I like the idea of quarterly or whatever posts where people have a set time to reply or they're booted, but agree a bit with @marcus7676 that sometimes life gets busy and you might ghost for a little bit with intentions of coming back (it's already happened to several people on here).
And am I the only one that has a desktop? I haven't had a laptop since college, but for my birthday a few years ago MH built me a desktop and I love it. To be fair, we play a good amount of PC games and laptops generally suck for that. I do mostly bump on mobile while sitting on the couch though.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
When my BMB moved over, we only let people who were active come. We didn't make any requirements for posting quotas, because life gets very hectic with a newborn. We also didn't/don't do anything where you have to comment on a post to stay in. Almost everyone in our group has gone through major life changes, and even if they're gone for a while, we know they'll be back. But we're also now all friends in real life- several of us get together once a year or so at one central location.
I know I recently disappeared because I was sick, but I'm back now and would be fine for an FB move whenever. I actually don't hate the bump (I think this a UO?!) and wouldn't mind sticking around here longer into the third tri, but I'll go where the people go!
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
loving all the facebook rules. when my wedding months/knot board when private, we really didn't have any rules and no creepers tried getting in. This was after a year/year and a half of talking on the knot/nest. I think we got really luckily. a couple times we've did the whole 'respond here or you're getting deleted' thing so people weren't just creeping and reading and not participating. Its been 10 years now and we're still good.
also, laptop never gets used. its about 8 years old and slow now. I only use it to upload/save pics from my phone or do any serious internet shopping when I want more than one window open, so we haven't been in a rush to replace it.. just making it last.
to any app users, have you tried the bump from your browser on your phone? its not to bad.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@catlady1215 I've tried the browser version on my phone but moved back to the app. I guess I'm used to it now having worked in it multiple times daily since early October and have found a few tricks to make it more user friendly. It's really not too bad
@stephcat421 its whatever you get comfy with. I pulled up the app when I first got on the bump, and I don't even think I was able to find the boards so I quickly deleted it lol.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
I think a good rule would be like as long as we recognize a person's user they can join us, yes? Like even if you've been absent for a minute I think we'd recognize @MoonOverGoldsboro, for example. That's how we did it when we transferred my other BMB. Now, if they're a rando and no one in the group knows who they are we can just rule them out.
So, anyway, do we want to do this? Shall we? I can get us started?
Question regarding the FB move: how will the organization work just post & comments? I ask bc when i was on the wedding wire forums the rules got too restrictive so a lot of regulars left for Facebook. It was horrible. I left the group after I sold all my wedding stuff. It wasn’t the creepers it was just there was none of the daily/ weekly/ monthly organization that there was on the site. To me its easy to keep up bc certain days we discuss certain things. But otherwise on Facebook theres just a bunch of posting and endless notifications for every response. I’m in a local breastfeeding group and i was literally there for one day and i was overwhelmed with all the notifications. I mean I understand this group won't be as big as those i just want clarity on how the posting would work.
Okay folks PM me your FB email addresses/name. I'm going to have to friend someone to make a group. When you PM I'll tell you my name so you'll know who this rando is friending at you.
@ffw0617 definitely something to discuss. In my current group, we have a daily randoms thread, HDBD (Wednesdays), UOs (Thursdays) and FFFC (Fridays). Members also post one-off threads if they are AWing (in labor, pregnant, etc.) or have a specific question that they don't want buried. It's fairly organized and easy to stay on top of.
@MoonOverGoldsboro my UO is also that I don't mind the Bump. I dislike FB these days because it sucks you in and - honestly - I need to trim my friends list. I rarely post anything anymore because it gets broad cast to way too many people.
My BMB FB group from pregnancy #1 is pretty chill. We don't post that regularly - maybe a couple times a month with a lot more activity around holidays and the kids' birth month. I've never had major privacy concerns because my FB profile is private and I didn't friend anyone in the group. It's nice to check in there from time to time but we don't post nearly as much as in the first year. I don't think we ever purged anyone.
If you peeps are open to having me in the FB group I'd go for it. If I'm not regular enough I also get that.
Okay so when you get in the group one of the members is currently my cat. I'll get rid of him once there's other members but I had to add a friend to create it. Why does my cat have a facebook? Back in the day he was useful to play farmville (that can be my FFFC).
@ffw0617 In DDs FB group we have a daily post, and anything and everything goes there. As well as HDBDs, 5 things Friday, and some other ones. We started with a lot of the organization of the BMB, and dwindled to one post a day.
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Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@doxiemoxie212 i agree. I think through April would be ideal. Hopefully no one gives birth in april and we kick off May with full term (but still before 40 weeks) healthy births and labor stories.
+1 To keeping organization. I propose we keep a daily thread for randoms because that one will most likely become too cluttered for a weekly deal and it be started by who gets to it first and weekly threads for everything else - Symptoms, FFFC, UO, Pictures (this can be like Troublemaker Tues/Th, HDBD/baby day, Wordless Wednesday, First picture Friday, etc.) AW posts should be reserved for something in particular to share like a pregnancy announcement or similar. GTKY posts can be one off too.
How do we want to do birth announcements/stories? One-two big threads or do we want those to be AW's? I can also do a poll on the group page for that.
@austenista I'd love to see AW birth announcements! It's a big show we've all been waiting for and I think most people love seeing them/hearing the birth story.
I think one thread for birth announcements, like, “john, born 1pm June 10” and no one comments like “omg cutie” but instead just likes. Then AW threads for in depth birth stories where people can comment and ask questions.
I know that we've only had regulars added to the FB group, but have we come to a decision for who's getting added criteria? It doesn't seem like there's anyone who is questionable commenting on this (aside from the one drive by), but I'm still curious for if it happens.
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 so for example should we say if someone PMs @austenista and has less than 25 posts (let me know guys if you think that # is high or low, I’m not sure what’s been thrown around as far as #s before), austenista will then poll the group to see what we think?
or we could just say if she doesn’t recognize the screen name or is on the fence about it she can poll us, and do away with the certain # of posts?
@Amphibious22 so far no one has asked to be added I haven't straight up recognized as a reg. If that happens, I'm going to go to the FB group and ask you guys if we know this person.
Not to be the mean girl but I kinda of feel like having a certain # would be good because then if we turn someone down we have a subjective reason, “Look, we have agreed upon a number of posts that is acceptable to join the private group and you haven’t met that level of participation so we’re not comfortable with you joining us.” vs just being like nope don’t know you, peace out.
@Austenista that makes sense. That way this board won't get too cluttered with FB invite request drama. @2589 I definitely see what you mean and kind of agree. I mean I don't think it needs to be something too high, but maybe a baseline of like 100? 50?
Me 30 Him 30 Married August 2015 DS born 5/23/2018 TTC #2 July 2020
Re: Unpopular Opinion Thursday (3/29)
And am I the only one that has a desktop? I haven't had a laptop since college, but for my birthday a few years ago MH built me a desktop and I love it. To be fair, we play a good amount of PC games and laptops generally suck for that. I do mostly bump on mobile while sitting on the couch though.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
We also didn't/don't do anything where you have to comment on a post to stay in.
Almost everyone in our group has gone through major life changes, and even if they're gone for a while, we know they'll be back.
But we're also now all friends in real life- several of us get together once a year or so at one central location.
Weve had people just ghost out in my other bmb but it’s noticable and easy to remove them.
Also if you are concerned about privacy, lock your profile down and don’t friend anyone.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
when my wedding months/knot board when private, we really didn't have any rules and no creepers tried getting in. This was after a year/year and a half of talking on the knot/nest. I think we got really luckily. a couple times we've did the whole 'respond here or you're getting deleted' thing so people weren't just creeping and reading and not participating. Its been 10 years now and we're still good.
also, laptop never gets used. its about 8 years old and slow now. I only use it to upload/save pics from my phone or do any serious internet shopping when I want more than one window open, so we haven't been in a rush to replace it.. just making it last.
to any app users, have you tried the bump from your browser on your phone? its not to bad.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
So, anyway, do we want to do this? Shall we? I can get us started?
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
My BMB FB group from pregnancy #1 is pretty chill. We don't post that regularly - maybe a couple times a month with a lot more activity around holidays and the kids' birth month. I've never had major privacy concerns because my FB profile is private and I didn't friend anyone in the group. It's nice to check in there from time to time but we don't post nearly as much as in the first year. I don't think we ever purged anyone.
If you peeps are open to having me in the FB group I'd go for it. If I'm not regular enough I also get that.
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Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
I think as long as we don’t have a lot of one off posts it won’t be too overwhelming. Hopefully we can just keep this board’s organisation.
My wedding month board moved over to Facebook several years ago and I’m so happy we did. I’m hoping this group will be the same.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
How do we want to do birth announcements/stories? One-two big threads or do we want those to be AW's? I can also do a poll on the group page for that.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
or we could just say if she doesn’t recognize the screen name or is on the fence about it she can poll us, and do away with the certain # of posts?
@2589 I definitely see what you mean and kind of agree. I mean I don't think it needs to be something too high, but maybe a baseline of like 100? 50?
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020