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Who gets to choose how many kids??
I thought that this was an interesting poll over on the 6+months Board. How do you/will you come to an agreement over how many children you do have?? For instance, my husband says he only wants 2 and I am still set on 3 (God-willing or if I am still sane from here to then)....Does one's opinion matter more than the other?? Dh and I discussed this before getting married, but I think that until you have a child you never really know what your decision will be.
~~Givette~~
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Re: Who gets to choose how many kids??
DH and I have always been on the same page on this one. We wanted one, but if one was a girl, we would have a second. If Madison was a Matthew we would be done but obviously she is not...lol
That being said financially (and emotionally) we do not want three. Two is our limit.
We knew we always wanted 2 kids: perfect number and makes us even. After I had Gaby, my mind changed and I was stuck on her being the only child. We had Gaby when we were both 21, so needless to say we both grew up very very fast. I have a MASSIVE family and she would have plenty of cousins to play with and grow up with.
Fast foward 4 years later and we started talking about having #2. I was very iffy at first and very defensive about how things will change. I'm practically a single mom Mon, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, Satuday (the days DH works) He also works nights and gets home around 10:30ish. So this was a big issue for me knowing how to balance 2 kids, the house, dinner, our finance, ect. We finally talked and I was the one to say- okay, let's try for baby #2 and after Mr. A arrives we are DONE. I'm too young to get my tubes tied, so DH is going to snip snip and we are okay with this.
When we got married, DH already had 1 son, so he only wanted 1 more. I knew I wanted 2. We left it at that. Now, Ayden is 9mos. the other day, we were at BRU and he was reading baby name books. He was going down the list, and almost everyname he mentioned I nixed. Just yesterday, he asked if a name he had nixed while we were picking Ayden's is a good one. I think someone wants another baby.
I swear, this Cyst/ovary scare made him realize, we have to get working on #2 soon.
I think both partners need to e on the same page when it comes to how many kids. If one really wants more or less than the other, it can lead to a lot of strain on the marriage.
We both originally wanted 3-4 kids, but after having Nicholas, we've decided 2 will be it for us. Besides the fact that he was very fussy and high needs as an infant, it is way more expensive to have kids than I ever realized. I wouldn't want to deprive my children of any opportunities by stretching ourselves too thin financially.
We'd love 4 or 5 !
At the beginning Eric wasn't even sure he wanted kids, then we had Sebastian and he wanted 1 more, then we had Nate and can't wait to have a few more.
We are leaving it all in God's hands though, whatever his plan is for us.
personally I think the one who wants the least lol which is now me lol No really, I always wanted 4-5 kids being that we are both only children now that I've been pg twice I am DONE!!!! I am not willing to put my life at risk for another child that does not exist and risk leaving the ones I already have. I've been blessed with Angelina and am now blessed to be having Julian (who is still baking in the oven---and will hopefully give me a good couple of more weeks) we always thought that we would have another one of our own but now are thinking that once both of our kids are in school we will probably start fostering kids or adopt a 1 or 2 more kids... I just don't think I can handle another pregnancy.
Hmm...
well, I always wanted 2, but after an unmedicated birth, i don't think i can go through with natural labor again lol if I were to get pg again, I'd make theh dr sign forms and get them notarized promising that the epidural would work no matter what.
dh says he only wants one, that he can't imagine having a 2nd... i want 2, though, i think it would be great for abby to have a little brother or sister. i think it would get lonely being an only child... (i have an older sister but we were 5 years apart and she was hardly ever around groing up, and it was realy lonely most of the time, i can't imagine what i touwld be like without having a sibling at all)
I would say the one who wants the least, but maybe thats because in our situation, its me! lol we used to say we wanted like 5, but now that we have Charlotte I may, have one more, DH still wants at least three or four. I agree with Andrea!
I don't want to spread myself too thin financially, and i don't want to have to spread my time too thin, with any. I may be sarcasticly saying that i only want one, because it is important fo rme that Charlotte have a sibling. Then DH starts saying that if #2 is a girl tha the would still want three, and then so on. Also, everytime he and my family get together they gang up on me! lol I am soooo confused as to how many i want and have soooo many questions, ultimately i am going to leave it in God's hands.
DH has always wanted 4. I have always wanted 3. I will honestly say - I don't want to be pregnant more than 3 times so we will likely stop at 3 kids however DH is determined to take it one kid at a time before we make any firm decisions. LOL. I am pretty sure 3 kids is it for me for a number of reasons.
I guess that means I get to choose? Since I want the least AND I have to carry the babies. Trump card! LOL.
posting late....
dh wants a big family...he would love 4 kids total
i always wanted 2...after having mady my heart was set on 3...dh agreed on 3
kids are a lot of work, a lot of dedication, but overall i fell in love after having mady. hopefully one day we can make it that far financially, we wont deprive any of our children just because we want to expand to our family.