Hi all-- would love some advice and insight! I have had an offer from a close friend to throw me a baby shower. I accepted, but am having second thoughts. It's near impossible to dial a date down, my list will either be smallish and full of groups that don't know each other well or quite large (because inviting some friends will lead to it being difficult to exclude others in that "group"), I know work and my mom's friends are also throwing me something, and I have a lot of items already from years of trying to conceive and receiving hand me downs! I don't love attention on me and at this point would prefer to not have my friend throw me anything, but rather take me to lunch or for mani/pedis. Is there a polite way I can tell her this without her feelings being hurt? It sounds simple in my head, but I am having trouble with the wording to ensure it doesn't come out wrong and I put my foot in my mouth..