Trying to Get Pregnant
coco2787
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TTCAL Week of 9/3
coco2787
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**This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage/spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and/or stillbirth may be mentioned.**
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
Status:
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet?
Me: 35 H: 35
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Re: TTCAL Week of 9/3
Status: TWW with testing this week. AF due Thursday.
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Things are ok. This was our first month trying after D&C on July 6th. It seems like longer than that. I’m hopeful we are pregnant but also OK if we aren’t. Just in the waiting game. I’m not planning on testing until at least Saturday if no AF. I had a CP/MC earlier in the year too at 6 weeks and part of me just wants to wait so I don’t start worrying again. The loss and struggle is tough.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Will test next weekend with DH if no AF
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? At an ugly Christmas sweater party. My shoulder pads were extremely attractive
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
MMC 2/12 and 8/17
Status: WTO
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
It has been a really rough week, but I won't get in to it on here. On a r/r note, I almost cancelled my carpal tunnel surgery next week, since I really haven't been having any symptoms, but I swear I have woken every single night in the last week, if not twice a night with a numb hand, so good thing I didn't.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? No
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet?
Myspace, lol
@holly321 I'm sorry you are having a rough week. Hopefully this week goes better for you!
@denma2015 good luck testing this week! I've definitely learned that it is easier to wait and test if no AF than to test early and get yourself down day after day.
Intoroduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
MMC 6/18 at 11 weeks
Status: WTO
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
Nothing to report. Had a nice long weekend full of hiking, free concerts, and we threw a BBQ. Nice way to reset. I'm pretty sure I will O this week, so I'm a little anxious to make sure timing works out. I have a few work meetings at night this week and I have a hard time feeling motivated after them.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? No
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? On a rec kickball league. He was on the opposite team. I only went to the first game, got his number, and never went back lol.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. Ectopic pregnancy in late Feb 2018, off bench Aug 2018
Status: WTO
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? I’m hopeful for this cycle. Our timing should be better than it has been the past month. But every time I think about being pregnant again I get soooooooo much anxiety, **Tw about loss, or defects, or pretty much anything that could go wrong will go wrong end TW**
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? Originally at a friends house but we both had significant others. Then a few months later we randomly ran into each other at a party
@denma2015 I hope your TWW goes well for you.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
10/17 Twin B passed in utero at 22 weeks
11/17 Twin A passed at 29 weeks after a month fight in he NICU
7/18 MC
Status: TWW, 5-6 DPO. Testing his weekend.
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
I am doing fairly well. Although if my HPT is positive this weekend, I think that will shift to nothing but worry. A part of me hopes it’s negative so I can relax. But another part of me knows how badly we want to grow our family and have been failing at it. Ugh, the back and forth. What I really wish is we could add to our family and I could skip the entire pregnancy and end up with a healthy baby.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? I will take a HPT this weekend. Probably Sunday at home with DH.
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? At work 7 years ago. We are both medical laboratory scientists. We used to work the night shift a lot together our first few years. So we would crank up the radio and jam out while doing maintenance on all the analyzers.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
4 losses in 7 months. 2 CP, 9 week MMC, 14 week MMC
Status:
Limbo hell
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
My anxiety has been through the roof waiting for my appointment today. I've been wavering between hope and total despair and playing out every worst case scenario in my head. I also got another +OPK yesterday PM and today AM which is about 4 weeks since my last +OPK so clearly my body is on some sort of cycle, but still no period of course. The weird thing about the +OPK was that yesterday AM I took a CB digital and got low fertility and by evening it was peak- I never got a flashing smiley, which makes me wonder if my estrogen is wonky still.
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
Hysteroscopy in a few hours.
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet?
We met senior year of high school, we were both in cross country. We both were dating other people at the time but there was some mutual chemistry that we never acted on. We went to different colleges freshmen year but started hanging out over the summer before sophomore year, and we were both single at this point. I lasted a semester back at my college and transferred to his school over winter break, and we've been together ever since.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@denma2015 looks like we are in the same boat this weekend for testing. I feel the same way, like I should wait longer to avoid the possibility of picking up a CP.
@kgg2241 lol lol! Your story on meeting your SO.
@nmbrcrnchr1 Totally understand. It is so hard to not let those thoughts take over.
@meatballs37 Good luck testing this week. That is such a tough feeling. Hoping for the best, but being terrified at the same time.
@coco2787 Good luck today!
@meatballs37 I can totally relate. I'm sorry amd good luck testing.
@nmbrcrnchr1 I feel exactly the same way. I just want to get to the point where I feel confident that I'm going to have a healthy baby.
Status:
WTO. FF predicts this week, but I'm not having my usual symptoms. So who knows what's actually going on.
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
I'm just so over TTC and it's only my second post-D&C cycle. I'm trying not to be a downer, but I just am not even a little bit excited to start the process all over again.
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
Nope. I'm going to try not to test early this month. I have zero self control, so we'll see how that works out for me.
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet?
We lived across the street from each other in our 20's. I'd never spoken to him, but I was definitely aware of him. So one night after way too much champagne during a girls' night, we lit a bunch of candles, flipped the breaker and a friend of mine went across the street to ask for help with our power. To our utter mortification, his mom answered the door. She told us he wasn't home, and that was that. About an hour later, there's a knock at my door. His mom sent him over with a flashlight to fix the power. Luckily we hadn't flipped the breaker back, so he was able to "fix it" for us. I told him the truth about six months later.
Status: TWW
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R?
We technically weren't supposed to be trying this month since my MC last month, but I know exactly where I am in my cycle, so we just hit it early instead of trying every day. It has been nice to be relaxed about HIO instead of it feeling like work, so my head space has been better.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope.
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? We knew each other in college, but didnt really "meet" until dinner with mutual friends... Where he ignored his GF all night and kept talking to me. It was awkward.
I'll start with the good news. Before starting the hysteroscopy my doctor did another ultrasound to check my lining and found that it had thickened appropriately from a week ago, I believe it was just under 8mm. She said it had a nice "feathered" appearance and that was what it should look like. My biggest concern was that my lining had irreparable damage, so that was a huge relief. We also saw a nice lead follicle that corresponds with the +OPK.
The procedure itself was kind of awful, they told me it only usually takes about 30 seconds (which was true with my first hysteroscopy) but it ended up being about 20 minutes and the only pain meds I had in me was the ibuprofen I had taken at home earlier. The reason it took so long was because my doctor was having a hard time getting the scope through my cervix, so she had the NP come and do an abdominal u/s at the same time so she could see where the scope was going. Even with the u/s the scope was not going through, and the doctor told me that it was likely hitting an adhesion that was blocking the opening between the cervix and the uterus as she did see some scar tissue in the areas she could get to. She didn't want to try and force it so she wasn't able to look inside my uterus. Luckily, the fact that my lining looked normal on u/s means there isn't any scar tissue or adhesions within the uterus.
The next step will most likely be to get another hysteroscopy under anesthesia and they'll cut through any adhesions, put a catheter in there and pump me full of estrogen to prevent it from coming back. Since we saw that I was close to ovulating on u/s we now know about when to expect a period, so we'll hold off on surgery at least until then. If AF shows up and I have a normal flow we'll assume that the adhesions aren't significant (or the scope managed to break it up a little) then they won't do the surgical hysteroscopy. So, best case scenario everything is okay, worst case scenario I do need some minor surgery but it should be a pretty easy fix unless they get in there and find something unexpected, but I didn't have any reason to think that would be the case. It sucks that this means more waiting for definitive answers, and that surgery will mean at least a cycle off for recovery, but I definitely can relax a little knowing that we're no where near infertility worst case scenario right now.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@ruby696 Do you feel like you can take a break? Maybe give yourself a cycle to relax and not think about it? I know everyone is different but I totally understand the pressure to TTC after a loss. Also, the way you met your spouse is totally adorable
@meatballs37 Fingers crossed for a + hpt this weekend, but it also sounds like you might enjoy another month of nothing having the anxiety of being pregnant after a loss. Either way my friend, I'm thinking of you
@nmbrcrnchr1 Have you looked into any support groups in your area of women who are pregnant after a loss? I've heard from several loss friends how much they helped them cope through the process.
@kgg2241 Your weekend sounds wonderful! Good luck HIO this week. If there's a will there's a way (SO corny, I know)
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. RPL 3 losses in 2018 @ 21 weeks, 5.5 weeks, 6.5 weeks
Status: WTO, but benched
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Today is the day I found out I was pregnant last year. Also, my 30th birthday is Friday and I'm feeling ALL of the feelings. I'm feeling sorry for myself, and feeling like I don't have anything to show for my 30 years on this earth because I've failed so terribly at having a baby. I'm also totally dreading that I'm about to have to relive the next 21 weeks of my first pregnancy. I was SO happy this time last year. And I'm SO pissed at my then-self for begin so naive. Having to dig VERY deep to find some light this week.
I'm also struggling with all of the effort I'm putting into trying to work towards an ideal cycle (ovulation on CD 14 and a 12 day LP) and am looking at another CD 18/19 O day again. I feel so out of control of my own body and that infuriates me. Esp with how hard I'm working to clean up my diet, take my vitamins/herbs/supplements, etc.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Will do more RPL testing at the end of Sept.
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? A blind date @ a sushi bar. He was such a bad boy and rode and motorcycle and talked about how he had to be in court the next day for speeding tickets and I was sure I was never going to talk to him again... Until he text me later that night and said "I had such a good time tonight. I was trying to get home quickly in order to talk to you again and.... got another speeding ticket
" and I was smitten.
Edited to correct date because apparently I don't know what year it is?
@nomangos23 I’m sorry that you have the birthday blues. Especially since it’s the first year milestone of your late term loss starting. Do you and your SO have something planned for your birthday to take your mind off it a little?
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Also, the anniversaries are so hard. I'm sorry today is one of yours.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Status:
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with this week? What is going well for you this week? R/R? Things are okay. Had fun yesterday on labor day swimming with hubby at in-law's and out to eat.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? ob/gyn annual appt next week and appt on 17th with doctor that did physical last november and education day for IVF on 25th
GTKY: How did you and your SO meet? We met online in msn chat room in April 99
@nomangos23 anniversaries are so hard *hugs*
Hi all
I had a MMC on 7/27 at 10 weeks and a follow up D&C on 8/2. I was also diagnosed with PCOS 7 years ago.
Status: 2WW. I am 10dpo. I think so anyway. With PCOS it’s mostly a crap shoot. I believe I know exactly when I ovulated this month because I am pretty sure I felt it.
Im trying not to count the days. I’m trying to wait to test on Saturday and put it out of my mind. You all can probably guess how well that’s going, lol. Today was kind of hard. Another woman at work announced she’s pregnant... again. I envy women who just get pregnant and then have healthy babies. That’s how it’s supposed to be.
GTKY: We met online. The first thing that really interested me in him was his voice. Today is our anniversary
@holly321 I hope the surgery brings you relief, I know quite a few people who have done it and it's made a huge difference. That's pretty funny you met your H on Myspace, the OG dating site
@nmbrcrnchr1 I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious about pregnancy. Loss really steals our innocence in that regard
@meatballs37 I'm glad to hear you're doing okay this week. I totally hear you on wishing I could skip the whole pregnancy thing, 9 months is such a long time to be an anxious wreck. I think a later loss makes PGAL even harder because you know it's not just about getting through 1st tri.
I love that story about how you met your SO @ruby696. I feel you on not being excited to start TTC again. It's so emotionally exhausting.
Ugh, I'm sorry about that tough anniversary and that you have to relive these tough weeks @nomangos23. Sending you lots of hugs. I wish I could say something to make it easier, but please know that you are NOT a failure. I know it's hard not to feel hopeless, but I hope you can find a way to give yourself some grace. None of this is your fault, you did everything you could to take care of your babies
Sorry about the pregnancy announcement @antera23, those are always hard to handle
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@antera23, I hope you had a nice anniversary!
@meatballs37, thank you. Some days I can handle the stress and others I feel like I am losing it
And I get the thought of almost not wanting a positive test!
Found out that my SIL, who is due about 6 weeks after I was, is having a girl, just like I was supposed to. I knew when my H was on the phone what the call was about and all I could think was “please let it be a boy”. I really didn’t expect to take it so hard, but I totally lost it. All I could think about is how our girls would have grown up together and how excited we were to be pregnant together, and now her pregnancy and baby will forever be a painful reminder of everything I was supposed to have.
I wish I could just be happy for people instead of being a Debbie downer
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
AFM, all day yesterday, I kept thing September 7th is a significant date, why? It finally hit me late last night it is the anniversary of my d&c. It is strange to think of the crazy stuff that has happened of the last year and how much has changed.
So I guess now I add CP and I have a list. MMC, CP. Wow, this f-ing blows. Dr is monitoring my levels down to zero but they were already super low (11 at 16dpo) so I'm hoping it doesnt take long. After some persuasion I got the nurse to agree to me having a meeting with him to discuss next steps. I refuse to allow this to happen again before something is done. After doing some research, I have some reason to suspect MTHFR. I'm hoping he doesn't fight me on getting the tests done but I plan to arm myself with all MY facts that are swaying my thoughts there and it may make it hard for him to say no. Even if he does, I may be able to convince my neuro to order the tests. If anyone has some sound info on the matter, could you pass it along to me? I have some things compiled from google but it's only from 2 days worth of quick searches when something pops into my head. I also dont know what sites would be considered reliable.
@coco2787 it's okay to be a Debbie downer. I'm sorry you have that reminder. I'm actually going to lunch with a friend who is due a month after me and I'm also terrified she is going to say she is having a girl. I know how much it will hurt and ugh I just can't today.
@meatballs37 nothing specifically to respond to, but you are so sweet and supportive. I love reading your responses to people.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
Ladies, I've been following along but I haven't had a chance to post. My post got super long but I don't think we've talked about MTHFR in a while so I hope my lay person knowledge will help.
@prpl11butterfly I am so sorry. Please don't feel badly about yourself for allowing some joy and hope into your life. I hope you are able to get testing that you want to do. The current standard for recurrent pregnancy loss is two losses, and my RE includes CP's. I started seeing her following an mmc and CP. On the MTHFR - there are a couple of possibilities for being "abnormal". Some people are heterozygous for one of the two mutations, which is really not a big deal, and some folks are homozygous for one of the two mutations - C677T or A1298C, and less common s compound heterozygous for both. I am homozygous for A1298C.
There was a time that drs really thought MTHFR mutations were a smoking gun for things like pregnancy loss. Despite what you might read, this is no longer a commonly accepted view. I guess partly because as genetic testing has become more common drs have realized lots and lots of people have these mutations and have zero problems with reproduction, etc. If you do have a homozygous (or the compound heterozygous) mutation you should have your homocysteine levels checked. There are TTGP grads who have various forms of these mutations who understand this stuff much better than I do and have gone on to have perfectly healthy babies.
I’m gonna try to explain it but I'm not an expert -- basically if you have these mutations your body may have difficulty turning B vitamins into stuff your body can use (and really needs). There continues to be some debate about whether or not people who have MTHFR mutations can use folic acid properly - so if you are not already the safest thing to do is to switch to a prenatal with methylfolate, a more bio-available form of folate. My RE tried to put me on just a very high dose of folic acid, saying basically if you take a lot it kind of crams through or something, but it seemed to me the safest approach is just to use the methylfolate instead. The other B vitamins - B6 and B12 - are used in the process as well so my RE supported me in adding extra B6 and B12 to my regimen. FWIW my homocysteine levels were normal when we checked them. If you have the mutation(s) it's not a bad idea to have them checked during pregnancy to make sure they stay normal. I'm including a chart of how this all works because sometimes we just need a visual aid. This is a random chart, there are a lot like it out there.
In addition to the methylfolate, B6 and B12, my RE has me on one baby aspirin a day. My clotting tests have all come back fine, but she recommends baby aspirin for women with MTHFR mutations and for RPL patients (as well as progesterone supplementation during early pregnancy, unrelated to MTHFR).
So to re-cap, if you DO have a homozygous/compound heterozygous MTHFR mutation, the prevailing medical advice is going to be, at most, to change up your folate source to methylfolate, take some extra B vitamins, and take baby aspirin. You may find some drs out there who think it is a more serious condition but it seems like this is the most common current view of how to "treat" it.
In terms of other testing to ask for -- there is a collection of tests referred to as a recurrent loss panel. It's made up of like 18 of the most common things that could cause RPL (that medically we currently understand, there are likely immune components out there that we do not yet understand or know how to test for). You might also ask for a saline sono or HSG to rule out uterine abnormalities. I think it's good to ask for these things after two losses to rule out anything that is causing the losses that could actually be treated. I'll be honest, the vast majority of us test totally normal or with minor things like MTHFR mutations (I also had a slight vitamin D insufficiency) and have no explanations after testing. I still was glad we did all the testing when we did because I knew there was not some way to prevent further loss.
The most common reason for loss is genetic issues - and that's something that unfortunately the medical community does not have a lot of ability to deal with yet, aside from IVF with PGS, which remains a somewhat controversial treatment plan given that many women with even three or more losses will go on to have a successful pregnancy without intervention. It really bums me out how little can be done for all of us.
@meatballs37 I agree. There are so many things I think doctors should do for their patients who are trying to get pregnant. Testing should happen after one miscarriage if not before a couple tries to get pregnant! I feel like most doctors just don’t get it. They see loss so often that it’s not that big of a deal to them but to us it’s a huge deal. It’s our hopes and dreams for the future.
@prpl11butterfly I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s just not fair
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022