Team Rainbow (LGBTQ* Peeps) Check-In w/o 5/6...Come Out Come Out Wherever You Are!

rooonilwaazlib · May 2018

Initiating this thread in the hope that there are other LGBTQ* families on this BMB!

My wife and I live in the New England area and are expecting our first babe after four rounds of medicated IUI. Scary and fun stuff! We've been together almost 9 years and married for 3 years.

I'm hoping I'm not the only one who will surface in this BMB board, but I'm prepared to console my lonely lesbian self with any number of memes about being lonely and gay in the world. Hoping to hear from others soon!

Edited: Because I forgot words like "my" and "it" because pregnancy brain. Oops!

rooonilwaazlib · May 2018

kstar1013 · May 2018

Hey! I finally am past the waiting period and can comment—my wife and I got our blood test confirmation last week and are super stoked! We live in the DC area but used to live in Cambridge, MA. We’ve been together for 7 years, married 4 this summer. We also did IUI and got pregnant on our second try, so we feel super lucky.

I'm glad there are other queer ladies in here!

rooonilwaazlib · May 2018

YAS! Welcome sistah! I’m so glad you’re here!

preggersabroad · May 2018

HIIIIIIIII There dont seem to be any lesbian mama's due in November......... can I crash your group?? My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 2.5 :-) We started the IVF process over a year ago and had the treatment in Cambodia. We were living in Bangladesh when we started, so had to find an Asian country that allowed IVF without a marriage certificate between a man and a woman. Cambodia (which we met and lived for 6 yrs) was coincidentally the only country that allowed it in the region. After the 4th try (and lots of heartbreak and chemical pregnancies) we finally got our BFP!! We started out with twins, but we just found out we lost one :-(

We live in the Philippines now on a small remote island for my job (humanitarian worker), and dont know any same-sex parents.

Please let me join- I have so many questions!!

rooonilwaazlib · May 2018

Yes absolutely!!!! We all need to stick together!

Wow what an incredible journey you must have had to even get pregnant internationally. So sorry to hear of the loss of one of your twins but fingers crossed for a hAppy healthy pregnancy for the other one!

Please feel free to participate in our thread and keep us posted. How far along are you now? Will you be finding out the sex? Are you originally from Cambodia or another country near there? I’d love to hear about what queer life is like abroad. I lived in Israel outside Jerusalem for about 6 months and felt the tension toward the LGBTQ community but also the tremendous pride and spirit!

I’m so glad you joined us and am looking forward to getting to know you over the next few months!

kstar1013 · May 2018

Yes welcome! Some friends of mine also did IVF but it was in the U.S. so I’m only somewhat familiar with everything you go through with that. Glad to have you here!

preggersabroad · May 2018

THANKS @roonilwazlib-2 and @kstar1013!

We are 11 weeks and 4 days and will most definitely be finding out the sex! Because of the the vanishing twin, we have to wait until 14 weeks to find out and do the NIPT testing (since the other twin will skew the results).

I'm originally from the States and my wife is Australian. We met in Cambodia when we were both living there for work- we are both aid workers.

Queer life can be rough internationally- some countries is better than others. Cambodia was easy- no one seemed to care. Malawi was tough and being gay is illegal. Bangladesh was brutal! Being gay is very illegal. We were newly weds there but had to pretend we were roommates- and no one we knew was gay (or if so no one would talk about it). Only our close friends knew we were together. We couldnt have photos up of us, or do anything that would make someone think we were more than just friends. It was a stressful 2.5 years!

I was luckily transferred to the Philippines, where we are now- and it is MUCH more open! My co-workers know about us- and haven't made any issues. It is lonely though, we don't know any gay people and constantly wish there was a gay community we could be part of. We have decided that our next post will be somewhere with a larger gay community since we dont want to raise our kids in place where we are the only lesbian moms.

So i'm really interested in getting to know more about you! Does anyone already have kids out there? What was the weirdest question you got when you were pregnant? I'm trying to figure out what to expect once I start to show....

kstar1013 · May 2018

This will be our first— and I’m wondering what to expect too! I have heard that strangers will sometimes ask to touch your belly (or not ask but do it anyway) and I am really hoping that’s not true. But if it is I will read them the riot act, haha.

When my sister and her wife (my family has lots of gay genes, I guess) we’re having their IUI baby people asked why they chose to do this with an anonymous donor instead of adopting. I’m not ready to answer it yet but I will plan on having an answer before I start telling friends and aquatintences.

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