Thursday Ticker Change 5/24

pumpkinpancake · May 2018

Ticker change simply means that you have started a new week of pregnancy. For example, I go from 18 weeks to 19 weeks on Thursday 5/24, so my “ticker” changes on Thursdays. It is our way of marking a milestone.

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby?

2. How are you feeling?

3. Any appointments this week?

4. Rants/raves/questions?

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self?

spartan4life · May 2018

I am so behind on all of the posts this week! Hopefully I will have some time to breathe and catch up this weekend, but I hope you are all doing well this week growing your tiny humans (and dinosaurs!)

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby? 18, the size of an artichoke or sweet potatoe!

2. How are you feeling? Good this week! I’ve had the occasional headache, but overall it’s been a good week (besides puking on Saturday but that was my fault for over doing it a little and waiting too long to eat)

3. Any appointments this week? Nope, still nothing until our AS June 8th. I feel that that is still so far away! But I do have a hair and eyebrow wax appointment Saturday so I am definitely looking forward to that (my hair seems to be growing insanely fast!)

4. Rants/raves/questions? I felt the baby kick my had for the first time yesterday! It was so strange and so wonderful! It made it feel a little more real and I feel more excited today than I have. I haven’t really loved the whole being pregnant thing up to this point, but I feel like now that I am starting to feel him/her move I am starting to enjoy it more.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self? My advice would be to do your best to enjoy every moment just as it is. I tend to stress about everything so I really want to just enjoy my time being pregnant and then all the times after, good and bad.

pumpkinpancake · May 2018

Thursday seems to be dead lately! Where’s all the Thursday ticker people??

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby? 19 weeks today! Size of a mango or a crepe suzette (according to Ovia)

2. How are you feeling? Feeling pretty good! Not as tired lately which is nice, so I’m enjoying a bit of a reprieve.

3. Any appointments this week? None this week, but my anatomy scan is finally one week from today!!

4. Rants/raves/questions? I think it’s official that I look pregnant now - one of the attendees at a conference that I run today asked me if I was pregnant, since he hadn’t seen me in a couple months. It was so funny watching him try to figure out a nice way to ask it without making it seem like he was just calling me fat.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self? hmm, maybe to try and take each moment for what it is, and to write down/record some of the milestones. I’ve been awful about keeping records of all of DS’s milestones, and I wish I had done a better job of this.

dash83 · May 2018

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby?

19 weeks, baby is the size of a mango!

2. How are you feeling?

Feeling good, a few people have said I’ve got a ‘glow’ about me. I’ll take it! Baby must be in a growth spurt, I’ve been pretty sleepy the past few afternoons.

3. Any appointments this week?

Nope, AS Next week and can’t wait!

4. Rants/raves/questions?

So here’s a rant/ question for you ladies.

My good friend from colleges baby shower is in a few weeks, 7 hours drive away. It is the same day as an event where I’m being introduced publicly as a new board member, which is a first for me, and it is the organizations gala event for the year. It was a big deal for me professionally to be asked to join. This friend missed my bachelorette party last year ( tells me day of, she was ‘sick’ which also happened to be the day after cinco de mayo), and her husband didn’t come to the wedding, even though they had rsvp’d yes, and I’ve been friends with them both since 2002.

Question is, is it ok for me to miss the baby shower and just send a gift?

I’d like to be there, but at the same time am feeling conflicted because of missing the event and honestly feeling butt hurt about her lack of involvement with stuff that was important to me last year.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self?

Try to exercise as much as you can, girl you know your body always wants to hold onto every pound! Don’t believe them that breast feeding will magically melt them off! Lol

I should really start taking some bump photos, so I have them to look back on.

dash83 · May 2018

@spartan4life isn’t it amazing! Crazy to think there is a little person inside of us, doing summersaults and kicking our livers

@pumpkinpancake we are AS and week buddies! Hope it goes well for you, looking forward to next week and reporting back to the group!

pajamstagrams · May 2018

@dash83 I'd skip the shower... It's super far away plus you have a huge honor for yourself.

knottieamusements · May 2018

@dash83 - if the baby shower was a 20min drive, I would understand being conflicted. But this is a no brainer. Mail a gift and go to the gala.

1) 7 hr drive each way - yeah, no. Not for a two hour baby shower. Do you think she would do the same for you (ignoring the part about her having a newborn when your shower would likely occur)?
2) It is pretty well documented that career women take a professional hit when they have a baby. There is no need to compound it.
3) Maybe she was sick the day of your Bachelorette Party, but still- friendships and relationships move on. If she hasn’t been making an effort to stay your friend, then let that relationship move on.

spartan4life · May 2018

@dash83 It is! Although I’m pretty sure baby is closer to my bladder than my liver right now

As for your question, I don’t think I would feel bad for missing the shower for your event. That sounds like a huge deal for you, regardless of if she missed events for you or not. I would definitely send a gift, but I think she would understand since that night is a big deal for you and your career! Good luck!

dash83 · May 2018

@jemmerjams @knottieamusements thank you for weighing in! It makes me feel better knowing that it’s ok to put me first on this one. And knottie, totally agree with your point on it being hard enough for Career women, and I don’t think this friend really gets it. It would be a wasted opportunity to not be at this event and I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t be making the trip either for my shower, even without a babe in arms. 14 hours driving is hella long, especially with stops for stretching and bathroom!

dash83 · May 2018

Thanks @spartan4life! I’m going to do just that, and hopefully see her and baby in July when I’m down that way for a longer period of time.
Hopefully little baby keeps those kicks to the bladder coming- mine are still elusive and crave feeling the little sweet hellos!

knottieamusements · May 2018

@dash83 - I’m doing a six hour each way road trip this weekend. I do it 2-4 times a year, and I’m still not looking forward to it this time around. And I’m not missing anything at home that I should really be doing instead.

Definitely put yourself first, and don’t feel bad about it.

dash83 · May 2018

@knottieamusements have a safe trip! I’m sure this time next year it’ll be a whole new ball game for all of us!
I’ll do my best not to feel guilty or be guilted. Hopefully she will understand, and if not, well whatever

pumpkinpancake · May 2018

@dash83 like the others have said, definitely don’t feel bad about not going to the shower. Send a gift and leave it at that. You deserve your own moment with your work thing, so don’t feel guilty about it at all!!

ummibtihaj · May 2018

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby? 20 weeks, banana

2. How are you feeling? Was pretty sick the last 2 days, but I thankfully feel much better today.

3. Any appointments this week? Had an appointment with my midwife today. Baby wouldn't sit still long enough to get the heart rate so my midwife gave up lol. So excited for my AS next Tuesday. It's hard to believe I'm already half way through.

4. Rants/raves/questions? Nothing this week lol. Just feeling mostly tired.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self? Enjoy every minute. The time they are little will be over before I know it, and I will miss it dearly.

sammierose464 · May 2018

They say you really shouldn't be in a car for more than 5-6hr in a day while pregnant anyway ) at least the article I read the other day. And it's a huge inconvenience for you. You can't go there and back in one day, so you'd have to find somewhere to stay. It would cost way more to attend and you could just put it toward a nicer gift.

Also, your thing sounds way more important. I feel like you'd be doing yourself a disservice to not go to your gala. Congrats!!

dash83 · May 2018

Thanks @pumpkinpancake and @sammierose464! Both super valid points, I didn’t even think about the health issues with traveling that far, and I would have to book it down there on the same day. My friends husband has a lot of stuff, so was not planning or could stay there, was looking at $200 just for the hotel or another 2.5 hour evening drive to my parents. All together it just doesn’t make sense!

This is such a great group of smart, supportive women. Thank you for helping me come to my senses on this one!

pajamstagrams · May 2018

@dash83 also wanted to add to other's comments above about driving while pregnant (I don't know if I would make a 7 hour drive if I wasn't pregnant, TBH. Not when I had a personal honor.) My OB recommends getting out the car and walking around about every 1-2 hours. I frequently drive to a college town 90 minutes away for recruiting, and that's about his limit for me not having to stop. So with a 7 hour drive, I would have to stop at least 3-4 times. Hell no, that would add like 1 hour at least to the drive.

knottieamusements · May 2018

@jemmerjams - I actually routinely stop at three places on my 6hr drive. Even before being pregnant, I needed to do that just for myself- pit stop for gas and restrooms, let the dog walk around a bit and get some water.

I’ll probably add one more stop in the first half of my drive this time around (and going forward for a year or two) because that stretch between Eureka and Lebanon is pretty long.

nugget2ehf · May 2018

I'm late this week, but wanted to wait until after my AS (yesterday)

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby? 20 weeks, size of a banana!

2. How are you feeling? Normal, starting to get some back pain, but not horrible yet. Excited now that we had our AS and everything is normal and we know its a GIRL!

3. Any appointments this week? AS yesterday, follow-up with OB this afternoon

4. Rants/raves/questions? Nope, just so excited right now.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self? Probably just to enjoy the moment and write down memories and milestones. I'm terrible about that....

dash83 · May 2018

@jemmerjams @knottieamusements, yup I totally agree! I drive all over WA state for donor visits, went to Tri Cities last week and stopped 4 times for stretches/ potty / etc. a drive down to Eugene would be so annoying and not fun, especially with the traffic I’m sure to hit in Portland. I think I have sound reasons not to make the trip, especially just for one night, one short event.

tlmill · May 2018

Totally forgot to post yesterday.

1. How many weeks are you? What size is baby? 20 weeks, paper airplane according to my other app.

2. How are you feeling? Pregnancy-wise I’m okay, just the back pain and heartburn. In general, I’ve been sick for close to a month and finally went to urgent care on Wednesday because breathing made me feel like I was being stabbed. Turns out I should’ve gone in sooner because I have some infection that spread to my lungs and now I get to deal with pleurisy.

3. Any appointments this week? Nope.

4. Rants/raves/questions? No.

5. GTKY: What piece of advice would you give to your future mother self? Well what I would tell myself now that I’m a third time mom is to not compare your kid to others. They develop at their own pace. Part of the purpose of well checks with the pediatrician is to screen for delays and get them seen by ECI. On a similar note, if you feel that there is something truly “wrong” or off about your child, speak up! You are your child’s best advocate. You know him/her better than anyone else and you’re the only one that can truly help any issues be brought to light. We still struggle with this with DS, with providers not taking us seriously or brushing us off when we say that something is off, and I will continue to fight like hell to make sure my kid gets the help that he really needs.

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