PGAL question

3rdtime_charmed · July 2018

I’m really obsessing here... so I thought I would go to the group.

pretty sure ovulation was 6/29. Didn’t temp but had horrible right sided pain that day, EWCM, etc.
BFP was dpo11, 5 days before I suspected my period. Today, one day before AF should’ve arrived, I had one pink spot in CM. My cycles can be short and irregular though so it’s not totally precise there I realize. I flip between day and night shifts at work so temping has never worked for me.

TW- two early losses under my belt, but absolutely everything feels different this time, down to early symptoms and early BFP-TW

I was having so much cramping that I assumed was implantation and that really is better today. Overall though I also feel less pregnant today, HA is better, boobs less sore, less constipated.

I haven’t been managed by a specialist up until now because I live in the boonies and I don’t have great access. I also work a lot and weird hours so it’s hard to do anything short notice when you add in drive time to go somewhere. And my husband is not super supportive. He wants to just ignore the whole thing until we are sure I won’t miscarry and doesn’t really believe intervention of any kind is ok in general (like IVF for example, “if it’s meant to be it will happen”). I am scheduled for a high risk OB at about 7 weeks this time but she’s out on maternity leave right now.

I want to just ignore one spot of blood, but I also know that I could ask for HCG levels and progesterone testing.

Im not sure i have a question... but know I am probably overthinking.

BuckeyeNut05 · July 2018

That is tough, especially when you have had previous losses and analyze everything.

My personal opinion is if it's stressing you out, go get tests done. Be your own advocate.

My OB refused to take progesterone levels and I went and had it done on my own via a walk in lab website and then promptly switched doctors.

3rdtime_charmed · July 2018

Yeah, I don’t know how much more stressed I am, I’ve been pretty stressed in general. It does feel better just to explain it all to someone that will take in all those details though. I am still hopeful and I guess that feels foolish.

Allycat11 · July 2018

I don't mean this in a snarky way at all but I am not sure if you are venting or asking for advice...either one is fine. I will throw my advice out there and do with it as you wish

Allycat11 · July 2018

Ah my whole response did not show up for some reason and it was really long... Basically I'd get your hcg and progesterone checked ❤

mschanandlerbong1214 · July 2018

I agree with everyone else, I would call and get some blood work done just to put your mind at ease. Sending you positive vibes girl

char245 · July 2018

I agree with @BuckeyeNut05 and @Allycat11 I think you would feel much better if you get those numbers checked. My progesterone levels came back fine but my doctor agreed that I should be on it this time bc of my loss history. It may or may not be doing anything but it makes me feel like I’m doing something which makes me a little less stressed. FX that everything works out great for you this time around!

3rdtime_charmed · July 2018

Allycat11 said:

I don't mean this in a snarky way at all but I am not sure if you are venting or asking for advice...either one is fine. I will throw my advice out there and do with it as you wish

Not taken as snarky! I’m not sure if I need advice or to vent either!! I Haven’t had any bleeding at all for 6 hours and feel awful again, but if I get any more bleeding there is an urgent care near me that would probably draw it if I came in, and they are open every day. I don’t want to overreact, but I don’t want to be dumb either!!

meggyme · July 2018

It seems odd that you’re high risk but they still won’t see you until the time a regular OB would see you. I’d definitely at least call. That said, a little spotting is ok.

Also, I think you and YH need to have a serious talk about this. It’s not so much about intervention as it is him supporting you in the way you need. I don’t mean this to be cruel because I know you’ve suffered a loss, but you’re never really in the clear. Not even when baby is in your arms are you guaranteed something won’t happen. Worrying about that stuff is part of parenthood, and sometimes an “unnecessary” call or visit to the doctor to set your mind at ease is worth the drive if it can prevent some sleepless nights.

3rdtime_charmed · July 2018

It’s because my OB is on maternity leave herself, it was the earliest appt I could get. I did end up calling, and the nurse is supposed to call me, I think they may be overwhelmed with her out because hers is the largest practice of the group. I haven’t had more bleeding, but if I do I will go to urgent care. I really had a hard time finding a provider in general because there’s a shortage in my area. Many aren’t trained in anything but totally normal, or are slowing down their practices due to retirement. There is a local mom’s blog that has all kinds of information about who’s out there, and I used that to pick, but if things don’t improve, it does seem like I will have to do something different. It doesn’t help that we’ve moved a couple times so my first two losses were managed by docs where we lived before.

Ive talked to my husband. I’m just putting the details out there to be complete. He’s actually come a long way. There was a time where he didn’t want to try anymore at all, and risk another miscarriage, and because of that we took a long break from TTC which was hard on me, as much as I want a family.

Thanks all for the backup, I really feel a lot better.

kerco925 · July 2018

I agree with the previous posters. If you feel getting blood work may ease your stress, you should go for it. And while I am not saying to totally disregard your H's feelings, I feel he should be supporting you in whatever you need right now.

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