Appointments and Updates 7/22

middleschoolmommy · July 2018

When is your appointment?

How far along will you be?

What is being discussed?

Comments/Questions/Concerns:

middleschoolmommy · July 2018

When is your appointment?
Tomorrow, 7/23 @ 8am
How far along will you be?
23+1
What is being discussed?
We are going to complete the AS, looking at the heart. I'll also have a cervical length measurement done.
Comments/Questions/Concerns:
I got a call from my OBs office while on vacation, their sonographer will be out for "a few weeks" so they were calling to let me know that I'll have to do at least 2 of my next scheduled ultrasounds with someone else. I'm going to have to break hat to my MFM tomorrow morning. I'm hoping they will be okay with me coming in for a couple cervical length checks over the next month or so. My OBs office is part of a huge medical network, so I'm surprised they don't bring in someone at least part time from another office.

mamabee1113 · July 2018

When is your appointment?
Friday, 7/27

How far along will you be?
23+3

What is being discussed?
AS results besides the basic “everything looks good” message I got and the usual check-in stuff

Comments/Questions/Concerns:
I’m dying to finally hear what my OB thinks about baby measuring two full weeks ahead at the AS. Mainly wondering if it’s just something to monitor or if it constitutes changing my EDD.
Also going to ask about long-distance travel for two friends upcoming weddings in August and October. I don’t think the August one will be any problem, but not sure about October.

pelorunningmama · July 2018

When is your appointment? Tomorrow, 7/23

How far along will you be? 25 weeks

What is being discussed? It is a regular check up that should hopefully be pretty quick. I think I do my GD screening in August, so the biggest decision will be picking what flavor of drink I want.

Comments/Questions/Concerns: I am starting to consider hiring a doula. This is my 3rd and last baby and I've never had one. I'm not necessarily sure I want to try for an unmedicated birth, but my last epidural was really bad. It left me scared to do it again, so I want to be aware of all my support options. I'm hoping it is not too late in the game to consider one.

lifesabeach85 · July 2018

When is your appointment? Thursday

How far along will you be? 26+1

What is being discussed? regular check up plus the glucola screening (yuck)

Comments/Questions/Concerns: Since I'll be 26w at this one I'm not sure if I will be going back again in 2 weeks or 4 weeks after this....

@wannaflickone I have nothing but great things to say about doulas! I think they are the most beneficial if either you are planning to go unmedicated or it's your first birth, but they can still be very helpful in any birth. You can always call and just say this is my third and I'm not sure if I am going unmedicated or not, are there other reasons to hire you?

MojieJo · July 2018

When is your appointment?

Today. Just got back.

How far along will you be?

23 + 3

What is being discussed?

Ultrasounds (internal and external) and general MFM appointment.

Comments/Questions/Concerns:

I couldn't be more stressed out or pissed off right now if I tried.

1. I asked the MFM about his recommendation that I have a psychiatric evaluation (in spite of already seeing a psychiatrist regularly) and having a visit from a social worker. His response was that it was because of my history of anxiety and that the social worker was to make sure that I could handle my child (I already have two that I handle just fine) and that the home was safe. WTF, dude?

2. I asked whether I needed to do 3x daily kick counts as per my OB. Yes.

3. I asked whether I really needed to abstain from sex even though I have no history of pre-term labor or a shortened cervix. He said he couldn't tell me and that was between me and my OB since that's what my OB told me, though he agrees there's no basis for it.

4. I now have to do a fetal echocardiogram even though "the results will be fine" just because of my history of IVF. First of all, that's ridiculous. Second, my insurance won't cover it since there's no medical reason for it. Third, I have to get a sitter for my kids again for an unnecessary test.

5. They kept me waiting for an hour after my appointment time just to be seen for 5 minutes. It's not the 2 hour wait of last time, but it's still ludicrous.

My husband is calling my OB to see if I can just stop seeing this idiot because I'm on the verge of tears over all of this stupidity and unnecessary testing and drama. My OB causes me enough stress without dealing with this MFM on top of it.

MouseMama817 · July 2018

@MojieJo I really hope your OB excuses you from seeing this guy. You should be enjoying this sweet time. Did he seem at all sheepish at having to admit his reasoning for the psychiatrist and social worker?
The only way I would be able to handle this without losing my mind is to think that when things do go wrong at home with moms with PPA/PPD/PPP, we often put blame on medical professionals who could’ve intervened earlier if only they’d done their job. I’m not AT ALL saying he’s on to something with these extra orders he’s giving you, but if this is how he generally operates he might be doing some good somewhere else. I don’t know, I hope that helps a teeny bit to look at it from that angle. Either way, I don’t blame you at all for feeling insulted and I do hope you don’t have to keep seeing him throughout the rest of your pregnancy.

MojieJo · July 2018

@MouseMama817 He didn't seem sheepish at all. If I didn't know I was in the right, I'd have left feeling stupid for questioning him.

EvilRaccoon · July 2018

@MojieJo: Sweet baby Jesus, I really hope you can stop seeing that MFM. He's doing more harm than good, that idiot. Does he not know what anxiety is like to take this approach with you? Crétin.

lachnessmomster · July 2018

@MojieJo This is definitely frustrating. @MouseMama817 makes a great point, but even with that in mind, I would be just as irritated. I would think you seeing a psychiatrist regularly would help your case, and I'm still baffled by the social worker visit. There must be a reason this is protocol? Is there any way you can refuse the visit? I'm sorry you're going through so much stress and that this is ruining your happy time. I hope you don't have to jump through any more hoops from here on out.

MojieJo · July 2018

@EvilRaccoon Just heard from my OB and he found me another MFM who's twice the distance from our house, but if they're going to make me wait 1-2 hours past my appointment time anyway at the current place, it's not a big difference in terms of how long it's going to take for appointments. They're working on setting me up to see him instead.

He thinks I should do the fetal echocardiogram just because the MFM said so, though, so I guess I'm doing it.

MojieJo · July 2018

@lachnessmomster I don't think I'm required to see the social worker, based on the taking I've done between my OB and MFM today. The MFM wanted me to, but it's looking like I can refuse, as I understand it.

So there's that, at least!

EvilRaccoon · July 2018

@MojieJo: That is good news, I hope it really works out! I did the fetal echocardiogram too, because of my early GD, even though the risks were low. I found it reassuring because it allows to rule out many heart conditions. It's rather boring though, you really only see the heart.

lurvleybunchococonuts · July 2018

@mojiejo WOW... that MFM sounds ghastly. I hope the new one is less stressful on you. Even if you can decline the Social Work & Psych eval thing that seems super invasive and unwarranted. WTF... does he recommend ALL women have those two things done? Is this his "norm" or does he have some unfounded reasoning behind it? Didn't you say he initially stated "that was left over from his previous patient?" Or am I making that up? Good luck momma... you do what you need to

lachnessmomster · July 2018

@MojieJo Got ya! That is a relief!

tessiesmom26 · July 2018

@MojieJo I am crossing every little thing that you get set up with this new MFM Dr and that this BS is almost over for you!!!

MojieJo · July 2018

Thank you, ladies, for the emotional support! I feel like I'm going crazy over here dealing with all of this ridiculousness. It's so hard to keep my head up in the face of all of this testing and BS.

@lurvleybunchococonuts My OB suggested that maybe it was leftover from another patient since he was grasping at straws trying to figure out a reason for it.

I think it's just me and maybe other patients with a history of anxiety/depression (unsure on the last one, since I'm obviously not privy to their info). I really doubt he puts all of his patients through this crap.

I'm going to be so glad to be done with him. He's incredibly dismissive and uninterested in answering questions or concerns. I'm hoping the new guy is better, but I imagine he can't be much worse!

lurvleybunchococonuts · July 2018

@MojieJo ahhhh okay, thanks for the clarification. That makes sense (not the MFM suggesting those things, but your OB thinking maybe it was left from another patient). Either way... phew on getting a new MFM... that guy just sounds terrible.

pelorunningmama · July 2018

@mojiejo I am so glad you are getting worked in with another mfm. Your current one sounds truly ridiculous. I'm so sorry for the added stress and negative emotions he has caused.

middleschoolmommy · July 2018

@MojieJo so glad you are going to try another mfm. That last one sounds awful. I'm sorry you had to deal with that extra stress.

AFM, baby girl is still in a bad position for getting all pic of her heart. My mfm said we can wait 2 more weeks to see if she moves before he sends me to a specialist (because of risk from pre-gestational diabetesl).next appointment will be on our 10th anniversary, so it will be cool to see baby girl on that special day.

mockingjay1 · July 2018

@MojieJo - I am so glad your OB recommended another MFM doc! Hopefully they are much better even though they are further away. I'm sorry your doctors are causing your more stress, I feel like they should be doing the opposite!

tessiesmom26 · July 2018

When is your appointment?
It was last Friday but I never updated on it. It was my first PT appt.

How far along will you be?
25W

What is being discussed?
My hip alignment, and pain management

Comments/Questions/Concerns:
The appt lasted about 40 minutes and the therapist was able to stretch me out and give me exercises to do at home. She agreed that my hips/pelvic bone are not aligned. She said that while it is more common than you would think, I shouldn't have to deal with the pain. I have to go twice a week for a month to hopefully get back into alignment. She also suggested a support belt that she wants me to wear for all waking hours. Not sure I want to do that, and it's a little costly, so I am still debating on that.

I was pretty sore all weekend, and Sunday I slipped getting into the shower so that made it so much worse. I am trying to just take it easy, but it's so much easier said than done.

lostarz14 · July 2018

When is your appointment?

Thursday, 7/26, 1130am.

How far along will you be?

23w1d

What is being discussed?

Not sure. Just a monthly checkup.

Comments/Questions/Concerns:

I may mention my lower back pain but I think I really just need to see a chiropractor.

wildrainbow · July 2018

When is your appointment?
It was today

How far along will you be?
24+2

What is being discussed?
Regular appt today. Baby hid from the Doppler, which was fun.

Comments/Questions/Concerns:
So, I had more lab work drawn. I got a surprise u/s with cervical check because I've been having contractions. They are very irregular and my Ute is irritable so we are just monitoring them atm. I scheduled my GTT for 28 weeks, altho I expect to be back with in 1-2 weeks, starting NSTs. My blood pressure was up a bit today, which wasn't the greatest, but I will be back for them to check it soon. Baby boy looks good, right now he is curled up, facing my back. Explains my back pain and all the RLP as he is trying to borrow towards my back. So right now, I'm in a holding pattern until labs come back and keeping my FX I don't get admitted.

mockingjay1 · July 2018

When is your appointment?
It was today

How far along will you be?
24w2d

What is being discussed?
Monthly appointment and had my glucose test (should get the results tomorrow)

Comments/Questions/Concerns:
It was my last appointment with my OB before we move. The clinic is so amazing. I don't even have to tell them my name (front desk, u/s tech, nurses, doc) and everyone is so friendly. I doubt my next clinic will be as great, but we'll see in a few weeks. I am going to do a 3d ultrasound at my current clinic with the tech in 2 weeks (it's a bit early, but I trust her and know she won't accidentally tell me the sex of baby). I think not knowing the baby's sex has made this pregnancy seem less real (for lack of better terms). Or maybe it's just because we're so busy with life, but I thought getting a good look at baby would help

hollyeva · July 2018

When is your appointment?
It was today, just got back
How far along will you be?
22+1
What is being discussed?
The usual monthly appointment
Comments/Questions/Concerns:
Well the OB decided I need go straight to taking ANOTHER 3 hour glucose test just because I failed the first 1 hour one back around week 14 and she predicts I'll fail this one too. One of my previous pregnancies I failed the first one (it was also early) but they just made me take a 3 hour and then another 1 hour one. She thinks this is faster and saves me a test, so there's that. It's just frustrating because I really REALLY hate doing the 3 hour one.

The good news is, everything is measuring well, baby sounds healthy and had a good heart rate, and I've only gained 4 pounds so far (I'm overweight and typically lose some in the first trimester) this pregnancy. Just hoping to keep things under control because as this pregnancy has progressed, I've been getting more tired and more hungry already. LOL.

MojieJo · July 2018

When is your appointment?

Tuesday, 7/31.

How far along will you be?

24 + 4

What is being discussed?

I'm having a(n unnecessary) fetal echocardiogram done. My soon-to-be ex-MFM ordered it because of my "history of IVF" even though "the results will be fine" and my OB said I should go ahead and do it anyway, so here I am...

Comments/Questions/Concerns:

I know there's no reason for it to be done and everything is going to be fine, but I'm a little scared they're going to find a heart defect by complete chance.

Obviously, it would be good to know ahead of time if baby boy has a heart issue, but it's causing me unnecessary anxiety thinking about the (extremely unlikely) chance.

On the plus side, if my husband follows through on his promise, he's taking the day off work and we're taking the twins to the zoo afterwards, so that'll be fun.

smulrich16 · July 2018

When is your appointment?
One was yesterday afternoon with my MFM and I have one on Friday with my OB.

How far along will you be?
22+4 (yesterday) 23w (Friday)

What is being discussed?
At my MFM they checked my cervix and did scans of each baby to check for any issues/TTTS. Both babes were active as hell (as per usual) and the poor tech had a terrible time trying to get their hearts/any blood-flow measurements because they just kept moving. She got them, though, and the babies are right on track with each other. Baby A is 1 lb and Baby B is 1lb 1oz. My doc is pretty happy with my progress. He keeps reminding me that being tall is a definite plus with twins and that our goal is to make it to 36/37w.

My Friday appointment is a standard appointment with my OB, but it's the first time I'll see her since May 1. All of my other appointments at that office have been with alternate providers. To be honest, I kind of feel like my regular OB appointments are a waste of time since I'm seeing MFM so much, but it's standard protocol.

Comments/Questions/Concerns:
DH was able to make it to this appointment, which always makes me happy.

I LOVE my MFM doc and am really glad he's caring for me/my babes. The entire staff is amazing, as well. I'm not looking forward to my OB appointment on Friday because my OB is totally overworked right now (the other provider in the practice left a few months ago) and her support staff never really looks at the chart before they see me. So, I'm constantly explaining to them that I'm having twins. It's kind of annoying as they are, technically, in charge of the care of my pregnancy. I think that if I didn't have the MFM office support, I would probably have switched OBs.

smulrich16 · July 2018

@MojieJo I'm sorry that your current MFM doc is putting you through all of this. I felt a little silly getting Fetal Echos done on my babes and they said the same thing that they were sure the results would come back fine. Well, one of my LOs has a Pulmonary Stenosis - which sucks - but I'm glad they found it so that we can monitor it/fix it if it gets worse. I pray that your scans come back clear of any issues and that your new MFM gives you less anxiety than this one.

mockingjay1 · July 2018

Nurse called me today and I failed my 1 hour glucose screen (my result was 142, boo). I am just going to call myself gestational and check my sugars vs going through the 3 hour test again. I'm hoping my body is similar this time as it was with DS and still allows me a serving of dessert while still keeping my blood sugar within range.

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