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Is it possible to show at 9 weeks?
mommatobe29
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I'm pretty sure I'm starting to show at almost 9 weeks. Had a friend who's also pregnant & bit further along tell me there's no way in hell I'm showing (when I got proof with pics. I can't suck it in and didn't feel bloated last pic Lol) she's like it's probably bloat and other people that show early probably just had a stomach before, I didn't show until 14weeks. Then told her how can't wait for next week hope can hear heart beat, she's like you won't beable too. I couldn't hear heart beat until 13 weeks(had midwife tell me it's possible but sometimes can't until 12 weeks but my friend is like nope impossible your not going to be able too ) . She's knows I have anxiety and she's being a little negative it's annoying and it's like she knows more then me but she forgets I know alot of stuff because of googling and went to school for medical assisting so got some basic knowledge from there too. lol
It's just super annoying how she's acting from day one. When I was trying she's like your not going to get pregnant probably going to take you awhile(which I already knew first month is kind of slim ). She's like it Took us months. My hubby and I ended up pregnant the first month but were we're tracking & using lh tests.she's negative with everything I say.... When all I was for her was positive & happy for her. I always asked how's she's feeling and doing. Not once has she done that for me yet.
Ps. When I showed her my positive pregnancy test. It was the first response line one. My friend was like it's negative I'm sorry. I'm like ugh what you mean there's two lines. My friend said well I had two lines and was negative, I only got positives with blood work. I'm like okk then and went out got digital, showed her that positive result. My friend like oh wow thought you were crazy.( Geez thanks). I don't know what her problem is she's suppose to be my best friend. I knew her since we were 14 & been through alot together.
It's just super annoying how she's acting from day one. When I was trying she's like your not going to get pregnant probably going to take you awhile(which I already knew first month is kind of slim ). She's like it Took us months. My hubby and I ended up pregnant the first month but were we're tracking & using lh tests.she's negative with everything I say.... When all I was for her was positive & happy for her. I always asked how's she's feeling and doing. Not once has she done that for me yet.
Ps. When I showed her my positive pregnancy test. It was the first response line one. My friend was like it's negative I'm sorry. I'm like ugh what you mean there's two lines. My friend said well I had two lines and was negative, I only got positives with blood work. I'm like okk then and went out got digital, showed her that positive result. My friend like oh wow thought you were crazy.( Geez thanks). I don't know what her problem is she's suppose to be my best friend. I knew her since we were 14 & been through alot together.
Re: Is it possible to show at 9 weeks?
Eta: it also sounds like your friend may be a bit envious of you for getting pregnant easily. I'm sorry she's being kind of rude to you, but the process of getting pregnant is truly horrible when it takes a long time. It can make one feel like less of a woman or spouse. It's something you won't be able to understand if you've never been through it. I would recommend avoiding the pregnancy topic with her for a while to spare her feelings and yours.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
My friend was only trying 4-5 months when she got pregnant so I think she's lucky. That's average, it's not like I knew I was going to get pregnant right away so it's in away silly for her to feel the way she's feeling. If it was the other way around... I seriously wouldn't care it's not big deal to me who got pregnant first or who's due first. I would just be happy for her and I am but she's not really reciprocating that back so much. I'll definitely be not bringing up my pregnancy to her so much but it's just not fair she is supposed to be my best friend and when I get excited I want to show her stuff. She's always sending me pictures of her stomach, stuff she got for the baby and I'm happy and engaging in conversation with her. When I show her stuff I got for the announcement or like my stomach it's not the same, it's negative or one word. It's like she's not happy for me.
No. Just... no.
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BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
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BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
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ER#2 ~Jan 2019
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"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
A: Yeah, 9 weeks is bloat. You can bloat a lot. The uterus is still behind your pelvic bone.
B: If this friend is bothering you, stop talking to her. You don't have to remain friends with someone just because you've known them since you were 14.
B. Your friend has a right to feel any way she feels. Just because you wouldn’t have cared doesn’t mean it isn’t hard for her. I would stop while I’m ahead if I were you.