FTM check-in w/o 8/29

ab_canada · August 2018

How far along are you?

Any appointment updates?

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

ab_canada · August 2018

How far along are you?
26+4

Any appointment updates?
Just did my 1-hour GD test. Honestly, did not think the drink was that bad. But the baby got really hyper!

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

It's sort of amazing that we are almost in the third trimester. I know The Bump says it starts at 28 weeks but I know some people start counting from 25/26 weeks..

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
I can't remember how exactly it started because it was over a year ago (well, really we talked about kids throughout the relationship - I mean more of the "let's have a baby now" type of conversation"). I think I brought it up because I was considering moving roles and had to decide if that would make sense timing-wise. But the surprising part was that DH was basically waiting for me to give the green light whenever I was ready. Now we are just having the "what have we done" type of moments

hkom · August 2018

How far along are you?
26-1

Any appointment updates?

Nope, just the weekly ultrasounds on Mondays

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

I'm feeling a little bit better mentally than I was yesterday, so that's good. I was pretty sulky/weepy yesterday.
The IV lady they had come in today to get a new location was freaking flawless and she got a good site in fast on the first try. I hope it sticks and doesn't cause any problems because I am REALLY sick of being stuck with giant needles.

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
Before we got married last year we had definitely discussed that we wanted kids, but not anything in terms of timing other than it would be relatively soon since we had already been together for over 5 years and had been living together in our house for over 1.5 years (didn't feel like we needed time to enjoy being "just a couple") and I turned 30 last year (wanted to reduce any potential age-related fertility issues as much as possible).
As soon as we got married in October, H was like "let's start trying!" We had a month between our wedding and honeymoon, so I convinced him to wait so I could freely drink gobs of Aussie wine without having to worry, and so I could get on a new and better insurance plan to start in January and have some time to research and find a new doctor. He was cool with all of that, so I got the first appointment available to get my IUD removed at the beginning of February, and here I am!

echo-charlietango · August 2018

@ab_canada I didn’t think that the drink was bad either! I opted for orange - it was surprisingly neutral.

@hkom I’m happy that you’re feeling better today!

How far along are you?

25 weeks today!

Any appointment updates?

Had a good normal appointment after drinking my glucose! Baby was wiggly, our hearts both sounded good, and I gained 6lbs in four weeks (biggest gain so far).

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

Dear Diary, today I asked my OB about electing for a due date induction - he's supportive! We talked about how it's better than going overdue, and how induction doesn't mean c-section. 12/12 falls on a Wednesday, and that works for him so we'll talk about it more and schedule it in November. Yay!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
It's been mostly me. Before we properly met (we wrote to each other for months while he was deployed) I warned him that I wasn't on birth control, and that I could change that. We were NTNP from day one. The next time he deployed we were married, I told him that I wanted to get trying because I was concerned about my fertility. So I quit smoking, and started taking prenatals while he was gone, but when he came back he wasn't feeling it anymore. So I waited as long as I could before getting really sad, and he said he was ready to give it a go - BUT he was constantly traveling for work, and was often only home for Shark Week and away when I ovulated. Once he stopped traveling as much it still took us 12 months to miscarry, and that's what did it for him. The devastation of the loss made him realize that he really was ready, so the next months of TTC were better for me because he was just as anxious during the TWW and just as sad every time AF came around.
Luckily we have had plenty of time to discuss all kinds of family plans. We'll obviously have this one, and if we need another, we'll adopt. Kind of sucks that all of our friends' kids are older, so he won't have anybody his age to play with (that we don't already know) but I guess that's just what happens when you start trying later than your community.

hkom · August 2018

@echo-charlietango So glad you made it through that crazy journey and are here now!!

echo-charlietango · August 2018

@hkom Me too. I realized earlier that I miswrote - our LO will have one same age friend! A few days ago DH found out that some of our best friends are pregnant and due in March (

/

) they got pregnant easily, so I'm a little jealous - but not too bitter - just happy that LO already has a "cousin" on the way

countrygirl624 · August 2018

How far along are you?
26 weeks 5 days

Any appointment updates?
I have an appt today to measure belly and hear sweet baby girl’s heartbeat!

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
I can’t believe next weeks marks the third trimester! I never thought I’d get here after two consecutive losses so it seems incredibly surreal. I feel extremely anxious when I think about how much my life and my marriage will change. DH is anxious and feeling the same way. I am confident that despite the difficulties of navigating a newborn and a new lifestyle everything will be fine. We’re both intelligent, hard working people - we’ll figure it out! Haha

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

Lots of conversations about children from the very beginning as my husband already had a son when I met him who was 5 at the time. I was definitely the one pushing him to start trying. He actually wasn’t ready (he’s 3.5 years younger) but got him to agree to start trying a few months after I turned 33. We got pregnant fairly quickly the first time and he was freaking out about the timing and then we miscarried at 12 weeks. My grandpa passed away during that time and it was really difficult - we were also in the process of moving into our house we had just built. There was too much happening all at once. We took a break and I didn’t even bring it up for several months then asked him if we could start trying again. We got pregnant again and found out Dec of last year a few weeks before Christmas and decided not to tell anyone. I think the second miscarriage was harder for both of us. I miscarried middle of January and we were both devistated but it happened quickly thankfully. After my next period was over I asked him when he wanted to start trying again and we got into a big fight. He wanted to wait and told me I was pressuring him and I told him I felt like I was running out of time and didn’t think we would be able to have a baby at this point. I was convinced something was wrong with me. He had no idea about AMA and thought I was being dramatic when I told him we were running out of time since I was turning 35 in less than 6 months. Then he googled it and apologized and said he did want a baby with me more than anything. By this time I had thought we had already missed our window to conceive and had already planned on trying the next cycle. But God is full of surprises - we actually conceived shortly after that big fight with baby girl!! He’s still worried about taking care of baby as his ex was and still is a terrible Mother and he got no help from her when they were together. But I told him I think he’s going to be surprised how different this experience will be. We are definitely excited to meet our sweet girl!!

morgantu · August 2018

This GTKY is so interesting! Good one, @ab_canada! Also, yes, it is so crazy the 3rd tri is coming up! I feel like it's getting so real!

@hkom Hope you're in good spirits again today, and yay for a good iv, finally!

@echo-charlietango i'm sorry if you've explained this somewhere else, but why are you looking at a due date induction? Because of the baby health reasons? I didn't know what was an option!

@countrygirl624 hope your appointment is fun today! I am also feeling apprehensive about how things will be once the baby is here. but like i have been saying to H, dumber and poorer people have done this and raised fine humans. If we're making decisions based on thoughtfulness and reason, we will be ok.

How far along are you?
25 today! AS big as a baseball glove or a prairie dog lol

Any appointment updates?
Nothing going on other than GD test until end of sept.

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

Ummmmm. it's not 5 billion degrees here today so I'm really glad about it (we go back to the surface of the sun tomorrow though). I am ready for fall!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

I wasn't sure I wanted kids at all and H definitely did, so we started talking about it before we were even engaged. It was a dealbreaker for him. As we talked through it, i realized that it wasn't that I didn't want kids at all, I just didn't want to try to parent with the other idiots i had dated. I wanted to make sure the person I parented with was going to understand the need for equal partnership and not have gendered expectations for parenting duties. Once H and I talked through that, I was ready to go. We started actively trying in July 2017 because I had turned 30 and was feeling a little age pressure (i want to be done having kids by 35). We got pregnant in Nov and miscarried in december; and my grief at the process solidified the fact that I actually do want to have kids. We got pregnant again in march and here we are! It's been a very open conversation from the beginning, but I was more of the one to be like "ok, let's do this thing"

ab_canada · August 2018

So many interesting stories from the GTKY conversation. I am very glad for everyone here, since it sounds like it hasn't always been easy.

Also, the glucose drink gave me an allergic reaction (I think I'm allergic to the orange dye - I've noticed it before), so now I'm all itchy.. Good thing I know I can use benadryl while pregnant.

@echo-charlietango I don't think 6lb in four weeks is too bad! That's only 1.5lb per week. I am fairly certain that's within the expected range. I think I've gained more than that in some of the appointments but I am trying not to do the math - it seems easier

I figure I will just keep going to the gym and try to eat healthy (and not too much!) and it should all work out in the end.

hannelorre · August 2018

@echo-charlietango @morgantu there was actually a paper just published in New England journal of medicine for induction at 39 weeks vs expectant management for low risk nulliparous (FTM). The trial is called ARRIVE and has interesting data.

I'll come back and do other questions later when I have more time.

tumbleweed-1 · August 2018

I’ve really enjoyed reading everyone’s GTKY, this is a fun one this week

How far along are you?
23+2, baby is around 12” long now!

Any appointment updates?
I have a follow up a/s tomorrow. Baby wasn’t cooperative the first time and they didn’t get a good look at everything.

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
I’ve been lurking more than participating because of work and being tired when I get home from work. It’s our licensing month, which means annual check ins from various health and safety inspectors and paper work. Our licensing visit was this week (making sure the center follows all of the laws) and it went really well! (We didn’t think it wouldn’t, just high stress all around. It’s hard enough work caring for all the children without having the suits come in and watch over our shoulders to make sure we are doing it correctly!)

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
I’ve always been the initiator of let’s have a baby talk, since we began dating 8 years ago. (Not that I began the talk then, lol) We’ve also always been cohabiting because we were roommates before we started dating. We both want kids, and I made it clear that if I was getting pregnant and having biological children that I wanted to start that before I’m 30. (I’ll be 29 when baby is born-unless he comes before December) But we never felt “ready”- despite waves of baby fever I’d occasionally get, but I work with infants, so I get a baby fix that way, lol.
(Potential TW paragraph- m/c & other people’s babies) We had an unplanned pregnancy a couple years ago, and just when we were starting to be ok with being parents finally, I’d had a missed miscarriage. In a cruel twist of fate we almost lost our cat just after I discovered I was pregnant. Hundreds of vet bills later, she pulled through, but I think the stress got to me too much. Right after my m/c, my sister and one of SO’s step sisters became pregnant with their 2cd kids. A year after what would have been our due date, other SO step sister had her first baby. I was upset by all of their babies, but SO still wasn’t “ready”. (End TW)
As for THIS conversation that put us here now, neither of us started the conversation! A good friend said they were trying for their 2cd, and they wanted a kid friend the same age. Also, she felt like it was “my turn” to have a baby. SO & I talked it over alone and decided that no time in the past 8 years felt “right”, and arguably no time in the next 8 will either, and we both do want children, so we just shrugged and said ok. We started NTNP in January, and here we are... I still think “holy crap, what am I doing?!” sometimes.

whitneyb89 · August 2018

How far along are you?
25+5

Any appointment updates?
Not at the moment. Glucose test being done next week. I'm glad to hear others say the drink didn't taste that bad!

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

Ugh, I hate being at the point where you're supposed to keep an eye on signs for things such as pre term labor.. I feel like I'm always paranoid and hate if I'm ever experiencing anything I should be calling my doctor for. Anyone else feel the same?

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
Hm, I can't say my husband and I ever sat down and had this conversation. Honestly, we didn't even discuss kids until after marriage, (which if I ever was to give advice to anyone before they got married, it would be to have this discussion!) to which I found out my husband was wanting to wait quite some time before having kids, where I was thinking we would have them maybe a year it so getting married.
Obviously, you couldn't force anyone into a major life choice like that, so I went with it for awhile. After a couple years, I started bringing up the topic more often and every time, he would shoot it down. It got to the point where I was really wanting kids and he just wasn't ready, which led to many arguments to follow. A couple more years go by and one day, he just gave up on the idea of using protection, which took me by surprise. I was anxious, because I believed I would finally have a chance to get pregnant. However, that's when I found out that not everyone can get pregnant that easily. Several months turned into a year, then a year and a half (which at this point I started investating what could be keeping anything from happening) and then before I knew it, the two year mark was coming up. At that point, I was seriously thinking I wasnt going to get pregnant, at least not with any help. However, at the beginning of April, I was expecting my menstrual cycle and it never arrived. I found out I was pregnant exactly on the two year mark of my husband and I "trying".

hannelorre · August 2018

How far along are you?

24.3

Any appointment updates?
Nothing until 28 wk appt in couple weeks. I'll have my GD screening then too.

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

I have been so tired last couple weeks. I come home from work and just pass out. If I drink more coffee, then I just get headachy and also crampy.

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
We've had couple of different iterations of "the talk". I think MH has always been more ready but he waited for me. I still didn't/don't feel ready but knew I did want kids and didnt want to wait too long since I'm in my mid30s already... so I said let's do it and here we are.

binxybaby · August 2018

This is definitely a great GTKY! I love hearing all of your different journeys!

How far along are you?
26 + 4

Any appointment updates?
My appointment this week went pretty well. This is only the second time I've seen this new OB and I really like her so far. My only complaint is that I can sometimes process a little more slowly (especially while pregnant) so I didn't quite get everything she said about pelvic checks. I had my 28 week labs (despite being 26 weeks). That's the glucose screening (aced it!), check for anemia, and check for syphilis bizarrely. I'm not sure why 28 weeks is when they check for that particular STD, but whatevs. I am now onto 2 week appointments, which is insane.

R/R/Q/DD?
I'm going to Vegas this weekend for my baby moon/see family. Pretty excited!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
I am full-on baby crazy. Have been since I was 19. It was definitely a huge deal breaker for me if my future spouse did not want to have kids or wanted to wait a long time to have kids. So, pretty early on in my relationship with DH, I was clear that I wanted babies STAT. I will say I was pretty insufferable about it. DH wasn't ready by any means, but assured me he did want to have one child.

Fast forward to 2017. I discontinued my birth control and other meds. We got married in July 2017 and we casually talked about when we'd start trying. We both agreed within the first 6 months to a year (yay!), but anytime I brought the subject up, he'd say he didn't want to talk about it or that it was "bedtime." I like to have my serious talks after 8 pm lol.

So, we scheduled a time to game plan. Seriously. We sat down over coffee on a Sunday morning and planned out when we'd start trying, what time of year we'd like to have a baby (autumn), whether we wanted our baby to be the oldest or youngest in their class if they had a late summer/early fall birthday, etc. We decided to start trying in January 2018. I began using the Glow and Fertility Friend apps to chart my periods, symptoms, etc. I bought a pack of ovulation strips and we tried for the first time in January. No such luck.

I have longer cycles (40-45 days) so I spent over a month researching the crap out of TTC. By the time March rolled around, I was ready. So, armed with my apps, basal body thermometer, ovulation strips, PreSeed, and sticking my legs up in the air, we got pregnant.

Reading back on all this, I probably should take a major chill pill. Perhaps that will be my New Year's resolution for 2019 lol.

ab_canada · August 2018

@tumbleweed-1 Haha, the "no time in the next 8 years will feel right either" is basically how I told myself it was time. I thought at some point I would just feel ready, but that wasn't happening. About a year and a half ago I would have said was a good time because I didn't like my job very much, but I moved to this role shortly after and we decided to wait a little bit. Ironically, I absolutely love this job and don't want to leave it, but my boss already said they will try to work it out so I can come back to the same team.

@whitneyb89 It was a shock to me as well that you don't just get pregnant the first month you've stopped birth control. And I had no idea how common MCs were until a friend of mine had one late last year. I guess people prefer not to talk about it, but my friend was pretty open and I think it helped prepare me a little bit better in case something went wrong.

@binxybaby Haha, sounds like with all of your worries, you got pregnant pretty much right away! And I am sure your baby fever will lighten up when you have your baby in your arms

And then probably start again when LO "gets so big" around 2-3 years old.

binxybaby · August 2018

@ab_canada Pregnancy has quelled my baby fever a lot lol. Something about morning sickness, back pain, and struggling to breathe has for some reason made me feel like I can easily wait for a second. But, I'm sure it'll hit again when he's 2-3 just like you mentioned

mag1cbeli3ver · August 2018

How far along are you?
26+6!

Any appointment updates?
OB appt yesterday went well! Baby bean kept kicking the doppler want while she was looking for the heartbeat! I could not stop laughing! Did my GD screening this morning. Since I did it at an external site and with it being the holiday weekend, I won't hear anything until Tuesday at the earliest. Plus my OB said they only call if I fail, so, here's to hoping I don't get a phone call from them! Now onto every other week appointments (I have all my OB appts scheduled until my planned ML

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

Tomorrow is Sept. 1st, baby bean's EDD is Dec. 1st, so I'm officially declaring myself in the 3rd trimester as of tomorrow!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
We talked about kids before getting married and both knew we wanted them. I was going through my Master's right after marriage and some other stuff happened, but then we started TTC about 3 years after we were married. The first year we werentw exactly hardcore in our attempts. After being unsuccessful, I told DH I was ready to take it more seriously so we started tracking and such. 2 years later, no luck. By then I was almost 29 and I told DH that we needed to see a fertility specialist bc I didn't want to go too far in my 30's and have him be too far in his 40's (he's 8.5 years older than me) without being pregnant. We had our 1st appointment the day after my 29th birthday.
Then we did the IF thing for 4 years. I'll spare you the sob story, but the procedures we did are in my signature spoiler if you're interested. It was exhausting and expensive, to say the least! After our ectopic in December, we had one frozen embryo left and decided it would be our last ditch effort to conceive a baby that was biologically ours. If it didn't work, we would move on to adoption. Well, they did an FET on pi day, and here we are at just about 27 weeks!! I don't know if we'll ever do the IF thing again, so our only hope is a miracle natural baby. But so thankful to be here with all of you!!!

ab_canada · August 2018

@mag1cbeli3ver Wow, that sounds like an incredibly long and difficult journey. I am glad it worked out and you are here!

hannelorre · August 2018

@mag1cbeli3ver I'm so glad it worked out and you're here! Congrats on getting to the 3rd trimester too! Woo!

scaredunprepared · September 2018

Just want to say how grateful I am for all you lovely ladies in this group, and my heart goes out to the many of you who've suffered losses and miscarriages. So happy you're all here! Wouldn't be the same without you.

How far along are you?
23+5

Any appointment updates?
No real updates, but looks like I SHOULD be good too finally get my follow up anatomy scan on Wednesday. Taken a while, but I think we figured out a way to afford it/ payment plan with the hospital.

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

House sale went through, closing was yesterday, we are officially moved out of the old house, changing our address and the whole shebang. One stressful life event down, 2 to go!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?
Early on in the relationship it came up. SO wanted kids and I definitely did not. Fast forward to years later after his friends have kids and "hate their lives", SO decides he doesn't want kids anymore, and of course by then I've come around to the idea of having a child of my own. Discussion was had, argument ensued, and we put the whole thing on pause. I went off birth control about4 years ago due to issues it was causing with my hormones, and we didn't exactly take precautions since then. Not TRYING to conceive, but not actively NOT trying. SO says he's only "slipped up" once, and apparently that was enough, because here we are! SO came around to the idea, and I think though he won't admit it, he's excited to be a father. He's so great with my nieces and his friends' daughters, I can't wait to see him with his own baby girl. Honestly, with my hormone and thyroid issues, I thought it might not be in the cards for us, so as much as we were unprepared and surprised, I feel blessed and I know it happened exactly the way it was supposed to.

mag1cbeli3ver · September 2018

@scaredunprepared So much good news! Congrats on finishing up things with the old house! And so glad you at least worked somwsomet out with insurance so you can do the follow-up AS! Hopefully no more insurance woes!

mag1cbeli3ver · September 2018

@ab_canada and @hannelorre thanks ladies!!

scaredunprepared · September 2018

@mag1cbeli3ver thank you, it's been exciting and crazy. I hope billing/ insurance goes smoothly for all of us!

hannelorre · September 2018

@scaredunprepared gah speaking of insurance, I've been getting fewer bills than I expected so far and that makes me so nervous! Fingers crossed that it does go smoothly for all of us!

blueberry2mommy25 · September 2018

Wow. Amazing stories everyone. It's a journey for sure. Cant imagine the frustration and pain. Me, and my impatient and naive self tried for 2months and was already losing hope and getting pissed! It's crazy lmao. Smh. I went through so many urine tests!!! A friend, just a crazy as me, reminded me to get the dollar store pregnancy tests cuz I had been spending way too much on the walgreens or CVS tests lmao. Thank God for supportive friends lol

blueberry2mommy25 · September 2018

How far along are you?
I am 23 weeks today! Yay. It's still surreal

Any appointment updates?
Did my a/s four weeks ago, everything was great. Went to my ob appointment this Friday that just passed and my OB didnt have my results. Ok great...thanks for nothing. I'm still anxiously waiting. The u/s tech had been amazing during the a/s though and she walked us through it so I'm hoping everything is well.

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

Hmmmm...
Dear diary
I'm pregnant, my hubby has an injured leg from a work accident that he needed surgery on and now we're both somewhat not our best selves.
I want to strangle hubby somedays cuz he's such a big baby. OmG.but so am I! Lmao we just cant both be like this. Ahhhhhh

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

Been together 11yrs total but he always talked about it and we flirted with the idea but whenever one was ready the other would be like "but is it the best time?!" Lol we really balance each other out. Until we got married and we said we would wait a year to start but we just couldn't anymore. I wanted it everytime we saw a baby and he would get so gooey eyed when he saw kids, we went for it, three months after our wedding. God had us wait longer. We tried and conceived 6months later.

kadeephd · September 2018

A little late to the party this week. I agree with others, great GTKY.

How far along are you?

26+1

Any appointment updates?

Nope!

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?

None really, just saving my breath for this last question!

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

Prior to meeting my husband I was in a serious relationship for a few years. That man did not want to have children, I did, and it was the subject of many tear-filled (on my part) discussions. We split up around the same time I started working at the school where I met my husband, partially for the kids reason and partially for other reasons. I was trying out online dating and not having much success when a coworker suggested that my husband and I would be a good match. I'd never really considered it since he is 2 years younger, which seemed like a lot at 27. The last guy had been four years older than me and I assumed I should try to find someone older if I wanted kids. Well, the power of suggestion got to me and we starting dating (well, drunkenly hooking up at first). I told him basically the first time that I wanted to get married and have kids within the next few years and that if he didn't see that as a possibility we should stop

. He made no promises, but wasn't totally opposed and we didn't stop. He proposed after about 2 years of dating. After we'd been married about 6 months I went of bc so I could try to get a sense of what was going on with my cycles. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 19 and had very irregular cycles at the time. I'd been on bc since then. For basically a year and a half I just tracked my cycles, which were more regular than I expected, and towards the end started using ovulation strips to see if I was actually ovulating. We used condoms. I brought up the baby conversation a few times, like when we should actively start trying, and he wasn't ready. He didn't want our lives to change whereas I was terrified it would take forever to get pregnant and wanted to try soon. Well, I got a little overconfident with my cycle tracking and we started to have unprotected sex when I thought I was safely not fertile. I found out I was pregnant exactly 2 years and 2 days from the day he proposed, after we got back from a trip to Mexico. He was surprisingly on board from the beginning and even said that if I miscarried he'd be ready to try for real after we were out of the Zika 6 month wait period. The beginning was very stressful with Zika testing and just not having planned for it, but after negative Zika results and no miscarriage, I started to feel a lot better. So that's my long story! I really feel for your ladies who had long TTC paths. That was honestly what I had envisioned for us, so in the end I'm really grateful that it worked out this way. Despite really wanting kids, like @countrygirl624 I am still very nervous about how everything will change with a baby. Fear of the unknown, I guess.

scaredunprepared · September 2018

@kadeephd like you, I expected a struggle to conceive with my hormone issues, if I was able to at all. Surprise! I'm definitely excited and grateful, but still incredibly nervous (terrified) since we don't feel prepared at all!

donnawicks · September 2018

How far along are you?
25 + 5

Any appointment updates?
Nothing till 20th Sept have my first growth scan

Rants/Raves/Questions/Dear Diary?
Moving house in a month and omg I have never felt so heavy and round before so glad I'm starting now I should be done by the time we move

GTKY: Who in the relationship began the "let's have a baby" conversation? How did it go? Or did you have one at all?

DH has always wanted kids even when we were dating then he went off it for about 2 years in the middle of our relationship and started wanting them again just before we got married I've always been a it will happen when it's supposed to happen sort of person so I just went along with it whenever we would both properly discuss it we thought 25 was a good age to get pregnant anyway fast forward a year and a half from our wedding and I stopped the birth control we decided if I went back to study why not try for a baby so we did and not long after things went back to normal there I found out i was pregnant

it's been weird aswell DH said I'd be pregnant at our friends wedding which it turns out I was that i would find out while he was over seas visiting his mum which happened and that our friends whose wedding we attended would also be pregnant (they were also trying) and they were!! (I'm due 6 days before her) He just needs to get me those lotto numbers now

ab_canada · September 2018

@donnawicks
I love that you have a friend due around the same time! I have a couple of friends who are either trying or will soon. So although we can't share the experience at the same time, we may still have babies around the same age, which is nice

donnawicks · September 2018

@ab_canada yea especially since we are both ftm it's awesome to have someone going through it all and feeling the same things you are some days we just get together and freak out

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