Please don’t tell me how to feel.

camillianairee · August 2018

Hey all,

I’m 10 weeks with baby #2. My first pregnancy was a little traumatic, I had an ovarian torsion/removal at 26 weeks and then delivered at 33 weeks with a 2 week NICU stay. I thought I was prepared for this pregnancy, but at my 9 week ultrasound there was what the doctor thinks is an outgrowth of my placenta. It could be nothing, it could be something that leads to an emergency c-section and pre-term delivery.

The few friends I’ve told immediately tell me to be positive and that everything will be fine. With my first I went into the NICU thinking he was going to be a miracle baby who wouldn’t need the NICU and I don’t think that did me any favors. I just wish people could listen and just let my feelings be. I don’t think anything I’m feeling is wrong and it is hard because I feel myself closing off from my friends. Wishing I could fast forward to my 12 week ultrasound.

meggyme · August 2018

camillianairee said:

Hey all,

I’m 10 weeks with baby #2. My first pregnancy was a little traumatic, I had an ovarian torsion/removal at 26 weeks and then delivered at 33 weeks with a 2 week NICU stay. I thought I was prepared for this pregnancy, but at my 9 week ultrasound there was what the doctor thinks is an outgrowth of my placenta. It could be nothing, it could be something that leads to an emergency c-section and pre-term delivery.

The few friends I’ve told immediately tell me to be positive and that everything will be fine. With my first I went into the NICU thinking he was going to be a miracle baby who wouldn’t need the NICU and I don’t think that did me any favors. I just wish people could listen and just let my feelings be. I don’t think anything I’m feeling is wrong and it is hard because I feel myself closing off from my friends. Wishing I could fast forward to my 12 week ultrasound.

*stuck in the box*

Hey there, I’m sorry you’re having a rough pregnancy and that you got a potentially scary diagnosis. Generally people just don’t know what to say and try to deflect by being positive. Hopefully your next ultrasound will answer some questions.

In the meantime, please introduce yourself in the intro thread, read the board guidelines and join us in participating in the various threads. One off posts like this are generally discouraged so we can keep our board organized.

Lbloom · August 2018

I for one, think your feelings are validated and that you shouldn't be made to feel they're wrong. I think this is a safe place to come talk and the ladies here are very supportive.

It is true that sometimes the people here don't like it when someone comes from out of "nowhere" to voice their fears and concerns but in my opinion, I think that is "policing" this board too much and forcing too many restrictions on a board that is supposed to be open and supportive. Yes, there needs to be some organization, but let's not throw people aside because they are new to this board or The Bump in general.

There is an "Introduce yourself" thread that is stuck to the top of this forum and we would love it if you stuck around here and tell us how your pregnancy is going and follow up. We are here for you and I don't mind the occasional random post like this, because after awhile I stop going to the Intro Thread because it just gets so dang long.

onechoctawgirl · August 2018

Lbloom said:

I for one, think your feelings are validated and that you shouldn't be made to feel they're wrong. I think this is a safe place to come talk and the ladies here are very supportive.

It is true that sometimes the people here don't like it when someone comes from out of "nowhere" to voice their fears and concerns but in my opinion, I think that is "policing" this board too much and forcing too many restrictions on a board that is supposed to be open and supportive. Yes, there needs to be some organization, but let's not throw people aside because they are new to this board or The Bump in general.

There is an "Introduce yourself" thread that is stuck to the top of this forum and we would love it if you stuck around here and tell us how your pregnancy is going and follow up. We are here for you and I don't mind the occasional random post like this, because after awhile I stop going to the Intro Thread because it just gets so dang long.

Thank you so much for saying this. I was one of the first people on these boards and When we spoke of rules I begged them not to let there become a board police culture on here. It exists on all the others but people can’t stay away from it.

Frankly... the only interesting posts are from new people who didn’t introduce themselves yet, and read all the rules where they discover there is a massive thread they are suppose to post in where it can get lost and ignored.

horray for the rules machine...

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