A final goodbye

knottie47c91d6082dc1b21 · May 2018

Hi Bump Family!
im sorry i never got around to personalizing my screen name, I’ve just been having a really tough time. I’ve been trying to find the protocol for how we post our losses. By now I’m sure you can put together that my little sunshine didn’t stick. I am asking everyone to please pray for me if you are religious as this is the toughest thing I have ever endured in my entire life. Although i couldn’t post in the app like I wanted because of my crazy work schedule, I always read you all’s posts and such. I probably won’t be on the app anymore because the notifications hit a nerve when they pop up on my home screen. Thank you all for being so kind and welcoming and I wish you all nothing but the best with your growing bundles of joy!

tosh24 · May 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take all the time to grieve that you need and know that it's OK to feel whatever you're feeling. Be kind to yourself during this difficult time. If you decide to stick around The Bump, the ladies over on Trying to Conceive After Loss (TTCAL) are amazing and know exactly what you're going through. They have been a great source of comfort to me over the last couple of years. Wishing peace for you as you come to terms with your loss. All the best as you move forward.

julesf817 · May 2018

So sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself. ❤️

sweetyjenj · May 2018

So sorry for your loss ❤️ there is support on the bump still if you want it, like @tosh24 said. Praying for you.

zamoraspin · May 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's ok to not be ok right now. The pain will get better but probably will never completely go away. Welcome to the world's shittiest secret society. It is a very lonely type of grief -- I agree with @tosh24 that it may be helpful to connect with other women who have experienced pregnancy loss on the TTCAL board and/or TTGP TTCAL thread.

sparkymcgeee · May 2018

I'm sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve. Don't rush the healing.

dragonette505 · May 2018

I agree with everything everyone has said here... many of us are here after multiple losses and we hold each other together in the best way...I also want to add: You can keep the bump app but stop those heartbreaking notifications by changing your status. Click you avatar in the upper right corner and in the list below you will see "status". Click on that and change it from pregnant to i have experienced a loss. You will no longer get updates about development. The first time this happened, i didnt know where to edit it and i ended up deleting the app for a while. Hope this helps, and please if you need to come back to TTCAL and the awesome women on those boards will be here to support you.

catlady2015 · May 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. There's no set amount of time to grieve a loss, so don't let anyone tell you to just "get over it" because the baby hadn't been born. This was a loss. Feel all the feels. Please be kind to yourself and take all the time you need.

sfgiantsgamerbabe · May 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss

Take time to grieve and take care of yourself.

BitterBetty12 · May 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve and make sure to be extra kind to yourself.

olivemomma · May 2018

Take care of yourself! So sorry for your loss!

alexandraseattle · May 2018

I’m so sorry for your loss! Giving you a big virtual hug right now.

drabong88 · May 2018

So sorry for your loss. Take time to take care of yourself.

Jackiemxoxo · May 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of prayers and virtual hugs.

Kabazaba · May 2018

I am so sorry for your loss - repeating what a lot of the other ladies have said here already. Be kind to yourself. Take whatever time you want/need. When you're ready, there's a great TTCAL group that can help support you on your journey - wherever that takes you.