Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Product Spotlight: Baby Monitors
DH is determined not to buy anything new for #2, but I can't help but want all the cool toys!
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
So if anyone is wondering if they really need one, no, you don't, although I'm sure they come in handy.
A monitor is low on the priority list. If we get one, I absolutely will not get one that connects to wifi, because those have been known to be hacked and then weirdos are watching your child. Plus - non wifi ones are probably cheaper!
This is the one I use. It says you can use it over wifi or cellular, but I've never had any luck using it other than with a wifi network. you basically load it onto your iphone and ipad (should only have to pay once if you have the same account on both) and pair the parent /child devices. We used this as our only video monitor for awhile. No fancy IR camera so it doesn't really work for video at night, but it worked fine for naps and as an audio monitor otherwise.
https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/best-baby-monitor/id432791399?mt=8&ign-mpt=uo=4
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
We also have the Summer Infant In View, which was much more reasonably priced, but definitely lesser quality. We’ve had lots of issues with the camera being “out of range” despite not having a large house. Planning to re-buy the Infant Optics for lo #2!
My sister had a baby 9 days ago. Her pediatrician said you will hear your baby if they need you and that video monitors stop the baby from self soothing because parent intervention. I co sleep with my son until he was 1.5 so I’m not one to talk, but that’s what my sisters pediatrician told her in Southern California.
- Arlo video security camera (now they have some that are baby monitor specific). We have a couple of these around the house and love them, especially being able to check in when we are away. My understanding is different WiFi cameras have different settings and this one is not hackable because is closed or something. Also I think having a password on your WiFi helps with that but I am definitely not an expert. This one is compatible with Alexa though we sometimes have an issue getting our Show to display her room.
- some sort of Summer Infant video monitor. I wanted to be able to just have a screen with her on it all the time without having to open an app and this worked well. It was decent enough and on a great sale when I bought it but 2yrs later and the parent handheld thing won’t hold a charge. Will probably buy another type next time
- also had a vtech audio monitor that had a better range than the summer infant video.
- semi related: owlet baby vital monitor thing. We were gifted this by SIL and we absolutely loved it. I let her use it for her 2 kids and if it’s not working anymore I would probably be willing to buy a replacement
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
I have a friend that had the AngelCare motion/video monitor. She liked it and might even still use it with her 3yo.
I unplugged it that day and bought a closed system digital monitor. We have the Summer Infant Pixel and I have no complaints.
June 2016 - CP
2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
IVF w/ PGS - January 2018
FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
ERA Cycle May / June 2018
ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP
U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
EDD March 28, 2019
Baby Girl born 3/26/19
Not sure we’ll need a monitor for this kid yet since he’ll be sleeping directly next to me at night. If he naps well in his crib during then day then we’d probably consider upgrading our IO to a newer version.
DS1: 9.6.12**DS2: 12.22.14
CP1: 6/17 @4w4d
CP2: 9/17 @4w3d
CP3: 2/18 @5w
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Infant Optics DXR-8 Pan/Tilt/Zoom 3.5" Video Baby Monitor with Interchangeable Optical lens https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00ECHYTBI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_C.OIBbY6PXSFE
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
-it’s a summer infant one of some kind. I’m sure it’s an older model as it $75 on clearance at Walmart. It works fine and we still use it to this day. I’m sure the quality compared to some isn’t great but we can definitely see him at night and during naps so it’s great for what we need. I have no idea if it has attachments for a second monitor I kinda doubt it.
-A friend recently told me that she got a very expensive WiFi one for her shower gift she was very excited about! But one day while she was changing her son the entire camera turned to look at them. She obviously freaked out turned it off and hasn’t used it since. Just be careful with WiFi type monitors.
Here is the newer model: https://summerinfant.com/monitors/video-monitors/in-view-2-0-color-video-monitor?gclid=Cj0KCQjwlK7cBRCnARIsAJiE3MhS8hZmw5wVHYRCkzOW_GHDIL4huA8cEgrBMNQcD4hMhCcJhxnJ2WYaAhcHEALw_wcB
It isn't anything super fancy, but it gets the job done and we can hook more than one camera up if we decide to continue using it with DS and the new baby. So, we won't be buying anything new. I completely agree with @lovesclimbing in regards to wifi. I specifically bought something that is not wifi enabled because of hackers. A quick google search will show you how easy and common it is.
While I agree that you don't necessarily *need* a monitor, I use mine all the time. I exercise in our room above the garage during DS's nap and I would never hear him cry if I didn't use it. Same goes for when I'm doing yard work. So, if you have a larger house, I definitely think you will get a lot of use out of it. Just make sure to check the camera/ monitor range.
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
I did not get a video camera right when 5yo was born, we thought it was frivolous. Fast forward to her transitioning to a big girl bed and I wondered constantly just what she was doing in there. The video monitor was worth its weight in gold at that point.
@indigoheightsblog we have an arlo that we use as a baby monitor and I think it’s supposed to be very similar to a nest cam.
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016