Pregnant, not dying

lurvleybunchococonuts · May 2018

I'm sure it'll happen more and more often the further we go, but what everyday/silly things have people around you insisted on doing for you or scolded you for doing?

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lurvleybunchococonuts · May 2018

For example: Both my boss and production manager just flipped their lids because I moved a box using a dolly

I didn't even lift the damn thing, just scooped the box up and moved it to another location. In stereo I got, "OMG Coconuts, what are you doing, don't do that, let me do that for you"

It's cute because I know they care, but funny cause I'm not an invalid.

tessiesmom26 · May 2018

I thought DH was going to rip my hand off for reaching for 1/4 a piece of pepperoni last night. "That's deli meat!!!"

CopperBoom86 · May 2018

My H gets upset with me when I clean our stall shower. He says I'm "hot boxing" myself with chemicals. The "chemicals" he's referring to are vinegar, water, and baking soda.

susan112118 · May 2018

I got scolded at 8 weeks for carrying a case of bottled water. The worst part: It was by another mom. I am not made of glass.

booksandcoffee · May 2018

Setting my four year old down on the floor from a chair. I wasn’t even lifting her- just made sure she didn’t fall.

josie12367 · May 2018

Not a dang thing... my DH just pretty much lets me do whatever this round. I know i shouldn't be bothered by it but it would be nice to have him fuss over me just a little. Considering he's the only person I really interact with, I got nothing!

pelorunningmama · May 2018

@josie12367 ditto! I feel like crap every day and just want him to tell me to rest. Does it happen?! Nope. Ha! So much different this third time. Maybe when I’m a lot bigger.

middleschoolmommy · May 2018

I had one class that insisted I NOT bend over to pick up anything "because of the baby"

runningyogimama · May 2018

@josie12367 I was also thinking it would be nice for someone to fuss over me at all and tell me not to do something....

kbyahn · May 2018

My SO was getting upset with me for vacuuming and for carrying our laundry basket... I'm not complaining, he's more than welcome to take over all the household chores

blue2mango · May 2018

@josie12367 My DH is the same, he tells me I can still do it. No doteing(sp?) over this pregnant lady. Its fine, I just tell him when I need him to do it and he does, no complaints. (Except cleaning the cat box, complains every time.

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@middleschoolmommy haha!

firsttimespartanmom · May 2018

My boss won’t let me carry anything at work. Even the smallest thing that isn’t heavy! Which to be honest is kind of nice because it gets me out of things I didn’t really want to do anyway...

mamabee1113 · May 2018

I’m a middle and high school dance teacher at a school for the arts and my coworkers question if I should still be dancing with my kids and demonstrating skills. I’m 14 weeks.. I show them videos of my college ballet teacher performing in a professional capacity at 8 months pregnant. (She’s super human, but it gets the point across that I’m fine lol)

mockingjay1 · May 2018

Another one for not having anyone make a fuss over me or tell me not to do something because I'm pregnant... I have a 40lb toddler and my OB said it was fine to lift him so I feel fine doing most things.

rmg85 · May 2018

I had a co worker tell me to walk slower because it's better for the baby.....

wamam027 · May 2018

I'm on the nobody cares train. DH pm'd me this afternoon to ask if I've mowed the lawn in the last couple days to make sure I don't get behind on all of my life tasks since I'm the only one to get them done. Thanks babe, enjoy your sightseeing in Japan on your days off that I dont get.

lurvleybunchococonuts · May 2018

@wamam027 ooooo ouch! I'd tell him I'll get right on that and then pay a neighborhood kid $20 to do it for you

To all the ladies with non-doting spouses *hugs* I hope they still are helping out /doing a little extra when asked.

lifesabeach85 · May 2018

+1 for no one cares! I mean I guess it’s nice that no one tries to micromanage my life but I was also passive aggressively moving furniture around Saturday because I asked DH to do it earlier and he didn’t. I think maybe people are more solicitous during your first pregnancy for some reason? DD definitely doesn’t care!

runningyogimama · May 2018

lifesabeach85 said:

+1 for no one cares! I mean I guess it’s nice that no one tries to micromanage my life but I was also passive aggressively moving furniture around Saturday because I asked DH to do it earlier and he didn’t. I think maybe people are more solicitous during your first pregnancy for some reason? DD definitely doesn’t care!

This is how I’m feeling (although I don’t remember anyone being particularly helpful my first pregnancy either...). But it’s almost like it’s not acknowledged since it’s the third time now. I’ve been VERY passive aggressive about doing bath time for the girls lately, since that’s “my thing,” but I’ve had terrible SI joint pain and it kills me sitting on the floor in the bathroom/bending over to rinse their hair....

lostarz14 · May 2018

I'm pretty sure everyone forgets I'm even pregnant. DH asked me to help him move this 5 shelf storage shelf thing in the garage the other day.

eahayes · May 2018

Just had a friend yell at me to not pick up her child who wanted a hug. The kid is 3. I'm not a weakling... don't STM's lift their toddlers all the time (especially at 14 weeks)?!

runningyogimama · May 2018

eahayes said:

Just had a friend yell at me to not pick up her child who wanted a hug. The kid is 3. I'm not a weakling... don't STM's lift their toddlers all the time (especially at 14 weeks)?!

I pick up my 4 and 5 year olds (35 lbs each). It’s no big deal in a normal pregnancy to pick up a child.

soehlerk · May 2018

My FIL told me not to stand up too quickly because I am "with child."

And my 63-year-old mother keeps trying to carry things for me. But it all comes from a nice place.

DH, on the other hand, snapped at me today b/c the cat dropped a deuce in the hallway and I was trying to explain that we need to move the litter box away from the HVAC (new house, the HVAC terrifies the cat). He says, "YOU aren't the one cleaning it up!"...like I haven't been the sole poop-scooper for the last 6 years. Like I wouldn't happily scoop it if it meant avoiding his dramatic reactions. OMG, it's one freaking chore.

OK #rantover.

BabyBoyH92016 · May 2018

Yup. This pregnancy is much much different then my first in terms of being told what to do. I have a high energy almost two year old who I spend most the day running after and trying to wrangle. It’s business as usual at my house.

cm716 · May 2018

When I was pregnant with my first. I got scolded by a middle aged male client for wearing kitten heels(I.e. very low small heels). He told me flats are better for pregnancy.

I'm sorry do I know you??? Have you ever been pregnant?WTH?? let's just say it's a good thing I was 24 and and not 30. Cause now I'd be 'This is none of your business and I'd appreciate if you'd keep your opinions about MY BODY to yourself.

On the other hand, I was advised by my doctor to take my weight down for my weight lifting class because I was quite a heavy lifter before. I told my pump teacher to yell at me if I put too much on my bar. But now it's super cute because every time she sees me modifying or taking my weight down she's all good job( in an encouraging way not a patronizing way)!! she knows it's super hard for me not to be lifting when I was.

eahayes · May 2018

@cm716 I was in love with lifting weights before also, and have gotten so many "oh you shouldn't do that" from people. Cut my weight to super low for workouts and STILL get comments! blech.

tgortney · May 2018

I go to a yoga studio often. I announced at 12 weeks I was pregnant. Found out the owner talked to my friend behind my back and said “you should always tell your instructor you’re pregnant, even if you’re not telling the world yet. I’m disappointed”

UM EXCUSE ME, ENTITLED MUCH?!

I’m pregnant, not disabled.

Also, this ain’t my first rodeo. I did CROSSFIT with my first and he’s just fine. Yoga isn’t a big deal.

purelex · May 2018

A random lady on the flight I was on wouldn't let me lift my carry-on bag to the overhead bin. Instead, she made some random dude behind her do it after she made it clear to him that I was pregnant and he wasn't being very gentlemanly. I was mortified (for her and me!) but the guy took it in stride and I apologized, haha.

smulrich16 · May 2018

@cm716 @eahayes I work out almost every day still and it bums me out that I'm not lifting my pre-pregnancy weights. When I tell people at work that I'm headed to the gym after work they look at me sideways and say, "Well, you better be careful." I've been lifting/working out regularly for YEARS...I know my body.

We did a volunteer outing with my management team Wednesday at a local food bank. We were putting bran flakes from a HUGE bulk bag into smaller bags. The only thing my team (all men) would let me do is put the labels on the bag and repeatedly asked me if I wanted a chair. Guys! Thanks for being caring (all of them have kids), but I'm only 14 weeks.

wildrainbow · May 2018

Haha, it's wonderful y'all have so many ppl looking out for you. H just looks at me weird if I mention anything negatively effecting me (I.E. RLP, tired, etc). Apparently, I am super woman or something and I'm not even supposed to be affected by pregnancy. I'm not complaining (too much), but I do kinda miss when he did most things for me. #mamajustwantstobepampered

MojieJo · May 2018

@wildrainbow I feel you. My first pregnancy, everyone treated me like I was made of fine china (which I both loved and hated) and this time everyone's just like "eh, whatever" and act like I've lost my mind if I mention not feeling great.

I'd rather not be treated like I'm an invalid, but it's nice to be pampered.

wildrainbow · May 2018

@MojieJo Amen! I feel you!

ashkee05 · May 2018

This whole post is everything! I hate how people just think we can’t do anything anymore. I keep telling everyone to go away and help me when I’m huge and REALLY need the help. Although with this one I have started experiencing sciatic nerve pain and my round ligament pain is in full force. I’m having a hard time lugging around my 35lb toddler.

kamahina9 · May 2018

My DH used to work from 2:30-11pm but since I'm pregnant he wants to be home to take care of me. I told him I would be fine but he doesn't want me to have a hard time walking upup a down the stairs when I get bigger. I think it's sweet that he is so worried but am not a big fan of the pay cut since he no longer gets night differential pay.

At work they are transferring me to an office with more stable hours and less risk. I'm glad everyone cares but I do feel a little likl I let people down. Oh well, just gotta be grateful.

jessielynn1 · May 2018

My job is contstant standing, moving and soemtines lifting. Everyone has decided to treat me like an egg, very fragile lol. I just go with it, with the 3 kiddos at home and hubby being gone 5 days a weeks for work I’ll take the break.

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