Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
trying not to feel blue- first pregnancy and first loss
Hi everyone!
A little over 3 weeks ago I miscarried. I never knew how physically painful it could be. Emotionally I was fine until late last week- I’ve just been crying randomly and sometimes feeling obsessed with researching and trying to understand this.
Everything was great tested positive at 4 weeks felt slight symptoms and was so excited for my first OB..... BUt experienced spotting right at 8 weeks, when I went to ER for spotting Dr. told I was fine and only 5 weeks + 4 days (after imaging and blood work)- I just knew things weren’t adding up to when I had a positive result- Er told me to go home and relax, two hours later it started and was the most pain I’ve ever experienced.
My husband and I had sex last week for first time last Monday, I was feeling pregnant again Saturday and took a test- it was faintly positive, then tested again Sunday line was even more faint. The false hope has set me back and I find myself wanting to test if ovulating but just feel so lost.
What’s your experience with TTC after MC?
A little over 3 weeks ago I miscarried. I never knew how physically painful it could be. Emotionally I was fine until late last week- I’ve just been crying randomly and sometimes feeling obsessed with researching and trying to understand this.
Everything was great tested positive at 4 weeks felt slight symptoms and was so excited for my first OB..... BUt experienced spotting right at 8 weeks, when I went to ER for spotting Dr. told I was fine and only 5 weeks + 4 days (after imaging and blood work)- I just knew things weren’t adding up to when I had a positive result- Er told me to go home and relax, two hours later it started and was the most pain I’ve ever experienced.
My husband and I had sex last week for first time last Monday, I was feeling pregnant again Saturday and took a test- it was faintly positive, then tested again Sunday line was even more faint. The false hope has set me back and I find myself wanting to test if ovulating but just feel so lost.
What’s your experience with TTC after MC?
Re: trying not to feel blue- first pregnancy and first loss
My loss was about 4 weeks ago (on Thursday). I had a missed misscarriage and opted to have a D&C because my body wasn't "letting go". I am just today getting negative HPT. Friday I had a faint faint line. I am still having pregnancy symptoms as a result of the fluctuating hormones. My smell seems heightened, my boobs are killing. But I know I'm not pregnant. We are TTC but I'm not expecting success this month. My doctor said it was highly unlikely (though possible) to conceive again before having a propper period.
Have you seen your Doc since this happened? I beleive in cases where you MC naturally they monitor your HCG to 0 to watch for signs of potential issues (such as molar pregnancy). In cases like mine, the tissue is tested to after surgery.
Make sure you take all the time you need to grieve and mourn your loss.
She was so empathetic about the hospital giving me false hope- even though I was bleeding, vomiting and in incredible pain I was in denial through most of the actual miscarriage which unfolded at home. The Er told me my cervix was closed and I was having no signs of MC (incidentally when I went to ER my hormone levels dropped to what would read normal for 5 weeks, so bloodwork and US matched). ER had also advised me I’d experience red blood from the cerical exam and transvaginal US and warned me not to take pain relievers or pain meds. They insisted I had my LMP wrong and that I likely had a false positive test when I though lt I found out
There is just no way to prepare for any loss but especially this one. It is extra heartbreaking when your body is signaling that it is pregnant when you know you are not.
Take all the time to need to grieve and we are here for you. Peace and love to you @knottie7b4e61387771ddf2
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Having a positive test at this time could likely at this time still be from your last pregnancy. Unfortunately, until your hormones are normalized, pregnancy symptoms will occur. I am sorry this last set you back emotionally, I went through something similar after my first loss, being unsure if the positive test weeks later was a new loss or leftover HCG, it is hard not knowing how to feel or grieve.
The imaging is not going to tell you absolutely that the pregnancy is over; the only way to know is an hcg beta quant via blood work.
You having a second positive test that soon is legitimately concerning because if you are getting it only three weeks post loss, you haven't had time to reliably get into a new cycle, so you wouldn't be able to reliably even tell if you've ovulated.
If your hcg wasn't tracked to zero, there may still be product of conception you haven't passed that could be causing additional scarring to any number of things, especially if you have an ectopic somewhere. Given your time frame, my gut is that you are in the same pregnancy and you need follow up for the sake of your health.
Ask for an hcg beta quant. In fact, insist on it, and go from there, please. Not doing it carries substantial risk to your reproductive health, and there's no downside to having it tested.