TTC After a Loss

Re-intro

rowedking6rowedking6 member
edited May 2018 in TTC After a Loss
A second loss in 5 months brings me back here. Had a missed mc, thinking I was 10 weeks and then a d&c several days later. 
A local group of moms who have experienced loss has begun a support group called Babies Gone Too Soon and I didn't think I'd ever get involved in it because I had difficulty allowing myself to grieve a loss "so early". I'd never tell that to someone else so why couldn't I believe these too were losses worth grieving? Well I gave myself a little nudge and participated in a walk they organized last Saturday and was overcome with so much emotion but left finally believing it is ok grieve. It was all beautiful, doves, balloons, tears, memorial signs....we even won a memorial tree and we will plant it this week. 
My heart is sad to see familiar names here,  my heart goes out to all of you. ♡

Re: Re-intro

  • char245char245 member
    @rowedking6 I’m so sorry you are back here and very sorry about your losses! I’m glad you were finally about to grieve and found a supportive group though!
  • Loading the player...
  • @rowedking6 I’m so sorry to see you back here.  I’m sorry about your losses.  I’m glad you found that support group.  We go attend a memorial service each year for our losses and I find it helpful 
  • rowedking6  I'm sorry you find yourself back here. :( 

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.

    FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)

    Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.

    FET #2: September 2024 (failed)

    FET #3: December 2024 (failed)

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

  • So sorry you had to come back here. I am glad to hear you are finding yourself able to grieve and have IRL support. 
  • Kath525Kath525 member
    So sorry to see you back here. But I'm happy to hear the walk helped so much. Take all the time you need to heal.
  • etnyahetnyah member
    I’m so sorry you’re going through this again, @rowedking6. Not fair. I’m glad you were able to participate in the walk though, and you’re right. Early losses are still losses, your grieving is completely valid. 
    DS born 2/18/2019
    DD born 4/1/2023
    Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
  • So sorry for your losses. I have a hard time accepting that I’m allowed to grieve, too. I have dealt with death and dying as part of my profession but there really is nothing to prepare one for a pregnancy loss no matter how early or late in the pregnancy it is. 
  • @rowedking6 I’m so sorry that you’re back here, but I’m glad you’re allowing yourself to grieve. We’re here for you.
  • @AGM0616, the 4 women who started this (we're a small community) have all experienced still birth so I was like, well that loss is way worse right? But they've done such a wonderful job making sure it's pregnancy AND infant loss; to include everyone. 

    Thank you everyone for welcoming me back. I just had my 39th birthday and we agreed earlier that we'd be done at 40. :( Then I start to think about AMA complications. Ugh
  • Sorry to hear about your most recent loss :( it sounds like you found a great support group IRL though. Hopefully your stay here won’t be long. 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I am really glad you have taken the steps to begin grieving your losses. Losing a pregnancy is traumatic no matter how early or late the loss...like you said...a baby gone too soon...even if it was very young, a life is a life. I believe support groups are so important, especially when suffering multiple losses. Keep embracing your grief so you can heal and cling tightly to your support group...you all need each other. Hugs to you and all of us who have lost a baby too soon!!!
  • @rowedking6 I was reassured at my intro that even a CP is a loss, even though I do think that I was spared much of the heartache that goes along with a stillbirth or later miscarriage. I’m glad you have found multiple support groups that are helpful and not dismissive of your loss. 
  • Thank you all! I was going to add that there were over 500 entries for this event WOW! ! 
  • @rowedking6 so sorry for your losses
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"