When will you tell your kids?

Merried_2008 · August 2018

My kids are 7 (11/10) & 6 (08/12). I don't plan to tell them for a while. Mostly due to my age. I want to make sure all is well w/LO #3. How about you?

mamalineh · August 2018

I have a 4 and 2 year old so I don't feel a rush to tell them. I'm thinking I'll tell them after my first appointment or even later. It'd be really difficult to explain if something goes wrong. Does anyone have cute ideas on how to tell younger kids about a new baby?

alexisjoy430 · August 2018

We have a 3 year old. I was thinking of telling him closer to when I’m 12 weeks along. I don’t think he would be good at keeping this news to himself, and therefore, we’d have to be prepared for everyone else to know. I also don’t know how I’d explain it if something happened.

mermaidca · August 2018

My twins are 3 1/2 and blabber mouths haha. They don't understand when we use words like pregnant but I want to tell them after we see a heartbeat on Friday because we'll be sharing the news with everyone more freely then and won't have to worry about them spilling the beans.

robyn2201 · August 2018

Around 12 weeks or so. They are 8 and 5.

*TW* We told them about my last pregnancy at like 6 weeks after we saw a heart beat and then I had a MC at 11 weeks. It was heartbreaking to tell them and DD2 still sometimes asks about why it happened and it’s been a year. *End TW*

Also they have big mouths and can’t keep a secret. They told everyone about it and then even told people we didnt know about our loss.

thatbaintforbetty · August 2018

DD is 4 and loves babies. I know she won’t stop talking about it once she knows. She’ll also most likely not understand that the baby isn’t coming right away. We’ll probably tell her around 2nd tri.

professormama · August 2018

My son is 3.5, and definitely won’t be able to keep a secret. We will tell him around 12 weeks or a little after, hopefully we will know the sex and come up with a name by then too. I want to help him love the baby from the beginning and feel excited, rather than threatened or jealous. Probably going to give him a little gift, like a baby doll, so he can practice being a big brother.

LeslieCHNC · August 2018

My kids are 9, 6, almost 5, and almost 2. I want to tell them so badly because I've been so tired and not feeling well. I know with my oldest she will be much more understanding if she knows whats going on. We will tell them after my first appointment.
I'm praying they are excited and not upset at another sibling. lol

2babes3angels · August 2018

We have 3 kiddos (the youngest is 10 months tho so he's out of the equation lol). Our older two are 5 & 3 and we told them at our early ultrasound after confirming there was a heartbeat. We've told them earlier in the past and (TW) we ended up having a miscarriage a couple of those times, and while it was a challenge to walk them through that, I definitely don't regret telling them about their siblings in heaven. We are generally pretty open about the topic. It's hard for them to understand the concept anyway but we want them to get to celebrate the sweet little life with us no matter the outcome. and just to be clear no judgment for anyone who feels differently. just sharing my heart on it

kaitykins · August 2018

I have a 2 year old (3 in dec) who really wants a sibling. She keeps insisting her friends are her bothers. Or says “why I’m not a sister?” And she loves babies. I think we will wait until our initial ultrasound at 8weeks and then go from there. I can’t decide when exactly. I think we will tell her once we have a handle on the heart and location etc.

kangstadt · August 2018

My son is 4, and we just told him yesterday after my first appointment and we saw the heartbeat. I honestly wasn't sure if he would be excited or even think much of it, but apparently he is. He already let it spill to my sister when she picked up my nephew that "Mama's baby is THIS big!" We are planning on telling the rest of the family this weekend anyway, I'm just hoping he keeps it a secret until Saturday!

blueberrymomma · August 2018

I told my kids (5 and 2.5) at 8weeks after we had our first ultrasound. My oldest has been asking for another baby for months so she’s super excited. I partially worry about her blabber mouth but she been pretty good so far...... She’s super cute because he keeps wanting to rub my stomach and put her ear on it to “hear the baby” She also keeps saying I hope it’s twins because I want a boy and girl. I tried to explain there was only one on the ultrasound but she still has her hopes up lol
I’d say whenever you feel comfortable is the best time

kyashley1227 · August 2018

Well my plan was to wait until after the first trimester to tell them. However, my 3 year old DD asked me tonight if there was a baby in my tummy....soooo there’s that.

Merried_2008 · August 2018

I get super bloated at night. DS said my tummy looked big tonight. I asked “what if there was a baby in there?” He said ‘I’d be very gentle with your tummy’. So damn cute!

booksandicecream · August 2018

I finish the first trimester right around DS's 2nd birthday. I think I'll tell him around then, also because that's probably when I'll start showing. I think it will be easier for him to understand if he can see the belly.
I also want to tell him before I'm too far along, so that if he tries to climb on me or kick me I can tell him to be careful of the baby.

MRDCle · August 2018

We’ll tell him after the first appointment.

lizziealyssa · August 2018

My kids are now 6, 4 and almost 3.

*TW* I told them we were expecting after seeing heartbeats at 8w5d with two pregnancies and then lost them. It ripped me apart having to rehash it over and over because of their questions. We had just moved overseas when the second one happened, which made it much harder emotionally. I didn't tell them the last time I was expecting and lost that one after a good heartbeat at 8w5d and I am SO glad I didn't have the extra burden of explaining it. We opted for a D&C and as far as they knew I went to a hospital for a day. I will tell them when they are older and it's not so scarring for me because dealing with it all in a foreign country was a nightmare unto itself.*TW*

We will wait until after a 12 or 13 week appointment to tell them. (I am 9 weeks today.) I am on bed rest from a blood clot in the uterus and since this is my 9th pregnancy the bloat is obvious. My kids have already guessed and asked about the sonogram pictures but I told them I will let them know when it's time.

Merinmac · August 2018

My 2-year-old already knows, although she obviously doesn't really understand. She's been at all my appointments. Maybe it'll sink in a bit more once we know the sex/name and it's less abstract. And if, heaven forbid, I were to lose this one, she's young enough not to be too upset about it. If she were older, I would probably keep it a secret for longer, just in case.

We've already told our families and close friends so I don't care if she tells anyone else.

lovelybabybumpz · August 2018

I toldmy 22 month DD. she can keep a secret ok for now. We just told her “ there’s a baby in mama’s belly.” And we e been asking if she wants a brother or sister and she says yes to both. She never brings it up herself though, so god forbid if anything happens, we won’t need to explain too much.

laurainoakland · August 2018

I told my 13 yo son pretty much right away because I found out I was pregnant RIGHT BEFORE a trip to Disneyland. I had to explain why I was skipping the biggest rides because he would have been so confused otherwise. Luckily he is good at keeping things on the DL. TW**** I had a mc at 6 weeks earlier this year and he knew about that too, but handled it well/ think it was good to share with him*** endTW

sfeebs13 · August 2018

My 5 year old made a statement a few weeks ago that she was going to have a little sister, before I got my BFP. She doesn't really quite "believe me" when I say she is going to have a little brother or sister. I'll probably have more to go on when I have something tangible or visual for her to go on.

peaceinnature · August 2018

I told my six year old because he could tell I wasn’t feeling well and I was super emotional and I wanted him to have an explanation so he wouldn’t worry. He’s excited and says he hopes it’s another brother because he doesn’t want princess toys in his room. And he has already told complete strangers about the baby in my tummy.

whats0nemore · September 2018

My boys are 6 & nearly 4. I haven’t let them know yet because I know they’ll tell every person they see. I’ll tell them near the end of the first trimester along with family/friends.

angelob88 · September 2018

My daughter is 2 and we've mentioned something to her about having a baby brother or sister but that's the extent of it. I don't think she completely understands yet. We'll start talking more about it with her after our 11 week appointment when we hear the heartbeat on doppler.

knottieemommiee · September 2018

My boys are 7 and 4. My sons 8th birthday is the end of this month and we are planning to wrap a strawberry (how big baby will be) then after his confused face we are going to give him a card that gives it away. That is when family will find out also, we will be 10 weeks. Boys are getting matching 'big brother's tee shirts and that is what we are going to send them to daycare in.

middy411 · September 2018

My girls are 1 and 2. I’ve already told them but the 1 year old literally has no idea what’s going on. She just says “baby!” And my two year old occasionally lays on me to “listen to the heartbeat”. Her favorite thing to do when her little sister was in my belly. She knew about my two previous pregnancies and miscarriages but didn’t get it obviously. I like sharing with her and couldn’t imagine going through it and not saying something to her. She will probably really start to understand when she goes to the doc and hears the heartbeat for the first time.

BarefootContessa · September 2018

Because of our last pregnancy ending in a late loss, we are waiting to tell the kids.

However I'm an idiot, and was at Arby's because I just HAD to have roast beef w Arby's sauce, and thanked the lady at the drive thru for giving me so many extra sauces bc I was pregnant and craving it. DS and DD were both in the back seat. DS piped up "WHAT?! You're PREGNANT?! YES WE GET ANOTHER BABY!" I then had to be a complete and total schmuck and tell him I lied to the woman. So.. he lectured me that it's not ok to lie. We just aren't ready to share with them in the event that something is wrong again. Also, he will tell every person he comes across and we still haven't told my ILs because.. MIL is a horrible judgmental human.

LeslieCHNC · September 2018

My 9 year old suspects it. She told Dh the other night "you know, mommy might have another baby in there"
We will tell all the kids after my appointment next week.

happynanny · September 2018

I told my five and four-year-old tonight. Even though I am only 7 weeks I had an ultrasound today and the heartbeat looks strong. I wrapped up a big sister shirt for each of them gave it to my oldest first and then watch them think about it and figure it out once my younger daughter saw hers. It was really cute and they are very excited!

kaitykins · September 2018

Told my 2.75yr old today. She got a new doll to practice being a big sister with. She is grasping it enough that she told
my mom “I’m going to be a big sister and I’m practicing with my CeCe doll and our family baby is in mamas belly”

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