I now get to work from home on Monday's...except we have a vendor in today so I have to be here. I'm miserable and just want to go home. Just walking to the cafeteria (which isn't that far) left me out of breath and feeling crappy.
Not a BF per say, I'm just whiney... there is so much baby stuff in our living room and I storage and the basement reno still isnt done which means I have no place to put anything!! I really wanted to at least wash and organize clothes today but have 5 loads of laundry to play catch up on first so baby clothes is on pause. The house is just a wreck and its gonna drive me nuts. I'd normally bust ass and get what I can done but body doesnt want to do anything anymore.... thankfully DH has already stepped in to help with Laundry switch over because I cant bend to take things out of the dryer or reach over the top of the washer!
Last night I was commenting how much I got done in the nursery this weekend and DH responded with "I thought we were done in there". I commented how it's not ready for baby yet, given the crib is full of random stuff and I've been working in it all weekend. I then tried to casually mention how I had listed some items on our "To Do" white board I'd like him to do when he has time. His response was "oh I thought that was stuff you're doing today." I pointed out it's all stuff that is getting harder for me to do: wash dishes (standing kills my back), vacuum and mop the back landing, change the sheets. He scoffed at cleaning the landing, so I pointed out it's filthy and has spider webs and it needs to be cleaned up. Seriously, that will take you 10 min. It's hard for me to bend over. I then pointed out how I cleaned the bathroom the other day and how that was hard enough for me.
@mamabearcj i feel you...this was my bed yesterday after folding almost a week's worth of laundry. our older two boys do the laundry, but i still do most of the folding and really dislike that part, so this is a fairly normal occurrence in our house. but a week is too long to wait to fold laundry for six people. (and this is without baby laundry and cloth diapers added in). also, there are more piles that did not fit in the shot...i was too lazy to stand up and get them all.
I had a lot I wanted to get done this weekend and I feel like I didn't end up doing anything. We had a friend's birthday party Friday and by the time I did that, I was exhausted the rest of the weekend. And I'm still super tired today.
I'm feeling the same way as everyone else. Everything is so hard and exhausting. And now since I feel so useless and we have so much to do my mind is racing and I can't fall asleep. I feel like I'm stuck in positive feed back loop.
We did all the kids Back to School clothes shopping. Yesterday we got a bunch of the baby stuff down from the attic (infant car seat, newborn/preemie clothes, swaddle blankets, change pad). Today I’m going to wipe things down and see which of the clothes need to be rewashed.
I’m able to log in, so that’s something for this gloomy Monday. But I still have a BF.
My bra has been uncomfortable for months, to the point of bruising my torso where the underwire sits. I’ve been sucking it up because money was tight. Friday I finally caved, drove 45 minutes to my hometown because it has a specialty store that I’ve shopped at for years. The lady asked if I wanted the same bra and I said sure. She had trouble sizing it at first because she wanted to size it so that it fit with the hooks and straps at their tightest, so I could let the them out as I get bigger. She came back with a different bra and said it might be better, it was a little less bulky so might be easier to grow in. I said sure and bought it. I was in there for 5 minutes.
Within 5 minutes of leaving, I regretted it. As soon as I lifted my arms to drive, the whole thing started to feel like a corset. The underwire seemed to be stabbing me in my armpit too. She was very specific that they don’t do returns, which I understand, so I told myself to try it before I panicked. I ripped the damn thing off by the time I got home.
The next day I loosened everything. Last hook, straps as long as they’ll go. I was desperate for it to just not be painful, I could handle uncomfortable. I didn’t make it through the day. I had marks in my armpits where the wire stabbed me. Today I pulled out my old bra that bruised me and I’m trying to call the shop.... and no ones answering! I drove 45 minutes to get there and dropped $60 on this bra. You better believe they’re going to exchange it for me!!
@sammierose464 What is with that comment, "oh, I thought we were done in there." I got that same comment from DH on Saturday and it sent me into a RAGE. He kept on about how I needed to focus on how much we have done versus what needed to be done. Can't they just humor us?
@krzyriver that is lousy. i hope they respond well. if they do not do returns then they should be sure that they are getting you an appropriate fit, which she clearly did not do. good luck!!
@norahkate Finally got a hold of them. I'm assuming the lady must be new or something, cause they seemed to be trying to get me to come back in and return it when she wouldn't be in the store. Which is fine with me, I hate awkward encounters, but I hope they're planning to retrain her or something. They told me to ask for a certain person, who is the owner if I remember correctly. She's amazing, she's fit me for every maternity bra, my wedding bra, and even my bra for prom. So I'll be comfortable SOON! Lol.
+1 for being tired and miserably failing on to-do lists for the weekend.
My BF is that my back is killing me and I just want it to stop. And my eyes are burning today from dryness, I didn't sleep well, so overall I'm a hot mess today, and waddling around at a snail's pace. My boss noticed I was on the struggle bus today, so at least I've got some sympathy there since she's been there, done that lol.
I only got 2 hours of sleep last night and I am exhausted. I was gonna call out today but another doctor called out because on Saturday he had an emergency gall bladderectomy. OBVIOUSLY his takes precedence but I am SO EFFING TIRED. How am I supposed to doctor today?
Stressing over how much needs to be done. Dh and I were chatting in bed about it last night and it was a good conversation but of course I wasn't writing any of it down lol I am sitting on the couch and just turned Netflix on to do stuff on my computer (price match stuff we didn't get at the shower plus find out what we want to return /exchange) and I don't even want to grab my laptop. I love seeing all of the wonderful showers with 40+ people and yet it makes me want to cry as I had a total of 15 people at two showers and extended family is all butt heads. So I know it was better they didn't come and won't send a gift but it makes me weepy - thanks hormones - that we don't have as much family support as we could.
Just measured and the bassinet we were going to get won't fit next to the bed and leave enough room for one of us to walk out of the room easily. 20 inches wide and 34-37 long isn't that large of a bassinet! Our room is too small to shift out bed and switching sides wouldn't help much either.
My body is so done. Im exhausted and everything aches.
These words ^ This morning I slept until 6:30 and finally got up at 7. I picked up the weekend mess around the house, baked some pumpkin cinnamon rolls, and ran to Walmart. All in 2.5 hrs. Now I am so done. I don’t think I can do another thing the rest of the day. Nap time!
I manage 1 person and normally we get along great but today, all she has done is keep asking me questions. I don't know, go figure it out! Leave me alone! Take the 5 minutes to think it through instead of picking up the phone to call me.
@lest12 someone im'd me today asking me to email them a file they could easily look up in our company's document repository. Uh uh, I don't play that game. Gave him the doc # instead. But seriously, could we attempt to look it up ourselves first??
@lest12 and @jemmerjams That is one of my biggest pet peeves! Is people who ask too many questions and expect you to do their work for them! Especially if they ask the same questions over and over again. In the time you asked the question, waited for the answer and then wasted my time THEY could have figured it out! Also hate when people email documents like that. They are on a shared server for a reason!!
My BF is I can't find my two new pair of frames I bought and want to get my new lenses before going on mat leave to take advantage of the benefits. I have looked in like EVERY box and can't find them.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
I love seeing all of the wonderful showers with 40+ people and yet it makes me want to cry as I had a total of 15 people at two showers and extended family is all butt heads. So I know it was better they didn't come and won't send a gift but it makes me weepy - thanks hormones - that we don't have as much family support as we could.
I'm with you. I'm incredibly grateful for the shower my mom threw (it was beautiful and thoughtful and wonderful!). And I know not everyone gets a shower so I was thrilled. But it was missing a lot of friends and family who couldn't travel from NJ to CO (and I wouldn't expect them to) and it made me miss them. I knew moving cross country 4 years ago and being far from where my extended family is would be hard at times but this was one of the times it really hit me.
And not that it was necessary at all, but I still kept secretly hoping an aunt or one of my friends back in NJ would offer to throw an east coast shower so I could come back and see everyone but no one did. I had 25 people at my shower which was a great amount, but every single one of my other pregnant friends has had two showers at a minimum (one had four!) with 20-30 people at EACH... and some still had the nerve to complain about all the people offering to throw them showers and how hard it was to find more things to register for because "we just have everything already from all the other showers." Just hush and be grateful so many people love you and you are surrounded by support.
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
@lest12 someone im'd me today asking me to email them a file they could easily look up in our company's document repository. Uh uh, I don't play that game. Gave him the doc # instead. But seriously, could we attempt to look it up ourselves first??
I once saw an automatic email from someone that said something like, "If you are emailing me about the compliance documents, please check this link first. If you still can't find what you're looking for, please email me again. I am happy to help you after you help yourself first." I thought it was the most hilarious, amazing thing ever haha
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
I am a Project Management and Planning Rep who plans/executes employee morale events for 6,000 of my company's employees across 27 sites. My BF is that my boss casually mentioned last week how he wants me to look into planning our first ever holiday party for at least our two largest sites (2,400 employees and 1,800 employees, respectively). Ummm you know I go out on maternity leave in Oct and am not coming back until the new year and you want me to try and plan elaborate holiday parties (which we have never done) in the next 6 weeks for 4000+ people in two different states (with no budget since it's been allocated for the year already)??? I do not think this is a reasonable request and I legitimately don't think I can do it.
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Also, I'm just irritable today. My husband is the most supportive and loving man and does A LOT for me and our household, but every couple of years he'll say something insensitive (or just make a comment that I take as such lol). He made a comment over the weekend about how he does all of the yard work. Which he does. And I very much appreciate. I hate mowing grass, edging and pulling weeds. But I felt the need to remind him about all the background work I do that he doesn't see.
Who makes dinner 99% of the time (and will rearrange my work schedule, or skip the gym, or coordinate the doggie day care so that dinner gets made and we can eat at a reasonable time)? Who has washed, dried, folded and put away 10 loads of baby laundry from all the clothes we got as hand-me-downs? Who empties the dish rack 2-3 times a day so it's clear and washes your lunch box Tupperware out of the kindness of my heart? Who feeds the dog at 6am every day so your workout isn't disrupted? And who cleans out the refrigerator of old food on trash day and Sundays after grocery shopping so things don't get moldy? Me.
He does sooo much for our family (hell, he just washed my car yesterday because he thought it needed it and puts together every piece of furniture I buy without complaint). But don't act like I don't pull my weight. Because I do.
(I know he appreciates me and we have a great rhythm. I'm just being bitchy and overly pregnant and extra pissy at this moment lol)
Me: 33 DH: 31 Location: Castle Rock, CO DD: 10.13.18 baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Parent. Your. Child!!! I went to a birthday party (back yard fire) for a friend tonight which was nice, the annoying 6 year old child from my baby shower was there with her mom and grandmother. The entire time she again was all up in everyone's space, and wanted to open the gifts and doing somersaults and cartwheels trying to get peoples attention. She was yelling and just kind of being bratty and her mom chalks it up to "only child syndrome" uhhh no. Thats what you get when you don't parent and you let her do what she wants. At one point she went around to people whistling and loud as she could while they were talking, was told to stop 3 or 4 times and she just kept on going. No reprimandment no continued telling her to stop, just laughed at let her go at it instead so "no" means nothing to this child. It was driving me absolutely nuts...
Sorry I haven't checked in for a few days. The move last weekend has completely wiped me out. I'm so ragey over life in general right now. We spent the weekend moving and then cleaning the old place for our tenants to move in this weekend. Well I was so damn sore I couldn't move by Sunday night. Unpacking here has been super slow since my husband's back to work. My eldest daughter came over the last 2 days to help, but yesterday took more breaks than necessary talking to some new prospective beau on the phone. I was thankful for the help, but was super annoyed we didn't get as much done as I wanted.
Re: Monday BF 8/27
Last night I was commenting how much I got done in the nursery this weekend and DH responded with "I thought we were done in there". I commented how it's not ready for baby yet, given the crib is full of random stuff and I've been working in it all weekend. I then tried to casually mention how I had listed some items on our "To Do" white board I'd like him to do when he has time. His response was "oh I thought that was stuff you're doing today." I pointed out it's all stuff that is getting harder for me to do: wash dishes (standing kills my back), vacuum and mop the back landing, change the sheets. He scoffed at cleaning the landing, so I pointed out it's filthy and has spider webs and it needs to be cleaned up. Seriously, that will take you 10 min. It's hard for me to bend over. I then pointed out how I cleaned the bathroom the other day and how that was hard enough for me.
also, there are more piles that did not fit in the shot...i was too lazy to stand up and get them all.
My bra has been uncomfortable for months, to the point of bruising my torso where the underwire sits. I’ve been sucking it up because money was tight. Friday I finally caved, drove 45 minutes to my hometown because it has a specialty store that I’ve shopped at for years. The lady asked if I wanted the same bra and I said sure. She had trouble sizing it at first because she wanted to size it so that it fit with the hooks and straps at their tightest, so I could let the them out as I get bigger. She came back with a different bra and said it might be better, it was a little less bulky so might be easier to grow in. I said sure and bought it. I was in there for 5 minutes.
Within 5 minutes of leaving, I regretted it. As soon as I lifted my arms to drive, the whole thing started to feel like a corset. The underwire seemed to be stabbing me in my armpit too. She was very specific that they don’t do returns, which I understand, so I told myself to try it before I panicked. I ripped the damn thing off by the time I got home.
The next day I loosened everything. Last hook, straps as long as they’ll go. I was desperate for it to just not be painful, I could handle uncomfortable. I didn’t make it through the day. I had marks in my armpits where the wire stabbed me. Today I pulled out my old bra that bruised me and I’m trying to call the shop.... and no ones answering! I drove 45 minutes to get there and dropped $60 on this bra. You better believe they’re going to exchange it for me!!
My body is so done. Im exhausted and everything aches.
My BF is that my back is killing me and I just want it to stop. And my eyes are burning today from dryness, I didn't sleep well, so overall I'm a hot mess today, and waddling around at a snail's pace. My boss noticed I was on the struggle bus today, so at least I've got some sympathy there since she's been there, done that lol.
@jemmerjams Yay for sympathetic bosses. I miss having one of those. Lol. Definitely helps when you're just trying to hold on and make it through.
I love seeing all of the wonderful showers with 40+ people and yet it makes me want to cry as I had a total of 15 people at two showers and extended family is all butt heads. So I know it was better they didn't come and won't send a gift but it makes me weepy - thanks hormones - that we don't have as much family support as we could.
Also hate when people email documents like that. They are on a shared server for a reason!!
My BF is I can't find my two new pair of frames I bought and want to get my new lenses before going on mat leave to take advantage of the benefits. I have looked in like EVERY box and can't find them.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I'm with you. I'm incredibly grateful for the shower my mom threw (it was beautiful and thoughtful and wonderful!). And I know not everyone gets a shower so I was thrilled. But it was missing a lot of friends and family who couldn't travel from NJ to CO (and I wouldn't expect them to) and it made me miss them. I knew moving cross country 4 years ago and being far from where my extended family is would be hard at times but this was one of the times it really hit me.
And not that it was necessary at all, but I still kept secretly hoping an aunt or one of my friends back in NJ would offer to throw an east coast shower so I could come back and see everyone but no one did. I had 25 people at my shower which was a great amount, but every single one of my other pregnant friends has had two showers at a minimum (one had four!) with 20-30 people at EACH... and some still had the nerve to complain about all the people offering to throw them showers and how hard it was to find more things to register for because "we just have everything already from all the other showers." Just hush and be grateful so many people love you and you are surrounded by support.
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
I once saw an automatic email from someone that said something like, "If you are emailing me about the compliance documents, please check this link first. If you still can't find what you're looking for, please email me again. I am happy to help you after you help yourself first." I thought it was the most hilarious, amazing thing ever haha
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Also, I'm just irritable today. My husband is the most supportive and loving man and does A LOT for me and our household, but every couple of years he'll say something insensitive (or just make a comment that I take as such lol). He made a comment over the weekend about how he does all of the yard work. Which he does. And I very much appreciate. I hate mowing grass, edging and pulling weeds. But I felt the need to remind him about all the background work I do that he doesn't see.
Who makes dinner 99% of the time (and will rearrange my work schedule, or skip the gym, or coordinate the doggie day care so that dinner gets made and we can eat at a reasonable time)? Who has washed, dried, folded and put away 10 loads of baby laundry from all the clothes we got as hand-me-downs? Who empties the dish rack 2-3 times a day so it's clear and washes your lunch box Tupperware out of the kindness of my heart? Who feeds the dog at 6am every day so your workout isn't disrupted? And who cleans out the refrigerator of old food on trash day and Sundays after grocery shopping so things don't get moldy? Me.
He does sooo much for our family (hell, he just washed my car yesterday because he thought it needed it and puts together every piece of furniture I buy without complaint). But don't act like I don't pull my weight. Because I do.
(I know he appreciates me and we have a great rhythm. I'm just being bitchy and overly pregnant and extra pissy at this moment lol)
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20