So I work part time from home, only about 20 hours per week. I only took 2 weeks off for maternity leave, because I had this sinking feeling that I would return to a shit show.... well, I was right! The person covering for me did NOTHING. She started a few tasks but either didn't finish, didn't follow through, or simply did it wrong. I am cutting my maternity leave 2 days shorter than it already was because everything is just not done, or half assed done. Some ppl didn't get paid correctly because no one made the corrections. I am super pissed
@cseley321 Ugh....RAGE! This is why I just don't like/trust people on a professional level. I can never trust them to get anything done correctly. I'm so glad that I am project based work, if I had normal daily responsibilities that needed to be done correctly I wouldn't be able to handle it. At least my loose ends will get picked up by my superior who reviews my work rather than a staff level person so I don't have to be worried that it will be done incorrectly.
AFM - My usual daily status of just ready for this baby to GTFO. Love you kid, but I don't need you sitting on my bladder anymore. I'm pretty sure I haven't fully evacuated my bladder in several weeks.
AFM My husband was just called and told he is expected back at work on the 1st. We have a vacation planned until the 4th, which is the day he was approved to be out until. Fingers crossed that they get it all sorted out because we’ve already paid for this trip
H is seriously testing me with his opinions on where, how, and when i should be nursing. The morning also started off with him asking if I wanted to go to breakfast. I suggested a new place that i thought he’d like, but we ended up going to the same place we always do. Then he wanted to go to Cabela’s (again!) and i made the comment that i hate going there. He’s been to Cabela’s once already in the past week and twice to bass pro. He says there is stuff for me there. But then he got mad and drove home because i just don’t find it that interesting to go again. Then i invited him to join me to go out to lunch this week with some coworkers. He said he’d go but wasn’t sure about lunch. I told him i was inviting him and that he didn’t have to go but stop trying to change my plans. Seriously it’s like all of his interests but mine.
AFM. My dog is my BF. And also the rain. It rained basically all last week and will rain basically all this week too. Which means that my dog basically won’t leave the house till it stops. He’s figured out how to pee in all 3 bedrooms today so far today. Grrr
+1 on the bf worthy husband. My husband worked until midnight yesterday. Meanwhile I cluster fed while putting my girls to bed, who whined/cried for daddy until they fell asleep. He is supposed to work a m-f 8-5 type of schedule. I know it’s a busy time, but his regional manager is in town, and he wasn’t supposed to go back until today. Also, I was left to fend with MIL by myself all weekend.
My friend found out today that she’s pregnant, and apparently I am going to be her go to person to ask twenty million questions. So far she’s asked if shes really pregnant (digital test said yes, I don’t know how this is open to interpretation, and also I’m sorry I misplaced my X-ray uterus goggles), whether her baby will have fetal alcohol syndrome and/or adhd because she played flip cup last weekend, what she can and can’t eat (and specifically whether she can eat yogurt???), whether I will be her doula (uh, I’m not even close to a doula...), and complained to me that she’s terrified, can’t handle it, and feels weak and queasy (she’s like 3 weeks so idk about queasy...). Guys I’m happy for her (I think?? I honestly can’t even tell if she’s happy about this or even meant to get pregnant), but it’s going to be a long 9 months of answering questions I can tell already.
@zande2016 I feel for you!! I have a friend that’s about 20 weeks right now and literally all she does is complain to me about how tired she is and how much pain she’s in from “her stomach growing”. She’s a STM but still asks tons of questions lol I just eye roll and give advice when I can. I’m not sure why I am the one to ask though lol I don’t know anything!
@zande2016 ahh so annoying. Almost every month a friend of mine plays the “omg I think I’m pregnant” game (days after she ovulates) and asks to use my pregnancy test stash. Mmmm nope, come back when you miss your period, I’m not a pharmacy- better yet get on some bc!
@acunamatada the part that really gets me is, I have to assume she was trying to get pregnant...she was able to tell me the first day of her last period and every day this month she had sex (FTR I did not ask lol), and plus she’s been married a year and has been asking me questions lately about pregnancy so all Signs point to she did this on purpose...and now that she’s pregnant she is nonstop texting me about How terrified she is and how she can’t do this. Then why did you do it??
I am really ragey today. I think it’s a combo of hormones, pain in the ass toddler, baby refusing to be put down and crying if he’s not being held or nursing, house is a huge disaster, and husband went to work at 7 and isn’t coming home until after 7 tonight...I am alternating between angry and weepy. I haven’t had a chance to eat, pee, or drink water. I smell and I’m hot and I’m sick of being cooped up inside trying to juggle these kids by myself. I guess everyone in my life just figures I don’t need help since this is #2? I mean last time people were bringing us meals and coming over to clean etc. This time nobody is even reaching out. I’ve eaten frozen pizza for lunch pretty much every day since he was born and the laundry and dishes situation is frightening. At least I have my mom, who is coming Today and I am not expecting her to do anything except entertain my toddler so I can chill out a little and not have a mental breakdown (I am feeling like I am on the verge of a meltdown quite honestly). My in laws haven’t even called to check in and it’s been over 2 weeks. Whatever. I can’t stand my MIl anyway, but she doesn’t work and hasn’t never offered to come help me, just saying.
On a related note, my friend is still texting me non stop about her pregnancy, and actually asked if I’m around so she can come talk to me about how scared she is to be pregnant. I am home alone with a newborn and toddler, I can’t even tend to my own most basic needs, but she thinks I can drop everything and hold her hand through this? She should be offering to come over and help me, not asking if she can come so I can help her. I don’t even know what to say to her. I just want to sleep and eat and cry. And maybe shower since I really smell.
@zande2016 Ugh, I'm so sorry about your day. Does your friend have any idea what you're going through? She definitely should be coming over to help you. It seems like her coming over is a great way to freak her out about her pregnancy.
Hang in there @zande2016. That sucks royally that nobody is lending a hand. I’ve never understood why people all come out of the woodwork to help with the first baby but it tends to be crickets for the second, which is when you really need the help!
A belated BF from me, but in keeping somewhat with the theme: Last weekend we had several friends come over for brunch to meet Nathan, including our friends with a 3yo and 15mo. They didn’t warn us they’d be bringing the kids (we thought just the mom would come and kids would stay home with dad). But they all showed up and the parents didn’t pay much attention to their kids and chatted with the other adults instead while I spent the afternoon nervously keeping them from chasing my dog (who was an angel with them, but I still worry what he might do if they really got in his face) and otherwise entertaining them. I feel like I ended up babysitting them while still recovering from birth and trying to keep an eye on my own newborn. Not cool.
@nimmle she is clueless. She has no idea what a hard job it is. The best part is she’s a teacher and currently off for the summer, you’d think she’d have all the time in the world to offer to help me. I told her my toddler is being difficult and I’m overwhelmed right now and she said I should call our babysitter to come over. LOL.
Tuesday BF: went to starbucks today and someone in an old student driver car with a donut on the front left tire (so no way an actual student driver) hit the car in front of him in the drive through and that car's bike rack fell off. Everyone was super flustered in the starbucks and my order came out HALF cream instead of "half inch of cream" and iwth no splendas in it. I know that's kind of a dumb problem to complain about but...ugh. Stupid coffee.
@zande2016 hang in there lady. And I do agree it seems like no one really offers to help on #2. A friend of mine had her second and she asked if I could come over because she was bored and wanted a playdate for her toddler and I said only if I could bring food...she was flabebrgasted, lol. I guess it wasn't something other people did for them.
@SmashJam any coffee screwed up to that degree deserves a BF for sure. Half cream?! Ick.
@zande2016 hugs. I don’t know why people help less after #2. I’ve had way less help myself, and the help I have had I’ve had to ask for. I’m glad you’ll at least get a little toddler break. Take some time for yourself if you can!
Sending you hugs @zande2016! Tell your friend she can come be an aw only if she watches your littles while you take some time for you and shower first. This will also give her a a good eye opener on newborns...
@SmashJam I think it's the day of Starbucks messing up drinks...I ordered my usual upside down (espresso is on top instead of bottom) caramel machiato and they served others drinks before mine and then when mine was ready, it wasnt upside down. The barista just giggled and said sorry, its not upside down. Ugh...if I weren't in a hurry and didnt have my step dad with me, I would have snapped.
@zande2016 hang in there, Hun! I’ve been left to my own devices with baby #2 as well. I couldn’t even get anyone from my family to come over for the birth. Granted, I know flying to the U.K. is a little harder than driving a couple hours to my house but still. They are all off of work! I have three sisters with no jobs or summer obligations and my parents were both on vacation for the two weeks before and after LO was due. They’ve already been telling me I need to fly to visit them though. Me and my almost 3 week old and my 2.5 year old. WHAT?? Heck no lol Before baby came my son and I have gone back to the states every 6 months ($$$$$$$$$) I even went at 30 weeks pregnant with toddler to go to one sister’s HS graduation. SOMEONE could have forked it a little money to come spend some time with me. I don’t know.. It’s probably just my horomones that are complaining but oh well. I’m super close with my family and it hurts my feelings that I can spend thousands on plane tickets to come see them but none of them are willing to do it for me. Guess they will all meet DD when we come for Christmas.
@SmashJam Starbucks screwed up my order today too!! Apparently it’s worldwide “screw up your coffee order” day
@kmac103 I can totally understand being hurt by that. I get that everyone is wrapped up in their own lives and and have their own obligations but it’s nice to not always be the one to have to make an effort.
Re: Monday BF - 7/30/18
So I work part time from home, only about 20 hours per week. I only took 2 weeks off for maternity leave, because I had this sinking feeling that I would return to a shit show.... well, I was right! The person covering for me did NOTHING. She started a few tasks but either didn't finish, didn't follow through, or simply did it wrong. I am cutting my maternity leave 2 days shorter than it already was because everything is just not done, or half assed done. Some ppl didn't get paid correctly because no one made the corrections. I am super pissed
AFM - My usual daily status of just ready for this baby to GTFO. Love you kid, but I don't need you sitting on my bladder anymore. I'm pretty sure I haven't fully evacuated my bladder in several weeks.
@nimmle seriously I literally don’t think I ever fully emptied my bladder during 3rd T. Peeing feels like a whole different experience these days.
AFM My husband was just called and told he is expected back at work on the 1st. We have a vacation planned until the 4th, which is the day he was approved to be out until. Fingers crossed that they get it all sorted out because we’ve already paid for this trip
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
The morning also started off with him asking if I wanted to go to breakfast. I suggested a new place that i thought he’d like, but we ended up going to the same place we always do. Then he wanted to go to Cabela’s (again!) and i made the comment that i hate going there. He’s been to Cabela’s once already in the past week and twice to bass pro. He says there is stuff for me there. But then he got mad and drove home because i just don’t find it that interesting to go again. Then i invited him to join me to go out to lunch this week with some coworkers. He said he’d go but wasn’t sure about lunch. I told him i was inviting him and that he didn’t have to go but stop trying to change my plans. Seriously it’s like all of his interests but mine.
AFM. My dog is my BF. And also the rain. It rained basically all last week and will rain basically all this week too. Which means that my dog basically won’t leave the house till it stops. He’s figured out how to pee in all 3 bedrooms today so far today. Grrr
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
On a related note, my friend is still texting me non stop about her pregnancy, and actually asked if I’m around so she can come talk to me about how scared she is to be pregnant. I am home alone with a newborn and toddler, I can’t even tend to my own most basic needs, but she thinks I can drop everything and hold her hand through this? She should be offering to come over and help me, not asking if she can come so I can help her. I don’t even know what to say to her. I just want to sleep and eat and cry. And maybe shower since I really smell.
A belated BF from me, but in keeping somewhat with the theme: Last weekend we had several friends come over for brunch to meet Nathan, including our friends with a 3yo and 15mo. They didn’t warn us they’d be bringing the kids (we thought just the mom would come and kids would stay home with dad). But they all showed up and the parents didn’t pay much attention to their kids and chatted with the other adults instead while I spent the afternoon nervously keeping them from chasing my dog (who was an angel with them, but I still worry what he might do if they really got in his face) and otherwise entertaining them. I feel like I ended up babysitting them while still recovering from birth and trying to keep an eye on my own newborn. Not cool.
@zande2016 hang in there lady. And I do agree it seems like no one really offers to help on #2. A friend of mine had her second and she asked if I could come over because she was bored and wanted a playdate for her toddler and I said only if I could bring food...she was flabebrgasted, lol. I guess it wasn't something other people did for them.
@SmashJam messed up Starbucks orders are worthy of a BF for sure, and also I’m jealous of your drive though Starbucks lol.
@zande2016 hugs. I don’t know why people help less after #2. I’ve had way less help myself, and the help I have had I’ve had to ask for. I’m glad you’ll at least get a little toddler break. Take some time for yourself if you can!
@SmashJam I think it's the day of Starbucks messing up drinks...I ordered my usual upside down (espresso is on top instead of bottom) caramel machiato and they served others drinks before mine and then when mine was ready, it wasnt upside down. The barista just giggled and said sorry, its not upside down. Ugh...if I weren't in a hurry and didnt have my step dad with me, I would have snapped.
@SmashJam Starbucks screwed up my order today too!! Apparently it’s worldwide “screw up your coffee order” day
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018