Miscarriage

babyparnell · June 2018

Hello everyone i just found out in the most difficult way, im looking for advice and experiences, and D&C experiences as well. We are here to support each other.

missamiissssaa · June 2018

I'm so sorry, there's a great group of ladies in the TTCAL (trying to conceive after a loss) group when you are ready. Take all the time you need to grieve and I'm so sorry you are experiencing this heartbreak

galactickates · June 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have experience with D&Cs, my previous loss was ectopic but I second the TTCAL board or the weekly thread on TTGP. Even if you're not in the right head spaceto consider trying again - TTCAL (trying to conceive after a loss) that's ok and completely understandable. There are other ladies there that have been through what you are going through or currently going through as well. It was really nice to have others that you can ask on going questions to and receive support. I remember feeling in such despair and these ladies reached out a hand. I'm so so sorry you are going through it to.

Maybe someone else here can give some guidance as well? We have quite a few ladies in our PGAL group that might be able to help.

LCRbelle · June 2018

I am so sorry @babyparnell I have personally never had to have a D&C with my losses but I know people who have chosen that and have said they prefer that option so that it’s over as quick as possible. Make sure you take proper care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It was very helpful for me when I found people I could talk about it with and who knew what it was like to go through it. I hope you are able to heal physically and emotionally as quickly as possible.

CoastieGirl79 · June 2018

@babyparnell I second what @LCRbelle said. I also have a friend who went that route to get the process over with. I'm sorry you're going through this. I also suffered a loss but didn't have a D&C. Make sure you take care of yourself.

baileym9126 · June 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve never had a D&C, as I chose to go natural with both of my losses, but I do know that a lot of women prefer the D&C. I agree that talking about it with someone who knows what it’s like to go through it is very helpful. Take care of yourself.

Mandamay1414 · June 2018

@babyparnell I just had to have a D&C for my miscarriage in Feb. I chose D&C because I couldn't bear the thought of waiting possibly weeks for things to happen naturally. I wanted it to be over and move on. The procedure itself took 15 min, I had bleeding slightly heavier than a period for 3-4 days and some cramping, but for the most part it wasn't that bad physically. If you do decide to go this route, I recommend taking a few days off work following the procedure. Also bring a support person with you to the hospital. I came out of anesthesia in tears and it was good that the nurses were able to bring my husband back to sit with me.

peachy104 · June 2018

I’m so sorry you are going thru this. My experience is below if it helps you any. Given the title of this thread, I don’t know whether it’s necessary, but **TW** for below!

My mc was unexpected and lasted about 5-6 days. I thought I was 8+5 but when I started spotting and cramping and went into my doc for my first u/s, they only saw the gestational sac. No yolk sac and no fetal pole. So it’s likely my little one stopped growing after 4-5w and I had no idea. We were devastated. My mc was painful. Lots of cramping and bleeding, and then large blood clots. The bleeding got so heavy I went to the emergency room and they said the gestational sac was already in my cervix and would come out soon.

About 10 days afterward, my doctor did an u/s and recommended D&C because they thought I had remaining pregnancy tissue, but we opted to wait and see. We had a vacation and I didn’t want to be recovering and feeling miserable. Anyway, had an u/s about a month after the m/c and it was completely normal! We considered it a miraculous healing given I didn’t bleed at all inbetween. (And my doc said that’s the way I’d know if any remaining tissue came out).

We left it up to God’s timing on when we’d get pregnant again. So we didn’t prevent it nor did we go overboard trying. We found out we conceived again 4 months to the day of our m/c. Though some women have gotten pregnant the very next month after a m/c.

Again, I’m so sorry you’re going thru this. I pray you’ll receive peace and healing. ❤️

katethemom · June 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I could offer better encouragement, but there are just no words for a time like this. Every experience is different. Please take care of yourself.

I had a MC in February before I had even had my first appointment. I knew because I started spotting and then the bleeding got heavier the next day like a period. My OB encouraged me to let it happen naturally as I was only 8 weeks pregnant at the time. It was very painful, and I bled for a full week. But the pain was managed with a low dose of ibuprofen. It was harder emotionally than anything. I waited 2 full cycles before trying again and was fortunate to conceive on the first try. My only advice would be wait until you're ready to try again. My H was ready to try again right away, but I wanted some time to recover. And I wanted to have some testing done as i was concerned about a possible thyroid condition that might have had something to do with the MC. Just do what's right for you. A large percentage of women who miscarry are able to have successful pregnancies later on. I hope that will be the case for you if that's what you want.

kns1988 · June 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. My first miscarriage was natural and my second required a D&C. Physically, the D&C was much easier. The natural miscarriage was much more painful and drawn out. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I was lucky to have good insurance that covered the procedure, so that's also something to keep in mind. You don't want to be surprised by a big bill. Take care of yourself.

Kabazaba · June 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a D&C after a MMC in February. It was - physically - very easy. Last about 15 minutes, under general anesthesia. DH of course was there and drove me home. I slept most the rest of that day. I had some very light bleeding for 3-4 days and slight discomfort/cramping for 2 days. Physically, I could have gone to work the next day and been fine. Emotionally, not so much. It’s sad of course, but also the D&C (for me anyway) essentially caused all the pregnancy hormones to leave real rapidly so it was like PMS + sadness. I would do a D&C again, and recommend scheduling as soon as you can when you learn you’re having a miscarriage (I scheduled a week later and ended up having an emergency D&C a few days before that). Good luck, be kind to yourself, and take the time you need to recover.

julesf817 · June 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss. had a D&C in early January after a missed miscarriage. I wasn’t put under General, just IV sedation. It wasn’t painful and I don’t remember much from the actual procedure. It was hard to go through, mentally but not physically. Definitely bring your partner or someone close to you for support. Also, I was very anxious the day before, and i called my doctor and they prescribed me some anti anxiety meds to take the edge off.

DLpanda08 · June 2018

I am so sorry for your loss. My loss last year required a D&C and it was more of an emotionally difficult procedure than physically taxing. I second the advice to bring your SO with you for support. You’ll definitely need it on the way home. My doctor had me to under general anesthesia, so I had to have someone to drive me home anyway.

The procedure itself was quick and I didn’t have any pain afterward. I did bleed like a period for nearly a week afterwards though. Mine was on a Friday and I needed all of the weekend to get my emotions together enough to teach again on Monday.

Take care of yourself! I hate that you have to go through this. When/if you are ready to try again there is a very supportive group of people here on the bump.

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