TWW Fri 6/1

crookshanks10 · June 2018

**This is a thread that welcomes all regardless of where they are at in their TTC journeys. Please be mindful of topics that are discussed that could be hurtful to those going through tough times. Mention of children or pregnancies of others should have a TW and be in a spoiler if possible, and only be mentioned if it is extremely pertinent to the conversation. Thanks for keeping this a safe place for us all to engage!**

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GTKY : (Borrowed from WTO) Ladies, what are you struggling with right now? Please post whether or not you want support or advice. Rule. If you post an answer to this GTKY, you must reach out and support/give advice to one other lady who is struggling with something, based on their stated preference.

LJMoon6 · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 14/14

CD/DPO: 30/12

Timing: -4, -2, -1, 0

Typical LP length: 13

Testing: BFN yesterday morning. I’ve reached my limit of heartbreak this cycle. I will not test again unless AF is late.

R/R: I’ve put way too much hope into this cycle. And this is the longest into the TWW that I’ve stayed hopeful. That hope’s gone now. Yesterday I found myself crying at random stupid things. Ugh I’m an emotional wreck. MH is finally to the point where he’s willing to accept some type of intervention (weather it’s just clomid first or straight to IUI). I still have to get CD3 BW so I guess I can look forward to that…

CS/Q: nope

GTKY : I’m in a dark and twisty place today so I’m not going to answer this.

Erinm278 · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: ??/ 6 I think

Timing: good

Typical LP length: 13 ish

Testing: Probably Monday

R/R: My parents are coming into town today and I'm really excited to spend some time with them.

CS/Q: Nothin'

GTKY : Just here to be supportive!

@l@LJMoon6 I'm sorry..I just wanted to send some love your way..

crookshanks10 · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 8/9

CD/DPO: 25/9

Timing: -4, -2,-1,+1 Too bad we missed O day. I didn't expect to get 3 days of positive OPKs but.. clomid.

Typical LP length: It changes.. last cycle was 13. Yes, I know it's not supposed to change.

Testing: I did this morning.. because I have no self control.

R/R: Rant: No rants today Rave: My DH and I are moving this weekend! We'll be in the new house beginning Sunday!

CS/Q: Not much to see there

GTKY : So, I guess what I'm mostly struggling with right now is the thought of clomid not working for us during the 3 cycles I'm allowed to take it. I know you ladies understand the heartbreaking roller coaster we ride on every month and I'm not sure how long I can mentally handle it. It's very hard to stay positive.

crookshanks10 · June 2018

@LJMoon6 I'm sorry friend

It's hard to stay positive.. but it's really not over until AF arrives, so I am keeping my fx for you. All my bump friends are constantly in my prayers and I really hope we all get our BFP soon. What will they look for in your CD3 bw?

prpl11butterfly · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 10/7

CD/DPO: 29/10 or 11

Timing: good or high

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: Well yesterday I was WFAF but I may test tomorrow because I have 1 about to expire internet cheapie. Details in CS

R/R: Contractor came by last night with electrician to go over some small details (type and location of fixtures). Plumber is next. I'm getting excited to see this addition finally come into place. Obviously the $$ aspect scares me but -rave #2- sounds like I'm looking at a promotion. I can't say how near, but I feel like it could be close.

CS/Q: So my temp didn't nose dive today like expected (did go down .02 but I also was congested all night and mouth breathing), my RHR popped back up 2bpm and I'm still not spotting. DH keeps "reminding" me that the open window and fan could be keeping them lower then they would be and that light cramping is not uncommon and could be good. I both love and hate how supportive he can be. Or my LP could very well be resetting (as it has been increasing 1 day every cycle). I'm trying to stay level headed and not have false hope.

GTKY : (Borrowed from WTO) Ladies, what are you struggling with right now? My struggle involves my neice so is in spoiler. Any advice is always welcome.

Our biggest struggle is the adoption of niece and really hoping the system can see her mom's instability. We go back to court on the 15th and she hasn't fully met the plan we set up in January (in fact she's barely met it IMO). Neice is struggling with it too. She feels obligated to chose sides and I hate that. Her school work is suffering and I really believe it's because she's got so much on her mind that she cannot focus. She's too young (9.5) to know that there is a custody battle for her. It's her mom's doing, she told her she's be moving and changing schools 2yrs ago.

ljmoon6 (I wont tag incase your not ready to talk) I am really sorry for this news. I know how much hope you had this month and can see that you really felt it was time. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that it's not over yet.

@meladams10 I don't know much about Clomid and how that process works. But, I agree how hard this process is and admire those of you who have to take the extra steps to have a family. I truly hope it does the job and all your worries are for nothing.

darkstar42 · June 2018

@LJMoon6 Sending you lots of hugs today, and I hope you can get out in the sunshine for at least a little bit. Remind me, have you or YH had any testing done yet?
@Erinm278 Have a fun visit with your parents!
@meladams10 I'm sure you've already talked about this and I missed it, but are you doing clomid only, or clomid and IUIs? Where are you and YH at with testing, etc.?
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Month/Cycle: 15/17 (2 benched)

CD/DPO: 23/9dpiui

Timing: IUI

Typical LP length: n/a, progesterone

Testing: Beta on Monday (6/4)

R/R: We had a fun game night with friends yesterday and the weather is gorgeous today.

CS/Q:

GTKY : (Borrowed from WTO) Ladies, what are you struggling with right now? Please post whether or not you want support or advice. Rule. If you post an answer to this GTKY, you must reach out and support/give advice to one other lady who is struggling with something, based on their stated preference.

I'm struggling with two major things. One is maintaining hope through this seemingly TTC process. At this point hope has become a scary thing because it makes the disappointment greater with each failed cycle. No need for advice on this one, as I think figuring this out is a very individual process. The other is trying new things. I really want to develop some new hobbies and meet new people this summer, but I don't know where to start! Advice definitely welcome on this.

crookshanks10 · June 2018

@prpl11butterfly Thank you! (: I am hoping the best for you if you do decide to test tomorrow! Fx!! I'm sorry to hear your niece is having to go through all of that with her mother. You're doing a great job though and doing the right thing! She is lucky to have you in her life!
@darkstar42 I'm doing clomid only currently. I had bw done, hormone levels tested, HSG and my H had 2 SA. All checked out fine. I've been a pretty late O'er so I'm not really sure if that's what's causing an issue? They said I had the fastest spilling tubes they'd ever seen but... nothing. Your beta is right around the corner!! I am hoping so much for you that you get good results! As far as new hobbies and meeting people, can you sign up for some fun classes or events? Cooking, painting, exercising, crafting?

nitnat007 · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 13/14 (4 benched)

CD/DPO: 14/1

Timing: -3, -1 and hopefully adding a 1 to this

Typical LP length: 13 days

Testing: only if late

R/R: So glad for the weekend! It was a real struggle waking up to the alarm this morning. MH came and took me out to lunch which was a nice treat too, since I wont be home until later so wont be there for dinner. Trying to get together with the other navy wives who I have not seen since they got back from their trip.

CS/Q:

GTKY : Sigh.....there are a probably a few things that I could add to this list. Obviously the TTC journey and finding the patience to navigate the lengthy process that this diagnosis stage seems to be turning into. But I know it is just one step at a time. It would just be nice if the steps could be taken closer together.

My other obstacle is dealing with MIL situation. It has been weighing on me heavily lately. It has become such an ugly situation and evident that she sees no fault in her own behavior. She still just blames me, even after everything that has happened since that day.

(Details in spoiler for those who are interested in back story. Also **TW kids/pregnancy**)

TL:DR MIL is crazy and blames me for current family feud.

Back story - Almost a year ago, we were at a family gathering which BIL and his family were at as well. It came up that BIL does not want his 12yo daughter wearing a bikini. Which I thought he was honestly joking about! I was practically raised on the beach, wearing a bikini. I came from a surfing, sailing, beach going family. So it did not compute with me. So, I laughed and called him a prude.

Well, when I told DH and MIL this story (still laughing about it), MIL piped up and mentioned that she agreed with him and that there are girls that age falling pregnant. Implying that somehow what she is wearing would be the cause of that. Again I laughed and said to DH "At least we know where he gets it from". She carried on as to why this was a bad idea, so I felt compelled to back up my points and disagree with her. Body image issues, and feeding into the rape culture to mention a couple.

Needless to say it did not go over well. She waited until we were home to let me know so, saying that she does her best to accept my lifestyle and views, and expects the same in return. I apologized if I offended or insulted her. But my apology was not accepted as I used the word "if". DH stepped in defending me, stating that she had gone too far and that it was not my intention to have done so and I have nothing but respect for them both. Anyone that really knows me, would know that would never have been my intention and horrified to know that that is how they feel.

Whelp, that was not well received it turned into a huge big explosion between the two of them. Her blowing it all out of proportion. Quoting definitions of "prude" from online etc. to finally her blocking us both on FB and completely ignoring us both in person, not even acknowledging when spoken to. And here we are almost a year later, she still wont talk to DH in person, and she is proceeding with legal action to obtain visitation for DSS, even though we have said on several occasions that all they need to do is ask and we will make arrangements.

nitnat007 · June 2018

@LJMoon6 I am so sorry friend. This whole journey is so hard on the mind and the heart. Be kind to yourself, don't give up hope, and know that we are here for you to vent to/lean on when you need to. *hugs*
@meladams10 GL moving! And as I said above, we are here to lean on. We go through this together so just a PM away if you ever need it.
@prpl11butterfly I totally sympathize with your niece situation. Going through the custody stuff and doing what is best for them is so hard. Especially when they don't truly understand what is going on. We are currently still trying to settle the custody paperwork for DSS and DH would ideally like to have primary as we are a more stable environment for him. But we don't want to be the people that take him away from his mom. He needs to come to his own opinions on her.
My advice to you is to love her the best you can, make her feel safe and hope that the court system makes the right call. Will they allow her to make her own decision when she is old enough? Just a PM away if you ever want to talk about it.
@darkstar42 Not sure if they have this where you are, but up here there was a social network which is setup for you to try and meet up with people who have similar interests. Essentially a website that had all these groups listed that you could join up with. There are a few hiking groups, book clubs, and several other hobbies. Perhaps try and find something like that?

general_organa · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD/DPO: 23/5

Timing: high according to FF, but not ideal.

Typical LP length: 11.5

Testing: Won't test unless AF is a no show

R/R: I didn't wake up early today! I think not temping during the TWW is the way to go. FX I can leave the thermometer in the bathroom for the next 6 days.

CS/Q: *TMI* I'm having some stretchiness to my creamy CM, which I don't remember last month post-O and it's fucking with my head. I'm trying not to get my hopes up because I know bodies are weird and can do different things month to month. Also it's only 5 DPO, so there's that...

GTKY:

@LJMoon6 hugs I'm glad to hear YH is open to getting intervention. I know it's hard to stay hopeful and positive through this process.

@meladams10 good luck with your move!

@prpl11butterfly FX for you! Your temps sound promising! I don't have any experience with custody battles, but my heart goes out to you. That can't be easy to deal with.

@darkstar42 what kind of hobbies have you been interested in? Crafty? Outdoorsy? Sporty? I think narrowing the scope can help you figure out what hobby you really want to spend your time on!

@nitnat007 oh dear that family feud sounds awful. My SIL is feuding with FIL's GF and her daughter and son-in-law. It's been a big mess for like 4 years now. DH and I live on the other side of the country and he's very very adamant that we are Switzerland and we're still on good terms with everyone, but we have BIL's wedding this fall and I can't tell you how nervous I am that somehow we'll get caught in the middle of it. I feel like it's totally unreasonable that your MIL wouldn't accept your apology! She sounds like she needs to grow up!

LJMoon6 · June 2018

Sorry for such a negative post this morning ladies! This TTC journey is hard! I know I’m not out yet but it’s hard to hold on to hope at this point. Thanks for all the love!

@meladams10 I can’t believe you’re moving in already! That’s so exciting!!! CD3 they will test AMH, FSH, estradiol, and prolactin. My OB doesn’t think that any of these will come back red flagged though so I’m just going through the action.

@prpl11butterfly Thanks lady. I really shouldn’t have let myself get so hopeful. It’s not like I truly believe these “signs” make any differences. Along with the family superstition I also perfectly ran out of tampons this cycle, OPKs and pregnancy tests…. makes no difference.

@darkstar42 I did get outside for lunch. The beautiful day is cheering me up a bit. As far as testing goes, MH had his SA done and came back fine. I have had my progesterone, TSH, and testosterone checked already. This cycle I had my HSG which came back completely normal. Really the only thing the OB can think to do is CD3 BW which would test AMH, FSH, estradiol, and prolactin. She thinks this will come back just fine though so I guess I’d fall under the category of unexplained. I’m struggling with the same thing as you, trying to find some new hobbies and friends. I was thinking about going and taking an art/craft class or something. I thought it would be a good way to explore potential hobbies and meet new people. I haven’t taken any action yet, just an idea right now.

@nitnat007 OMG I’m so sorry about your MIL. Good for you for standing up to her! She clearly took what you were saying the wrong way and is now holding a grudge. Why can’t she seriously just let it go?! I can’t imagine the stress this is putting on you and your family. Can’t she see that!?

nomangos23 · June 2018

Month/Cycle: 10/3

CD/DPO: 27/6

Timing: 0, +1

Typical LP length: ??

Testing: Tuesday 6/5

R/R: Boss just asked if I wanted to leave early since it's Friday then came back 10 minutes later and asked me to take his 4:30 call since he's getting out of here to go lay by his pool.... No problem. Cool. Thanks.

CS/Q: Ladies, how do we feel about a CD21 ovulation? This if my first cycle since CP and OPK was + CD 16/17, which is normal, but FF didn't register w/ temp until CD 21. The seems awfully late and awfully weird. Does FF screw with anyone else too? Just when you think one thing...

Also didn't think I would O this month, given last month's loss but apparently it happened. So if BFP happens it would truly have been an accident. Wouldn't that be something?

general_organa · June 2018

@nomangos23 response in spoiler

My first cycle after I had a CP was super wonky. I normally O on CD 17, 18, or 19, but that cycle I didn't O until CD 24. So, I would say your body is just trying to get back on track. I had like 11 days of ewcm that cycle too, and I'm sure if I'd been using OPKs I would have had some false surges, too. I doubt FF is wrong, but you could post your chart if you want us to look at it. Also, I'm sorry for your loss!

nitnat007 · June 2018

@general_organa Family issues are so tough. Our time is so precious it really just isn’t worth all the stress. I hope that the wedding goes smoothly and you guys are able to steer clear of all the mess.
I think the part that really gets me about MIL is that she threatened this with BIL kids as well. Same thing, he defended his wife and she stopped talking to them for a year. It’s a pattern and she fails to see that she is the constant factor in all of this. Ugh!!

@LJMoon6 She can do no wrong. She is a very controlling woman. I have to someone learn to let it go and not allow it to bother me. Which is the part I’m struggling most with right now. I don’t like what it’s doing to everyone involved.

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