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TTC After a Loss
char245
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TTCAL Week of 6/4/18
char245
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1. Introduce yourself (if new):
2. Status?
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures?
2. Status?
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures?
Re: TTCAL Week of 6/4/18
3. Really thought this was going to be our month womp womp. The weather is finally starting to get nice here again so we’ve been going to the pool, which I love!
4. My husband and I love watching all the trashy MTV shows like The Challenge!
2. Status? TWW 5DPO
3. R/R: went to Dierks Bentley and Brothers Osbourne concert last night. It was really good and had fun date night with DH.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? I used to love to buy shoes. I have hundreds of pairs. Love high heels but with needing a new hip I can’t wear them now so I haven’t bought any cute shoes in a couple years. So now I buy purses instead
In this fourth pregnancy I had crazy high, amazing hCG (had problems with doubling in my first two pregnancies), and we saw a perfect HB and a baby measuring 6w2d (a couple days behind), then the following week the baby grew perfectly and caught up to be 7w6d at an appt 8 days later, but the HB had stopped within 24 hours of our appt. I had a D&C last Tuesday. We are trying (again, we tried this once before and it was inconclusive) to do genetic testing on our little embryo to maybe, finally, get some kind of diagnosis.
2. Status? Benched and waiting for results of our genetic testing. I think it will be a while before my cycle comes back. I am still bleeding and sometimes also cramping from the D&C, and my hCG was at 37k at 6w. Plus idk if this is the end of us trying on our own altogether or what.
3. R/R: Nothing beyond the obvious.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? Watching Grey's Anatomy, maybe? I don't feel guilty about it but prefer to watch it while DH is out of the house. I also love sheet masks and baths.
2. Status? WTO. on CD9 today
3. R/R:
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? Watching shows on Netflix and painting
3. R/R: I could rant for days right now. I have little to rave about aside from DH being super supportive.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? Well, chocolate but that's obvious and suoer cliche lol. There's also teen dramas on TV.
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
@drewsdarlin What kind of painting do you like to do?
@prpl11butterfly Sorry that you feel full of rants. I’m glad YH is supportive and helpful.
2. Status? Benched for this cycle, CD 9
3. R/R: Rave: Feeling pretty chill after surgery- I think stepping back from TTC for the past month has really helped. I had felt *so* devastated and furious when my April cycle didn’t work out, I think I really needed the break. Rant: Had someone suggest essential oils to me for TTC. Honey I’m past that, and I don’t want your dumb MLM stuff anyways.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? I like sheet masks too! Also, I looove takeout- cooking is fun enough but I love getting Chinese or Indian food delivered. Unfortunately it’s DH’s guilty pleasure too so we have to keep each other in check.
an awesome date night!!
@zamora_spin I’m so sorry you are going through this again! I hope you are able to get some answers!
@lin0442 I like to do different paintings with acrylic paints on canvas. I go to painting classes at Pinot's a lot. Have one I am attending this saturday.
3. R/R working way too much right now to have any fun. But I'm commission based so I can't complain. I think I need a vacation.
4. I love trashy magazines like People. And watching the Oscars.
@zamora_spin this news absolutely sucks. I was wondering about you the other day as I hadn't seen you posting lately. I hope you can find some answers. Take care of yourself
@lin0442 oooh I forgot about Chinese food. We love cheesy Chinese food. The more msg the better
@40momma All aboard the BSC train, I'm right there with you! Hopefully your stabby feeling means something.
@lin0442 That's great that you're feeling good after your surgery, and that taking a break helped. I may be getting there myself.
@drewsdarlin Welcome to the board. Your painting sounds like a great hobby!
@prpl11butterfly Sorry you're feeling ranty. Sometimes I feel better after a massive rant. Exhausted, but better.
@Mack2342 I'm exactly the same with shoes! I have so many pretty heel sitting unworn in my closet because of foot/knee/hip pains. Right now I'm at work in Converse
@char245 It will be good to have an IVF plan. I'm still feeling impatient, but somewhat better knowing that we'll have intervention in the next couple of months.
2. Status? 9DPO and driving myself crazy. I had what seemed exactly like implantation bleeding yesterday, and a pinch the day before that made me yelp, but of course it could all just be AF on her way. I'm always ok for the first week of the tww, but start climbing the walls around now.
3. R/R: It's rainy and gross here all week. On the plus side, my in-laws have left my house and flown back across the ocean.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? Nothing all that interesting...a cup of tea with chocolate and Netflix comes to mind! Or a glass of wine....
2. Status? CD 13 WTO...
3. R/R: rave: we had a wonderful, much needed, little trip for our anniversary. We did a lot if hiking and a lot of watching movies/playing cards. It was perfect.
Rave: TW* living child mentioned* DS turns 4 tomorrow! Looking forward to his little party this weekend and spending the day with him.
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures?
Netflix binging.
FX for all of us this month. We need some more BFPs!
3. Also feeling very ranty right now... I guess overall I'm just not feeling very in sync with my husband right now. Whenever I try to talk to him about how I'm feeling, he gets upset with my negativity. He wants me to automatically feel hopeful and better about things, but I just don't. And to top it all off, we got in any argument about movie tickets last night, which is so silly. I can see why miscarriages wreck marriages... hoping time will help us fix things.
3. Guilty pleasure is definitely raw cookie dough. I've been indulging so much lately, but I'm using the mc as an excuse lol.
@char245 I absolutely love trashy reality tv shows! One of my guilty pleasures also.
@bakerstreetboys I’m in my gym shoes too! I only put on heels when I have to go to court. I have about 5 pair under my desk right now lol
@Mack2342 My new hobby is going back to my old charts on FF and comparing which days I had which syptoms... because you know, THIS month the end result will be different! Eye roll at myself. Hopefully feeling nauseated is a good sign for you!
I'm lucky that I can wear jeans to work unless I have a meeting with a DG or something. It fits with my desire to be comfortable!
@sagems10 sorry to hear you aren't connecting with your hubby. We all heal differently and unfortunately the men in our lives will never fully get what we've been through, even though some may be more compassionate than others. When my DH asked if I was mad at him for not being as upset as I was, I told him I actually felt sorry for him. He didn't get to experience what I did (before the mc's, when everything was going well)
3. R/R: I had a big blowup with DH the other night. It just seemed like he hadn't processed the loss - he wouldn't talk to me about it, or really console me emotionally. Physically he took care of me, but DH is a physician and was being so damn clinical about the whole thing I finally blew up at him because he didn't seem sad at all, like it wasn't real to him. To him it wasn't. It being a blighted ovum that didn't develop at all meant it wasn't a reason to really be sad vs. a baby whose growth stalled, and that was what he would have been sad over. I totally lost it, because I don't think I would have felt any different being pregnant with either. I'm honestly still mad at him (@sagems10 and @40momma - i'm right there with you ladies!)
4.GTKY: What is one of your guilty pleasures? Food network shows, especially baking shows.
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
@40momma and @bakerstreetboys FX all these symptoms for us are good signs!
@40momma I hope the BSC train is leading you to pregnancy station. It's really hard, especially when you've been pregnant before, not to SS and compare to successful cycles. I totally get it.
@mack2342 I was about 6 1/2 weeks last time (but, really just a sac there, so less development wise) and they tried twice but couldn't get the DNA to "amplify". Forgive me for not remembering, but how did yours come back?
@catlady2015 I am sorry for the experiences you are having with your DH. Idk if this helps but I think it is typical in most situations for the person experiencing the loss physically to also be the most shaken. My first loss was similar to yours, blighted ovum, and I cried every day for a month. It was a struggle to get through the day without someone seeing me cry at work. DH was sad, I know, but not to the same level. This last loss I think he actually took harder than I did at first. All I can think is that seeing the HB made it very real for him in a way that it hadn't been for any of the others. But for me they were all real, and the first loss I had remains the most difficult thing I have ever been through. Even if you never got to see your baby, it was and is a real baby. You will feel less overwhelmed eventually, but it will take time, and there will always be some pain.
2. See above - just had D&C today. I just can’t help thinking how unfair this is. I know it’s common and all of that but right now feeling a lot of self pity.
3/4. My guilty pleasure is nice handbags
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
I wish you didn't find yourself here, but the ladies are truly amazing and supportive. We are always here if you need us