Hey ladies! First off I know my username may not be changed from knottie with a bunch of numbers, so no need to point that out in the comments or send me the link to the discussion to change it. Second, I’m glad I only used this app to see how my kiddo compared to the size of a fruit in my belly. Because once I figured out how to join the community page of this app and talk with other women due around the same time as me I was completely unwelcome by the other members of this group. And, I have seen it’s just not me but many other women who have finally figured out the app come on here and only receive rude comments from a group of women who would like to keep this little group exclusive for some reason I cannot understand. From what I understood this discussion group was suppose to be a resource for us and a place of support. Instead, the “regular participants” have chosen to be catty and judgmental. Our due dates are right around the corner so this page will be irrelevant soon. But maybe in the future the people who have chosen to be unwelcoming and negative, will learn to treat others with kindness and spread positivity on the internet. Just something to think about.
Hey ladies! First off I know my username may not be changed from knottie with a bunch of numbers, so no need to point that out in the comments or send me the link to the discussion to change it. Second, I’m glad I only used this app to see how my kiddo compared to the size of a fruit in my belly. Because once I figured out how to join the community page of this app and talk with other women due around the same time as me I was completely unwelcome by the other members of this group. And, I have seen it’s just not me but many other women who have finally figured out the app come on here and only receive rude comments from a group of women who would like to keep this little group exclusive for some reason I cannot understand. From what I understood this discussion group was suppose to be a resource for us and a place of support. Instead, the “regular participants” have chosen to be catty and judgmental. Our due dates are right around the corner so this page will be irrelevant soon. But maybe in the future the people who have chosen to be unwelcoming and negative, will learn to treat others with kindness and spread positivity on the internet. Just something to think about.
Right, we spent nine entire months talking to each other EVERY DAY, giving and receiving support, but it’s suuuuper catty to... what... ? Point that out?
Like, omg, it’s so catty that you’re close with your best friend and don’t love when strangers barge in to use you as google without even introducing themselves!
Oh how noble of you to come on here after the board has been dead for weeks and let us know just how awful we are. I’m sure your opinion if highly valued, internet stranger....
@isbee123 Sorry if I hurt your feelers earlier when I told a 35 week pregnant lady to call her doctor regarding what she described as fairly regular contractions. I thought it would be a helpful answer, considering that seeking medical attention is usually a better option when it comes to your health and your baby’s health than asking internet strangers for advice. Had I known absolutely anything about her (FTM/STM, history of precipitous labor, what exactly do you mean by the frequency of your contractions) I may have had a different response.
Right, we spent nine entire months talking to each other EVERY DAY, giving and receiving support, but it’s suuuuper catty to... what... ? Point that out?
Like, omg, it’s so catty that you’re close with your best friend and don’t love when strangers barge in to use you as google without even introducing themselves!
(???)
Cool story bro.
That’s great you have formed friendships on here! This is however a public app/ website that everyone can use and have access to. I apologize you feel like google when people use this public app to ask for advice for women who are just as far along as they are in their pregnancy or just need some support from people who might be able to understand. May I suggest using a more private app or website to maintain your friendships, so you don’t feel “barged in on” by “strangers” who are also using this PUBLIC app.
Not exactly sure what you were trying to accomplish with this (AW) thread, but if you were trying to make us feel bad...
Off to cry myself to sleep, Internet Stranger.
The point of this post was to make people aware that there has been negativity on a page that was initially meant to be a supportive community. Instead the members of this page have decided to make this an exclusive clique. For reasons I do not understand. I’m apologize you feel victimized by this post. Instead of taking away from this post that I’m trying to make you guys feel bad, how about trying to spread positivity on the internet and treating people who are “internet strangers” by being a kind, welcoming community.
@isbee123 Sorry if I hurt your feelers earlier when I told a 35 week pregnant lady to call her doctor regarding what she described as fairly regular contractions. I thought it would be a helpful answer, considering that seeking medical attention is usually a better option when it comes to your health and your baby’s health than asking internet strangers for advice. Had I known absolutely anything about her (FTM/STM, history of precipitous labor, what exactly do you mean by the frequency of your contractions) I may have had a different response.
I’m not sure if you understood my post, as your advice to the woman had nothing to do with what I was regarding. However, thank you for being welcoming to a newcomer and responding to her post with helpful advice. This is only my assumption, but perhaps she knew this app had the resource of this community for asking for advice and she only thought to use it in a time of need. Which is perfectly fine to not be a regular participant, but seeking help turning to this page to find some answers from people who may understand. Thank you for taking the time to respond to internet strangers who are using the same public platform as you.
Here’s an example of another user getting responses of negativity from members of this community, and having similar feelings as myself to how this group treats others.
@doxiemoxie212 you asked me to point out the catty comments. Here are just a few examples, of when people were seeking advice or simply introducing themselves and received negativity from the members of this group in return. If you would like more examples simply scroll through the discussion threads. Mostly when newcomers discover the resource of the community and are immediately shut down.
Good morning @isbee123... I was not expecting a rant about our groups unwelcoming behavior this morning... but here you are. I'm not sure exactly what you thought you would find in a COMMUNITY section, but we have taken 9 long and hard months to get to know each other and form a community. It seems to me you would prefer a section on the bump called... ask the doctor... where one off questions would be the norm. As none of us are doctors this type of public forum would not benefit us- instead it hinders the ability to actually form a community by clogging up the board with repeat questions and AW posts that do not benefit others of the community. At this point in our pregnancies we have had babies born to the group... with more being born everyday. The community we have formed will be there for postpartum stresses and concerns as well. Other baby sites are not as well known for their community vibe, and you may find they suit your needs better.
@isbee123 This group has some pretty freaking wonderful ladies who have shown amazing support. They are not only kind and positive, but also open-minded. June18 is not the only board that has established protocol. Organization is essential on a site like this, as has been pointed out before. There is a a reason we have a READ THIS FIRST thread, amongst others, designed to acclimate those who are new. Newcomers always have the option of seeking out information about how this is "supposed to" work. All of us "regulars" have done it, so we kinda expect others to do so, too. If someone has three days (I think) after setting up their account before they can post, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect them to look around and familiarize themselves with the forum(s.) If they do not, I also do not find it unreasonable to redirect them to the specialized threads, if they seem to want to be included in our community, or to respond with some irritation when people ask questions that strangers are not qualified to answer. Why should any of us provide answers to questions we may not have the answers to, especially when we aren't invested in the person asking? They have a right to ask, we have a right to respond however we choose (even if it's "mean") just like you have every right to point out how catty and judgmental you think we are. Before creating this thread, the 2 times you decided to contribute to this community were to announce the sex of your baby, and to add info to the spreadsheet. I don't see you introducing yourself, or offering any support/advice at all, other than for us to be nice. Maybe you can be the change you want to see on this board.
OP, the fact that you think this board will be useless after our babies are born shows just how little you know about this community.
Maybe I’d know more about the community if the group was more welcoming to newcomers.
I see you missed my point entirely. You seem to be hellbent on condescendingly repeating yourself about how negative we are. Thank you for educating all of us - thank GAWD you finally arrived to show us all the error of our ways...
However, I have to give credit where credit is due. You are an A++ troll*. It takes real dedication, time, and commitment to reply to each of us and go find examples of what you consider to be the problem. It is too bad you didn't take the time to read the "Read this first" board, intro, and become a part of this community way back when you joined TB, you probably would have been a great member. Instead, you've chosen to wait until nearly June to come here and tell us how awful we are. Congrats on that positive attitude!
*Sorry June 2018 friends...I know I'm just feeding the troll, so here's a noodle gif.
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Re: Attitude of the June 2018 Moms
Like, omg, it’s so catty that you’re close with your best friend and don’t love when strangers barge in to use you as google without even introducing themselves!
(???)
Cool story bro.
Off to cry myself to sleep, Internet Stranger.
Huh?
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
I don’t really understand why you’ve been around since February and are just coming out of lurker-dom now to try to remediate our behavior.
June18 is not the only board that has established protocol. Organization is essential on a site like this, as has been pointed out before. There is a a reason we have a READ THIS FIRST thread, amongst others, designed to acclimate those who are new. Newcomers always have the option of seeking out information about how this is "supposed to" work. All of us "regulars" have done it, so we kinda expect others to do so, too. If someone has three days (I think) after setting up their account before they can post, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect them to look around and familiarize themselves with the forum(s.)
If they do not, I also do not find it unreasonable to redirect them to the specialized threads, if they seem to want to be included in our community, or to respond with some irritation when people ask questions that strangers are not qualified to answer. Why should any of us provide answers to questions we may not have the answers to, especially when we aren't invested in the person asking? They have a right to ask, we have a right to respond however we choose (even if it's "mean") just like you have every right to point out how catty and judgmental you think we are.
Before creating this thread, the 2 times you decided to contribute to this community were to announce the sex of your baby, and to add info to the spreadsheet. I don't see you introducing yourself, or offering any support/advice at all, other than for us to be nice. Maybe you can be the change you want to see on this board.
However, I have to give credit where credit is due. You are an A++ troll*. It takes real dedication, time, and commitment to reply to each of us and go find examples of what you consider to be the problem. It is too bad you didn't take the time to read the "Read this first" board, intro, and become a part of this community way back when you joined TB, you probably would have been a great member. Instead, you've chosen to wait until nearly June to come here and tell us how awful we are. Congrats on that positive attitude!
*Sorry June 2018 friends...I know I'm just feeding the troll, so here's a noodle gif.
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Please:
Flag comments that violate our TOU by using the “Report a TOU Violation” feature below posts.
Send an email to support@thebump.com and include links to any threads that you are concerned about so we can properly investigate.
Please do not:
Post on the boards about your grievances with the community or individual members. Doing so tends to result in unproductive arguments among members and escalates situations.
By flagging posts that violate the TOU and sharing your concerns directly with our moderators, we are able to address issues promptly and properly.
We will be closing this thread for further comments. Thank you.