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TTC After a Loss
Kath525
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TTCAL week of 9/4
Kath525
member
Happy delayed Labor Day everyone!
1. Introduce yourself (if new):
2. Status?
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall?
1. Introduce yourself (if new):
2. Status?
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall?
Re: TTCAL week of 9/4
2. Status? WTO cd 13
3. R/R: not super feeling it this month, just really discouraged and back to grieving a lot more again. I think I’m going to get a tattoo to honour our loss and I’m hoping that will in some way put it more to bed for me. So with that as my focus getting pregnant is a bit on the back burner (which I Never thought I’d say) but you can’t get a tattoo when you’re pregnant and I strongly feel I need to do this.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall?
The leaves changing colours and the comfy cozy feeling clothes!!
2. Status? TWW. CD 10.
3. R/R: rant: tomorrow is the year anniversary of our most recent MC. I can't believe it's been a year and I haven't seen a BFP in that time. It's got me down.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? Spiked hot chocolate hehe
@justarius I'm planning to get a tattoo to honor my losses as well. Any idea what you would get for the tattoo?
2. Status? WTO CD2
3. R/R: AF arrived. I hate that witch most of the time!
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? Cooler temps and pulling out the sweaters. Although I will miss flip flop weather.
@justarius and @Kath525 I also plan to get a tattoo. I’ve been waiting because I’m 43 I can’t put TTC on hold for a tatt. So while I’m recouping from surgery I just might get it. I plan to get a tree branch with 3 birds sitting on branch representing me, DH and DS with 3 birds flying away representing my 3 losses.
@justarius I also got 3 garden stones to put in my flower beds then planted perennials at each one. This way I have a quiet place to go whenever I want. This has helped me a lot as I’m the kind of person who visits cemetery to talk with lost family members mostly my dad and grandma and I need that
@Mack2342 it’s not that I really want to put Ttc on hold but it’s like emotionally I’m just not in it enough this month to even want the physical part of it - if that makes any sense?
My tattoo idea sounds very similar to yours actually @Mack2342 except I’m specifically doing a cherry tree branch in bloom because it holds special meaning to me and I’m having it done watercolour style...and obvs would only have two birds on the branch and one flying away
edit to add: I can’t decide if I want words with it too though?
‘Your wings were ready but our hearts were not’
2. Status? Recovering from D and C and waiting to meet with our RE later this month. We will either be doing a round of IVF or an embryo adoption.
3. R/R: Just taking things one day at a time. My dad starts chemo next week, so that will be our next big hurdle. *TW then my DD needs a second eye surgery, so we need to get through that and then concentrate on the fertility plan.
4.GTKY: I am looking forward to a new season, although I fear fall and winter are going to be especially hard this year... don’t want to wish our lives away but bring on Spring!
Your descriptions of your tattoos are beautiful but made me cry. Some days all of this is just so hard.
@char245 that all sounds like just so much to handle. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this all at once. Take care of yourself.
2. Status: 9 DPO Going to test tomorrow. I got a BFP on 11 DPO with my first pregnancy
3. R/R: Terrified to test. Wasn’t even sure if I wanted to try again this cycle as it was the first one after waiting the 2 months suggested by doctor. Haven’t really felt any of the symptoms like first pregnancy, but not feeling normal AF symptoms either
4. GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer, but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? Fall scents for home and cute boots and scarves
2. Status? Waiting on education day on 25th
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? Love fall. favorite season and then winter second. Our anniversary in Fall and then ladies trip with church ladies and starting IVF.
Status is my doctor told me today I do not need a DnC and she is monitoring my bloodwork.
R/R wept today because a new ultrasound tech must not have read my chart,I went in for my internal about the Dnc ,she didnt realise I had a MC ,and the first thing she said was let's check your cervix and for the heartbeat.i was speechless.
I live in the desert so the fall isn't the same as when I lived on the east coast,but I'm looking forward to hallmark holiday movies.
@char245 that’s a lot to go through especially all at once. Hugs to you. Take care of you too
@Kath525 that’s a nice idea too. We didn’t have names since we didn’t what gender each one was.
@Mack2342 we chose gender neutral names. I think it really helped me... validate?... my grief over the losses. Not sure if that makes sense.
2. Status? Either 11 or 13 DPO. Waiting to test until my DH returns home from business trip on Saturday or Sunday. It is so hard to wait but I know if it’s positive I will need his encouragement and support to not immediately start worrying. Obsessive about SS this week- dull uterine pressure, insomnia, waking up to pee twice a night, sore nipples.
3. R/R: TW*******
being a single parent this week is so hard. My DH rarely travels for work and being home taking care of our 2.5yo son is exhausting! I give single mamas out there some serious props. It has been a hectic week with work, daycare pick up/ drop off and the. Trying to keep the house together. I am so lucky I have such a helpful partner.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? Our annual trip to Hawaii! We always go in the fall. That and our local coffee shop makes the best homemade pumpkin spice lattes with real pumpkin!
@g3mommy I’m so sorry about the ultrasound tech—what a horrible appointment!
@char245 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all that right now—it seems like way more than your fair share.
2. Status? CD 9
3. R/R: School just started and I am exhausted! It’s so much fun seeing students from last year and meeting new ones
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to?) I love fall!! I’m so excited about it cooling off and not being a disgusting mess after 20 minutes outside. And we’re going apple picking in a couple of weeks!
2. CD28, my pms symptoms tend to mimic my past pg symptoms lately so I'm just trying to stay sane and wait another day or two before I poas.
3. Just got back from vacation which was very much needed. But now I'm playing catch-up at work and it's exhausting.
4. I'm sad to see summer go but I do love the fall. I sometimes feel like we are constantly on the go all summer so it's nice to settle down for a bit. I also love Thanksgiving dinner which happens to fall on my birthday this year (Canadian so it's in October)
@g3mommy Ugh I'm so sorry about the tech. They should really read charts before they see patients. My family doctor was away so I saw a fill in a few weeks back to follow up on some blood work and she kept going on and on about how I'm so lucky I don't have kids, then she asked what I was there for and when I told her she definitely felt like am idiot.
@Kath525 be kind to yourself tomorrow
@char245 I'm sorry you're going through this again. RPL just plain sucks.
@Mack2342 I was really hoping I wouldn't see you on this board again. It's high time you got knocked up!
2. Status? I got my first AF after the mc today, so cd 1.
3. R/R: Even though it’s hard to get AF now, I am glad that my body is getting back to normal and I’m able to keep track of what’s actually going on with it now.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall? I guess the hot chocolate and hot tea on cold afternoons/evenings. Honestly, fall is my least favorite season, though, which is an unpopular opinion.
@g3mommy that’s absolutely terrible. Doctor’s offices really need to be more careful about checking paperwork before treating patients. At my checkup a day after my mc, the nurse didn’t read what I had written on my paperwork and took me into a checkup room with pictures of smiling babies literally plastered all over the wall. I had to be moved to another room because I was sobbing so much.
@justarius and @Kath525 and @Mack2342 I love the tattoo ideas. I have been thinking of it too, but not until we're finished either trying or having babies.
@Denma2015 A trip to Hawaii sounds amazing
Awesome that you get to do it every year!
@g3mommy I'm sorry you had to deal with that u/s tech. That is inexcusable.
@char245 Lady, you are going through a lot right now. I hope the chemo and the eye surgery go well. Take some time for yourself too.
@40momma Welcome back
I just got back from vacation too, and I'm slammed at work. It takes my mind off things, but man, it's exhausting!
1. Introduce yourself (if new): Not new. Just had third MC last month after our first round of IVF. Been trying since last June.
2. Status? CD 8, waiting to start next round of IVF later this month
3. R/R: As much as I want this, I'm just feeling so tired of it. It's physically and mentally exhausting, not to mention expensive with the IVF. I'd take a TTC break, but at 40, I really can't.
4.GTKY: What are you most looking forward to about fall? The beautiful leaves and perfect weather. I love fall, but hate that it's followed by a long, cold, snowy winter!
1. Introduce yourself (if new): I’m Chloe- had 2 MMC, 1LC, then CP.
2. Status? I’m not temping. I had an almost positive OPK on Saturday, so I think I am 2-3 DPO, but don't know for sure. Last month I thought I was 4 DPO and then the fertile CM started back up and I got a positive OPK on CD 23. I am hoping that cycle was a blip bc I was super regular at 30 days before that.
3. R/R: Saw my therapist yesterday and talked about how lasseiz faire I have been about TTC. After my first 2 MMCs, I got super intense and did everything I could learn about (nutrition changes, temping, accupuncture, supplements). TW It ended in DD, BUT I had severe OCD/Depression during that pregnancy. And I am trying so hard not to go down that road which led me there, but it's causing me to do NOTHING except well-timed sex to get pregnant and I wonder if I am making a big mistake not doing all the stuff I did before since this is my last cycle to have a baby before 40. Should I get back to acupuncture and should I see my OB/GYN or RE to get my thyroid levels checked out? Should I stop drinking wine and coffee? I just can't seem to make myself do any of it.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall?
Changing leaves, football, and brisk fall days!
And thank you @Mack2342 - I'm going to finish my damm coffee and not feel bad about it!
2. Status? TWW
3. R/R: Rant: I thought I was WTO. Then yesterday FF changed its mind and put me at 3dpo. WTF?! So going by my temp rise, I ovulated Sunday. I was out of town Friday and Saturday, so now my timing is crappy. I've suspected for a while that I actually have a 2-3 delay in O to temp rise so fingers crossed that's the case this cycle. Ugh.
4.GTKY: Fall is just around the corner (which makes me sad cause I love summer but...), what are you most looking forward to about fall?
I love fall. Everything about it. The air and the leaves, plus sweaters and coffee, and the build up to the holidays. I'm usually stupid happy from September through December.