@2589 I love the idea of Easter eggs. I was trying to brainstorm fun thread names and all I could come up with was "we're taking the hobbits to Isengard" and so now I'm watching two towers.
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I would need to try to be brave enough to join you ladies (which is silly since I'm part of several other large Facebook groups so not sure why this is different....)
Work got so busy and I'm all kinds of behind on the board.
but from what I'm seeing, my UO is I'm a catlady? they're assholes, they are. And they absolutely are drawn to people that don't like cats or are allergic. But I love those little shits. Annnd love that they're less maintenance than a dog.
+1 for fb whenever you girls are ready. I do like the idea of going before births start.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
+1 to Facebook whenever. I struggle with keeping up in here! I do try to catch up but always feel it’s too late to post once I do!
No offense but we don’t know you. This is your fifth post, including your intro and posting on the sex thread. Please feel free to jump in and join even if you feel too late to
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Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
I love the LOTR movies but haven't seen more than a few minutes of the Hobbit movies, oops. We tried the first one, in the theater when DD was 2 weeks old, but I don't remember any of it. She was bf'ing, I couldn't concentrate, it was a terrible time to go see a movie lol.
+1 to Facebook whenever...I know this may be hard to believe in 2018, but I don't have a personal computer (by choice and mostly laziness to replace mine that broke 2 years ago) and sometimes doing things on this app can be a little (lot) annoying
@momac1919 I just got another laptop for Christmas this year. I was solely mobile or iPad for 1.5yrs because my laptop died and we were to lazy to replace it. DH would just use his work computer if he needed it.
@MAY14TH2011 DH and I are huge LOTR fans, kind of in a creepy can reference every line from any movie and know the movie and which scene.... Anyways, Hobbit is just OK. IMO they totally missed the mark tying the two series together with the most crucial theme-how Bilbo found the ring! The way we know it in LOTR is totally undone in the Hobbit.... They lost my allegiance there
@momac1919 I'm strictly an app user, while I agree it is clunky I've found some pretty good workarounds for getting around! I will say the back arrow especially when you follow a link out of TB typically does require me to close the app and come back in though.
I'm glad I'm not the only one. We use DH work laptop if we really need one for something, otherwise I just use my iPad and phone because until DD is old enough to need one for school I truly have no desire to sit at a computer after being by one all day at work
Y’all I’ve had my Mac book pro since 2009. It’s never died or required anything for maintenance/repairs other than software updates. Not sure of the popularity on that but Macs FTW.
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Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Yeah my laptop took a shit a few years ago and I never bothered to replace it. DH’s only gets powered on when I have to do his billing. I used to not be able to live without that thing. Hello, iPhones.
Omg the back arrow sucks in the app. I hate it so much. this is probably a true UO, but I didn’t last long in my last BMC FB group. I loved talking to everyone and also started getting creeped out when real names and pictures were involved. I eventually just ghosted out.
@marcus7676. It was after babies were born. Idk, things just got very personal very quickly. People were posting pictures of babies, where they lived and what outings they were taking, full names, etc. I participated, but didn’t even share dd’s full name or any pictures of her. Then, this one person who never shared pictures but had been really active on the boards, started posting about her kid doing things (like talking) that 2 month olds def did not do, and I decided she was fake and it was time to go.
@pupsicle23 yeah, that poster would have creeped me out too. It's tough - - we've been talking for months, but anyone could be some crazy internet stalker (didn't one of the other BMBs have this happen recently)?
I don’t know, I feel like we should just preemptively set some ground rules like no one is allowed to ask for money for themselves or on anyone else’s behalf or they get booted. And like maybe once a month (or whatever time frame) we agree to discuss if we need to remove anyone for sketchy behavior or lack of participation. I think if we all agree going in that these will be things we do no one will get butthurt and there will be less drama.
@doxiemoxie212 +1 to all of that. I don't think it would hurt either to come up with a set definition of "active participation," both to get into the FB group and to stay. Personally, I consider active participation as contributing to this BMB in multiple ways (directly responding to/addressing a member or members, providing support to a member or members (either through love-its or direct response), and adding to the conversation) on at least a weekly basis.
@doxiemoxie212 we had/have the same set of rules in my FB BMB for DD. We also had a “quarterly” check in thread and if someone didn’t post on the thread they were removed after 48 hours.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
I'm down for FB or private group or whatever the majority is. No preference here. We have gone through quite a few laptops- the one we had before our current one was never the same after a great dane we were fostering stepped on it...but I rarely ever use it. I really only do if I'm working on a photo book or researching something where I need multiple windows open or something like that.
@doxiemoxie212 so my other BMB doesn't remove people for lack of participation because people get busy, drop off for a while, come back. I'd hate to get really busy work wise and find out I was booted because I didn't post enough. I guess if we set ground rules, then that might make things clearer (if the person explains they are busy because of work, a death in the family, etc., then perhaps they don't get booted right away). On the money thing, I think a natural evolution may be where people are asking for money for others. I've given to people who have lost babies, family members, their jobs - - but we've all been together for 3+ years now.
Here are our FB rules if anyone’s interested. - new members must be voted on and all new members accepted must add their details to the pinned post within 24 hours. (The pinned post has our bump screen name, our name, kids b day, etc...) We votes by creating a thread and “liking” that post to say yes. If majority voted, we accepted and deleted the post before adding the new member. - no personal attacks - no screen shots - conversations are kept private, and not discussed in any other groups or in PMs with other members - no discussions about non members
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
I'm ok with FB if I make the cut. I know I'm not the most active person here, but I try to check in at least a couple times a week. I'm in a FB group from my last BMB and every so often we make a post that everyone has to comment on within a couple days if they want to stay. In the beginning you had to verify your bump name and whatnot and if no one knew you you didn't get in.
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Agree about FB! The organization is just so much better, and I hesitate and censor myself from oversharing here.
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Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
I would need to try to be brave enough to join you ladies (which is silly since I'm part of several other large Facebook groups so not sure why this is different....)
but from what I'm seeing, my UO is I'm a catlady?
+1 for fb whenever you girls are ready. I do like the idea of going before births start.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS born 9/24/2020
Also +1 To cats being assholes...i had a cat that legit would try to trip me going up/down the stairs
I don't really have an OU...at least one I can think of
No offense but we don’t know you. This is your fifth post, including your intro and posting on the sex thread. Please feel free to jump in and join even if you feel too late to
Eta: brain is mush
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
"I feel like it's inevitable for someone we don't know to ask for an invite."
@momac1919 I'm strictly an app user, while I agree it is clunky I've found some pretty good workarounds for getting around! I will say the back arrow especially when you follow a link out of TB typically does require me to close the app and come back in though.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I used to not be able to live without that thing. Hello, iPhones.
this is probably a true UO, but I didn’t last long in my last BMC FB group. I loved talking to everyone and also started getting creeped out when real names and pictures were involved. I eventually just ghosted out.
I don't think it would hurt either to come up with a set definition of "active participation," both to get into the FB group and to stay. Personally, I consider active participation as contributing to this BMB in multiple ways (directly responding to/addressing a member or members, providing support to a member or members (either through love-its or direct response), and adding to the conversation) on at least a weekly basis.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
- new members must be voted on and all new members accepted must add their details to the pinned post within 24 hours. (The pinned post has our bump screen name, our name, kids b day, etc...) We votes by creating a thread and “liking” that post to say yes. If majority voted, we accepted and deleted the post before adding the new member.
- no personal attacks
- no screen shots
- conversations are kept private, and not discussed in any other groups or in PMs with other members
- no discussions about non members
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
+1 to cats are assholes but I still love them. This morning mine is being extra annoying.
+1 to app user only. I have a laptop and it's always dead and collecting dust somewhere. Hardly ever use the thing.
And YES PLEASE to directing drivebys to some other la la land purely for our own entertainment.