everything today. just everything. i mean, nothing in particular, but i really want to just go sit somewhere by myself so i don't have to try to be nice to anyone.
I'll start! My manchild of a husband is having an absolute hissy fit this morning.. I get it, there's no coffee creamer.. but were going out to a drs appointment shortly, we can leave early and stop at a number of places so he can get a coffee. Think that's sufficient? NOPE!! Pissy he has to wake up early this week, pissy theres no creamer, pissy the socks I put out for him were ones he wore two days ago, (apparently there's a system. Luckily there were more socks in the pile) pissy his stupid xbox game isn't doing what he wants it to. Goes around the house yelling and grouchy that this place is bullshit and this and that. I sigh just audibly enough for him to hear and now I can go to my appointment by myself because he threw another fit. I will gladly leave his grumpy ass at home if it means I can enjoy myself a coffee from dunks and a quiet ride to the drs. and back.
@mamabearcj Who peed in his cereal?! Im grumpy because I bought a groupon last night for a super cheap brazilian..was excited to use it today because I’m long overdue for one and the place is closed on Wed! #firstworldproblems
@mamabearcj Does he think that you going by yourself is like punishing you for sighing at him? He can stay home and have his bitchfit by himself then! I think you come out way ahead in this situation!
My husband has been painting the bathrooms while I'm at work. The last two rooms in the house that needed painting. I'm super grateful for it. But I've been trying to get it done for like 2 years. So I'm very happy it's getting done. And since we decided to stay in our house a bit longer, I think my husband will finally let me do the little cosmetic things I've been wanting to do.
But anyway, he acts like it's such a big deal that he painted and he's so sore and tired. And I'm like uh, hello, if we would've done this a long time ago I would've helped. Hell, if I wasn't at work I would've helped. And what about all these days I sit at work and you literally work 1 hour a day and then go hang out with people or watch movies? Me taking laundry up and down to the basement right now is the equivalent of you painting a bathroom, and I've done that on the reg lately.
So as grateful and appreciative as I am, I'm rolling my eyes a little since now he's supposedly a saint. Whatever, as long as he's getting shit done. (He has been very helpful this whole time, I'm just a hormonal wife.)
Yeah, DH has been incredible this whole pregnancy, but last night after rolling some paint he mentioned "Ugh, my back hurts...now I know how you feel."
1. My car battery died for the second time in two weeks. It's a 2015 Honda and we just bought out our lease three weeks ago of course. And both times it died at daycare so embarrassing. Luckily people are amazing and I got lots of help. Poor DH was already at work 75 min away so couldn't help. It all ended up ok but I missed my commuter train and now am working from home. Annoying but I guess thankful I have a job where that can be done reasonably. 2. DH bought me a gift certificate for Elizabeth Grady to get a prenatal massage but didn't realize that most of their locations don't do massage. So I really want one, have $100 towards one, and wish he had known enough to pick a different salon/spa. Not his fault, but I'm sad. I can use it for facials and stuff but I really just want a massage and don't want to pay for one.
Yep, he totally didnt come to the appointment. I had a nice hour and a half to myself, bought creamer, came home and had some coffee and made myself lunch. He left for work 20 minutes ago, didnt have coffee, didnt have lunch. And I dont feel bad at all! Thank you ladies for the support
Lol to the DHs with sore backs after painting. Theyd never handle being pregnant for a week. @HoosOnFirst sorry to hear about your gift card situation!! Is there a location that does the massages that's within comfortable driving ranges for you??
@mamabearcj there are about 5 I can drive to, but none that are both 1. open on the one day DH and my toddler will be gone and 2. have a massage therapist on staff. They also aren't really known for prenatal massages as a company, which I wish my DH had known. So either I try to book one another day where DH will have to parent solo (which obviously is fine, he does it all the time but I feel bad asking), or just use it for a facial or something else fun-ish on Sunday when I have the day to myself. I'd be more pumped if I thought the massage would be any good, but I've asked around and no local moms have ever gotten one there...
total DH rant. He's truly an amazing guy and super helpful, handy, etc......HOWEVER, i'm annoyed because everything is this huge competition lately. I say I'm tired or feeling sick and he comes out with how he's MORE tired or MORE sick because of all the work he's been doing around the house. like, WTF, can I just be tired or sick without it being a competition of who has it worse? because of course it's always him, which means I get to do the dinner clean up and kid wrangling (pjs, stories, brush teeth, etc.). Like....i'm growing another human being inside myself....i GET to be tired and I deserve a break sometimes too dude. I tried so hard to not throw his 8 day fishing vacation in his face (because he truly did deserve to go on the trip and enjoy it) but dang man.....when is my break? He tries to tell me my maternity leave will be my vacation. Um.....no. This is not my first rodeo sir, I know just how exhausting newborns are, this is not a vacation. lol.
Must be something going around for crabby husbands...
@dellusion I would always get so pissed because every time I was about to start my period and get moody, my husband would get MOODIER. Then I would feel like I had to cheer him up and not be able to wallow in my bad mood. Still, if I'm in a bad mood, it makes him in a bad mood. WTF, I just want to be allowed to be moody sometimes and you cheer ME up.
Nope, definitely me who is crabby today. Our toilet lever broke in the middle of the night (DH just got home with a new one ), my annoying old dog was being a huge PITA this morning and kept standing right under me wherever I was trying to walk, I'm stuck in a week long risk assessment, and then I get home, and there is a fly in the house. Also, it's over 100 again today. And my feet are getting swollen. So I am the irrationally pissy person in the house. GAH.
@dellusion I hate when DH does that. I complain about a pregnancy related symptom and he says he has it too (lower back pain, trouble sleeping). Thanks dude. You admit its because you're overweight and out of shape, yet aren't doing anything about it. Mine is because I'm pregnant carrying our child.
Another for the DH complaint train. I went to therapy and had a good session, I called on the way home and we were discussing things without getting upset, and I thought we’d actually be able to have a decent night. The minute I walk in the door he’s pissy about something and taking it out on me. Asks me why I can’t take care of my (our) daughter’s bath instead of sitting on my butt. He obviously knows I can’t get on the floor this pregnant and I’m not just sitting to not do anything, but totally ruined the evening. I hadn’t seen DD all day and I ended up just going in my room because I didn’t want to deal with his attitude. I hate when he ruins my time with her since I don’t get much of it. Thankfully I was able to give some cuddles and tickles without his sass before she went to bed.
@jemmerjams I’m sorry, but the fly made me lol. There are some days that if that happened to me the fly might push me to tears, but reading it in the list of things is kind of funny.
Boo to all your husbands throwing fits! I'll hate them if you want me to!
The fly thing is funny. There is always a damn fly in my house. My wtf is to the weird striped mosquitos eating me alive while I sleep. I can't find any standing water around the house and it hasn't rained since like last November so where the f are they coming from!? I'm so itchy.
I roll my eyes at all your husbands for being immature jerks and hope they grow up in the next six weeks.
For me—
TL:DR - Max’s nurse yesterday pissed me off by being a condescending and patronizing asshole.
I’m exhausted. Unfortunately, that means I have less energy to deal with people and so one of the nurses last night really got under my skin. It started with a lecture about when to go up a size in diapers. Fine. Whatever. She has opinions on diaper sizes.
Then, about ten minutes before cares (designated time for all routine interactions with baby by staff) were supposed to start, Max started getting fussy. So far, Max has been a pretty calm baby; I’ve seen him get fussy for three reasons- too much stimulation, he’s hot, and he has a dirty diaper. I assumed he was fussy because of his diaper and told the nurse I was going to change and and asked if she wanted me to start his other cares. She acted like I’m asking to move church service up ten minutes so we can get to lunch earlier.
After we’re done with cares, I had already told her I was planning to hold him. She was checking something with him, and then he needed to be swaddled before I held him. I had wanted to redo his swaddle and pick him up to carry him to his chair, but as I was saying this, she already had him swaddled and was picking him up. She then said to me “I always bring the babies to my Moms.” No. I only get about three hours with my son a day. I need to learn how to pick him up and be comfortable that I can carry him and sit down and stand up; I’ve been doing so for about a week and a half now since he is hardy enough for me to actively interact with.
I take Max out of her arms as I basically and politely explain that. At which point she makes a comment about supporting his head. Look at the baby and recognize that I am holding him properly and then f-off.
So, I have a delightful time holding Max, and about ten minutes before I need to start getting ready to leave he pooped. Definitely poops. Copious amounts of poop. No question. He’s out cold, but his diaper done. I went to stand up so I can change his diaper and get him resettled in his crib, but I couldn’t figure out how she has hooked his wires. So I hit the call button and let her know I need assistance getting him back into the crib. I told her I was going to change his diaper because it was dirty, and she tells me “oh, if they’re calm, I don’t change the diaper.”
Ummmm- nope.
1) I’m not knowingly going to leave my child sitting in a dirty diaper for the next two hours until his next cares. It’s one thing if I wasn’t aware the diaper is dirty. It’s a different thing when I know it is.
2) Skin. Seriously, one of the lectures I got from this lady was about how moist environments can result in skin break down (it was part of the diaper size lecture). And she was seriously telling me that she would leave a baby who she knew had a poopy diaper sitting in it until baby got fussy or it was his next cares?!?
I changed the diaper. It was poopy. Copious amounts of poop. Max didn’t even wake up fully and was completely out before we had him resettled back in his nest.
Wow. I knew that lady had pissed me off, but I am just now realizing how much.
@purplegoldfish2@jwebbbber45678 it was the straw that broke the camel's back yesterday. Occasionally DH accidentally lets a fly in when he's grilling in the backyard, and they stay FOR DAYS. I think one lasted an entire week. And they just buzz around the kitchen obnoxiously. I don't hear it this morning, so perhaps it made it's way into the light or my dog ate it. One can only hope.
Also, mosquitoes are way worse than flies. ugh, cannot imagine.
Wtf to the lady behind me on the shuttle. I take a shuttle from the commuter train to my office and it takes about 25 minutes. In the morning everyone’s usually still half asleep and Keeps quiet. Today the lady behind me has been talking on the phone the whole time not attempting to be quiet at all. Just gossip and chat, not an important phone call. Finally after about 15 min she hangs up and I’m relieved. 2 seconds later she’s on the phone again, also just chatter and gossip. She prefers real books over e books. Thank god I know this about her now. Shut up.
@knottieamusements Not changing a baby's diaper when soiled (regardless of being a preemie or not) sounds like a horrible practice. Can you talk to a supervisor? I wouldn't feel comfortable with her being my baby's nurse and you have every right to be livid.
Mostly, I’m hoping that she isn’t his nurse today. The thing is that I know the babies do sit in dirty diapers (both there and anywhere). Max has only started getting fussy about his diaper in the last week, and then only when he is alert. As such, since the nurses aren’t sitting with him constantly to monitor for him to poop, he ends up sitting in a dirty diaper.
There is also a tension between caring for the babies and letting them sleep. They want the babies to get as much deep, uninterrupted sleep as possible to facilitate brain development. That is part of the reason for the scheduled cares- if something in addition to temp and diaper changes needs to be done, they coincide it with cares to minimize disturbance. So- from her perspective- baby is asleep and not upset, leave baby alone. (And Max was asleep.)
This is one of those places where I feel like this is a difference of opinion rather than an actual care issue. (And she really managed to get under my skin.)
WTF to my bladder. I am now at the point of waking up four times a night to pee. This is with me not drinking any liquids after dinner. Also, WTF to myself for being unreasonably cranky this morning (from lack of decent sleep) and taking it out on DD when she was literally doing nothing wrong. She was throwing a fit in the car on our way to daycare and I couldn't figure out what was wrong with her. After I dropped her off at daycare I realized how badly I treated her this morning and how she was probably acting out to get a little extra attention. Then I cried the entire drive to work. I'm thinking she is getting some apologies and lots of cuddles when I pick her up after work today.
I’m booked at the perinatal (high risk) clinic for an ultrasound this morning at 1130. They just phoned me (0900) to let me know they’ve had a number of emergent cases and the wait time is going to be ridiculous.
They offered switching the appointment to Monday, which would be fine except for the fact that having this ultrasound today was one of the conditions of me being discharged from the hospital on the weekend. So I’ll be sitting and waiting, likely for hours, to get the stupid ultrasound today.
My contractor went on 2 week vacation the day after we moved into the 85% built house. No counter tops, two working sinks in plywood countertop, no glass shower partition, the stairs not stained so a plywood protective board on each tread, exterior siding and brick not complete, 50% of the millwork not complete including handles on our kitchen etc etc etc. He reassured me things would still happen when he was away because his foreman would organize things. I followed up with his foreman every day asking questions and if I got a response at all it was to say Peter would need to organize that. So frustrating! Anyways he got back on Monday and we met and he didn't have any real updates for me as to when things would get done. So I have been texting him every day to get an update. He texts me today to say he had a serious fall and broke his ribs! So now he is out of commission again. I also found out he didn't order the countertops or my master closet millwork before going on vacation like he said he did! So now we have to wait another 2 weeks!
We are having our housewarming BBQ baby shower on September 8th. I hired landscapers to complete our backyard and deck but without having the brick completed by my GC we can't get it finished.
I broke down and cried today, because I just want this crazy project to be finished in time for this baby so I don't have to keep having trades through my house while I'm breastfeeding or the baby is sleeping.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@chyvie I'm so sorry, that's so frustrating! Is he a one man shop? Does he have a team that could fill in? I don't blame you for crying, I would've had a full on meltdown!!
@chyvie I would be losing it completely. That is so unprofessional!! I mean sorry you broke your ribs dude but you’ve still got to at least halfway run your business if you want to get paid.
sorry I have another WTF moment and need to vent! So we reached out to our current daycare in February to let them know we'll need infant care in January of 2019. We pretty much told them as SOON as we knew we were pregnant. They have a 1.5 year waiting list. Like, I don't get it.....how can you reserve infant care before you are even pregnant?!? 18 months out? It just doesn't make sense. So we've been on their wait list since then and last night they emailed us to let us know they have an opening for us in May. Ugh....ok so yes please save the May spot but let us know as earlier spots open.
Today also, my husband's company daycare called him to say that we're pretty low down on the wait list BUT if we move one of our other kids over immediately (like, starting there in the next 2 weeks), they'll give us the January infant spot. My blood is boiling over this shit. I feel like i'm being blackmailed here. We are FINALLY in an amazing place with both DS1 and DS2 in their new respective classrooms with their good friends and teachers we like at the current daycare. Why the hell would we change that up and stress out the boys and lose our current awesome spots to switch to this new place that we hardly know anything about that that I pretty much will have no interaction with (since my husband would do drop offs and pick ups since its at his work). I'm just SO uncomfortable with the idea of this and its really stressing me out now. We only wanted the new baby in this new daycare (1. because the price was crazy low, and 2. because current daycare didnt' have immediate openings), not the whole family.
So now I feel like we have to start searching for daycares again for the baby and i'm pissed. lol.
Re: WTF Wednesday 8/22
i mean, nothing in particular, but i really want to just go sit somewhere by myself so i don't have to try to be nice to anyone.
Im grumpy because I bought a groupon last night for a super cheap brazilian..was excited to use it today because I’m long overdue for one and the place is closed on Wed! #firstworldproblems
But anyway, he acts like it's such a big deal that he painted and he's so sore and tired. And I'm like uh, hello, if we would've done this a long time ago I would've helped. Hell, if I wasn't at work I would've helped. And what about all these days I sit at work and you literally work 1 hour a day and then go hang out with people or watch movies? Me taking laundry up and down to the basement right now is the equivalent of you painting a bathroom, and I've done that on the reg lately.
So as grateful and appreciative as I am, I'm rolling my eyes a little since now he's supposedly a saint. Whatever, as long as he's getting shit done. (He has been very helpful this whole time, I'm just a hormonal wife.)
NO. No, you do not know how I feel.
2. DH bought me a gift certificate for Elizabeth Grady to get a prenatal massage but didn't realize that most of their locations don't do massage. So I really want one, have $100 towards one, and wish he had known enough to pick a different salon/spa. Not his fault, but I'm sad. I can use it for facials and stuff but I really just want a massage and don't want to pay for one.
Lol to the DHs with sore backs after painting. Theyd never handle being pregnant for a week.
@HoosOnFirst sorry to hear about your gift card situation!! Is there a location that does the massages that's within comfortable driving ranges for you??
@dellusion I would always get so pissed because every time I was about to start my period and get moody, my husband would get MOODIER. Then I would feel like I had to cheer him up and not be able to wallow in my bad mood. Still, if I'm in a bad mood, it makes him in a bad mood. WTF, I just want to be allowed to be moody sometimes and you cheer ME up.
The fly thing is funny. There is always a damn fly in my house. My wtf is to the weird striped mosquitos eating me alive while I sleep. I can't find any standing water around the house and it hasn't rained since like last November so where the f are they coming from!? I'm so itchy.
For me—
TL:DR - Max’s nurse yesterday pissed me off by being a condescending and patronizing asshole.
I’m exhausted. Unfortunately, that means I have less energy to deal with people and so one of the nurses last night really got under my skin. It started with a lecture about when to go up a size in diapers. Fine. Whatever. She has opinions on diaper sizes.
Then, about ten minutes before cares (designated time for all routine interactions with baby by staff) were supposed to start, Max started getting fussy. So far, Max has been a pretty calm baby; I’ve seen him get fussy for three reasons- too much stimulation, he’s hot, and he has a dirty diaper. I assumed he was fussy because of his diaper and told the nurse I was going to change and and asked if she wanted me to start his other cares. She acted like I’m asking to move church service up ten minutes so we can get to lunch earlier.
After we’re done with cares, I had already told her I was planning to hold him. She was checking something with him, and then he needed to be swaddled before I held him. I had wanted to redo his swaddle and pick him up to carry him to his chair, but as I was saying this, she already had him swaddled and was picking him up. She then said to me “I always bring the babies to my Moms.” No. I only get about three hours with my son a day. I need to learn how to pick him up and be comfortable that I can carry him and sit down and stand up; I’ve been doing so for about a week and a half now since he is hardy enough for me to actively interact with.
I take Max out of her arms as I basically and politely explain that. At which point she makes a comment about supporting his head. Look at the baby and recognize that I am holding him properly and then f-off.
So, I have a delightful time holding Max, and about ten minutes before I need to start getting ready to leave he pooped. Definitely poops. Copious amounts of poop. No question. He’s out cold, but his diaper done. I went to stand up so I can change his diaper and get him resettled in his crib, but I couldn’t figure out how she has hooked his wires. So I hit the call button and let her know I need assistance getting him back into the crib. I told her I was going to change his diaper because it was dirty, and she tells me “oh, if they’re calm, I don’t change the diaper.”
Ummmm- nope.
1) I’m not knowingly going to leave my child sitting in a dirty diaper for the next two hours until his next cares. It’s one thing if I wasn’t aware the diaper is dirty. It’s a different thing when I know it is.
2) Skin. Seriously, one of the lectures I got from this lady was about how moist environments can result in skin break down (it was part of the diaper size lecture). And she was seriously telling me that she would leave a baby who she knew had a poopy diaper sitting in it until baby got fussy or it was his next cares?!?
I changed the diaper. It was poopy. Copious amounts of poop. Max didn’t even wake up fully and was completely out before we had him resettled back in his nest.
Wow. I knew that lady had pissed me off, but I am just now realizing how much.
@purplegoldfish2 @jwebbbber45678 it was the straw that broke the camel's back yesterday. Occasionally DH accidentally lets a fly in when he's grilling in the backyard, and they stay FOR DAYS. I think one lasted an entire week. And they just buzz around the kitchen obnoxiously. I don't hear it this morning, so perhaps it made it's way into the light or my dog ate it. One can only hope.
Also, mosquitoes are way worse than flies. ugh, cannot imagine.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
@sliztee - I’m considering it.
Mostly, I’m hoping that she isn’t his nurse today. The thing is that I know the babies do sit in dirty diapers (both there and anywhere). Max has only started getting fussy about his diaper in the last week, and then only when he is alert. As such, since the nurses aren’t sitting with him constantly to monitor for him to poop, he ends up sitting in a dirty diaper.
There is also a tension between caring for the babies and letting them sleep. They want the babies to get as much deep, uninterrupted sleep as possible to facilitate brain development. That is part of the reason for the scheduled cares- if something in addition to temp and diaper changes needs to be done, they coincide it with cares to minimize disturbance. So- from her perspective- baby is asleep and not upset, leave baby alone. (And Max was asleep.)
This is one of those places where I feel like this is a difference of opinion rather than an actual care issue. (And she really managed to get under my skin.)
They offered switching the appointment to Monday, which would be fine except for the fact that having this ultrasound today was one of the conditions of me being discharged from the hospital on the weekend. So I’ll be sitting and waiting, likely for hours, to get the stupid ultrasound today.
Anyways he got back on Monday and we met and he didn't have any real updates for me as to when things would get done. So I have been texting him every day to get an update. He texts me today to say he had a serious fall and broke his ribs! So now he is out of commission again. I also found out he didn't order the countertops or my master closet millwork before going on vacation like he said he did! So now we have to wait another 2 weeks!
We are having our housewarming BBQ baby shower on September 8th. I hired landscapers to complete our backyard and deck but without having the brick completed by my GC we can't get it finished.
I broke down and cried today, because I just want this crazy project to be finished in time for this baby so I don't have to keep having trades through my house while I'm breastfeeding or the baby is sleeping.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
unprofessional!! I mean sorry you broke your ribs dude but you’ve still got to at least halfway run your business if you want to get paid.
Today also, my husband's company daycare called him to say that we're pretty low down on the wait list BUT if we move one of our other kids over immediately (like, starting there in the next 2 weeks), they'll give us the January infant spot. My blood is boiling over this shit. I feel like i'm being blackmailed here. We are FINALLY in an amazing place with both DS1 and DS2 in their new respective classrooms with their good friends and teachers we like at the current daycare. Why the hell would we change that up and stress out the boys and lose our current awesome spots to switch to this new place that we hardly know anything about that that I pretty much will have no interaction with (since my husband would do drop offs and pick ups since its at his work). I'm just SO uncomfortable with the idea of this and its really stressing me out now. We only wanted the new baby in this new daycare (1. because the price was crazy low, and 2. because current daycare didnt' have immediate openings), not the whole family.
So now I feel like we have to start searching for daycares again for the baby and i'm pissed. lol.