No getting up to help her and absolutely no picking her up. I feel more sad about how my relationship with her will change than anything else. The silver lining is that she's too young to remember this time so really it's just me that will be upset. We do not have family close, but they have all offered to come stay for periods of time to help DH. DD1 is at daycare during the day so it's mostly meal prep and weekends that will be more difficult. I have to navigate the work world and medical leave and all that, but I can't take that on just yet. Thankfully, I have a wonderful boss who is very supportive and understanding.
Sorry to hear about this @parentingishard My mom recently shared her bed rest story with me. I was around but pretty small, so I don’t remember it myself. I know this will be hard for you and your family, including DD, but some good can come out of it too. My mom cites her bed rest time as when I was sort of promoted from baby to big sister and special helper. I think it probably got me ready and adjusted to the idea of a new baby before he arrived. Wishing you all the best and a long rest of your pregnancy!
@parentingishard so sorry to hear about the bed rest! I'm glad your family has offered to step up and I hope they are helpful in the way that you need!
@parentingishard I am so sorry you didn't have a better outcome and I know it'll be tough not to pick up your LO, but hopefully the time passes as quickly as it can and you get tons of support!
@parentingishard I’m so sorry your news wasn’t that great. At least you will be in the comfort of your home, but still - I know it will be hard, especially not being able to help your DD.
@parentingishard... Cerclage will be a great support though complete bed rest is worst part of it. I had my first scan after one month of cerclage yesterday... i m 23.4 week now. Now the cervix increases to 4.8cm from 2.8cm. But yes funneling of 4mm remain there as noticed one month before also.. Doctor said for a full term delivery i have to be on rest for next 10week ...all the best and TC
@parentingishard I can't remember if I read this here or on another forum, but I thought it was good advice: don't tell your daughter that you can't pick her up because of the baby. Tell her you are just not feeling well and can't pick her up. This way she shouldn't develop any resentment towards the baby.
@parentingishard I completely agree with what @ab_canada said. Also, when I was unable to lift DS during first tri, we just made a big deal about how he can do things on his own because he is such a big boy. Then, he started to feel like it was a reward that he got to climb in his car seat, etc. and not a negative thing.
@sim1984 I'm so happy to hear you have had great progress and your cervix is a magical one that grows!! I hope it continues to hold strong.
We've made it a big deal for DD1 to do things on her own and I haven't mentioned the baby being the reason, so I'm glad to see others feel that's the right thing too! I never want her to think this baby is a negative in our family even though she may during their teenage years!
Thank you all for your support here. It's so hard to find a community online and you all have welcomed me even though I joined you late.
@hkom, I’m just catching up after my crazy week at work. So happy to hear the situation with your cervix is improving!!!! Fx it stays at 2 cm or gets even better.
@parentingishard sorry to hear about the cerclage & bedrest. It sounds like you’re approaching things with your daughter in such a thoughtful way. I’m glad you have family who can come help as needed.
Hi friends. Unfortunately I didn't get the news I was hoping for today. They couldn't even see anything on the ultrasound this morning other than that the baby looks good. He was sitting so low that they couldn't get the wand in the right position. The doctors checked me manually and I'm now 2-3 cm dilated, so it doesn't really matter much what it looks like on the inside.
Contractions have picked up a bit in frequency and intensity as well. They put me on indocin to help them ease up but so far it isn't working all that well. They're watching me on the monitor to keep track of everything.
It looks like I'm going to be here for a little while longer. Definitely until I'm done with the medicine in 5ish days and probably longer than that. Their next goal is to get me to 32 weeks but it's kind of looking like, at least to me, that I may not make it that far.
Fingers crossed my body can keep him in there as long as possible.
@hkom Well, balls. Sorry you're not going home quite yet, but super happy about that good lookin' baby
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@hkom so sorry you didn't get the news you (and all of us!) were hoping for. Keep positive, as you've been doing all along! You are doing amazing and your body will try to keep baby in place as long as possible. It seems he can't wait to make his debut!
@hkom. But glad little guy is doing well where he is. Every day that he stays in is a good day. I hope that you can find some silver lining in not being home (after thoroughly throwing a justified pity party). Thinking of you
@hkom I'm sorry to hear you won't get to go home just yet. At least you made it to your first goal of 28 weeks -- fx you make it to 32 as well. Even if you don't though, every day that baby stays in there is one more day for him to develop!
@hkom I am SO sorry you didn't get the news you wanted. I am really, really hoping you make it to 32 weeks and that they're able to keep you as comfortable as possible. Sending love and please let us know if there's anything we can do to help, even something simple sending a little pick me up treat or something. Feel so bad you're in this situation.
@hkom I'm sorry you don't get to go home but I'm glad they're keeping you with all of the contractions. Hoping you are able to keep baby growing until 32 weeks!
@hkom I’m so sorry. We were all hoping for a good update today. It’s wonderful that he looks good in there and every day he stays in there is a huge help! Fingers crossed he is able to keep cooking as long as possible. It sounds like your doctors are totally on top of your care so that’s the best you can ask for. Many many hugs!!
@hkom sorry to hear about not going home today. I'm just gonna echo all the other ladies in wishing that the baby stays in there a good while longer and you getting as comfortable a stay as possible!!! Internet hugs to you.
@hkom I am so sorry to hear that you won’t be going home today. I’m glad baby looks good, though. When will they check you again? Have they given you steroids for his lungs?
@hkom dang it!! I'm so sorry you didn't get the news you wanted, but so glad you made it to your goal of 28 weeks! FX you make it to 32 weeks! I'm also curious when they'll check you next and if you've gotten steroids for his lungs?
I got a little choked up reading your update, so I can’t even imagine how you are feeling. We are rooting for you and baby hkom to make it as long as possible!!
Thanks guys! I'm trying my best to be positive, and am feeling better since H came over this afternoon and my contractions have finally eased up. But I was pretty damn upset earlier and spent pretty much all day in a weepy puddle. The ultrasound and cervical check were very painful today, plus I'm just emotionally and physically very very exhausted.
Luckily they won't do anymore TV ultrasounds. Now that I'm dilated it doesnt really matter what the inside looks like. Just manual check from here on out.bThey gave me a round of steroids when I was admitted 4 weeks ago, but will do another booster round if I go into labor.
@hkom I’m so sorry. Fingers crossed this little guy stays in there. Not that it’s the same but I personally know two babies born at 26 and 28 weeks and although they spent some time in the NICU, you’d never know they were premies.
@hkom I am really sorry the news today wasn't what was expected. I have everything crossed that baby stays put until at least 32 weeks. I am really sorry you are going through all this.
Sending you hopeful vibes @hkom. You’re in good hands and it’s amazing what they can do. There is someone here whose sac leaks and refills but baby is fine and has continued to develop in spite of this for weeks.
Damnit @hkom. Well, you're at the best place you can be with people keeping an eye on you 24/7. You've already proved to be an amazing mom for doing some much for your LO. Praying all stabilize and babe will stay in there for a long time!
@hkom I'm so sorry to hear that. Hang in there. Hopefully your LO can stay put at least for another month, as the doctors hope. Hugs to you and your family.
Re: The Bed Rest Thread (formerly Hospital Stay)
For fellow cerclagers, how was the pain after?
My mom recently shared her bed rest story with me. I was around but pretty small, so I don’t remember it myself. I know this will be hard for you and your family, including DD, but some good can come out of it too. My mom cites her bed rest time as when I was sort of promoted from baby to big sister and special helper. I think it probably got me ready and adjusted to the idea of a new baby before he arrived.
Wishing you all the best and a long rest of your pregnancy!
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I can't remember if I read this here or on another forum, but I thought it was good advice: don't tell your daughter that you can't pick her up because of the baby. Tell her you are just not feeling well and can't pick her up. This way she shouldn't develop any resentment towards the baby.
We've made it a big deal for DD1 to do things on her own and I haven't mentioned the baby being the reason, so I'm glad to see others feel that's the right thing too! I never want her to think this baby is a negative in our family even though she may during their teenage years!
Thank you all for your support here. It's so hard to find a community online and you all have welcomed me even though I joined you late.
@parentingishard sorry to hear about the cerclage & bedrest. It sounds like you’re approaching things with your daughter in such a thoughtful way. I’m glad you have family who can come help as needed.
Contractions have picked up a bit in frequency and intensity as well. They put me on indocin to help them ease up but so far it isn't working all that well. They're watching me on the monitor to keep track of everything.
It looks like I'm going to be here for a little while longer. Definitely until I'm done with the medicine in 5ish days and probably longer than that. Their next goal is to get me to 32 weeks but it's kind of looking like, at least to me, that I may not make it that far.
Fingers crossed my body can keep him in there as long as possible.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
DS2 due 12/12/18
Luckily they won't do anymore TV ultrasounds. Now that I'm dilated it doesnt really matter what the inside looks like. Just manual check from here on out.bThey gave me a round of steroids when I was admitted 4 weeks ago, but will do another booster round if I go into labor.
Not that it’s the same but I personally know two babies born at 26 and 28 weeks and although they spent some time in the NICU, you’d never know they were premies.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I'm so sorry to hear that. Hang in there. Hopefully your LO can stay put at least for another month, as the doctors hope. Hugs to you and your family.