January 2019 Moms
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STM+ check-in 6/14-6/23
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How far along are you (if you remember...)?
How are your other kids doing this week?
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
How are your other kids doing this week?
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Re: STM+ check-in 6/14-6/23
8-ish weeks
How are your other kids doing this week?
They are doing well! My daughter (age 7) was ecstatic to learn that she made it onto an even more advanced dance team than she had been hoping for. I’m super happy for her and proud of her for all her hard work, but this team is also more expensive than the team I thought she was going to get on, so I guess I’ll have to pick up an extra shift or 2 at work this summer. My son (age 10) is loving the wrestling day camp he’s been going to and wants to sign-up for wrestling this fall. Luckily that’s run through our local school district and is pretty affordable. My 3 year old really wants to take a dance class, but she still occasionally has poop accidents, so I told her I’ll sign her up for dance once she goes poop on the potty every time. For the last 3 days, she’s done much better.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
I’m hoping to not gain as much weight this time around because it made my 3rd trimester really rough last pregnancy. I’m trying to stay more physically active, which is hard when I’m exhausted, nauseous, and busy with the other kiddos. That’s probably the biggest thing I’m planning to do differently; less weight gain and more physically active. I gained the least and was the most physically active with my second and she was my easiest pregnancy and my easiest childbirth, so I figure if I can do those things again, only better, it will hopefully make a positive difference.
I’ve overall liked my labor and delivery experiences, and plan to do the same things this time. I love Christopher’s Birth Prep for the end of the 3rd trimester; I think it made a huge difference in my labor so I will definitely be using that again this time around, though obviously that’s a ways off. I also liked having a labor music list; I like listening to my past ones during pregnancy, as well, and finding new songs to put on the list.
7+4
How are your other kids doing this week?
Meh. DS had a mild case of hand, foot, and mouth. It wasn't bad, thankfully, but made for a couple of bad nights.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Pregnancy: I hope to keep up with exercise (I didn't do anything besides walking last time).
Childbirth: 100% will get an epidural again. I will try to not take an Ambien 1.5 hours before my water breaks
This isn't necessarily related to the actual childbirth, but I am going to ask family members to not visit us until at least a few hours after the baby is born. Last time, there were 8 family members in my hospital room 1.5 hours after I gave birth (and it was 11 p.m.). I was way overwhelmed and really wanted to scream at everyone to leave.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
11+1
How are your other kids doing this week?
Tgis was the first full week of me working full time and my husband being home full time (it's a complete switch of how its been since I was pregnant with our oldest three years ago). The kids are doing really well with the shift, but my almost 11 month old is missing her full time access to the boobies. And I miss them SO MUCH.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
We're planning on doing things as closely to the same as we did them with our daughter. We we're going to do a standalone birth center birth this time, but decided against it because the out of pocket isn't going to be doable. We're actually hiring a birth photographer and/or videographer this time. I've wanted pro pics with both of my other kids. With my son the hospital he was born in didn't allow photography and with my daughter, my friend who is a pro photographer didn't come to take pictures because she didn't have the right lens with her when my water broke.
7w5d
How are your other kids doing this week?
DD (3yo) is doing well. She is trying to be understanding that mommy doesn't feel well, but still sometimes cries that she wants me to play with her (active play, like running and stuff).
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Pregnancy - hopefully about the same. I had a pretty uncomplicated pregnancy except I was sick the whole time. I felt good about my activity levels, etc.
Delivery - I suffered a uterine inversion after delivering DD. When the placenta came out, my uterus flipped inside out. I almost bled to death, had to go to the OR immediately, and didn't get to breast feed or hold DD until about 3 hours after delivery. I had no risk factors. It was a freak occurance. I had been trying to have an uneducated birth but caved when my labor stalled for many hours at dilation 7cm. The epidural saved my life tho - I lost so much blood and my blood pressure was so low that general anesthesia may have killed me, but since I had the epidural they could operate on my uterus without general. It also means i was awake and conscious the entire procedure. And crying.
So needless to say, we have a lot of hopes this delivery will be different. I will have several units of blood on hand (i needed 3 transfusions last time), I will have the epidural as soon as I am admitted, and if the placenta has trouble coming out the dictor will take me to the OR right away where it can be removed very carefully. Or i could have am elective c section. Or i could have a breach baby and have a scheduled c section. We dont control much in pregnancy.
One thing I will not change - my care team and delivery hospital. After what I went thru, I know they saved my life and I trust them implicitly.
8+4
How are your other kids doing this week?
Both are doing great!
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Hoping i can keep more active and be on my feet more this time. With my second I had really bad sciatica and pubic separation so it hurt so bad to do anything and I think it played a big factor into me going 10 days over and having to be induced. That being said, I had insisted over and over again that i was going to remain at home until it HURT rather than rush to the hospital and have to be there for hours and hours waiting... That would have totally backfired and DD2 would have been delivered in the car before we even hit the next town with a hospital haha so far I'm 2 for 2 of having very quick deliveries once things get started
Eta: I really liked how with DD2 i was able to remain in my clothes, IV free, and very intermittent monitoring. I really hope I can do that again this time around if baby cooperates better than DD1 and doesn't poop inside me!
Supposedly 12 because I was measuring ahead but really 11? I’ll have a better idea at my appointment next Friday.
How are your other kids doing this week?
I started potty training DS this week. The first day was awful in the morning but got better in the afternoon. Today we hit a rough patch in the afternoon but it was overall okay. He hasn’t had any trouble pooping in the potty which is nice.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Pregnancy-my last pregnancy I worked out more and I would like to once my doctor tells me it’s ok. I’ve had some spotting issues with this pregnancy.
Delivery- I’m hoping this one goes quicker. With DS, I was in labor on and off for three days and most of the contractions came at night. I’m also hoping I know when my water breaks. With DS, I had no clue when it happened and when they went to break my bag, nothing came out. The epidural was nice because I could still move my legs but I couldn’t feel the contractions until it was time to push. I liked that I was able to feel when to push because I felt more in control of my body. The epidural also allowed me to rest because I was completely exhausted being in labor on and off for three days.
How are your other kids doing this week? eh, it's been an off week. Not getting along all that well. The youngest (almost 2) has been up at night a couple times. I'm wondering if she's working on her 2 year molars. They've has some good moments though of giggling and playing and being generally hilarious, lol!
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same? Really wanting to stay more active and eat better. I'm know it will help me feel better. I want to do some prenatal massage in the last few weeks. I've always had back labor and I want to work with someone and try and figure out why and if I can so anything about it. Maybe tight muscles or weak muscles. Anyway. Hoping that makes for a good labor.
I will definitely be keeping up my chiropractic care and I usually so stretching all through. I will also drink my red raspberry leaf tea again. I think it's made a huge difference in the pushing stage for me! And I think has also made for very easy recoveries. Plus it tastes good!
How are your other kids doing this week? Ughhh it's been a rough week. I think he's working on molars. He was up screaming from 3:30 to 5 AM last night, and he usually sleeps through the night. The nights before that, he was up 3 times. Of course, he was happy as could be this morning.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same? I'm not worrying about my weight in the first trimester. I was so strict about how much I was supposed to gain last time, and I caused myself a lot of unnecessary stress. I ended up delivering at 35 weeks, so I never even got as big as I would have if I'd gone full term. I lost all but 5 pounds in the first year, mostly by breastfeeding and walking. ETA: I'm undecided if I'll do childbirth unmedicated again or get an epidural. I was happy about the recovery afterwards from not having an epidural, but my oh my, it hurts like hell. I'm not quite ready for that again.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
10+? weeks
How are your other kids doing this week?
DD has had diarrhea for a couple days now. I’m hoping she’s better today because we are going camping tomorrow.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
I would love to not end up on bed rest this time. Lol. But I don’t have much control over what my cervix is going to do. I’m going to try to stay more active all the way through so I don’t gain 45 lbs again. My labor with DD was pretty quick (6 hours from water breaking to baby). I would be ok with that again. But I don’t want an epidural this time, especially if it goes as quickly. I think I’m going to make a bigger deal of making people call or text to ask if they can visit us in the first few weeks. DH’s large extended family often just showed up wanting to see DD.
DD- 11/2016
before we took him to meet H’s grandparents. His grandma was all putout when I asked her to wash her (visibly dirty) hands before holding our son. And even more so when a I insist she redo it using soap. She complained to all her friends about me after that; her grandson’s crazy wife. Oh, well. I wasn’t about to let her dirty hands touch my 6 week old
baby.
10 weeks today!
How are your other kids doing this week?
DD has been waking up super early and then not napping so that's fun. She's also started calling toys, anything she's holding, "mine!" and not giving it up. She is doing really great with potty training and is ok using public restrooms which allows us to leave our house, so that is a big relief.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
I hope not to have pre-eclampsia this pregnancy, last time I had high BP pretty much from the first appointment so I was on meds the whole time, ended up being induced at 37 weeks. There were lots of appointments and bed rest at 36 weeks. So far, my BP is still in the normal range. My doctor said there's really not much I can do since I'm already a healthy weight, eat a balanced diet and try to exercise. In a perfect world I would have no BP issues!
I'm hoping to gain the same amount of weight and keep up at least walking. Depending how labor starts off I won't hesitate to get an epidural, like I did last time.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
10 weeks 1 day.
How are your other kids doing this week?
Ok. We’ve been dealing with a lot of behavior issues when it comes to school. This week wasn’t a good week. Now today he’s sick so he stayed home. We’re heading to the doctor shortly because he’s complaining of a sore throat now. I feel like we could probably wait on the doc, but my husband is super gung-ho about going to the doc for everything so i’m taking him.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
i gained 65 lbs last time and had a 10lb 5oz baby. I reeeeallly don’t wanna do that again. I also worked a desk job that provided delicious catered lunches, so hopefully I’ll be able to manage my weight a bit more easily this time. I really want to stay active but until my hematoma resolves I’m supposed to keep it very light, so that’s frustrating.
Also, it helps to read about other people's struggles during pregnancy and birth. Everyone has a different challenge they have overcome and we are all going into this with a positive attitude. Women are amazing!
9w5d
How are your other kids doing this week?
Pretty good. DD1 is being very strong willed this week and not minding very well. She also quit taking afternoon naps which is a challenge for me. DD2 has been pretty sweet so that helps some.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
As far as pregnancy goes I'd like to be more active and eat better once I get through the nausea and food adversions.
Labor and delivery will probably end up being pretty different. After two fourth degree tears I'm considering a csection. If I decide to attempt vaginal again I'll definitely try to do some things different.
The one thing I will do the same is limit who is in the room while I'm in labor. When DD1 was born my FIL hung out in the room until it was time to push. Last time it was just me and DH and that was so much better. Then we brought in DD1 to meet the baby before we let grandparents in. I will definitely do that again too.
Me (25) DH (33), Married 10-29-11
TTC since May 2012
Guessing around 9 weeks. First appt is on Wednesday!
How are your other kids doing this week?
Just the usual chaos around here! My boys are 3, 21 months, and 21 months. One of my twins has started being a bit more clingy and showing some temper, but it seems like he's doing some pretty serious growing/developmental growth.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Well, I'm hoping it's not another set of twins, for starters! My first pregnancy was a breeze, and had an unmedicated vaginal delivery. Twins was a really tough and painful pregnancy, needed a c-section because they were both breech at 37 weeks. Hoping for a vbac this time!
8 weeks
How are your other kids doing this week?
It’s been a good week. And I think I can consider DD potty trained now so that’s nice.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
I’d like to be more active which should be pretty doable since this time I’m at home with an almost 2 year old vs working a desk job with an hour commute each way. I’d like to be more relaxed about my diet and weight gain this time. I was so, so stressed out by food last time and I was really hungry and tired all the time so I wouldn’t gain “too much” weight and DD wouldn’t get “too big.” I also won’t worry so much about the growth scans since DD’s weren’t accurate. I am currently leaning towards not prematurely giving up dairy.
Childbirth will likely be similar. I’d love to go into labor on my own but it will likely be another induction. I want to talk to the OB about waiting until my due date to induce this time but I expect that to get shut down.
Postpartum visits will be pretty different because our family is local this time. Last my family came a few days before my induction (although I asked them to come later they wanted to come directly from seeing my sister’s baby) and we hardly saw them after the baby was born because they left a couple days after we got out of the hospital. Also my I refused to nurse with a cover and so my dad spent most of the time in the other room or running errands. I also found I needed help more around 6 weeks when everyone was gone, DH was at work, and she wasn’t so sleepy than immediately afterward.
If my provider wasn’t willing to listen to me, I’d find a new provider. Inducing for “big baby” is not a valid reason because their estimates on size are so often way off. My sister-in-law has an OB who said she was supportive of VBACs, but as she got got closer to her due date, started pressuring her to schedule a cesarean. She told her that inducing for a VBAC is dangerous (true) and that if she hadn’t gone into labor in her own by 39 weeks, she’d HAVE to go cesarean so the baby wouldn’t get too big. My sister-in-law changed providers at 36 weeks. Her new provider let her go into labor on her own (which happened at 40+5,) and allowed her to attempt a VBAC. She did still end up with a repeat cesarean, but since the baby wasn’t in distress, they were able to do a gentle cesarean with delayed cord clamping and baby placed right on mom’s chest. Her baby was just under 6 lbs even being born “late.” We figure they must’ve been off on her dates, so imagine if they’d taken the baby earlier at what they thought was 39 weeks?
almost 8 weeks
How are your other kids doing this week?
DD will be 2 next month and we just started potty training yesterday. Ugh it's really stressing me out. we had only 1 success yesterday, although DH has had more success this AM than I did all day yesterday. Maybe it's me? For other potty training moms.. how long did it take for your kids to get it? I know it's only day 2, but I'm already sick of walking on egg shells and being stuck in my house. I'm also worried about daycare on Tues, because they request that I send pull-ups (which are no different than diapers). I'm afraid she will get confused.
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
Definitely taking calcium supplements this time, which I'm hoping will slow the damage to my teeth. DD wrecked my teeth
I had a fairly uncomplicated labor. I will definitely get an epidural again (probably as soon as I get admitted this time). PP is what I'll handle differently. I wanted to get back to normal ASAP after DD and I really should have accepted more help in the beginning. I ended up having to go back to triage 2 days after coming home for anemia and endometritis. I should have rested much more those first few days home. Trying to get back to my old self too quickly probably prolonged my recovery.
I'm so nervous about public bathrooms, we did go to church this morning (right after she went and with an emergency pull up over her undies), but I'm afraid to venture out much more. Tuesday will be the real test when she goes back to daycare.
Somewhere around 9 weeks. My first appt isn't until the 27!
How are your other kids doing this week?
They're great! Just got home from the beach and ready to settle into a summer routine of some sort!
GTKY: What are you planning on doing differently with this pregnancy and childbirth? What are you planning to do the same?
i honestly take it one at a time. My first I was soooo set on hypnobirthing. Somewhere after the 24 hour mark from the start of induction I just broke. I had to get an epidural (labor continued another 2r hours plus 4 hours of pushing). It was right for me but I was down on myself bc I had such a strict plan before.
With DS2 I just went with the flow and it was better. I wasn't so hard on myself. Next came the twins...I ended up with a platelet issue, no working epidural, a natural delivery of my son and emergency C-section for my daughter followed by a major hemmorage/surgery. I trusted my Drs, knew I was in good hands and have no regrets bc I didn't have a plan. This time I plan on doing the same, listening to my body and trusting my medical team. I guess just going with the flow and taking things as they come!
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I’ve been holding off until my first appointment, which won’t be for another week and a half. (I’ll be 11.5 weeks at that time.) I want to hear the heartbeat before we tell the kids because the miscarriage rate is so much lower once you can hear the heartrate. I have a history of miscarriage and don’t want to tell the kids until we’re fairly sure we won’t miscarry because I don’t want to put them through that. It’s hard, though, because I’m tired and nauseous, and I’m already starting to show. I’m trying to wear loose t-shirts and such to hide it. (Quick pet-peeve of mine-don’t tell me I’m not really showing or that it’s just “bloat” at this point. It is a pregnancy bump. I am generally a fairly fit person; I haven’t gained weight and it’s not just gas. I know the baby is tiny at this point, but I can alread palpate my uterus (I’m an RN) and know it is pushing other things up and out causing me to already look pregnant, not because I’m “bloated,” but because I am actually pregnant.)
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Anyone else so busy with a toddler that they forget they're pregnant frequently throughout the day?
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
and I agree @libertymomrn I have already been wearing maternity shorts for a couple of weeks, and I can't hide this bump anymore. Sure it may be partly bloat, but since I've already felt some twinges of those muscles and ligaments I really think it's more muscle memory baby bump already.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019