnancy going and it's OK to kind of mourn that feeling. Your baby boy will be here when it's his time to arrive and you're the absolute BEST person to be his Mom. You've already proven you're ready and able to give him the best care and love he'll ever need. Every day is a victory and I'm thinking of you!!
@orangecrush29 I'm 28 weeks today, which is a great milestone.
The meds are working really well now despite their slow start last night. I was actually able to sleep very well so I'm feeling a lot better physically today.
Thank you @parentingishard. It definitely sucks. I'm afraid I'm going to be one of those women who is just doomed to difficult pregnancies, which is just super disappointing because we want several kids. Hopefully with next ones they can do enough prevention so it doesn't get this bad.
@hkom I'm so so sorry you're going through this. Feel all the things, you have every right to mourn your dreamed of pregnancy. My cousin had her daughter 16 years ago at 28 weeks & today she is a thriving cross country running spunky sophomore in HS. And imagine how far the medical field has come in those years.
I hope H keeps bringing positive vibes to you & we'll all be praying for, thinking of & rooting for you and that little boy! Thanks for keeping us updated love to you
@hkom Aww, I am so sorry that you're going through this and it's not getting better. That's good the medicine has at least helped a bit. Remind me, how far along are you again? I hope you can make it to 32 weeks, if not past. Stay in there little baby!!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@hkom sorry to read your update this morning! I'm glad baby is doing well, though, and hope he stays in for a few more weeks at least. I give you so much credit for dealing with all you've been through so far! Keeping my fingers crossed for you, your H, and baby bean!
Me: 33, DH: 41 Started IF Feb. 2014 PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility) 3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN 1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN IUI March 2015, BFN IUI June 2015, BFN IUI Oct. 2015, BFN IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
@hkom my cervix shortened and was softening, so I had the cerclage done Friday. Much worse than I thought it would be but feeling better today. Full bed rest now until our next appointment next week. Looks like it'll be an every 2 week thing for us - see doctor, measure, determine full or modified bed rest until the next appointment. Taking it a day at a time because that's all we can do.
I hear you on the pregnancy thing. We wanted 3-4 kids but I feel like it'll be very difficult for me to accept another bed rest pregnancy after this one. I'd have the cerclage done around 12 weeks if we get pregnant again, but no guarantee I wouldn't be on full bed rest for future pregnancies. It's very upsetting and I can't imagine how I'd feel if it were my first. I looked forward to my childbearing years and it's sad to have them not be how I imagined, but that's parenting!
Read any good books? Watch any good shows? How are you passing the time?
@parentingishard I'm glad you're starting to feel better after your cerclage. I'm sure I will get preemptive ones for any future pregnancies, and I'm a bit terrified of it.
I'm still able to work for at least several hours a day, so between that and nurses/doctors/visitors coming in and out my days stay pretty busy. H is here for a couple hours every evening, so that helps fill that time block. I've been watching The Crown on Netflix, so if I ever have downtime by myself I've been getting an episode or two in. I also have a stack of books and magazines from home
@parentingishard and @hkom I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. I truly hope it does not impact you in future pregnancies, but I completely understand that you would be fearful. You both are great moms. *hugs*
@hkom I'm totally a TV junkie - say the word and I'll start a thread if you want recommendations! Love The Crown. I know we don't see behind the scenes, but I'm very impressed by how you're handling the situation. And @parentingishard too. All of you are boss ladies.
@hoosiermama-2 Thank you! I'm much less of a TV and movie person, so getting me to sit down and actually watch anything is difficult. I'm really enjoying The Crown though. I'm actually super annoyed that the US Open is over, because that has been my filler for the past few weeks.
And I wasn't very impressive yesterday - I was a disaster. But I was also running on almost no sleep for several nights in a row and had been in so much pain for several days from the increased contractions as well, so I was not in a good state physically or emotionally. The meds are working and I slept like a rock last night so I'm feeling much much better today!
@hkom so glad you were able to sleep last night. That always makes me feel so much better when I’m in a bad way. Anyway, I don’t think anyone will begrudge you a few days of feeling a little low.
@parentingishard Hii dear..I can understand your pain . timely cerclage wil help to hold baby for long.... I m in 25th week.. and on strict bed rest since 19 week... In the recent appointment Doctor told me to remain on rest till 9th month... Very difficult to pass time... try to busy myself online and with my daughter....@hkom Take Care..
@hkom@parentingishard@sim1984 you ladies are so strong and incredible, even if you're not strong in every moment. How could you be? You're going through so much! Pregnancy itself is rough, but hospital stays and bed rest take it to a whole new level. Sorry you all are dealing with it, but you've got this!
@pareningishard I am glad you're stating to feel better after the cerclage. Hopefully they can at least move your from full bed rest to modified bed rest.
@hkom It's okay to feel down!! You're going through a lot. You're being a rosckstar! You're handling all this way better than I would be. What a blessing that you can still get work done while you're in the hospital. I'm lucky in that I have a job like that too.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
If I remember correctly, we're not supposed to comment on the birth announcement thread (I think?) so I wanted to share my congrats here @hkom ! SO happy your little guy was safely delivered, and I love the name John Francis! Keep us updated as much as you can! (I know you'll probably be just a little bit busy, haha.) Anyway, congrats!!!
@hkom Congratulations! That is so wonderful that you were able to keep him inside until he was over 3 lbs and able to take some breaths on his own! You are a rock star! I hope your healing process goes smoothly and that his NICU stay is as brief as possible.
@hkom congratulations! I'm so glad he is doing well. You did your best to carry him as long as you could and I am sure all the time you spent at the hospital has helped make him stronger. All the best to you and your family! Can't wait to see pictures on FB.
Ahhhhh!!!!!! @hkom I'm sooooo glad things are going well for you and john! And you'll at least be off bed rest now . Wishing for a super short hospital stay and lots of quick and productive weight gain! Can't wait to hear more (and see pics, are we on fb yet?). Xoxoxox
@hkom Eeeeee! I can’t wait to see his little face. Congrats on being lifted from bed rest
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Happy birthday, baby John! I know you've had a long road already, and I know the road ahead will be long, too, but hopefully it's smooth sailing from here on out, and you're able to enjoy nonstop cuddles soon
@hkom CONGRATULATIONS!!!! You are a rock star, and apparently baby John is as strong as you are. He definitely gets that from his mama! Hoping he continues to thrive and is out of the NICU in no time! Thinking of you guys and, like others, can't wait to hear (and see) updates.
Congrats @hkom and welcome baby John! Glad to hear all is well
Just had a bit of a rough day. I just barely failed my glucose tests and now officially have GD. Hospital food sucks enough without being barred from the real dessert options. I also had a mini meltdown trying and failing to use the stupid glucose meter. Finally figured it out but am not looking forward to doing it 4x a day. My stay here just got a whole lot tougher.
Re: The Bed Rest Thread (formerly Hospital Stay)
Sorry to hear things aren't going the way you'd hoped. As much as it stinks to still be in the hospital, it's good you're in a place where you and baby can get the care you need. I hope that little cutie stays in there as long as possible! What a stinker trying to make his arrival so early!
Not sure if this helps or not, but a friend of mine started having contractions at 24 weeks and that baby stayed in there until 34 weeks. Baby is now a healthy, extremely adorable 9 month old.
@orangecrush29 I'm 28 weeks today, which is a great milestone.
The meds are working really well now despite their slow start last night. I was actually able to sleep very well so I'm feeling a lot better physically today.
How have you been doing with everything?
I hope H keeps bringing positive vibes to you & we'll all be praying for, thinking of & rooting for you and that little boy! Thanks for keeping us updated love to you
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Started IF Feb. 2014
PCOS & MFI (low sperm count and motility)
3 Femara cycles w/natural intercourse over summer 2014, BFN
1 Clomid cycle w/natural intercourse Nov. 2014, BFN
IUI March 2015, BFN
IUI June 2015, BFN
IUI Oct. 2015, BFN
IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
FET March 2018, 1 day-5 blast, BFP!
I hear you on the pregnancy thing. We wanted 3-4 kids but I feel like it'll be very difficult for me to accept another bed rest pregnancy after this one. I'd have the cerclage done around 12 weeks if we get pregnant again, but no guarantee I wouldn't be on full bed rest for future pregnancies. It's very upsetting and I can't imagine how I'd feel if it were my first. I looked forward to my childbearing years and it's sad to have them not be how I imagined, but that's parenting!
Read any good books? Watch any good shows? How are you passing the time?
I'm still able to work for at least several hours a day, so between that and nurses/doctors/visitors coming in and out my days stay pretty busy. H is here for a couple hours every evening, so that helps fill that time block. I've been watching The Crown on Netflix, so if I ever have downtime by myself I've been getting an episode or two in. I also have a stack of books and magazines from home
I know we don't see behind the scenes, but I'm very impressed by how you're handling the situation. And @parentingishard too. All of you are boss ladies.
And I wasn't very impressive yesterday - I was a disaster. But I was also running on almost no sleep for several nights in a row and had been in so much pain for several days from the increased contractions as well, so I was not in a good state physically or emotionally. The meds are working and I slept like a rock last night so I'm feeling much much better today!
@pareningishard I am glad you're stating to feel better after the cerclage. Hopefully they can at least move your from full bed rest to modified bed rest.
@hkom It's okay to feel down!! You're going through a lot. You're being a rosckstar! You're handling all this way better than I would be. What a blessing that you can still get work done while you're in the hospital. I'm lucky in that I have a job like that too.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
So happy to hear he is doing well and hopefully the hospital stay isn’t too long!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Just had a bit of a rough day. I just barely failed my glucose tests and now officially have GD. Hospital food sucks enough without being barred from the real dessert options. I also had a mini meltdown trying and failing to use the stupid glucose meter. Finally figured it out but am not looking forward to doing it 4x a day. My stay here just got a whole lot tougher.