I’ve kind of been holding out hope that my husband would take initiative and plan something all on his own. So far, zero mention of it, so he’ll probably forget until it’s too late and everything’s booked up. Last year we just did brunch and hung out. This year I’d kill for a massage, but I don’t want to ask for it. I stubbornly want him to think of it all on his own.
Nothing planned here yet. I can’t even remember what i did last year. Usually my family does a big gathering but can’t participate since we moved. So far i know i have a coupon for Nothing Bundt Cake that i plan to use lol. Breakfast would be nice and maybe find get a much needed mani or pedi and haircut. TW my “first” mother’s day i was actually going through an MC so thats usually on my mind. End TW Edited words
@zande2016 I'm with you, I would love for DH to think of something. I always do something cute for father's day for him and he never really does anything for me. I usually say I want to plant stuff and be the last one up but it never happens. Last year I think we had plans but the weather or something kept us from doing anything.
I never thought to plan something myself but I really like that idea. I reminded my H it was coming up and he asked what I wanted, etc but I never have a good answer for that. My first mother’s day last year was spent at my sisters college graduation so I’d really like this one to be special. I’ll probably steal ideas from you guys!
DH is going to Vegas for a bachelor party over Mothers day weekend so I will probably just spend the day with my mom. When I pointed out which weekend it was he said it didn't count yet...
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
@MrsMiller8588 it sure does! Your already going through a lot of motherly changes and stresses. So i guess Father’s Day won’t count for him either. I say you still go out and celebrate yourself or with your mom.
@wildtot and @lindsayleigh1989 thanks ladies! Fathers day definitely doesn't count this year either... we probably wouldn't have done anything other than lunch at my moms anyway.
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
In utero babes totally count! I forgot, the only spontaneous mother's day thing DH ever did for me was send me a bonsai tree (which I promptly killed) to my work telling me I was a great goat mom and he couldn't wait to see me as a real mom. Adorable. Literally the last spontaneous mother's day thing he did for me and I think that was the year we actually got pregnant, I don't think I was pregnant yet.
Normally we go to church and brunch at the in laws country club but not this year. biL fiancé is having her bachelorette party that weekend so my SIL wouldn’t make it. So instead the following weekend we are all getting together after my graduation to have a brunch. H and I don’t normally do gifts but I said the 3D sono of baby will be my gift this year
My DH is pretty thoughtful, but I think it’s mostly because he knows I expect it. Which makes it feel not as nice. Usually I get flowers or something. We usually hang out with his parents too and have a nice dinner.
I would love a massage though this year. I’ve never had one and I think a prenatal massage sounds like the best first massage ever.
I love my husband to death but he usually buys me a bunch of high-maintenance flowers for our front porch every year. They are gorgeous but I'm going to have enough things to keep alive this year when DD arrives in July without worrying about the plants. Maybe I'll gently suggest dinner instead for this year....
It also looks like I'm going to be attending my best friends baby shower on Mother's Day this year..... no amount of protesting will get her to change the date.
mother's day is usually whatever MIL wants to do - usually a brunch - last year DH did a Saturday dinner I think though so that I could have actual MD to myself which is nice, but then it takes over the WHOLE weekend instead of one day. Everyone told me when I was pregnant (with a May baby btw so was full term by MD) that MD didn't count if you're still pregnant. People suck. I think I would trade MD for a whole day of people helping with the nursery and kitchen this year.
We are low key and not big on gifts for each other, but we are also trying to save money right now so I don't expect much.
I think I'm at least getting breakfast in bed, but I think last year I also got a full guilt-free day all by myself. This is golden me time and worth every penny it doesn't cost.
I haven’t even thought about it yet, except that maybe we will go to my grandmas with my mom and siblings and do a brunch/BBQ. Crazy to think I am included in the mom circle this year. Now I’m crying. I’m blessed to be here with all you wonderful ladies.
Ugh it totally still counts even if the baby is in utero! The amount of sacrifices and changes us mamas have to make RIGHT from the getco absolutely classifies is as mothers. Not to mention the whole process of growing a baby in our bodies!
For my first Mother's Day, DH used DD's handprints and made me a canvas heart with her - she was only a couple months old so he put her in the Bumbo with paint. I asked him that night why there was something yellow in her ear and he played dumb - turns out it was paint! Hahahaha. He also made me belgian waffles and bought me flowers.
Last year I don't remember what we did. I don't think he did anything special, but her school did send home a cute laminated picture that I still have hanging in my office of her face in a flower and the note "If mothers were flowers, I'd pick you".
Not sure what he has planned this year, but our church group has planned for the guys and kids to play in the gym Saturday morning while the moms all go to brunch. Fun! I need to think of something to do for MY mom too - and maybe go by Costco to see if they still have the earrings that my MIL was fawning over last weekend.
I'm a FTM mom and am thinking my DH wont do anything without me mentioning it. I wish Father's Day was first so I could initiate and then he could follow, but unfortunately the other way around. Oh well.
I used to do stuff for my mom and Grandma when they were both still alive, like manual labor and planting things and brunch and we do NOTHING for DH's mom and Grandma. Maybe I'll see if everyone wants to get together and take them to brunch somewhere awesome, but then I feel like we have to invite all the other kids and grandkids which makes it a little squirrely because DH hates most of them and his grandma pays for some of them to live even though they have jobs and so when we go out she often pays for them and in this case that would be inappropriate so...I'd have to see if it can either be JUST MIL and BIL and his wife, plus us, or see if the grandma has plans and if not invite just her and MIL. Maybe I can just make brunch at DH's grandma's and invite everyone and make it super low key, and then MIL and I can hit the plant sale after.
I'm hoping to be able to go get a massage and pedi on Mother's Day. Depends if it's in the budget. But I like to do that in the morning and have some relaxing time to myself and then go to lunch with DH and the kids and then visit with family. The other thing I usually get (if I'm not getting a massage/pedi) is my annual pair of birkenstocks. I wear them daily in spring/summer/fall and need a new pair every year. I don't wait for DH to surprise me with a gift (even though he usually is good with gifts) I just tell him what I want and he does the same for Father's Day. I do wish he would do something cute "from the kids" but he's not great with that stuff.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
We are going to my Grandmother's for brunch- and because of this post- lol I sent a text to the hubby asking if we could go to his Dad's pool after brunch and then take me for my favorite pizza afterwards! That sounds like the perfect Mother's Day to me!!!
Forgot to mention that both our moms + grandmas are out of state/country so we don't have any traditions for that. But we'll be seeing my MIL the weekend after mother's day for my shower so we'll make sure to get her a little gift then.
When the jewelry vendor was at Costco they were going to charge my MIL $90 for a pair of earrings she liked. She decided she shouldn't spend the money - I looked them up yesterday, found them on sale on their website AND got 20% off as a new customer so they were only $56. Score! Now if only I had a good idea like that for my mom.....
DH and I don't have anything planned for me, but my shower is the day before and I'm sure I'll be emotionally spent from that because I hate social things, so maybe I'll just lounge around all day to recover. MIL is out of the country until June so we're not doing anything with her. With my mom we usually go for a drive in wine country and do tastings at various wineries then have lunch at one close to my house that has a bocce ball court, so we eat, play, drink. Usually a fun time. This year I'm not sure what to do for her but I'm sure I'll come up with something. My brother in town is bound to text me the day before to see what I have planned for her so he can tag along.
DH works every Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, my birthday (NYE) etc. I’ll probably get flowers, a card, and a belated mother’s day dinner. DH always has these ideas of making something with DS for holidays for me but he lacks execution lol I’ll probably work, pick DS up from my mom and do something with her, my sisters, and my moms boyfriend until DH is out of work. We don’t usually do anything for MIL for Mother’s Day other than maybe a card and a visit a few days after. Any flowers we give her would be dead if it wasn’t for FIL and she doesn’t like to leave the house.
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TW my “first” mother’s day i was actually going through an MC so thats usually on my mind. End TW
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TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
I would love a massage though this year. I’ve never had one and I think a prenatal massage sounds like the best first massage ever.
It also looks like I'm going to be attending my best friends baby shower on Mother's Day this year..... no amount of protesting will get her to change the date.
I think I'm at least getting breakfast in bed, but I think last year I also got a full guilt-free day all by myself. This is golden me time and worth every penny it doesn't cost.
@mrsmiller06 you most certainly are a mom!!!
@kissableviv while I haven’t asked my DH, I think he feels the same as yours!
Last year I don't remember what we did. I don't think he did anything special, but her school did send home a cute laminated picture that I still have hanging in my office of her face in a flower and the note "If mothers were flowers, I'd pick you".
Not sure what he has planned this year, but our church group has planned for the guys and kids to play in the gym Saturday morning while the moms all go to brunch. Fun! I need to think of something to do for MY mom too - and maybe go by Costco to see if they still have the earrings that my MIL was fawning over last weekend.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I’ll probably work, pick DS up from my mom
and do something with her, my sisters, and my moms boyfriend until DH is out of work. We don’t usually do anything for MIL for Mother’s Day other than maybe a card and a visit a few days after. Any flowers we give her would be dead if it wasn’t for FIL and she doesn’t like to leave the house.