Ok, don't hate me butttttt I saw this on another BMB, and I agree. I think it is silly to pay out of pocket for the sneak peek test or to do the NIPT for the sole purpose of finding out the sex of the baby. I don't get why one cannot wait until the A/S
My UO is along those lines: We are team green and it drives me crazy how people say you cannot plan if you do not know the sex of the baby. That is so not true! We did a green and yellow Noah’s Ark nursery that we will reuse with this baby. All of our gear is gender neutral, too, which we would have done anyway because we knew we wanted more kids. We have a lot of gender neutral 0-3 clothes and if it’s a girl I don’t care if she wears some of DS’s “boy” sleepers. I just do not understand why people feel the need to go out and spend tons of money on pink or blue everything.
@katy0990 I totally agree. We found out at the a/s, but it's really not going to change anything we do. We were just curious! If it had been a girl, I may have bought some flowery sleepers or something, but pretty much everything I've bought or registered for is neutral, and the nursery would have been decorated the same way for either outcome.
ugh yes @jens_hoes We are in the market for a new car and DH has been trying to get me on board with a minivan. I told him if we get that he's driving it and I'm keeping my mazda 3. He said no because he drives a lot more then I do. I don't want one! I did cave and offer to look and when we were quoted DANNNGG those things are expensive now!! I thought they were these ugly monsters no one likes so they were supposed to be dirt cheap?!
@katy0990 We did the same thing a registered all gender neutral for our first. I have enough clothes to make it to 6 months for this little boy wearing his sister handme downs. If we are still in this house we will use the same nursery but oddly when DD was born we had two houses, in different states with different themes neutral nurseries. (In a new house he will get the other theme because DD loves her elephants). We did find out the gender for both our babies. My husband and I love having a secret. We did a little balloon reveal at my shower for DD. This time it seems to slip out more but it’s not like it is with a first and everyone wants to buy buy buy!!!
I agree on the NIPT/SneakPeek for sex purposes only. I got the NIPT because I'm AMA and worried about Trisomies and other chromosomal issues (I've worried a lot this pregnancy). The sex was just a bonus. I waited until the anatomy scan to find out with DD. Even after finding out she was a girl, we still did a pretty neutral nursery for her...grey chevron, turquoise and yellow. And the only frilly pink shit we owned was gifted or handed down.
UO: I hate most green, yellow, and brown gender neutral baby stuff. I don’t like the over the top gendered stuff either, but I don’t like how gender neutral is usually limited to those colors and avoid them if I can.
@katy0990 I agree that team green is not a restriction! While we know we’re having a boy, we may adopt a girl in the future - it’ll be nice that the babies can share silly clothes.
@Jens_Hoes & @kristah2 I’m with you both. I used to drive a minivan often for work (hauling and setting up DJs and event equipment), and it was handy because it was a work vehicle. Outside of that? No way José-bot.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@runrinserepeat YES. That is my main reason we failed at gender neutral with DD - not because I was against the concept, but because I found the gender neutral clothes to be all yellow, green and grey pastels that seemed so...unvibrant, if I can pretend that's a word for a second. I think there are more cute gender neutral clothes emerging now, thankfully, but I just am not a fan of that color palette.
When folks confirm that we want greens and grays, I try to specify that we're into "adult" greens like sage green, or grass green - in an attempt to avoid pale greens that IMO just scream 'infants only.' I sent my mom this image (it's the side of a fabric storage box) for color inspiration, and it worked really well.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango Ooh, I love that! And actually, the box is pretty much exactly the colors of the CD's I got before I knew whether my son was going to be a boy or a girl: grey, turquoise, grass green, light green, bright yellow. (I became less and less gender-neutral as he aged and I got into dressing him like a little man, heh.)
Maybe that's my UO for today, then! I used to care more about gender neutral but I actually really like boy clothes and girl clothes, and am excited to dress this one in dresses and frilly crap. H is not on board.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
This is probably the green many of you hate, but I had to share because I still love how it turned out! (Ignore my 40+ week pregnant self. This was right before we left for my induction)
UO: I'm tired of doing weekly check-ins. I've just started responding to everyone's and not answering the questions.
I'm having a hard time finding motivation to read them, even. And I fell behind on the randoms because of my work trip, so I feel out of the loop. Honestly the conversations in the check ins feel to forced, it's made me wonder whether I'll continue participating here at all
Re: check ins, I have not been able to keep up with the long ones (like STMs) almost at all. I still keep up with and love the PGAL one, but the others are tough because there are so many replies! I do like the conversation that happens naturally in randoms, bitchfest, etc. @runrinserepeat so hopefully you'll stick around and find a niche to follow/contribute to outside of the check in threads!
And fwiw, I do love the content of the check ins like the STM one - I love reading about the victories and setbacks in parenting, etc., - it's just hard to get through it all in a busy work day!
Also, since we're a more established group now, not sure about anyone else, but I would totally be open to more specific one off threads, if anyone has stuff they want to chat about. And/or more GTKYs! We haven't had one in a while and those are always fun.
I think the STMs one bums me out a bit, because my kids are so much older than the average kid here. You all have stuff you're dealing with on a week-by-week basis, and I'm like, "my kids are the same, they are independent and tell me when something's wrong and they're potty trained and in big kid beds and I have nothing to contribute here..."
I agree that the check in questions get a little old, especially when I am giving the exact same answers over and over. I especially think the STM one is super hard to keep up with and acknowledge everyone. I cringe when I see like 10 more replies to answer when I log on.
Lol @runrinserepeat Not a fan of that green either. I had to google it, ha
I keep up with PGAL and that's pretty much it. I try to contribute in Randoms, Symptoms, and Appointments, but man. It's rough. I may start a no-no thread to get everyone riled up
@runrinserepeat i mean PGAL is pretty legit but I'm happy you're not there (not because you, because PGAL).
Re check ins: I try super hard to be into them. I don't have other kids, my job is pretty laid back, and I feel like I have time to do it. But like others have said, they're very similar when there are 3 or more every week. What about some monthly check ins? A lot of stuff on ftm specific stuff I think would benefit from stm eyes so I usually put it in questions anyway.
@texas_t LOL. Have you seen the worm thread on (I think) Feb 19??? There are some crazy threads out there.
Would anyone be up for a Would You Rather thread? I always think those are fun.
I should probably actually post a UO somewhere in this UO thread - no idea if this is unpopular or popular, but I think there should be an income cap. I don't think any individual person needs to have more than 1 billion dollars (and that's pretty high - I think it could easily be lower, like 100 million!) After you hit a certain point it should just automatically go to taxes/charity/redistributing that income for the public good.
I feel like it's going to feel a little slow and/or difficult to keep up until things switch to a more personal forum like a private Facebook group. It's hard to keep conversations going when we are all still using codes for our spouses/children and are revealing only minimal details about our lives.
I would be cool with switching to maybe monthly check-ins and replacing the weekly ones with more GTKY-type threads.
@maureenmce I agree with your income cap! The fact that people are allowed to hoard sooooo much money - and actually do! - sickens me.
ETA: I saw the worm thread the other day and I was really jealous it wasn't on our board.
The only downside of monthly check ins is I feel like they'd be even more unwieldy to respond to! Like, imagine 20+ pages of replies. Eek. But I am up for whatever - I like our established group of ladies a lot, so whatever works for us!
With work lately (other than today - woo!) it's so usually so busy that I only participate in randoms, bitchfest (making it weekly was a great idea, so maybe I have no idea what I'm talking about with all the replies) and whatever GTKY's or one offs pop up. But I don't mind that at all, or if we want to change things up between now and facebook!
Here's my UO, although I'm not sure how unpopular it really is: Seeing very pregnant women in super tight clothes bothers the heck out of me. Not because I think pregnant women are gross or anything - it just looks SO UNCOMFORTABLE and people in clothes that are clearly too small for them drives me nuts (not in a revealing sense, but someone who is clearly a size 8 squeezing themselves into a 4). I saw a photo of my very pregnant cousin the other day in clothes that were waaaayy too small for her and it made me want to squirm out of my skin. GIRL! GET SOME CLOTHES THAT FIT YOU!
@hkom What annoys me more is when the have to post to social media about it. Like well I’m 35 weeks and this will be the last time I wear these size small shorts or whatever. STFU you are just looking for attention and admiration.
@katy0990 Aaahh I don't think I've ever seen anyone do that specifically. But attention/validation-seeking posts like that will get you an immediate unfollow from me! I had to unfollow my own brother for that crap.
I also have a hard time keeping up with the check-ins because I've been so busy at work lately. I still haven't commented on the due date check in I started on Monday. But, please don't leave us @runrinserepeat!! I'll try to think of some MUD if you want me to!
Another UO: I hate it when parents refer to another child as their child’s boyfriend or girlfriend. I see it especially with the 5 and under crowd. Why would you feel the need to say that about children that young?
Another UO: I hate it when parents refer to another child as their child’s boyfriend or girlfriend. I see it especially with the 5 and under crowd. Why would you feel the need to say that about children that young?
I’m with you on this one. I see one person that refers to her best friends son as her future son in law. The kids are 1 and 2. It just feels uncomfortable for me.
Re: UO Thursday 7/26
I saw this on another BMB, and I agree. I think it is silly to pay out of pocket for the sneak peek test or to do the NIPT for the sole purpose of finding out the sex of the baby. I don't get why one cannot wait until the A/S
My UO is along those lines: We are team green and it drives me crazy how people say you cannot plan if you do not know the sex of the baby. That is so not true! We did a green and yellow Noah’s Ark nursery that we will reuse with this baby. All of our gear is gender neutral, too, which we would have done anyway because we knew we wanted more kids. We have a lot of gender neutral 0-3 clothes and if it’s a girl I don’t care if she wears some of DS’s “boy” sleepers. I just do not understand why people feel the need to go out and spend tons of money on pink or blue everything.
I did cave and offer to look and when we were quoted DANNNGG those things are expensive now!! I thought they were these ugly monsters no one likes so they were supposed to be dirt cheap?!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
I sent my mom this image (it's the side of a fabric storage box) for color inspiration, and it worked really well.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Maybe that's my UO for today, then! I used to care more about gender neutral but I actually really like boy clothes and girl clothes, and am excited to dress this one in dresses and frilly crap. H is not on board.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
And fwiw, I do love the content of the check ins like the STM one - I love reading about the victories and setbacks in parenting, etc., - it's just hard to get through it all in a busy work day!
Also, since we're a more established group now, not sure about anyone else, but I would totally be open to more specific one off threads, if anyone has stuff they want to chat about. And/or more GTKYs! We haven't had one in a while and those are always fun.
My OU - I think lingerie is pointless
I keep up with PGAL and that's pretty much it. I try to contribute in Randoms, Symptoms, and Appointments, but man. It's rough. I may start a no-no thread to get everyone riled up
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Re check ins: I try super hard to be into them. I don't have other kids, my job is pretty laid back, and I feel like I have time to do it. But like others have said, they're very similar when there are 3 or more every week. What about some monthly check ins? A lot of stuff on ftm specific stuff I think would benefit from stm eyes so I usually put it in questions anyway.
Would anyone be up for a Would You Rather thread? I always think those are fun.
I should probably actually post a UO somewhere in this UO thread - no idea if this is unpopular or popular, but I think there should be an income cap. I don't think any individual person needs to have more than 1 billion dollars (and that's pretty high - I think it could easily be lower, like 100 million!) After you hit a certain point it should just automatically go to taxes/charity/redistributing that income for the public good.
I would be cool with switching to maybe monthly check-ins and replacing the weekly ones with more GTKY-type threads.
@maureenmce I agree with your income cap! The fact that people are allowed to hoard sooooo much money - and actually do! - sickens me.
ETA: I saw the worm thread the other day and I was really jealous it wasn't on our board.
With work lately (other than today - woo!) it's so usually so busy that I only participate in randoms, bitchfest (making it weekly was a great idea, so maybe I have no idea what I'm talking about with all the replies) and whatever GTKY's or one offs pop up. But I don't mind that at all, or if we want to change things up between now and facebook!