How long does it take you to get a BFP? And when?

valkyrie90 · April 2018

Hello there I'm a total newbie. My husband and I is newlywed and TTC . I did a Abon Hcg test the other day and got 2 BFN. I think either I tested too soon ( 3 days late ) or I didn't follow the instruction precisely ( it was my first time doing a HPT oh well ) . I'm now waiting until next Monday when I'd be 10 days late to test again .

I just wanna ask how long does it take you to get a BFP and when? I feel like waiting is killing me while I have to keep enduring cramps and nausea and fatigue. I kinda want AF back ahhh

Jyoung327 · April 2018

How do you know you are late?

lin0442 · April 2018

You may have ovulated later than usual. You would normally be able to turn a pregnancy test if your period is really 3 days late. There is a lot of good information about ttc on the trying to get pregnant board.

Although a quick note- there are many women on The Bump who have been ttc for many years on 1st Tri, TTGP, etc, or who have had losses. You may want to avoid pining for AF- it’s fairly insensitive to the struggles many people go through to conceive.

wildtot · April 2018

Are you tracking your cycle? Temping, opks, etc? Without that it’s hard to pin point when and if you ovulated. Understand that each month you only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant- even for the healthiest couple. Give it a few days and test again with first morning urine. If still negative and no AF see your doctor. It’s not always as easy as just doing the deed. Many of us have gone through long periods of TTC or have faced other challenges. Early “symptoms” could also be from your progesterone increasing before a period or confirmed pregnancy. It’s a waiting game unfortunately. Best of luck!

meggyme · April 2018

It can take a healthy couple a year to conceive as well, so if this is your first month off birth control you might want to check your expectations.

valkyrie90 · April 2018

wildtot said:

Are you tracking your cycle? Temping, opks, etc? Without that it’s hard to pin point when and if you ovulated. Understand that each month you only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant- even for the healthiest couple. Give it a few days and test again with first morning urine. If still negative and no AF see your doctor. It’s not always as easy as just doing the deed. Many of us have gone through long periods of TTC or have faced other challenges. Early “symptoms” could also be from your progesterone increasing before a period or confirmed pregnancy. It’s a waiting game unfortunately. Best of luck!

Yeah I've been tracking my cycle using an app called Flo for over one year now. My cycle lasts 27- 33 days. I'm currently on day 38. I guess I should clarify my question as how long it takes you to get a BFP since you know you're late?

lin0442 said:

You may have ovulated later than usual. You would normally be able to turn a pregnancy test if your period is really 3 days late. There is a lot of good information about ttc on the trying to get pregnant board.

Although a quick note- there are many women on The Bump who have been ttc for many years on 1st Tri, TTGP, etc, or who have had losses. You may want to avoid pining for AF- it’s fairly insensitive to the struggles many people go through to conceive.

I'm sorry for being insensitive. Thank you for the kind note .

wildtot · April 2018

@valkyrie90 aside from tracking your periods have you tracked when you ovulated? Your periods may be normal but you may or may not ovulate. I got all my positives before my period was due so sorry I’m not much help with that. I’ve read to give yourself at least a week after a missed period. Your period can also be delayed due to stress or other emotional and health factors. Just have to wait. If you go a full month without a period and no positive tests see your doctor.

MLS6212 · April 2018

You say you've been tracking your periods over the past year, but have you been on birth control at any point during that time? I was on the pill for 10+ years before TTC and thought I had a consistent 28-29 day cycle. But when I went off the pill and started tracking my periods and temperatures I found that an unmedicated cycle was actually 35 days and I ovulated on day 22. So you might not actually be late yet.

goldie987 · April 2018

If you were on birth control, it's entirely possible your body is regulating and that's why your cycles are off. I had a 40+ day cycle (27-28 is normal for me) coming off of BC because it took my body 30 days to actually ovulate.

valkyrie90 · April 2018

I've never been on pill so it's not the reason. I just did another test and still got a BFN. The waiting game is still on. I'm just curious any of you ever on the same boat ?

izza2 · April 2018

@valkyrie90 - I feel like you're ignoring a lot of what the PPers have said, and it's frustrating because they gave you some really awesome advice.

Yes, you can have a "late period". It's because your body is not a calendar. You can have a 28 day cycle one month, and a 38 day cycle the next. Your body will not ovulate on the same day every month. If you don't know what ovulation is, or you're unsure of how your reproductive system works - start doing some research. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great starting point, as are a bunch of other books out on the market.
[Actually, the entire pinned newbie post on the TTGP board has a WEALTH of information for anyone new to the science behind their reproductive system. I highly recommend it.]

The app you're using does nothing but track your period and base an "average" ovulation day off of that. It's not accurate. The ONLY ways to know when you've ovulated, or if you've ovulated at all, are to track your basal body temperature (again; do your research), use ovulation prediction kits (research), or get an ultrasound (not typical unless you're going through IF treatment). And it's going to be a combination of a couple of things to tell you if you've likely ovulated (BBT + CM; OPK + BBT, etc.). You can have a surge on an OPK and think you've ovulated when you in fact haven't. You can have a few days of being sick and have a surge in temp where you think you've ovulated, but you haven't.
You can also facilitate the tracking by checking your cervical mucus each day. (Again: research).

No one can tell you when/if you'll get a BFP. If you ovulated, typically you can get a BFP as early as 9-10 days post-ovulation (4-5 days pre-AF for a typical luteal phase). Many women don't get a noticeable positive until the day AF is due. However, if you were in fact 3+ days "late" for your period, you would have a very clear BFP by now. So, chances are, you ovulated late.
But again - this is with knowing when you ovulated, and therefore knowing when you should expect your period.

You, unfortunately, don't know when or if you even ovulated, and therefore don't know when to expect your period.

So, TL;DR because I have a feeling that's the case here --
No one can tell you when you would get a BFP.
No one's experience with getting a BFP is going to help you.
If you go 60 days without a period or a positive test, call your doctor to get your cycle jump started.
Get rid of "Flo", and get an app that actually tracks your cycles based on multiple signs, not just your period.
Do some research on your reproductive system.
Start tracking your cycles/ovulation to have an actual idea of when you can expect a possible BFP.

And in general - those of us trying to educate you and give you advice have not been in your boat because we know when we ovulated, know how long our luteal phases are, and know when to expect our periods. So we wouldn't claim a period is "late".

Jyoung327 · April 2018

Bless you @izza2

lovesclimbing · April 2018

The above posters are right. You should turn a test by the time you are late if you are, in fact, pregnant (and if your periods are fairly regular, so you know when you are late).

I have had this happen. I wasn't pregnant. My period was a week late (highly unusual for me), but I did ultimately get it. The month I did get pregnant, I turned a test the day my period was due.

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