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October 2018 Moms
cjx95
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Stabby Saturday 6/2
cjx95
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Re: Stabby Saturday 6/2
I think we're shopping the outlets after the appointment dependingon how long this takes
Last night was E’s graduation. I thought it was going to be a repeat of prom where his bio mom pissed me off, but nope! It was H this time. He was great in the beginning, wouldn’t leave my side because he wanted to protect baby from the crowd, held my hand through the whole ceremony, he even congratulated me and told me what a great job I did raising our son and getting him there last night.
But as we were waiting for E outside afterwards, he started getting antsy to give E a hug. E came up behind me so I got to hug him first. Then he stepped between H and his bio mom and my H turned his back on me and shut me out of the circle. So there was this big family moment happening between the 3 of them and I couldn’t see or hear anything.
Then they posed for another pic the three of them (whatever, it’s for E) and they’re all talking about a graduation/18th birthday party and I can’t hear a damn word to be involved in planning.
It was E’s mom’s weekend, so she’d invited us to come with them after the ceremony for ice cream or something, but it got too late and E needed to get ready for the senior all-night party. So we said goodbye to E and I started to walk away. H is nowhere to be found so I turn and see him giving his ex a huge hug.
Normally I would’ve let it go, but after shutting me out and making me feel like I wasn’t a part of this moment with my son.... plus the fact that H always acts like he’s bffs with her and her family after these people literally *abused* E (for real, we spent a year in court because one night he came home with bruises on his face from a fistfight)... I couldn’t take it. I stormed off.
H was pissed at me, telling me it was about E, which is true. But *I’m* his mother too and I should not have been shut out of that family celebration. H and I are the ones who got him through high school, not his mom. Hell, his mother didn’t even see him for a year because she requested a no contact order through half of sophomore and into junior year while we were in court for the above mentioned abuse.
I am always nice to these people for E’s sake. I can work with her and believe E is more successful when all 4 of us co-parent. I could’ve handled the picture and the hug so long as H had actually made me feel like I belonged there instead of forgetting I even existed.
@DunkinDecaf I hope you're feeling better! I agree with @jomama1618, maybe some bland food. I also have been dehydrated and didn't know it so maybe you have a little of that going on too.
@sammierose464 DH's ex likes to send SD over with treats all the time (cupcakes, frosted rice crispy treat, etc). This is super annoying for two reasons 1. stop feeding the already active child a diet of 90% sugar and 2.how am I supposed to explain to DD that there is no treat for her.
@DunkinDecaf We're always saying we have to hit the "reset button" on SD every week when she gets to our house and undo all of the bad habits that are allowed at mom's house. I also worry about DD picking up bad habits from her sister.
@KFrob Normally I would have too! I was just so shocked because H *never* disrespects me when it comes to her. He hates the woman. I think they were caught up in the moment of their baby graduating, but come on! He didn't really get it when I sat him down, but it wasn't worth fighting about too much because it's not a regular thing.
@krzyriver sorry you’re dealing with that. It must be hard having to basically co-parent like that, so I give you and @sammierose464 tons of respect.