The other day I was at the grocery store with DH, and I saw these little chocolate éclairs. I thought to myself, "My weight is on track, I've been eating super clean all week... I can get one." So I got the little bag for the éclair when my DH comes up and says, "You don't need that." I was stunned. I asked, "What does that mean?" and he said, "You just don't need that." On a normal day I would've just told him off and went about my business, but I'd had a very stressful day at work, so combine that with pregnancy hormones... Bam, insta-tears. We were in the middle of the grocery store, though, so I held it in with as much effort as possible, but the second we got into the truck I started sobbing and said, "Why would you say that to me?" He laughed. Yep, laughed. He said he was just helping me stay healthy and not gain a lot of weight, because I'd made some stupid comment about the subject before I got pregnant. Well, that made me cry harder. It was so stupid, because that stuff doesn't make me cry, but it was sure doing the job that day. He eventually felt so bad that he went and bought me a shitty donut from Tim Hortons.
oh lord @leighbrek why are men so dumb sometimes? Gotta give a shout out to my DH, who did not make fun of me when I cried at the store when I found out they'd stopped making the specific hand lotion I wanted to buy. Instead, he went on eBay and ordered some for me. Very sweet.
My MBF of the day is against my own body. My nausea never went away (almost 18 weeks now) and I've had diarrhea since Thursday. After five trips to the toilet this morning, I broke down and took an Imodium. I have IBD, but was hoping that pregnancy would keep me from a flare up (it's a 50/50 shot with people usually). Now focusing on staying hydrated. UGH.
@wkuandrea Aw, that was so sweet of him! Sometimes it's good that they focus on fixing problems. They can be so dumb sometimes, but I had to laugh when he told his brother about it. I think he thought his brother would be on his side, but all his brother did was get big eyes and go, "Ooooh no no no." lol
Sorry you're having such a hard time with the symptoms!
My husband is a serial job changer. It's resulted in him taking a lot of lateral moves after about a year at a company while he tries to figure out what he wants to do. That's fine, but he's in a position right now where he's very highly regarded and pretty much set up for a management promotion and also gets 8 weeks paid paternity leave. He just casually mentioned this morning sending in an application to another company. Liiiike I get that that he's not super happy at this company, but if he at least waits until he gets a promotion it would open up so many more opportunities. And I'll be super pissed if he prioritizes anything but his actual dream job over getting to spend two months home with the baby
DH is working from home today which is fine but he bugs me so much sometimes! I was watching tv and he came over, sat on the couch, stole the remote and changed the channel!!! And then, while I was eating, he came and sat down at the table with me and started trying to engage me in a conversation. Like, I don't want to be talking with food hanging out of my mouth!
@kaf1788 ugh, serial job changing husbands!! My DH has had this habit in the past... I told him he wasn't allowed until after the baby was here, and he doesn't even get paternity leave! If he got 8 weeks and left that job I'd beat him with his own arm
@leighbrek your DH should be glad he got tears instead of pregnancy rage. Seriously. There are some things you just don’t say. Especially since it was just one eclair. I’m glad his brother helped set him straight!
my MBF is work related... again. I just don’t understand how people can reach adulthood without learning to express their opinion in a respectful manner. And if you’re the new person, you don’t get to demand everyone change to suit you! I had to play referee during yet another meeting and it’s getting old.
married 7.11.09
Me: 31 DH: 36
DD (14) and DS (11) adopted from US Foster care December 2016 BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
Blah to work drama! Like you said, it's incredible how so many people can't manage basic conflict (says the woman who sobbed uncontrollably because her husband said something stupid).
I'm bloated AF from lunch today and have my 20 week appointment tomorrow. I hate being bloated at appointments because it throws my weight off. I know in the long run who cares, but I hate that they'll have my bloated weight on paper.
Side note: my body doesn't digest certain carbs properly and I'm supposed to follow the FODMAP diet or I get super bloated. The only issue is I get bloated, though, so I don't follow it completely. I stopped weighing myself often, because I'll literally gain/lose up to 4lbs a day from bloating.
My MBF? It was 90 freaking degrees with over 80% humidity today, and my job has no air conditioning. Luckily most of my work day was in the office surrounded by about 10 fans, but the 1.5 hours that I was teaching classes made me want to scream.
Also, my SO is going to visit his family for about 10 days (he leaves Thursday) and I'm already sad and emotional. I'm going to blame it on the hormones, because normally I'd be grateful for the time to myself and the time to get things done.
@AshVA OMG my boss does this....and thinks that it's ok to come into MY office & sit 4 inches from me & clip his nails while I'm eating. And also he does it on conference calls and has gotten called out by clients.
DH has said that one of the higher-ups will sit in his office across the hall and burp/fart/cut his nails/"loudly floss" ALL THE TIME. Like WHY do people think the work place is an appropriate place for these things? Go to the bathroom, or to the car, or do it at home.
Someone that I know just posted that her heart is breaking because her maternity leave ends tomorrow, but she's so fortunate to work from home. Really, lady? You still get to see your kid anytime you walk out of your office. STFU.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 clearly she is heart broken because she doesn't want to work, nothing to do with her kid! And how insensitive to the rest of the women that don't have that option. Sometimes though, I think people post things like that because they think they are supposed to more so than they actually feel that way!
@kns1988 is she keeping her baby at home with her while she works at home? I work at home and didn't plan on keeping baby here with me... I think it's frowned upon.
@wkuandrea it sounds like she will have in home childcare because she said she'd still be able to nurse. I had 2 days a week at home when I first went back to work, and I had a nanny that would watch him downstairs while I worked upstairs in the office.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
MBF Discussion topic: Does anyone have that one (or more) relative(s) who you already know will cause you to see RED when they do anything to/near your baby? I have one aunt who is just a complete a$$h0le of a human being, but she also has no social awareness (or chooses to ignore it). I'm already counting the moments til she tries to hold my baby and say dumb things to it, and how I'm just going to want to rip him from her hands!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
@rooonilwaazlib Oh my god, YES. As it is I dont want most of my SO's family involved with babies (for a lot of reasons), but having to suck it up for SO's sake is exhausting. It's like the only thing we havent agreed on this whole pregnancy.
Re: MBF - Aug 27th
I was stunned. I asked, "What does that mean?" and he said, "You just don't need that."
On a normal day I would've just told him off and went about my business, but I'd had a very stressful day at work, so combine that with pregnancy hormones... Bam, insta-tears. We were in the middle of the grocery store, though, so I held it in with as much effort as possible, but the second we got into the truck I started sobbing and said, "Why would you say that to me?"
He laughed. Yep, laughed. He said he was just helping me stay healthy and not gain a lot of weight, because I'd made some stupid comment about the subject before I got pregnant. Well, that made me cry harder. It was so stupid, because that stuff doesn't make me cry, but it was sure doing the job that day.
He eventually felt so bad that he went and bought me a shitty donut from Tim Hortons.
Love the man to death, but my god.
Gotta give a shout out to my DH, who did not make fun of me when I cried at the store when I found out they'd stopped making the specific hand lotion I wanted to buy. Instead, he went on eBay and ordered some for me. Very sweet.
My MBF of the day is against my own body. My nausea never went away (almost 18 weeks now) and I've had diarrhea since Thursday. After five trips to the toilet this morning, I broke down and took an Imodium. I have IBD, but was hoping that pregnancy would keep me from a flare up (it's a 50/50 shot with people usually). Now focusing on staying hydrated. UGH.
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
They can be so dumb sometimes, but I had to laugh when he told his brother about it. I think he thought his brother would be on his side, but all his brother did was get big eyes and go, "Ooooh no no no." lol
Sorry you're having such a hard time with the symptoms!
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
my MBF is work related... again. I just don’t understand how people can reach adulthood without learning to express their opinion in a respectful manner. And if you’re the new person, you don’t get to demand everyone change to suit you! I had to play referee during yet another meeting and it’s getting old.
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
Blah to work drama! Like you said, it's incredible how so many people can't manage basic conflict (says the woman who sobbed uncontrollably because her husband said something stupid).
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Also, my SO is going to visit his family for about 10 days (he leaves Thursday) and I'm already sad and emotional. I'm going to blame it on the hormones, because normally I'd be grateful for the time to myself and the time to get things done.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019