Positive pregnancy test

Re: Positive pregnancy test

• coco2787 member

  April 2018

  Congrats on your pregnancy.  I would recommend telling your husband, especially if you're concerned about miscarrying.  If that were to happen I imagine it would be an awkward conversation to explain to him what's going on if he never knew you were pregnant in the first place.  I would hope if you ask him to keep it a secret that he would respect your wishes.  

  Me: 35  H: 35
  Married: 4/5/13
  
  "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
  that place where you can still remember dreaming?
  That's where I will always love you.  
  That's where I'll be waiting."
  ~Peter Pan 
  
  *TW*
  

  BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
  BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
  BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
  BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
  RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
  BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl 
  Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
  BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19    Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
  BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 

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• littlewhitecottage member

  April 2018

  I agree with @coco2787.  He deserves to know just as much as you do.  I know it's hard, so I feel for you.  The ladies here have reminded me that what will be will be, and to be thankful every day that you're pregnant and hope for the very best.  Because chances are good that everything will work out fine.  Hugs, congrats, and welcome.  

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• celestealene member

  April 2018

  I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and I had told EVERYONE, it honestly helped that I had a huge group of people who knew what I was going through and who could support me . I’m pregnant again , very soon after my loss, and I still plan on telling people without waiting for the “ safe” time.  Many women go through pregnancy loss and it’s wonderful to hear those supportive stories.  There is never a safe time in pregnancy and the more positive vibes out there the better ! 

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• GoyaBean913 member

  April 2018

  celestealene said:

  I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and I had told EVERYONE, it honestly helped that I had a huge group of people who knew what I was going through and who could support me . I’m pregnant again , very soon after my loss, and I still plan on telling people without waiting for the “ safe” time.  Many women go through pregnancy loss and it’s wonderful to hear those supportive stories.  There is never a safe time in pregnancy and the more positive vibes out there the better ! 

  I agree with this completely. I told my parents, a few close friends, and my 2 bosses (we're close nit) and was grateful for telling each one of them because I received an incredible amount of support from all of them. This pregnancy is soon after my loss and I wasted no time in telling those same people becaue. Iknew they'd be there for me if it happened again. Tell who you believe would be there for you if things don't go great. But you also will have those people being the optimistic sound board that you may need as well.

  

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• hkom member

  April 2018

  You need to tell your husband!  That is as much his potential baby as it is yours!  He's an adult, sit him down and explain to him why you want this kept between you two for now.  I hope he is mature enough to understand that.  Honestly, if he is unable to keep it between you for the time being then you have a bigger problem.  
  
  You need support if, god forbid, something unfortunate does happen.  I have never quite understood the insistence on not telling ANYONE during the first trimester.  Especially people you interact with regularly.  I told my parents within the week after I got a positive.  I would want both of my parents to know what I was going through if something happened, and they would be upset if I kept it from them, especially my mom since she had two losses as well.  I work for my dad, but if I had a different boss I would totally tell them too.   My step-sister is due in July and she really struggled with keeping it a secret from her boss and some others early in her first trimester.  Once she began telling select people she said she felt so much better and less stressed from not having to worry about hiding her symptoms.
  
  I will probably tell my close friends after my first appointment at 8 weeks, assuming it goes well.  We'll tell my in-laws then too.  We aren't telling them earlier only because they live about 8 hours away.  If they lived here and we had a lot of interaction with them we would totally have told them already.
  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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