FFFC 5/18

stothi · May 2018

Flame free Friday confessions!
Or is it usually flame free confessions Friday?
I'll confess! I can't freaking remember! My brain is mush!

pourmeanothermocktail · May 2018

I only had 8 customers all day at the bar yesterday, and I didn't clean one damn extra thing. I mean, normal table cleaning, setting up for the day, glasses and stuff, but in all my down time I screwed around on my phone because I just didn't care-I knew I was going home with next to no money. I was right-$12.

southernlady07 · May 2018

I found out my raise information for the next year this morning which was great news, but I was noticeably more excited by seeing a delivery alert pop up on my phone just now for my new Snoogle. I cannot waaaaiiiit to rekindle my love with it tonight.

samd6 · May 2018

I have to interview a candidate today and I have a serious case of the DGAFs.
My brother-in-law and his GF are staying with us this week and I'm already over them being here. DH never told them we are pregnant (seriously?) so that was awkward when I got home from work the day they got here because I'm showing pretty clearly at this point *eye roll*
Lastly, I am so tired of taking Lovenox shots every day (any other Lovenox ladies out there? I'd love to have a rant feed about how terrible it is). My abdomen is all sorts of shades of blue/purple/yellow/green from bruising and it seems to be getting worse as time goes on. I know a lot of people would be grateful for the opportunity to be pregnant, but I am not digging it at all. It's not magical or beautiful or mystical or whatever else people say, it's uncomfortable and bleh, at least for me. The next time someone asks me "Isn't being pregnant AMAZING?!" I might snap.

Phew, that felt good

Patience7150 · May 2018

H tried to ask me some memory-based questions yesterday and I blamed the pregnancy for having a bad memory and not being able to help him, but really I just didn't want to try because I was tired.

nlc8424 · May 2018

I'm having a really hard time mentally accepting that my H is done traveling until baby is here (and likely will not have to travel every week/every other week for 5+ months again). I'm extremely happy about this but I'm not able to let my guard down and wonder when something else will pop up. It's taken a pretty big toll on our communication and upkeep of our house, and I just don't want to go back to that. I feel like we're still "recovering" from all of his traveling and trying to figure out how to buckle down and get some stuff done around our house. I realize this is a bit heavy and I'm not really looking for any advice in particular, just needed to get it off my chest.

stothi · May 2018

@nlc8424 I'm in a similar, not the same, but vaguely similar headspace with hubby being home. I believe that he's home and should be around but I'm struggling to get used to having a person around again. I feel like either talk too much or not enough. I'm impatient with him for not knowing our current routines. Oi. It's a mess. But like a passive mess, not an active hot mess of wanting to stab each other or anything.

nlc8424 · May 2018

@stothi solidarity in the rough transition. H and I are getting along pretty much fine, but he's burnt out from the long drives and long 14 hour days, and I'm tired and touched out from being primary caregiver so it just doesn't leave a lot of positive energy to give to one another. Also because of the fact that I'm mentally prepared for him to leave at any given moment, I feel like we need to get everything done right this second so that it actually is finished before he gets called away again. Which is just unnecessary stress.

stothi · May 2018

@nlc8424 love tit for support! I feel so much of that

stothi · May 2018

FF-TMI-C:
I've stopped explaining things to my husband and just send him this when I need him to take care of the kiddo while I deal with exciting pregnancy challenges:

Redpuma119 · May 2018

My FFFC: I actually DO think pregnancy is beautiful. It took me a looong time to get/stay pregnant, and I am so appreciative every day of what my body is doing. I obviously have symptoms that I don't love.. I wish my digestive track would get it's shit together (pun intended), wish I could bend over more easily, wish I could pee with some power behind it, wish I wasn't out of breath constantly. But every day I am amazed at what's happening inside me. And small things like the AS? I've never seen the 4 chambers of my heart before, or an ultrasound of both hemispheres of my brain. Freaking awesome. So for me, it IS amazing. And since I don't know that I will ever get to experience it again, I am taking everything, including the not so appealing parts, as beautiful/amazing/awesome.

stothi · May 2018

@Redpuma119 that's fair. As long as you don't call me an Earth Goddess or Life Vessel or anything like that, we can totally still be friends.

Redpuma119 · May 2018

@stothi Earth Goddess, Angel Baby Grower, Mystical. Definitely not. Bad ass? Yes.

klj0228 · May 2018

@Redpuma119 I can appreciate where you are coming from and I do think it’s amazing what our bodies can do. I am thankful to be pregnant and carrying this human, but I am one of those who hates being pregnant. I feel like the world says how beautiful it is and how great of an experience it is to be pregnant. Not all women have that experience and it feels like if you don’t love being pregnant there is something wrong with you.

stothi · May 2018

Redpuma119 said:

@stothi Earth Goddess, Angel Baby Grower, Mystical. Definitely not. Bad ass? Yes.

That works! ❤️

yosemite2018 · May 2018

@klj0228 I totally agree. Dd was being extra adorable today and DH asked “how can you not want 10 more of those?” I would except I hate being pregnant and don’t even want to do it for a 3rd time (which he is pretty insistent on and #2 isn’t even here yet!).

Redpuma119 · May 2018

@klj0228 I can 100% understand not loving being pregnant, and I don't blame anyone who hates it. I don't think anything is wrong with someone who never wants to be pregnant again. I’m in no way judging those who hate it. There is a difference though between loving something and appreciating it, if that makes sense. Like none of want stretch marks, heatburn, back pain, etc. but I do think the entire process is amazing. Like, how cool is it that our bodies make room for this baby? It’s just rearranging organs, putting the intestines over here, deciding one thing will move there.. and then after birth it just returns to normal. Or we grow an entirely new organ? Wut?! Or that our baby goes from drinking amniotic fluid to air the moment they are born? I just can’t experience this (the good and bad) without being in awe of the entire process.

SkilledSailor · May 2018

@Redpuma119 That’s a great point about the differences of loving pregnancy and appreciating it! I do know some women love being pregnant, but I’m not one of them. This has been super rough on me. But I absolutely appreciate and am fascinated that our bodies can do this.

klj0228 · May 2018

SkilledSailor said:

@Redpuma119 That’s a great point about the differences of loving pregnancy and appreciating it! I do know some women love being pregnant, but I’m not one of them. This has been super rough on me. But I absolutely appreciate and am fascinated that our bodies can do this.

@Redpuma119 agree with this comment! I hate being pregnant, but appreciate the process and ability to be pregnant. And you are right, our bodies are absolutely amazing the way they adapt and provide for this other life.

samd6 · May 2018

@Redpuma119 I’ve struggled with IF and don’t want to seem unappreciative of the process, at all. It took a lot of work to get here! There’s just a lot of stigma around how wonderful it all is, and when you don’t absolutely love every moment you are made to feel bad, even if not intentional. But, I can certainly appreciate the science and the wonder that goes into creating a human life. Thanks for making me think of it another way and getting me out of my own head.

stothi · May 2018

Omg! I don't know where to put this, but since so many of my confessions start with, "you all know I'm an asshole right," I think I'll put it here-

I'm lurking the other boards, like I do, and I'm dying!!!! Knottienumbers drive by started her own thread to ask (in a very confusing back asswards way) if giving her husband a BJ and swallowing after he'd been drinking would mean she was ingesting alcohol too cause maybe it's in the sperm and could that hurt her baby?
Dying.
Is there enough alcohol in her husband's sperm to count as consuming alcohol.
Ded.

Redpuma119 · May 2018

@stothi I just pictured telling my husband this. He would be like, you're a moron.

stothi · May 2018

@Redpuma119 my husband laughed until he cried when I told him. I feel the teeny tiniest bit bad making fun but all I can can keep thinking is that there really IS such a thing as a stupid question.

Redpuma119 · May 2018

Does anyone have the link for butt baby? I think @stothi would get a kick out of it.

SkilledSailor · May 2018

@redpuma119 I wish! That’s a classic. I’m awful at finding things while mobile though.

BostonBaby1 · May 2018

@samd6 Yes to the lovonox. Try rotating your injection sites. I mostly use love handles. There is more to pinch.

@Redpuma119 I agree with the beauty of pregnancy. I’m not having a physically “easy” or “difficult “ pregnancy so far but I love that I’m here despite the challenges.

FFSC: Yesterday if was pouring out. I was walking out of a doorway after an appointment and opened my automatic umbrella which accidentally sprayed a tiny bit of water at a homeless man who was collecting change under a 7-11 awning and not visible to me when exiting. While, he screamed as if I had burned him with fire so I apologized. He then screamed more at me telling me it was the third time it had happened (obviously the first 2 were other people.) Instead of keeping my mouth shut, I told him that is a sign that he should move to a different place. He started screaming even more about how he was standing there because he was homeless. Nope. There were at least 1,000 awnings and table umbrellas up on the block. I did walk away but was pissed instead of compassionate. He scared the shit out of me with all that screaming. I hate city 7-11s. They’re hangouts for the worst of the worst. I much prefer the men that sit outside of the local Starbucks. We say hi and how are you.

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