Anyone still out there?
DH and I are pretty sure 2 kids is the right number for us. We had discussed 2 year spacing and starting TTC in August. That's feeling pretty close right now so I'm thinking more about it. My motivations for having kids close together were mainly 'knocking out' the baby years, hoping for sibling closeness and ease of family activities (I know it isn't guaranteed but I feel it may be easier to agree on family activities with say a 4 and 6 year old vs. a 4 and 9 year old). DH also worries about his age and I feel that is his primary motivation for wanting a shorter age gap.
However, I have a 3 year age gap with my brother that I think worked well for our family. DH also has a 3 year age gap with his sister and they are close. While we could definitely make things work with a 2 year age gap, I feel like my primary motivations for waiting longer would be financial (fewer years paying for 2 kids in daycare at once=more spending & saving flexibility between children & more projects around the house we could accomplish), and I'm also having some more emotional feelings.. we'll only have 1 child once, I worry about changing that dynamic for her as well.
I am wondering how everyone else who wants 2 or more children has come to these decisions? What pros and cons are you weighing?