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Anyone switched REs? long

futurmrsedwardsfuturmrsedwards
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Hello!  I am normally a lurker but am so frustrated right now and need to vent.  I have had a completely horrible day thanks to my uncaring, insensitive RE.  I called to ask a simple question and ended up playing phone tag with him when I really just wanted to talk to a nurse.  When I finally did talk to him he was actually irritated at me for calling him!  He went out of his way to let me know that he had better things to be doing than talking to me and made me feel stupid for the question I asked.  Needless to say, I began searching for a new RE today.  Has anyone else had experience changing in the middle of treatment?  I guess I'm just looking for comfort as he has made this whole infertility experience even worse and I need hope that it won't always be like this!

 For my history - we are really in the beginning of treatment.  Started TTC in November 2007 with history of irregular cycles.  I have only ovulated 5 times since November 2007.  Did 4 rounds of clomid with my GYN, then referred to this RE.  I first saw him in August when I learned I have PCOS.  I started Metformin then and we were going to trigger ovulation, but before we could really get started I had to put off TTC for three months because of my job.  So I went on birth control to keep my cycles regulated and continued taking metformin.  The plan for the next cycle was Clomid again with monitoring for the first time.

 

TTC since Nov. 2007 with PCOS with RE since Aug. 2008 HSG and SA all good! 7 rounds of clomid all BFN IUI#1 with femara trigger=BFN Saving up for IUI#2 Femara trigger TI=BFP! Beta 09/15= 86.8 Beta 09/17=235 Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
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  • preheatedovenpreheatedoven member

    We are actually in the process of switching REs for pretty much the same reason, our current RE treats us like we are wasting her time and demeans us for doing our own research on procedures.

    One thing we are worried about is that we might need to have all the testing redone at the new RE (which would mean paying for all of it again). We are meeting the new one next week and hoping that is not the case... 

    Good luck! I really think how you feel about your doctor does play a role in how you feel about the whole process, so its important to feel respected. 

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  • livvielolivvielo

    Yes! We just switched. I was unhappy with the long wait times, the impossibility of getting even a nurse on the phone, the sitting on hold for literally an hour at a time to ask a simple question, the bad communication...so we did some research and switched. We kind of lost a month or so while we were transferring records and getting re-tested for a few things, but in the end, we are very happy that we changed.

    If you feel unhappy, I think you should go for it. The way I see it now, this is a stressful process already--no need for your doctor's office to make it more stressful for you.

    We just started a cycle with the new RE and I was completely sure that we made the right decision when the doctor called me last week to go over H's semen analysis, and she was wonderful on the phone, fielding a bunch of questions patiently and attentively.

    Seriously, if your gut says you're unhappy with your RE, find another one--you deserve good care throughout this whole IF ordeal!!?

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    PS, with regard to retesting--our new RE took most of our previous test results, but did want to do a couple additional ones, and require that the semen analysis be done in their lab (so they don't bring diseased or contaminated semen into the lab). So we didn't have to start 100% from scratch.
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  • futurmrsedwardsfuturmrsedwards

    I guess I should be happy making this decision now when we are pretty much in the beginning stages.  It is just annoying finding a new doctor because we are military and have to go through a whole process of referrals.  But considering I have been crying non-stop since noon, I guess it will be worth it!  I would gladly do the HSG again to get away from this doctor!

     

    TTC since Nov. 2007 with PCOS with RE since Aug. 2008 HSG and SA all good! 7 rounds of clomid all BFN IUI#1 with femara trigger=BFN Saving up for IUI#2 Femara trigger TI=BFP! Beta 09/15= 86.8 Beta 09/17=235 Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    My first RE was horrible. Even DH said he felt like he was in a chop shop. The guy blew off my EP as not a "real" pregnancy. He told us we had one diagnosis over the phone, and gave us a completely different diagnosis on our records. After all our testing we wanted to pursue a conservative course of treatment, and the nurse basically wouldn't talk to me unless we were doing IUI or IVF.

    I switched to a new RE at that point. Best IF treatment decision I ever made.

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  • MWoodsideMWoodside member
    Yes I have switched & it turned out to be a very positive thing.? I have PCOS & my original RE was treating me with Clomid despite the fact that I made it rediculously clear that my top priority was to regulate my cycles, not get pregnant immediately.? She had me completely convinced that was the best thing to do.? After several cyles on Clomid she wanted to start me on injectibles.? At this point, with the treatment plan she had me on I had already burned through 1/2 my LIFETIME fertility benefit with my health insurance.? DH & I discussed it and decided this was all moving WAY too fast & she really had never even addressed my main concern which was finding a more natural way to regulate my cycles.? Through it all, she had me so convinced there was a slim to none chance I'd ever even get pregnant that I have to do everything possible & follow her every recommendation or it would never happen.? Really pushy Dr.? It really messed with my head, too.? I mean I am 28 years old, I have time.??

    Anyway, I told her I was taking a break from the treatments.? The final straw was her telling me her plans or Metformin were my only options.? This just isn't true & I knew it from additional research I'd done.? For a couple months I did nothing, which drove me nuts.? In the meantime, I was referred to another RE.? He actually listened to me.? Shocking.? He worked with me to accomplish my goal of utilizing a holistic approach to regulate my clcyes through supplements and eating habits.? It worked.? I have been having regular cycles for 6, nearly 7, months.? II have been ovulating.? All my hormones are within normal ranges.??

    Honestly I am SO bitter with the first Dr.? I am still making payments after all this time on my copays.? I have seriously considered writing her a letter or making a phone conference with her to explain to her why I am so unsatisfied and disappointed with how she treated me.? It's important to add that I was her patient for 11 years prior to this for regular OBGYN visits before I came to her with reproductive concerns.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
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