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April 2019 Moms
luckywife10
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STM+ check in w/o 7/30
luckywife10
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How far along are you? How big is baby?
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
How are your other kids doing this week?
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
Re: STM+ check in w/o 7/30
(I answered this in the March BMB a few days ago and I stole this from there too!)
How far along are you? How big is baby?
5+3
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
DS is 14 months
How are your other kids doing this week?
We cannot get DS to go bed at a consistent time. Some days he's ready for bed at 7 and some days he won't go down until 8. He doesn't always take 2 naps during the day, which he desperately needs. DS will only go to bed if I nurse him to sleep. Once in a up moon DH can get him down by rocking/singing.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I don't know how or if I will be able to wean DS before this LO arrives. I really don't want to tandem nurse, but idk how to get DS to sleep otherwise. H and I have tried everything. Any advice/suggestions?
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss going out with DH for drinks or movies whenever we want. I don't really know what I miss. Having kids is so awesome and I've always wanted to be a mom.
How far along are you? How big is baby? 3+4
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 1 - DS, 3.5
How are your other kids doing this week? He's pretty great this week. We've been struggling to keep him IN his room post bedtime, but I haven't been feeling well the past two nights and he's taken it easy on me.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? DS is like...anti-dad in the AM. My morning would be so much easier if he wouldn't lose his shrimp each time I asked DH to help out with shoes or potty or whatever.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least? I miss lazy mornings on the weekends. Get up when I want, maybe go to the market or the beach or take the dogs for a walk. What do I miss least? That's hard. I always have a buddy. So I don't miss being alone for meals and stuff.
@luckywife10it sounds like your LO is probably gearing up to drop a nap and go down to just 1 nap a day. I found this transition to be harder than going from 3 to 2. I would probably hold off on trying to change routine of going down at night till that transition has been made. Probably another month or so based on your description. Does he sleep through the night or is he still night waking? Can he go down for a nap without nursing? Do you have a solid bedtime routine? If he can go down for naps without nursing then you know he can do nighttime and you can try tackling that once the naps have solidified. I think my LO was going down at 7:30 around 14 months and she dropped from 2 naps to 1 nap at 12 months. I was obsessed with getting her to sleep on her own and we worked very diligently to get her into the good sleeper that she is (most of the time).
How far along are you? How big is baby?
4w+4d poppyseed
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
DD, 2.5
How are your other kids doing this week?
Good - we haven't told her yet that she's going to be a big sister. We're waiting to tell her on her birthday when I'll be 10w+6d
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
DD is transitioning into a threenager and I'm worried once symptoms really kick in how I'll be able to handle her. She's a wild child (my parents call her Whirlwind) and I'm anxious about what's to come. She loves taking care of her baby dolls so I think she'll be excited too. I'm just a mixed bag of emotions.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
Being able to go shopping without a toddler is probably the only thing I miss, it's just hard because she's into everything and is so curious. I wouldn't change being a mother for the world. I like spending time with her and doing fun kid things again.
When we finally weaned, we took our last two sessions (morning and bedtime routine) and I started setting timers 5 minutes at first. Then we would cut back from 5 to 4, 4 to 3, etc.etc. till it was 30 seconds latched then unlatch and distract.
@MRDCle, I feel you on the anti-dad thing. My son is super clingy to me first thing in the morning and late at night. I think he knows that daddy can't function without coffee and mommy can
@gollygeeitsamy, sounds like my wild child, haha. It's great she likes taking care of baby dolls! I've seen that suggested for helping new big siblings adjust and I was actually going to do it with my son too. Telling her on her birthday will be so fun! Make sure you get a video of her reaction!
How far along are you? How big is baby?
4 weeks, poppyseed
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
1 son, 4 years old.
How are your other kids doing this week?
He's been great this week, other than an occasional meltdown as we get back to our everyday routine after a vacation. We had a playdate this morning with a close friend and even though her kid and mine sometimes bump heads, they played super well together. It's so cool seeing their imagination take flight.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I'm petrified about the adjustment period. When I'll be on maternity leave, my husband will have his busiest season of work, so I'll be at home alone for most of the time with a newborn and a 5 year old. I have a tendency to lose my temper as it is now with DS at bedtime after a full day with him; I'm nervous how it'll be adding a screaming newborn to that.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
Probably just the one-on-one time with my husband. DS was a surprise, which obviously I wouldn't change for the world, but it means sometimes I feel like we missed out on being just a couple. I'm sometimes jealous of DS getting my husband's attention! I'm an introvert, and sometimes it feels like I don't get a moment to myself through the day, but honestly, when I am alone I don't know what to do with myself.
How far along are you? How big is baby?
4+3
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
One 2 year old boy
How are your other kids doing this week?
Good for the most part. He's struggling with listening to his teachers at school. They seem to have a harder time with it than my DH and I do.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
DH and I have to have a parent teacher conference about his listening issues and "no"s. Honestly he's 2. I think their expectations are unrealistic. "Oh, he says no when you ask him to do something he doesn't want to do? Yeah. He's TWO!"
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
Most? Hands down, no question.... Sleeping in.
Least? Having a hard time with this. Haha
How far along are you? How big is baby?
3+6
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
3.5 year old twins
How are your other kids doing this week?
One was sick Monday and I had to leave work to pick them up from dayhome because now the other is sick!!
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I started at my job a month ago and have taken off so much time already. Then I have to tell them I'm pregnant. I feel bad.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss just getting up and going. Dinner, hiking, camping, concert, whatever. I wouldn't trade being a mom for anything in the world though. I'd have 10 more if it was possible.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
Also... is it too early to start a "favorite names" thread? My husband is killing me by not giving ANY feedback whatsoever, haha.
@MRDCle I'll definitely try the timer!
@kangstadt he self weaned from a pacifier before he turned 1. We bed shared with him from 2 months to 6 months. He started moving around in his sleep a lot at 6 months so no one was able to sleep ha!
@berky84 I'm dreading the "no" stage! DS will shake his head no when he knows he's doing something he's not supposed to, it's kind of cute but frustrating!
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@luckywife10 It might be easier than you think! I weaned DD at 14 months (we were just nursing to sleep) and the day I decided to quit cold-turkey we didn't have any issues. I was shocked! Good luck!
How far along are you? How big is baby?
5W2D - baby is the size of an apple seed.
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
4 year old DD
How are your other kids doing this week?
She is doing really great this week. I think we're starting to get a little restless, though and are ready for preschool and all of our activities to start.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I've been pretty vocal about being one and done so I'm nervous to tell our family and friends about this baby. Having more children is super important to DH so I agreed to one more, but I'm pretty nervous about starting over with a new baby. Our DD also does NOT want a baby brother or sister so this should be interesting!
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss being able to do whatever I want (travel, go out to eat, go to the grocery store) without the added hassle. I don't miss not getting endless amounts of cuddles every day. It's pretty cool feeling super loved all the time!
Welcome @Rad&Co! My son is 4 also and has been pretty vocal about not wanting a baby... I watch my nephew two days a week, and it was very rough when he was a newborn. I'm hoping when it's every day and not just occasionally, DS will just have to get used to it!
How far along are you? How big is baby?
Five weeks one day... peppercorn haha.
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
Two boys... almost six and almost three.
How are your other kids doing this week?
Great! Camps, pool, fun. They fight a lot though
How far along are you? How big is baby?
5w3d, the size of an apple seed.
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
DS who is nearly 6 and DD is 3.
How are your other kids doing this week?
Ok for the most part. DS starts Kindergarten next week. DD is her normal maniacal self
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Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
Rants, I hate my OB office. They've been very insensitive in the face of my loss last December and this new pregnancy. I was told when I conceived again things would be very different and I would have additional ultrasounds, blood work, etc. I've had to push and advocate for myself every inch of the way this time around. It's uncomfortable. If I could switch offices, I would.
Raves, I don't feel pukey yet!
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss sleep and getting to do what I want when I want.
Hmm that's hard. It's hard to know what I miss the least because I didn't know what it was like to have children. So ... I guess I would have not had such a rich life, which I have now.
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
How far along are you?
5 weeks 6 days
How big is baby?
Appleseed
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
One. She’s almost 2 years old.
How are your other kids doing this week?
Very sweet and loving this week
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I had really severe eczema during my pregnancy with DD, and I was really hoping I would avoid that this time. But it looks like my hormones are causing the same issues. I finally heard back from my doctor about a medication I can take, so at least I’ll be getting some relief.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss consistent sleep, I miss having decent skin, and I miss being able to go out and have me time more often. I think having kids has brought consistency and a lot of love into my life, so I’m grateful for that.
How far along are you? How big is baby?
I am 4 + 1 weeks along, poppyseed!
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
One boy - 9 months old
How are your other kids doing this week?
Haha just hanging with me! He's crawling around and cruising around standing on furniture so he's been busy!
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
Just nervous about having a baby with already having such a young one. We planned this and we are so excited but I'm a tad scared now that it's happening! I was very sick, pretty much bed bound, with my first so nervous about that while taking care of my lil one.
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
I miss bringing able to go places with my husband just the two of us
As simple as it's 9 at night and we want to run out for ice cream together. Little stuff! But obviously our son adds so much fun to our outings now. Oh and I worry so much more!
I don't miss people asking "when are you going to have kids" lol. But seriously, I don't miss wishing for kids and wondering if I'd be able to. So happy to be adding to our fam!
https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/advice/two-kids-under-two/
https://www.wholeparentingfamily.com/2013/03/07/12-survival-tips/
https://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/surviving-the-early-days-of-two-under-two
How far along are you? How big is baby?
5.5 weeks
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
3: DD is 5 and DS is 2.5
How are your other kids doing this week?
Driving me nuts!lol my husband is a blueberry farmer so he’s been working 90+ hours a week for the past month so the kids get super clingy to me and the first trimester fatigue is making it a struggle to keep up with them
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
I already feel so bloated that I’m afraid people will notice and ask. I really want to wait till 10 weeks to announce but will probably cave at 8
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least?
Sleeping
How far along are you? How big is baby? 4 +2; baby is the size of a poppy seed.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? I have a 6-month old daughter. It is WILD to be pregnant again, and to be considered a STM!
How are your other kids doing this week? N is the happiest girl in the world. She got her six-month check-up and shots this week, and she starts solids this morning!
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? While we did plan on joining the two-under-two club, my husband and I were NOT planning on having another baby so soon. We're happy, but I am so sad for N - I feel like we're robbing her of being our baby. And I find myself really hoping we're having a boy. I worry if we have a girl, she and N will ALWAYS be lumped together, they'll ALWAYS have to share everything (clothes, toys, friends!), and they'll feel more competitive. Not that those things would be barred from happening with a boy, but I feel like a gender difference would help people perceive them more as different people than as a package deal. I want my kids to be close, but still to have their own identities. Obviously we'll be thrilled with a girl too, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have a preference!
GTKY: What do you miss most from your pre-kid life? What do you miss least? My entire life has revolved around my desire for kids, so everything about our current situation is literally a dream come true. But that being said, a lot of friends have distanced themselves from us since we've had N. We don't get invited out as much (when we WOULD be willing to make the effort!) and we don't get as many people responding to our invitations. I do miss that connection with my social circle. They're good people and good friends, but they're at a different place in their lives. That's all I miss though, and I'm hoping it will come back with time.
@BarefootContessa Why can't you switch OBs? I felt completely unsupported during my first loss - *TW* it was a MMC that did not completely clear with misoprostol, and when I asked when I should come back for follow up, I was told I didn't have to. And EVERYONE - nurses, doctors, the dang receptionists - kept asking me to repeat my agonizing MC story even though they easily should've had all the information they needed in my file. *End TW* I switched to a new practice and later, to a team of REs. Both took me so SERIOUSLY, were so kind and compassionate, and went above and beyond to make sure I felt safe and secure in their care - it seriously made a world of a difference. If you can find a way to switch OBs, it really might be worth it for your peace of mind.
@elmich3 I share a lot of your concerns. I wasn't as sick as it sounds like you were, but I remember being so TIRED and slow for all of my pregnancy - I'm worried about how that will affect my daughter.
Also, add me to the interested-in-a-book-on-two-under-two club!
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
@peaceinnature Thank you so much for sharing that! Actually, tossing and turning in bed a few nights after posting about wanting a boy, I started thinking about all the good and fun that could come from two girls being so close in age... so the hormones are running strong and we'll be happy with whatever we get!